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New Year’s Resolution Remix: My End Of Month Check-In And How I’m Switching It Up To Reach My Goals

January 29th, 2015 - By Erica R. Williams
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I will stop procrastinating.

I will work out consistently and for longer than a week.

I will be energized, nicer, and filled with gratitude.

Heck, I’m even going to keep a gratitude journal. I think 2015 will be my year.

These are only a few of the proclamations I made at the top of this year. They were my New Year’s resolutions, and despite the fact that statistics show that only eight percent of people stick to their resolutions, I was determined to be in that small percentile.

It’s been almost a month, and to date, nothing has changed. In fact, I think I’ve gotten worse.

So I’ve decided to reset my resolutions in hopes of actually achieving them this year.

Many times, we give up on resolutions once we realize that we’ve fallen short. At least, this is how it usually goes for me. But this year, I’m simply doing a reset instead of giving up. I’m re-evaluating the goals I set and reflecting on why I haven’t come remotely close to starting and sticking to them. After this, I am doing either one of two things: ditching them or developing a strategy to tackle them.

Ditching your resolutions after reflecting on them isn’t a sign of giving up, it’s more about prioritizing. I am choosing the things that will have a bigger impact on my life this year, as opposed to setting tons of goal I know good and well I won’t remember to stick to.

In this case, less is more. I’ve chosen three words to live by and will allow them to govern my life this year. Love, health and prosperity. The words are actually broad, despite the fact that experts recommend that New Year’s resolutions be specific. But at this point, hardly any expert advice has worked for me, so I’ll do my own thing.

I will instead focus on my thoughts and spiritual health. By doing so, it will hopefully allow me to focus more so that I can follow through with my goals. And if things don’t fall in line with my ‘new year’s motto,’ I won’t entertain it. In addition to that, I do have a few specific new goals, but they are simply to plan every day by setting small daily goals and also reflecting on my 24 hours when it’s over.

Experts say that March is the month where New Year’s resolutions, unfortunately, die, and three things seems to happen to us in March: We accomplish a goal, give up on a goal or totally forget we even set a goal in the first place. It is recommended that you read your New Year’s resolutions often so that you won’t forget them. In my case, I wake up reciting the three words that I hope will govern my day and year: Again, they are love, health and prosperity.

For at least the last 10 years of my life, my New Year’s resolutions have fallen through the cracks. I started out with strong momentum, only to be disappointed around this time, every year. So I’m opting for this remix as opposed to the traditional resolutions. I’ve also created a vision board to supplement my positive thoughts. But instead of me writing down laundry lists of pounds to lose, books to read, and people to apologize to, I’m simply trying to live a better life each day. I’m planning, reflecting and hoping that 2015 will be a great year.

What’s the progress that you’ve made with your New Year’s resolutions? Are you keeping them or have you forgot that you even made them?


8 Resolutions That Will Seriously Help Your Relationship This Year

January 12th, 2015 - By Julia Austin
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A good relationship shouldn’t require too much thinking. On autopilot, things should run rather smoothly but that doesn’t mean that being conscious of a few little things couldn’t boost even the best of relationships. Here are 8 New Year’s resolutions that will seriously help your relationship.

New Year’s Resolutions Every Black Woman Should Make In 2015

January 1st, 2015 - By Madame Noire
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Another year has passed, making January 1, 2015 the perfect start for new beginnings of all kinds. While millions will be focused on kicking nasty habits and dropping physical pounds, we encourage Black women across the world to drop the mental and emotional baggage that weighs us down and in turn causes us to hold other women back. Here are 10 New Year’s Resolutions we all should make to turn 2015 into our best year yet.

Year-End Inventory: 12 Things You Should Let Go Of Before The New Year

December 30th, 2014 - By Erica R. Williams
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It’s that time again! I’m referring to the euphoric anticipation of planning your New Year’s resolutions. While the intentions are good, most of us have fallen prey to concocting a laundry list of goals for ourselves, only to forget we ever wrote them down by the end of January. When February comes around, we suddenly remember all that we had hoped for and shun the notion of ever writing down a resolution again because they simply don’t last. I’m here to say–as a serial resolution breaker–that New Year’s resolutions aren’t necessarily a bad thing. But just like most goals, they require some planning. That planning is your year-end inventory. Doing this inventory helps to get rid of those unnecessary habits, people and things before the start of a new year, so you will have a better chance of sticking to at least some of your resolutions.

