I am personally in a relationship with someone who is in the same industry as myself. We are often up for the same opportunities, applying to the same things, and vying for the same gigs. But, we came up with an unspoken rule a long time ago: we are not each other’s competitors. We can’t be. We are each other’s support system and, we’re a team so, a win for one of us is always a win for the other. We don’t see it as, “Either I can get this gig or you can.” Instead we see it as, we have twice the odds of our team getting it because there are two of us. I need my relationship to be nothing but an endlessly loving, comforting, supporting environment. I need it to be a place where I’m allowed to fail. In fact, I need it to be the place I go for comfort when I do fail. Here is why you should never compete with your partner for career success.
He should be your confidante
You should be able to confide everything in your partner—from your plans on how you’ll succeed to your insecurities. You won’t feel that you can do that if you see him as a direct challenge to your success. You’ll worry he’ll use what you confide in him to his advantage.