To Moms: How To Repair Your Relationship With Your Daughter
My relationship with my mother has been through a lot of ups and downs. Whose hasn’t? Sure, there are those few (strange and unusual) mother/daughter pairs who have always gotten along and been best friends. They should be studied. Perhaps they should be medicated (just kidding). I really don’t know—but I know it’s not the norm. As for the rest of us, most women out there have a relationship with their mothers that is a slightly-less-tumultous version of Lorelai and Emily Gilmore’s in “Gilmore Girls.” Many daughters I know feel that they’re always having to reset boundaries with their moms, that their moms just go on to re-break. Most women I know feel that their moms give too much unsolicited (and sometimes insulting) advice. Most of my female friends would say that their moms don’t entirely approve of their lives, and have no qualms with stating it often. If you are a mother like this, and have been craving a closer connection with your daughter, I have some advice. To moms everywhere: here’s how to repair your relationship with your daughter.
Praise her for being independent
Rather then critiquing her for making less money than you’d hoped, praise her for being independent. Try to understand what a huge accomplishment it is that she simply doesn’t need your financial help and supports herself. Don’t focus on the fact that she could have a larger home or nicer car.