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I wish Lamar Odom a speedy recovery. Sincerely.
Still, I have questions. I specifically have a question about love. Or, should I say, how we choose to love.
I have loved some dudes. Some of it was healthy love. Most of it was not. I have loved some dudes who treated me badly. I have loved some dudes who lied and cheated. I have loved some dudes who did not respect me in the least.
But even I, in my most unhealthy of love moments, do not think I could run back and stick by the side of a man who was found unconscious from drugs inside of a brothel.
Don’t get me wrong: I am not heartless. I would definitely see him in the hospital. I would also send him flowers, cookies and pray for him. Heck, I might even help with medical decisions and contribute a few dollars to the cause.
But the divorce, which had been over two years in the making, would go on as scheduled.
And it has nothing to do with whether or not I love him anymore. But as some of us who have labored too long in unhealthy relationships already know, you need to consider your own well-being, and more importantly, your own happiness.
So, this is me hypothetically trying to get out of that situation. And I am trying to go to therapy to figure out my co-dependency issues and what was I hoping to gain for myself by attempting to fix an already troubled man. I am also trying to set and live by the boundaries I created.
I am sure that is what I would do. I am almost certain of it. Well…it is what I envisioned I would do at least.
It’s hard to know for sure, especially when society itself seems to hold special reverence for being a ride-or-die chick. Or should I say some ride-or-die chicks. Some ride-or-die chicks are just dismissed as stupid. And others get to be Khloe Kardashian.
And let’s not get it twisted: For all her wealth, fame and, ahem, prestige, Khloe Kardashian is the epitome of a ride-or-die chick.
Let’s think about this for a minute.
Odom’s recent overdose is just the latest in a long line of troubles, including numerous reports of partying with strippers, infidelity, drug binges and failed rehab attempts. The situation had gotten so bad that Kardashian decided to pull the plug on a reality television show that had been centered around their marriage. She said she did it so that she could “support” her husband as he worked on getting his basketball career back on track.
During the couple’s hiatus from television, they would break up and make up several times throughout the course of their relationship. Although all signs pointed to a divorce, Kardashian told People magazine back in 2012: “I’m a modern girl, but you should put your husband first,” she says. “I like to think divorce is not an option.”
But shortly after a video surfaced, which showed the former Dallas Maverick rapping about using drugs and having several mistresses, Kardashian decided to file for divorce.
As far as the world was concerned, Kardashian had finally sobered up. And it certainly appeared like she had moved on. Not only had she lost weight, changed her hair color and added some extra “accessories,” but she had been linked to a number of eligible bachelors, including French Montana and James Harden.
That was until a couple of weeks ago, when once again, her “husband” found himself in trouble. The same kind of trouble that he had been getting into repeatedly during their marriage. Instead of taking his latest relapse as a sign that she had made the right decision by getting out of that hole and moving on with her life, Kardashian decided to dig deeper. She not only rushed to join him by his bedside, but she also decided to, once again, work on her marriage.
Let’s say this together: Ride or die.
Perhaps it is true that love conquers all and that sometimes we have to weather the storm. That is what we learn about relationships from the fairy tales, romance novels, and our religious teachings. But the reality is that most women (and men) usually don’t always fare too well in these type of ride-or-die circumstances. In many instances, a woman can easily find themselves broke, heartbroken, mentally ill, disease-infested, in jail or even dead.
A great read on the consequences of being a ride-or-die chick is the essay entitled “What Happened to Kiesha?” which first ran on the website Ride or Die Project, a site dedicated to demystifying the trials and tribulations of women who stay in toxic relationships.
As the title suggests, in the essay, writer Amanda Parris breaks down the tragic life of the Kiesha character from the 1998 Hip-Hop film Belly. Although she is a fictional character, Kiesha has become sort of a symbol of not only steadfast loyalty, but also a type of beauty, which was missing from the “light-made-basically-white, surgically enhanced, highly photo-shopped images of beauty paraded with little disruption in today’s Hip Hop scene.”
But as Parris notes, this admiration we have for Kiesha never really translates into actual concern for her well-being. In spite of all of her beauty and faithfulness, Kiesha spends a good portion of the film monitoring the whereabouts of her philandering and ephebophile boyfriend, Tommy. She also physically fights and is brutalized by a home intruder who is after her boyfriend. And finally, she defends herself against the FBI after Tommy locks her up in jail for refusing to snitch on her boyfriend who has now flown the coup.
