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You don’t really realize how much of what you do is altered by the fact that you want to find someone until you stop caring whether or not you find someone. When you see yourself as on the market or on the prowl, that has a way of sneaking down into the deepest depths of your behavior—it sets up shop in the subtle corners of your personality, habits, and attitude. When you genuinely stop caring if you meet someone, then this giant thing that used to have a hold on you just…drifts away. It loses its control over you. And the changes that happen next may surprise you. There’s certainly nothing wrong with wanting to meet someone. Most people want that! But that desire can also feel heavy, and tiresome. Letting it go can be quite liberating. Here’s what happens when you stop caring if you meet someone.

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You discover your personal style

You realize you were limiting your clothing options to items you thought men found attractive, or that men understood. Now you wear what you really want to wear—from sparkly shorts to extremely loud jackets. Whatever. You love it!

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