Signs You Need To Go On A Sex Fast
Society and popular culture often make it seem like sex is the most important thing in the world and if you choose to go without it there’s something wrong with you. Newsflash: there’s not.
There are a host of reasons why someone chooses to take a sexual break and those reasons only need to make sense to the person involved. Sure, sex is a pleasure-filled experience that can make you feel amazing, but if you are using it as a means to avoid other issues in your life then perhaps a break is necessary.
If you’re not sure if taking a sex fast is for you, check out these signs. Recognizing more than a few of these behaviors could give you the answer you’ve been looking for.
It’s Become Routine
There is nothing worse than uninspired sex. Simply going through the motions of what should be the ultimate act of pleasure and satisfaction suggests that there are underlying issues you need to address.
Reducing sex down to something you cross off your daily or weekly checklist, means that you’re no longer present for the act and instead you’re just having sex just to say you did it.
You’re Trying To Fill A Void
There comes a time when you need to look in the mirror and ask yourself what is missing from your life. Once you narrow that down, you will no longer feel the need to use sex to fill a void.
Are you unhappy, depressed, feeling unappreciated? Whatever you’re lacking in your life can’t be replaced by having as much sex as possible, actually it just exacerbates the issues. Removing sex out of your life until you face why you’re trying to run away from certain issues is the first step to making a lasting lifestyle change.
Orgasms Are Becoming Infrequent
It’s not always guaranteed and some women are blessed not to ever have this problem, however sometimes having too much sex can cause your orgasms to become infrequent.
If you’re having trouble reaching your climax it could be because you’re having sex so much that your body has temporarily become unresponsive. Taking a quick break to get your body back on track will make your sexual experience better once you start again.
You Don’t Feel Good About Yourself Afterwards
Feeling ashamed or disgusted with yourself after you have consensual sex is not normal. Sex should never make you feel negatively and if it does you definitely should find out why.
Do you feel embarrassed? Empty? Or numb? If you do, taking a sex break is imperative. It may also help you to talk to someone, a professional or someone you trust, and tell them how you’ve been feeling.
You Have No Emotional Connection To Your Partners
There is nothing wrong with having sex without being in love with –or even liking — your partner. However, if you find yourself having literally no emotional connection at all on a regular basis you may need to reevaluate some things.
Don’t allow yourself to be reduced to just a body that’s going through the motions and not being present for something that should be enjoyable. There’s a difference between having sex with no strings attached and having sex just because you think you should.
Your Life Is In Chaos
When practically everything in your life is in disarray, random sex is rarely the answer. Sure, sex is the ultimate de-stresser, but if your life is a mess, having meaningless sex can create an entirely new set of problems that can easily get pretty complicated. Taking a step back and getting your life together first should be your top priority. Don’t use sex as a distraction.
People Are Getting Hurt
You never really anticipate it happening, but the possibility that someone is going to be hurt once you introduce sex into a relationship is high. Even if you are upfront with your intentions, emotions can sometimes take over.
This is especially true if you already have other sexual issues (see previous slides) and haven’t clued your partner into what’s going on. Hurting someone’s feelings, by either wanting less than they do or lacking compassion for their feelings, is not something you want to do…even if it’s unintentional.
You’ve Forgotten What Intimacy Is
Sex is more than just reaching the ultimate climax, it’s also about intimacy. If you can’t remember the last time you truly had intimacy with your partner, the you should definitely take a step back and reset.
Touching, kissing, longing looks and even basic flirtation go a long way to increasing the intimacy aspect of your sex life and in many cases it can actually make it better. Don’t be afraid to slow the things and savor the moments before sex.
You’re Bordering On Addiction
The thing about addictive behavior is that it sneaks up on you and you don’t realize you have a problem until it’s too late. If sex is all that you can think about and the rest of your life revolves around the next time you get some, you have sex addiction.
Like anything else, there is always an underlying reason for our behavior, so you have to address why you’re using sex as a crutch. This is a serious issue and may require you to talk to a profession, such as a sex therapist.
You’re Doing It To Please Others
Rule #1: you should never feel obligated to have sex to please someone else. Sex is a mutually pleasurable experience, but it should never rank higher than doing it because it’s what you want.
Your happiness should be the main goal in your life and once you achieve that, then you can focus on pleasing others. Additionally, when you’re having sex for your partner and not yourself, you’re missing out on half the fun.
Your Body Is Giving You Signs
Your body often gives you warning signs when something is wrong, including when you need to hit pause on your sex life. Constant soreness, trouble reaching an orgasm, being unresponsive to sexual touch, are just a few of the ways your body may be trying to let you know it needs a break.
Taking a break to recharge your sexual batteries, so to speak, is something that we all could benefit from at some point in our lives and there is no shame in that.