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I’m not delusional about the fact that there are some men you just can’t speak to about feminism. Maybe a therapist can. Maybe their counselor, when they attend anger management, can. But you, as a mere civilian who (presumably) doesn’t have a Ph.D. in psychology probably cannot undo the deep-seated fury and sexism in some of the truly troubled men out there. But that’s not who we’re talking about in this post. We’re talking about the guys who truly want to learn how to be feminists, who want to understand and fix their predisposition to certain sexist thinking, and who actually care to change. I see a lot of men attempt to ask questions (innocently, without blame) about certain feminism initiatives, or things they’ve gotten in trouble for. And the female community has a way of attacking these men, simply for addressing the topic. Unfortunately, we probably push away men who were willing to be on our side with that type of wrath. So, here are some guidelines for speaking to men about feminism.
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Resist the urge to roll your eyes
Yes, men can be a little oblivious to some of the things women experience. But if a man is trying to learn about his blind spots, don’t roll your eyes at him when he admits them. That probably won’t make him want to continue the conversation.