As Parris notes about this twisted admiration we have for Kiesha:
Absent are the images of her fighting for her life, in the moment left to pay for the decisions made by her lover. What happened to Keisha? What happens to a woman who is repeatedly betrayed, abandoned, incarcerated and assaulted? What happens to a woman who puts her lover at the center of her world when that lover leaves? What happens to a woman who does not have homegirls or support systems that can build her up when the world tries to break her down? What happens to a woman who loves someone that is targeted by the state and in turn becomes the state’s target? What happens to a woman who has learned how to fight for someone else but has no one to fight for her?
You can almost say the same thing about Kardashian.
The most interesting aspect of her toxic relationship to Odom is how well-received it has been by the mainstream. Unlike the lottery winner who was vilified and dragged throughout social media for spending her money bailing her drug-dealing boyfriend out of prison, Kardashian is painted almost angelically for going back and helping Odom on his road to recovery. Of course, some have speculated that her sudden benevolence is all for the sake of money and possibly ratings.
While that might be true, nowhere in any of this criticism is there any concern about the actual prudence of being devoted to a man who is troubled, and as a result of his troubles, does her harm.
And this is not to say that I think we should go around belittling women who opt to ride hard for their relationships. And while I truly believe Kardashian is setting herself up for a world of hurt, the truth is she is much more protected (emotionally, financially and spiritually) than the average Kiesha would be in similar circumstances. But I do think the Kardashian’s public relations machine and the media are both masking some pretty regressive values and ideas around this idea that love conquers all.
And I also feel like we should be conscious of the narrative that continue to tell women that the only way to be a good woman in a relationship, as well as in life, is to be a dedicated dumping ground for a man’s wayward seeds, sins and lack of self-esteem.
After all, what could she have seen in Odom in this latest incident, which led her to believe him to be a better man? And no, almost dying doesn’t count.
I wish both Odom and Kardashian well. But I do believe that his demons are deeper than his drug addiction. And truthfully, so are hers.
According to the gossip blog Hollywood Life, we might be seeing more of North West on the new season of Keeping Up With the Kardashians.
Aren’t you excited? Me neither.
But as the gossip site reports, the entire family, including North West, are currently filming season 11 in St. Barts, which is set to air this fall. In a follow-up report, the site said that Kanye insisted that North be well-compensated for her guest appearance.
As told by the HollywoodLife.com:
“Kanye has no qualms about North being exploited on the family’s E! reality show. He just wants her to be more than compensated for her time. “He wants North to be famous,” a source close to the rapper explains to HollywoodLife.com EXCLUSIVELY. He absolutely wants her to have that life, and she will have it — if the price is right! He’s already informed Kim that if North’s going to be a regular on the show, then she needs to be paid more than all of Kim’s sisters and Kris [Jenner], 59! If not, it isn’t happening.”
If the reports are true, you have to give it to the West clan for orchestrating a great deal, which ensures that North doesn’t have to work a single day in her life (not that it was likely a concern beforehand). And while she is too young to understand, he is teaching her a valuable lesson about properly valuing oneself. Best believe the network will be making tons of money off of her exposure, so she might as well get paid too.
And of course, North is no stranger to the public gaze. Not only has she been pictured front row at various fashion shows, but once she even stopped to pose for the paparazzi. Either that or she was wondering why those strange people were flashing lights in her face. And she has been on KUWTK before. According to Us, the heir to the Kardashian throne made a rather brief cameo while filming Kanye’s “Only One” music video, which was featured on an episode back in May of this year.
Still, I do wonder if all that public attention is good for a child her age? I am not a parent (gotta put that disclaimer out there), but if I were, I probably would be scared to death of not only the scrutiny she might receive but of what others might say about my own parenting. It is bad enough celebrity kids already get picked apart for their hair and other choices they have no control over.
Heck, it takes adults a long time to get adjusted to the limelight. Just look at her dad. He spent the last two years experiencing some pretty hefty celebrity growing pains. He got through it (I think), but it probably helps that Kanye is an adult. That should mean that he can better process and reason with all that is happening to him, as opposed to 2-year-old North.
I am no psychologist (another disclaimer), but it can’t be good psychologically for a child to be exposed to that much…well, exposure while she is still in her developmental years. I mean, what if all this attention at a young age turns her into a raging attention-seeking narcissist as an adult? And what happens if, by some small miracle, the Kardashians are no longer socially relevant? What could the lack of exposure do to a young person who has grown accustomed to receiving it? And what if she doesn’t like the cameras at all? It wasn’t that long ago that she was front row at Fashion Week, screaming during her daddy’s fashion show as the cameras snapped. There is nothing more damaging to a child’s confidence than forcing them to endure something she or he doesn’t truly feel comfortable doing.