Here is a list of things you should get rid of now as you prepare for a prosperous new year.

Get Right, Right Now: Why You Shouldn’t Always Wait Until The New Year To Do And Be Better

December 30th, 2014 - By Liz Lampkin
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Tis the season to be jolly. Not only is it the season to be filled with joy and happiness, but it’s also the time of the year to spend with loved ones.

Oh yeah, its also the time to make New Year’s resolutions as another 365 days vastly approaches.

You know, those routine promises people often make to themselves. The list of things they won’t stand for and improvements they want to make as they try to be a better person…starting next year. But what about trying to be better right now?

I’ve often wondered why so many people decide to make serious plans and changes, but wait to act upon them until the start of a new year. Why do all that when you can begin taking the necessary steps toward changes you want to see and make way before then? Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with making New Year’s resolutions, but there is no reason why you can’t start making a difference in your life right away. Here are a few reasons to stop waiting for a new year and start doing right, right now.

Although the new year is right around the corner, it’s not promised to you. Honestly, the next day is not promised to you, and you don’t want to leave the world only having made plans to do things differently, but not acting upon them. So many times people simply plan to do things but never get the chance to act upon them. Don’t let this be you!

Another reason to get started on your changes as soon as possible is because you want to start implementing new patterns and habits and start dropping old ones now so you’ll already have a new routine. Old habits are hard to let go of, and if you start getting into practice little by little on a daily basis before the new year, then a major transition will be smooth and easier to keep up with. For example, so many times we start going to the gym faithfully or swear we’re going to eat better in January. While we start off strong, we tend to fall off of the wagon less than halfway through the year and see minimal results. But if we start planning and implementing ahead of time, we can adjust accordingly for longevity in our results.

If you wait for the new year to start something new, chances are you’ll procrastinate in getting started and you may do the same things that didn’t work for you last year. If you’re serious about making certain changes or starting new adventures, then you should be eager to move forward and start right where you are. There’s an old saying that goes, why put off tomorrow what you can do today? I think that should apply to making resolutions for the beginning of a new year.

The last reason why you shouldn’t wait for a new year to start fresh is because waiting to start a goal only halts you from reaching final results. When you’ve made or make plans and start the hard work, you’re eager and excited to see the final results. But if you’re putting off putting those plans into action, then you’re only pushing yourself further away from where you want and need to be. Don’t halt your own greatness, get moving and get started now!

Every day you wake up, you have another chance to start fresh and you should make every day above the ground count. Start now and go into the year already in motion. You’ll be surprised at the results.

Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin

Stick To Your New Year’s Resolutions With These Practical And Creative Tips

December 27th, 2014 - By Michelle Alerte
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Every year millions of people make then forget their New Year’s resolutions. It can be difficult sustaining the passion that generated the resolution in the first place. MN offers you creative and practical tips for making this the year you add a gold star beside your 2015 resolutions.

What Happened To Those Resolutions? How To Get Back On Track

January 31st, 2014 - By Dee Rene
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Here we are at the end of January and maybe your resolutions started off with such fever and steam. Then, life happened. Kids, husbands, jobs, or school starts getting in the way and your will power starts feeling like someone is slowly letting the air out of your will-power balloon.

Some of us are left wondering, “What happened to those resolutions?” Now your goals may seem like just a magazine cut out on a sticky board or a fleeting goal that your friends have decided to stop asking about.

Whenever we don’t meet a goal or aren’t doing as well as we hope there is some shame that comes. You likely made the resolution because it’s something you really need to change. Yet, here you are, hiding and ashamed because already it’s starting to fall off.

Before you can get back on track, you’ll have to let go of that fear and shame. It is never too late to start again. You can’t go back and change the last week or two but you can start today (or Monday) with as much force and will as you started on January 1, 2014.

