I know it’s cliché and perhaps obnoxious, but I can’t help but ask my friends, right after they’ve tied the knot, “So, how’s married life?” To the naked eye, it obviously isn’t much different. I’m part of a generation of couples who might date, cohabitate, and even have children together years before getting married. In many ways, my married friends were already so deeply enmeshed in one another’s lives before tying the knot that, getting married was really just paperwork. But it is still a big deal, so I always ask them if anything has change, or if anything has stayed the same. I’ve noticed a few answers that seem to be consistent across most couples that I ask. It would be strange if marriage didn’t change one thing, right? But if it changes a lot then, maybe the couple wasn’t ready for marriage. Here is how married life is different, and the same, according to newlyweds.
Sex feels very official
For the first few months after the wedding, sex has this…weight on it. It’s very official. That sex is government sanctioned! And, could it be sex with a purpose now? Like…reproduction? The seriousness of it fades away eventually though.