One thing’s for sure, reality TV weddings aren’t the same as televised royal weddings, but these weddings are just as entertaining (if not more). Reality weddings are usually filled with much drama before walking down the aisle and many of them have been ratings gold, which means it makes sense for Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker to be the next reality stars to showcase their wedding on the small screen. And we’re sure Mama Joyce will keep fans entertained about her thoughts on the weddings — going back and forth from she’s not going to say anything and hopes she’s wrong to she knows her daughter is making a big mistake and she’ll regret it. Oh brother! But Burruss and Tucker’s big day (and the drama leading up to it) hasn’t been experienced by just them.
Here are 15 other major reality TV weddings filled with tears, love, romance, hilarity and much drama.
Oh? Kim Kardashian Says Khloe Wasn’t Trying To Have A Baby With Lamar Because ‘She Knew It Wasn’t Right’
After years of the public being led to believe that Khloe Kardashian and Lamar Odom didn’t have children together because of Khloe’s fertility issues, her older sister, Kim, is now saying that there’s a lot more to that story. According to Kim, Khloe wasn’t really trying to have a baby with Lamar.
“For so long everyone in our family was feeling so sad for Khloe, thinking that she wasn’t getting pregnant and everyone around her was,” Kim told Jimmy Kimmel. “And the whole time she wasn’t trying [to get pregnant].”
Kim went on to say that in addition to Khloe’s marital woes, she wasn’t really ready to be a mother.
“She wasn’t showing up to these doctor appointments behind our backs on purpose, and she just knew it wasn’t right [to get pregnant at that time].”
Kim later released a statement regarding the comments she made on the show, insisting that people are twisting her words.
“I’m so tired of people twisting my words,” Kim tweeted. “Khloe did start fertility and she wanted to have a baby, but I believe in the middle of the process she realized timing wasn’t good based on what was going on with her relationship. She was not ready to tell us everything so she stopped treatment without telling us. “
We can’t really see how her words were being twisted, when she clearly said that Khloe “wasn’t trying.” However, considering how quickly their marriage unraveled, it’s probably best that the soon-to-be divorced couple never had children.
On Aug. 30 we told you that former Los Angeles Clippers forward Lamar Odom was arrested on DUI charges. The arrest occurred after the “Keeping Up with the Kardashians” star was pulled over on the 101 Freeway in the San Fernando Valley for driving in a “serpentine manner.” Lamar reportedly failed multiple sobriety tests and refused all chemical testing once he was transported to the police station.
Four months after the highly publicized incident, it looks like Lammie will finally be able to put the incident behind him. Well, sort of. According to TMZ the reality star was able to strike a deal after pleading “no contest” to the crime. In exchange for his plea, he won’t be serving any prison time, but he is required to complete a three-year probation sentence. In addition to the probation sentence, he has also been ordered to complete an alcohol education class by June 9 and pay $1,814 in fines and fees. Lamar’s driver’s license will also automatically be suspended for one year due to his refusal to submit to a BAC test.
Three years is a pretty lengthy probation sentence, but it certainly beats three years behind bars. Hopefully Lammie will find a way to stay out of trouble after all of this.
I don’t even watch Keeping Up With The Kardashians, but I just might have to catch a few episodes during this new ninth season.
In the trailer for the reality show, everything we heard about in the news plays out in front of our eyes: Kim Kardashian and Kanye West get engaged (you get a preview of how the whole thing went down in the trailer), Bruce and Kris Jenner tell their family they’re separating (“We’re better as friends than we are the other way”), and of course, Khloe and Lamar go through some heavy marital problems.
Of course, you would think the latter situation would be one they wouldn’t want to talk about on camera, but it seems Khloe is ready to open up. In the trailer she is confronted by paparazzi who ask if she is behind Lamar Odom’s downfall, and when asked how he’s doing, she just shrugs. The reality personality goes on to say that she’s ready to move forward despite the tumultuous state of her relationship:
“I have to move on with my life and that means changing a lot.”
But Lamar still loves her and whatever the truth is about why he hasn’t been seen with the family and what he’s dealing with, he still wants to make things work. He tells Kourtney during a phone call with Khloe on speakerphone that, “I would do anything to be accepted back by you guys, you guys are all I’ve got.” But will she take him back? Should she?
