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I will stop procrastinating.
I will work out consistently and for longer than a week.
I will be energized, nicer, and filled with gratitude.
Heck, I’m even going to keep a gratitude journal. I think 2015 will be my year.
These are only a few of the proclamations I made at the top of this year. They were my New Year’s resolutions, and despite the fact that statistics show that only eight percent of people stick to their resolutions, I was determined to be in that small percentile.
It’s been almost a month, and to date, nothing has changed. In fact, I think I’ve gotten worse.
So I’ve decided to reset my resolutions in hopes of actually achieving them this year.
Many times, we give up on resolutions once we realize that we’ve fallen short. At least, this is how it usually goes for me. But this year, I’m simply doing a reset instead of giving up. I’m re-evaluating the goals I set and reflecting on why I haven’t come remotely close to starting and sticking to them. After this, I am doing either one of two things: ditching them or developing a strategy to tackle them.
Ditching your resolutions after reflecting on them isn’t a sign of giving up, it’s more about prioritizing. I am choosing the things that will have a bigger impact on my life this year, as opposed to setting tons of goal I know good and well I won’t remember to stick to.
In this case, less is more. I’ve chosen three words to live by and will allow them to govern my life this year. Love, health and prosperity. The words are actually broad, despite the fact that experts recommend that New Year’s resolutions be specific. But at this point, hardly any expert advice has worked for me, so I’ll do my own thing.
I will instead focus on my thoughts and spiritual health. By doing so, it will hopefully allow me to focus more so that I can follow through with my goals. And if things don’t fall in line with my ‘new year’s motto,’ I won’t entertain it. In addition to that, I do have a few specific new goals, but they are simply to plan every day by setting small daily goals and also reflecting on my 24 hours when it’s over.
Experts say that March is the month where New Year’s resolutions, unfortunately, die, and three things seems to happen to us in March: We accomplish a goal, give up on a goal or totally forget we even set a goal in the first place. It is recommended that you read your New Year’s resolutions often so that you won’t forget them. In my case, I wake up reciting the three words that I hope will govern my day and year: Again, they are love, health and prosperity.
For at least the last 10 years of my life, my New Year’s resolutions have fallen through the cracks. I started out with strong momentum, only to be disappointed around this time, every year. So I’m opting for this remix as opposed to the traditional resolutions. I’ve also created a vision board to supplement my positive thoughts. But instead of me writing down laundry lists of pounds to lose, books to read, and people to apologize to, I’m simply trying to live a better life each day. I’m planning, reflecting and hoping that 2015 will be a great year.
What’s the progress that you’ve made with your New Year’s resolutions? Are you keeping them or have you forgot that you even made them?
A good relationship shouldn’t require too much thinking. On autopilot, things should run rather smoothly but that doesn’t mean that being conscious of a few little things couldn’t boost even the best of relationships. Here are 8 New Year’s resolutions that will seriously help your relationship.
One of the hardest things to do in the new year is to stick to the resolutions and goals you set for yourself the year before. It’s quite natural to slip up. It’s not that we intend to slip up, it’s just that at times, life can take over and our goals can seem much further away than we planned. In fact, it’s much easier to slip up on a goal that wasn’t realistically set in the first place. When drafting your year’s ambitions, it is important to remember to set one that makes sense and fits your lifestyle. To avoid disappointment and slip ups, here are a few other things to keep in mind when attempting to stick to your new year’s resolutions:
The Next Step: 15 Tips on Sticking to Your Resolutions
Another year has passed, making January 1, 2015 the perfect start for new beginnings of all kinds. While millions will be focused on kicking nasty habits and dropping physical pounds, we encourage Black women across the world to drop the mental and emotional baggage that weighs us down and in turn causes us to hold other women back. Here are 10 New Year’s Resolutions we all should make to turn 2015 into our best year yet.
With just less than 10 hours to go until 2015 kicks off, we are all starting to take a mental inventory of all of the things you would like to implement in the new year. From starting a business to being more organized, these things don’t just happen for us without proper planning.
