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I wish this weren’t true, but I went out with a few guys back when I was single who tested my boundaries. I had to be physically forceful with a few to get them to leave me alone, and went home feeling rather shaken up. Nobody ever became violent with me, but there were times when guys wouldn’t take “No” as an answer. They didn’t think I was being serious. Or, their urge to do what they wanted overpowered any empathy or care for what I was feeling. And that is never okay. Even though all I wanted to do was remove those experiences from my memory and never look back, I realized that if I were willing to reflect on those dates and those men, I might be able to pick up on patterns, and learn to recognize men who might act like that earlier next time. So, for women everywhere, here are important signs a man will disrespect your boundaries later.
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They push you to tell stories
If you allude to a story that is sexual in nature, or promiscuous in some way, that doesn’t mean you want to tell the full story. But if your date pressures you to tell the story, won’t accept that you don’t want to tell the story, and even makes you feel guilty for not telling it, he doesn’t care about keeping you feeling comfortable and safe.