Whatever decision they decide to make is clearly going to be what’s best for them, but I just find it odd that Odom keeps saying the Kardashians are his only family and all he has when he has two children that were there before he met and married homegirl. Just a thought…
Check out the supertrailer for the new season of Keeping Up With The Kardashians and let us know what you think.
It looks like there’s more trouble on the Kardashian homefront. For months media outlets have been in a total frenzy over Lamar Odom’s alleged substance abuse and what it means for the future of his marriage to his reality TV star wife, Khloe Kardashian. Ironically, there was another Kardashian split going on right beneath our noses and no one even noticed! Kardashian family matriarch, Kris Jenner, and her husband, Bruce, officially confirmed their split to E!
“We are living separately and we are much happier this way. But we will always have much love and respect for each other. Even though we are separated, we will always remain best friends and, as always, our family will remain our number one priority,” the couple said in a joint statement.
Sources close to the couple tell TMZ that they both appear to be content living separately and that no one has made any attempts to contact divorce attorneys. Insiders are also claiming that Kris is the one who really pushed for the separation. As far as the future of Keeping Up With The Kardashians goes, we hear that Bruce will continue to appear on the show.
I think it’s safe to say that many of us saw this coming. When one party in a marriage wants to change her last name back to that of her deceased ex-husband’s and starts sniffing around old boyfriends again, a breakup can’t be too far away. Kris has spoken exclusively to Us Weekly about the split, claiming that her love for the 63-year-old Olympic gold medalist remains unchanged.
“We are living apart. But there is no animosity. We are united and committed to our family. We ended a marriage, but that’s not the end of our friendship. I will always love him, but we are longer a couple in that way. We are happier this way,” Kris said.
“Dont Judge Unless U R In It”: Khloe Kardashian Says She’s Going To “Ride Til The End” For Lamar Odom
Despite dropping the Odom from her last name on social media, and not having been seen in public with her husband since early in the summer (last seen at Kim Kardashian’s baby shower to be specific), it seems that Khloe Kardashian is sticking to her vows, and will stand by Lamar Odom during this troubled time he’s having. Just a few hours ago, the youngest Kardashian sister posted a stream of thoughts on Twitter where she said that she’s going to “Ride til the end” and despite what people might say or how they might judge, this is a journey that she has to travel on her own, her own way–not in a way to please anybody else (including her family).
Not all scars can be seen and not all love can be explained. The deepest love is also the hardest to express. Only those in it, understand
If I love u. Its a deep 4ever love. Ride til the end. Family/friend.Its simply called love. I take it seriously. Dont judge unless u r in it
We all have our own journeys in life. So even if u don’t accept mine. Be kind….We all have a journey 2travel & I want to walk mine, my way
Two things define you: your patience when you have nothing and your attitude when you have everything.
I can respect Kardashian’s decision to stand by her man, because only she knows how she feels and who the real Lamar Odom is, not how he’s being portrayed in the media and through what he’s battling with right now. Let’s hope that these two can work things out, and that they don’t display too much of their personal struggles on their reality show, Keeping Up With The Kardashians. In a recent episode we saw Khloe talking about some personal demons Odom was dealing with (but not directly speaking on drugs or cheating). But honestly, some things as complicated as their current issues just need to be dealt with in private. Good luck to them!
Update (12:45 pm):
Earlier today, we told you that Lamar Odom’s estranged father, Joe Odom, came forward to make some pretty heavy accusations against the Kardashian family. Lamar responded to his dad’s Kardashian rant via his Twitter page, insisting that his in-laws are the “only family” that ever “loved him” and blaming Joe for his “downfall.” In an interview with TMZ, Joe has since come forward to apologize for his comments, offer clarity for his statement and defend his sobriety. According to Joe, he has been clean for thirty years and also believes that his son, Lamar, is also drug free.
Yesterday Lamar Odom’s estranged father, Joe, came forward to talk about all of the drama currently surrounding his son. He went as far as to blame the Kardashians for ruining Lamar’s life and even implied that his son has been “cursed” ever since he married Khloe back in 2009.
“Someone’s got to speak out, I’ve got to do something about this. It’s simple. They brought him down. He would be better off without them. Let him go and get his life together. I think the best thing for him would be to have a clean break, divorce Khloe and as a single man try and get his life back together,” Joe told Radar Online.
He also had a few choice words to say about Kardashian matriarch, Kris Jenner.
“The mother has been talking a lot of trash about my son, saying he’s on drugs and stuff like that. She’s got something against my son, something against my family. Kris Jenner is very negative. She’s an evil b****. She doesn’t care about Lamar, she just cares about their image and money.”