While normally the holiday season is a time to wrap down and enjoy friends and family, use the down time to start implementing some of the smaller items on your checklist that will make it easier for you to hit the ground running on the larger task items once the new year is ushered in.
Here are a list of 10 task items to tackle now to really kick off the new year in a major way.
1. Get Organized: With new goals come new manners in which to manage those tasks. Keeping yourself organized while running a business will look much different than just keeping tabs on personal obligations. What planner will work best, which apps are beneficial are just a few things to research and implement before the new year.
2. Start De-cluttering: Most of the world is intent on de-cluttering in the new year. Why wait. If you are going into the closet to grab a gift throw away one piece of unnecessary clutter while you’re in there. If your plan is to de-clutter be intentional daily about getting rid of the things that no longer have a home or you no longer need. Those few seconds will make your life easier when the dedicated day to completing that task comes around.
3. Create a Vision: Whether it be in your mind, on Pinterest or in the form of a vision board create imagery around what you want your space and life to look like. Want that pantry to be super organized or your life to be full of happiness create something tangible that you can refer to over the year.
4. Create a timeline: Nothing amazing happens over night. Set a realistic time line for getting things accomplished. Don’t push yourself or set unrealistic expectations.
5. Find an Accountability Partner: Find someone just as passionate as you are about moving toward greatness and will call you out when you miss the mark. Approach someone you are inspired by and can learn from. A little productive competition never hurt anybody
6. Purge your Inbox: Go through your inbox and get rid of unnecessary emails. Make folders to keep those things you need and discard the rest. Unsubscribe from mailing lists that no longer serve you or your needs.
7. Create a list of organizational items you need to purchase: An organized space begins with making sure all things have a home. Take inventory and purchase those items you will need to ensure you start the year with a clean and tidy space.
8. Create a Cleaning and Laundry Schedule: Set a realistic plan of what you need to clean and wash daily and stick to it. Get your significant other and children that are of age onboard to assist. It takes a village to maintain a home.
9. Ask for Help: If you were struggling to get things done this year, start reaching out to individuals who may be able to assist you in the new year. You never know if you don’t ask.
10. Take Care of You: Last but certainly not least. Start with personal care, get your nails done or spend time with a friend. Make a conscious effort to keep up these small details in the new year. Not only are they fun but remind you to keep yourself in the forefront all year long. If you aren’t taking care of yourself none of the other things will fall into place.
It’s that time again! I’m referring to the euphoric anticipation of planning your New Year’s resolutions. While the intentions are good, most of us have fallen prey to concocting a laundry list of goals for ourselves, only to forget we ever wrote them down by the end of January. When February comes around, we suddenly remember all that we had hoped for and shun the notion of ever writing down a resolution again because they simply don’t last. I’m here to say–as a serial resolution breaker–that New Year’s resolutions aren’t necessarily a bad thing. But just like most goals, they require some planning. That planning is your year-end inventory. Doing this inventory helps to get rid of those unnecessary habits, people and things before the start of a new year, so you will have a better chance of sticking to at least some of your resolutions.
Here is a list of things you should get rid of now as you prepare for a prosperous new year.
Tis the season to be jolly. Not only is it the season to be filled with joy and happiness, but it’s also the time of the year to spend with loved ones.
Oh yeah, its also the time to make New Year’s resolutions as another 365 days vastly approaches.
You know, those routine promises people often make to themselves. The list of things they won’t stand for and improvements they want to make as they try to be a better person…starting next year. But what about trying to be better right now?
I’ve often wondered why so many people decide to make serious plans and changes, but wait to act upon them until the start of a new year. Why do all that when you can begin taking the necessary steps toward changes you want to see and make way before then? Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with making New Year’s resolutions, but there is no reason why you can’t start making a difference in your life right away. Here are a few reasons to stop waiting for a new year and start doing right, right now.
Although the new year is right around the corner, it’s not promised to you. Honestly, the next day is not promised to you, and you don’t want to leave the world only having made plans to do things differently, but not acting upon them. So many times people simply plan to do things but never get the chance to act upon them. Don’t let this be you!
