Vacation days can be few and far between so when they’re coming up, you and your partner are faced with the ever-complicated question: what should we do? It’s not often that your free timelines up and you can actually take a trip together. So answering those important questions like where to go, where to stay, should you go somewhere that’s driveable or should you splurge on a plane ticket, should you go for an action-packed trip or a relaxing one, are very important. Then one person may throw in this curve ball: should you invite another couple? If you’re like me then, you’ve probably had sweet and sour experiences traveling with other couples. You have to choose your other pair carefully. Here are the pros and cons of traveling with another couple.
Everything takes forever
If you think it takes two people a long time to shower, get dressed, have a drink in the room and get out the door for dinner, just wait until you need four people to do that. Everything takes twice as long. Plans drag because one person wants to dry their hair then the next needs to run to an ATM then another wants to order a snack from room service.
You always have an activity buddy
When you travel just with your partner, then if he doesn’t want to do something you want to do…that’s that. But if you go with another couple, you can probably find someone to accompany you to that quirky museum.
You may be able to afford more
You may be able to get better prices or afford things you otherwise wouldn’t because you can get a group rate. So, maybe you can get that mega suite at the hotel with two bedrooms, a kitchen, and rec room because it’s cheaper than two regular rooms, separate.
But you may face budget differences
It’s unlikely that you and the other couple are working with the exact same budget, so finding activities and restaurants that make everyone feel like they enjoyed themselves and didn’t overspend (or dip too low) can be tricky.
If the couple argues, it gets weird
If the other couple gets in a fight, things get weird. It’s awkward. You don’t know when you’re allowed to chime in. One might get a “headache” and stay in the room for a full day and you have to pretend you believe in that headache.
If your partner is grumpy, you still have friends
If your partner is in a bad mood, you can send him to the room, and you can keep having fun with the other couple. Your good time isn’t totally reliant on your partner’s moods.
If you’re driving, you can carpool, split the gas tank, and only pay for one parking spot if the hotel charges for that.
You’ll leave later than expected if you carpool, and nobody will ever need to pee or eat at the same time. Expect too many pit stops.
You become closer for it
You’ll always be closer with that other couple after this trip. You’ll develop a deeper level of comfort around each other, and have tons of inside jokes.
The friendship may not be all balanced
Not everyone in the group will necessarily like each other equally. Your partner and the man in the other couple may be best friends while you barely know the other woman. There is usually someone taking one for the team to make the trip work.
Groups are energizing
Groups have a way of energizing each other. They have a good effect on each other. Even if everyone is tired after a flight, if a group is willing to get drinks, somehow, you get your second wind.
Groups won’t let you rest
Of course, groups will peer pressure you into doing more, drinking more, spending more…Group mentality can go both ways.
Last minute tables are hard to come by
You can’t do things as last minute as you may have with just you and your boo. Getting a last minute table at a popular restaurant on Friday at 8pm is much harder with four people than with two.
You can party in the room
You can always just have a little party in your room if you can’t get a reservation somewhere. All you need is four people, some booze, some music, and a pizza delivered.
Alone time is hard to come by
You won’t get much alone time with your partner. That’s just something you sacrifice when you travel with another couple. If you and your partner ask for a night alone, the other couple will think you’re mad at them.