When asked if the Kardashians are drug abusers, Joe responded:
“I blame Kris in particular, she’s been through a lot of stuff herself. She’s no Cinderella. I can’t really say if the Kardashians are doing drugs, but my son would never use hard drugs. I can’t pinpoint right now who’s giving it to him, but I’m going to investigate. The Kardashians haven’t been a good influence on my son.”
“They don’t give a f*** about my son. It’s more about the damage they do to the Kardashian brand. They brought him down. He’d be better off without them. Let him go, get his life together.”
He wasn’t very shy in expressing the way he feels about his daughter-in-law, Khloe, either.
“I wish he had never got married to Khloe to be honest. She’s controlling. Those Kardashian women all are. You get married they think they wear the pants. You just bring them your whole paycheck, that’s how it works.”
“I saw her totally differently when I heard the way she talked privately. It isn’t pleasant. In public she’s nice, but if you see her personally you see the real person come out of her. The mother’s like that too. The whole family, they put up an act.”
“They haven’t been a good influence on my son. It’s been the curse of his life. He hasn’t really accomplished anything since he’s been with them. Without them, he’d still be in the NBA playing basketball. He’d be playing for the Lakers and be one of the top players in the league.”
Joe also claims that Kim hasn’t been very nice either.
“I heard Kim say they don’t have crackheads in their family. That pissed me off. Look at where she came from. We don’t want porno stars in our family.”
“I love my son dearly, but my advice to him would be: Leave the drugs alone. If he is abusing drugs, he’s got to stay straight and get his life together. Go into rehab. If it is crack he is taking, he’s got to get help.”
Surprisingly, for the first time since his alleged drug abuse scandal made headlines, Lamar publicly addressed his struggles. In a statement shared via his Twitter page, the 33-year-old Queens native jumped to the defense of his in-laws and slammed his father for not being there to raise him.
“Won’t continue 2 speak on this but I have got 2 let this out real quick. I have let this man and many others get away with a lot of sh**. He wasn’t there 2 raise me. He was absent ALL of my life due to his own demons. My mother and grandmother raised me,” Lamar began.
With reports of alleged infidelity and drug abuse, Lamar Odom, Khloe Kardashian’s husband of four years, could be tarnishing the brand of the infamous Brady Bunch. But while chaos and turmoil erupts behind closed doors, The Huffington Post says, the Kardashian family have kept a poker face to protect their empire.
The latest news has Odom assuring a pushy paparazzo that “life is good” and getting sued by another pap for allegedly assaulting him on July 10. Stefan Saad, who is asking for $15,000 for his equipment, at least $50,000 for lost work, and at least $500,000 for punitive damages, says he was attacked after he asked Odom if he was cheating on Khloe. RumorFix says Odom went so far as to drive off with the broken equipment. This isn’t the usual paparazzi-friendly behavior we see from the Kardashians.
It’s peculiar, according to HuffPo, that despite reports of Lamar’s DUI arrest two weeks ago, Khloe is keeping up appearances as if nothing is wrong, noting the selfies she’s posting and the “business as usual” attitude.
But in all honesty, what are we waiting for Lamar’s wife to do? Post a picture of her tearful eyes and pursed lips on Instagram? Write a tell-all, emotional tweet on Twitter? Have a public break down in front of the paparazzi? It’s embedded in unwritten law to save the drama for your mama, isn’t it? With the contract for the decaying Keeping Up with the Kardashians reality series set to end in 2015, “maintaining their brand image is paramount [right now],” said Liz Goodgold, a branding and marketing expert.
Other branding experts are shouting, “Bye, bye Kardashians!” as they truly believe that since profits for their clothing brand are tanking and with “Lamar Odom threatening to derail the entire family,” the golden era of the Kardashians is ending. But this hypothesis, I believe, is just wishful thinking. HuffPo and branding expert Rob Frankel agree. While the Kardashians are mending their tarnished reputation, the E! network “could view this as a good time to shift focus over to rising stars Kendall and Kylie Jenner,” the site says.
While the Kardashian talents are debatable, we can’t ignore their amazing ability to capitalize on, well, anything. If the Kardashians can rise from offering zilch but reality television antics and socialite living, I believe they can capitalize from the scandals that consistently plague the family — unfortunately. And as Frankel explained, even if the public has been hit with Kardashian-fatigue, they still have the Jenner sisters to rejuvenate their fortunes.
Think that the Kardashian empire will crumble anytime soon?