Once you’ve decided there’s not to be ashamed of your humanness, take a step back and ask yourself the tough questions. Why did you stop? What is preventing you from achieving the goal? Is this a circumstance or a mindset about your circumstance? For example, if your goal was to lose weight, did you give up thinking it would ever happen (mindset)? Or have you just not made room for it to happen like clearing your schedule for daily exercise (circumstance)? Identify the root cause of why you fell off in the first place before you push forward.

You are worth giving it one more try. Maybe the business isn’t coming together as quickly as you like but that doesn’t mean it never will. Maybe the weight is stubborn and it’s hard to get motivated, but that doesn’t mean you will never get there. You must believe in yourself. It has to matter more than anything and you have to work like it’s the only thing that matters. Change your mind and change your circumstances.

Now is the tough part. There are likely some circumstances that you didn’t anticipate or focus on that prevented you from. Here is what we call “doing the work.” Wishing and waiting isn’t going to make your resolutions come to life. There is a time to plant (work) and then a time of harvest (success). Don’t leave out the work part! Start breaking down your excuses, addressing your circumstances and push forward towards your success.

Ultimately, you can change at any time.  You have the power to live your best life and your success is worth every single sweat drop, tear, and late night. If it matters to you, show it to yourself. Impress yourself and blow your own mind.

You don’t have to wait until a certain calendar date to kick off a new life campaign. There’s a quote by F. Scott Fitzgerald that illustrates this concept perfectly for those of us who may have fallen off the wagon,

“For what it’s worth: it’s never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you find you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start over again.

How will you continue to improve? Comment below.

Dee Rene I the creator of Laugh.Cry.Cuss. . @laughcrycuss @deerene_

New Year’s Resolutions You’ve Probably Realized Are Overrated By Now

January 17th, 2014 - By Julia Austin
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As we come to the half-way point in month one of 2014, you’ve probably given all of your New Year’s Resolutions a hearty try. And you’ve probably also realized that most of them cause more stress than good!


5 Tips To Stay Motivated When Trying To Lose Weight And Maintain A Healthy Lifestyle

January 9th, 2014 - By Cecily Michelle
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It’s a new year and as we all know, most people’s resolution is to get in shape. While that’s all fine and dandy, it takes a lot of discipline to drop those pounds and even more control to maintain your desired weight after you’ve shed that fat. Getting and staying fit, exercising and eating right can be difficult tasks to achieve when you’re not used to it, and while I’m no fitness expert, I’ve certainly been making great strides in altering my old lifestyle of laziness and bad eating habits. During my journey, I’ve discovered a few ways to keep me driven and on the right track, so why not share? Take a look at these five tricks that can help you get it right for the new year, and keep it tight for years to come.

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Don’t Deprive Yourself

Oftentimes, we get ourselves on diets that force out all those oh-so-good foods that are really bad. But we don’t need a quick, one-time fix that we’re going to ditch after we melt away the fat, we’re talking about changing our lifestyles here—think long-term. Our bodies need fat, so don’t think you’re not supposed to consume fatty foods, just know which ones are good for you, and indulge in moderation. (There’s good fat, and there’s bad fat, but as I said, I’m no fitness expert, therefore you can go ahead and Google the difference.)

For those junky, super-processed treats that we love so much (soda, chips, candy bars and well, you know the rest), while they really hold no nutritional value, it’s okay to chop ‘em down from time to time.  If you don’t allow yourself a day or two out of the week to enjoy those snacks you so desperately desire (remember, it’s all about moderation), when you finally get your hands on them after a long stretch of time, things won’t be pretty. So go ahead, get your Dunkin Donuts, Frito Lay and cookies and cream on every once in a while. It won’t hurt.

11 New Year’s Resolutions All Black Women Should Make

December 31st, 2013 - By Brande Victorian
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Need help getting your stuff  in order in 2014? You’re not alone. To help you get off on the good foot on January 1, here are 11 New Year’s resolutions for black women to commit to for the next 12 months. And trust us when we say we’re talking to ourselves with these resolutions too.

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1. Stop judging natural or relaxed hair

Look, it’s not your head; therefore it does not matter whether the sista next to you has been bantu knotting her natural tresses since the beginning of time or just got a touch up at the salon. Let it go and do what you do.