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Some element of surprise in a proposal is always nice. If we scheduled the time and place for these things, that would take some of the magic out of it. But it astonishes me how many couples get engaged without ever having discussed the topic of marriage before. Like—not even touched upon it. My boyfriend and I have proclaimed to each other man, many times that we want to marry each other and spend our lives together. So when the question comes, I won’t be completely dumb-founded. It’s nice for him not to go through the sweaty-palmed terror some guys go through, who never talk about marriage before proposing to their partner. Overall, it’s just a good idea to at least talk about it a little bit before popping the question. Here is why you should discuss the proposal before doing it.
She may not be ready
Your partner may not feel that you, as a couple, are there yet. She may think you can get there but, if she doesn’t feel your relationship is ripe for marriage yet then, you could have an awkward, “Um…can we talk about this a bit?” coming your way. And that’s a crappy way for a proposal to go. She also might just be enjoying the dating phase still.