Another reason to get started on your changes as soon as possible is because you want to start implementing new patterns and habits and start dropping old ones now so you’ll already have a new routine. Old habits are hard to let go of, and if you start getting into practice little by little on a daily basis before the new year, then a major transition will be smooth and easier to keep up with. For example, so many times we start going to the gym faithfully or swear we’re going to eat better in January. While we start off strong, we tend to fall off of the wagon less than halfway through the year and see minimal results. But if we start planning and implementing ahead of time, we can adjust accordingly for longevity in our results.
If you wait for the new year to start something new, chances are you’ll procrastinate in getting started and you may do the same things that didn’t work for you last year. If you’re serious about making certain changes or starting new adventures, then you should be eager to move forward and start right where you are. There’s an old saying that goes, why put off tomorrow what you can do today? I think that should apply to making resolutions for the beginning of a new year.
The last reason why you shouldn’t wait for a new year to start fresh is because waiting to start a goal only halts you from reaching final results. When you’ve made or make plans and start the hard work, you’re eager and excited to see the final results. But if you’re putting off putting those plans into action, then you’re only pushing yourself further away from where you want and need to be. Don’t halt your own greatness, get moving and get started now!
Every day you wake up, you have another chance to start fresh and you should make every day above the ground count. Start now and go into the year already in motion. You’ll be surprised at the results.
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin
Every year millions of people make then forget their New Year’s resolutions. It can be difficult sustaining the passion that generated the resolution in the first place. MN offers you creative and practical tips for making this the year you add a gold star beside your 2015 resolutions.
In a few short weeks, we will be greeting a New Year with open arms. Regardless of what happened in 2014, the New Year always comes with an opportunity to change things and make your life a little bit sweeter (or a lot sweeter).
But creating the life you want is no easy feat. It doesn’t just happen when the clock strikes 12:00 on January 1st. Moving into a New Year and expecting a new experience requires a lot more than a new attitude. It requires developing new habits and getting rid of the old ones.
So how do you determine what you need to cut out of your life as your prepare to enter the New Year? It’s simple, really. You need to cut out anything that doesn’t serve you or move you closer to the life you want to live.
Is doing that going to be easy? Maybe, but probably not. Unfortunately, we often become attached to the people and things in our lives that do not serve us. We start to feel like we need them, failing to realize that they actually drain us and bring us further and further away from what we truly want.
Here are 12 things you should considering removing from your life in the New Year. It may be hard, but doing so will help you create the kind of year you’ll want to shout about from rooftops.
1. Hanging out with the wrong people. The people you keep in your circle have a huge impact on the quality of your life. Make 2015 the year you stop hanging out with all those negative “friends” who bring drama and doubt your dreams. Surround yourself with people who are supportive and encouraging.
2. Neglecting to make your health a priority. Putting everyone first, while your health falls apart, is a bad habit that many moms have. To be the best possible version of yourself, you have to make your health a priority. If you fall apart, everything in your life will, too.
3. Telling the whole word your dreams. You can’t let everyone in on your plans. Unfortunately, everyone can’t be trusted and some people are just not rooting for you. Share your dreams with the people who deserve to hear them. Everyone else can fall back.
4. Overspending. We often spend for the wrong reasons and it can snowball into a pretty big problem. Spending to keep up with appearances, or manage your pain doesn’t serve you well. Cut back on spending and you cut back on the stress that comes with it.
5. Ignoring your depression. Depression doesn’t just get better without any work on your part. If you feel sadness settling in and you realize that all your efforts to feel better are not working, make 2015 the year you stop ignoring your sadness and take steps to get the help you need.
6. Being disorganized. I used to refer to myself as an organized mess. Now I laugh whenever I think about it. Being organized is critical and when the space around you is a mess, so are your thoughts. Organize your day-to-day life, and your thoughts will surely follow.
7. Failing to plan. I love the idea of going with the flow, but I also realize the importance of planning. Make a plan for what you want your life to look like by December 2015 and take steps to make your plan come to life.
8. Watching too much television. When I need a good dose of funny drama, I love The Real Housewives of Atlanta, too, but too much TV can become a problem. Think about all the other things you could be doing in that time. Just remember that the people you are watching are chillin’ in their wealth, while you are neglecting to create yours because you are busy watching them.
9. Abusing your hair. I am not trying to convince anyone to join #teamnatural (although I am a very happy member), but I do want you to think a little bit more about what your put your hair through. Heat, chemicals, the wrong products, and the list goes on. Regardless of how you wear your hair, give it the love it deserves.
10. Worrying. I loved it when 50 Cent told Oprah that you have to either worry or pray—you can’t do both. Leave the worrying habit behind because it doesn’t solve anything and it causes stress. Instead, use your energy to do something that will move your life in a better direction.
11. Overusing technology. I love my iPhone, iPad, Macbook and every other gadget in my life, but I have learned that I need to take a break. Using technology too much can take away from your ability to truly be present with your family. A day away from your phone every week won’t kill you. If anything, it will make your life better.
12. Not sleeping well (or enough). We need sleep. And not only that but we need quality sleep. Eating in bed, sleeping with your smart phone near by, working on your laptop in the wee hours of the night—these are all habits that prevent you from having the peaceful sleep you deserve. Make 2015 the year you get the rest your body needs.
Martine Foreman is a freelance writer, lifestyle blogger, speaker and coach. To follow her journey as a busy mom, wife and honest chick from Brooklyn, NY (now living in the burbs), check out her personal blog, CandidBelle.
Here we are at the end of January and maybe your resolutions started off with such fever and steam. Then, life happened. Kids, husbands, jobs, or school starts getting in the way and your will power starts feeling like someone is slowly letting the air out of your will-power balloon.
Some of us are left wondering, “What happened to those resolutions?” Now your goals may seem like just a magazine cut out on a sticky board or a fleeting goal that your friends have decided to stop asking about.
Whenever we don’t meet a goal or aren’t doing as well as we hope there is some shame that comes. You likely made the resolution because it’s something you really need to change. Yet, here you are, hiding and ashamed because already it’s starting to fall off.
Before you can get back on track, you’ll have to let go of that fear and shame. It is never too late to start again. You can’t go back and change the last week or two but you can start today (or Monday) with as much force and will as you started on January 1, 2014.
Once you’ve decided there’s not to be ashamed of your humanness, take a step back and ask yourself the tough questions. Why did you stop? What is preventing you from achieving the goal? Is this a circumstance or a mindset about your circumstance? For example, if your goal was to lose weight, did you give up thinking it would ever happen (mindset)? Or have you just not made room for it to happen like clearing your schedule for daily exercise (circumstance)? Identify the root cause of why you fell off in the first place before you push forward.
You are worth giving it one more try. Maybe the business isn’t coming together as quickly as you like but that doesn’t mean it never will. Maybe the weight is stubborn and it’s hard to get motivated, but that doesn’t mean you will never get there. You must believe in yourself. It has to matter more than anything and you have to work like it’s the only thing that matters. Change your mind and change your circumstances.
Now is the tough part. There are likely some circumstances that you didn’t anticipate or focus on that prevented you from. Here is what we call “doing the work.” Wishing and waiting isn’t going to make your resolutions come to life. There is a time to plant (work) and then a time of harvest (success). Don’t leave out the work part! Start breaking down your excuses, addressing your circumstances and push forward towards your success.
Ultimately, you can change at any time. You have the power to live your best life and your success is worth every single sweat drop, tear, and late night. If it matters to you, show it to yourself. Impress yourself and blow your own mind.
You don’t have to wait until a certain calendar date to kick off a new life campaign. There’s a quote by F. Scott Fitzgerald that illustrates this concept perfectly for those of us who may have fallen off the wagon,
“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start over again.”
How will you continue to improve? Comment below.
Dee Rene I the creator of Laugh.Cry.Cuss. http://laughcrycuss.com . @laughcrycuss @deerene_