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The heterosexual among us will never know the anxiety, fear and anguish some people in the LGBT community feel when grappling with the decision to come out and reveal their sexuality. Though I could understand why Yusaf wouldn’t feel comfortable coming out, having a fiancé and 10 children, there was also a larger part of me that wondered why he just couldn’t be honest with himself and those near him.
Though he says otherwise, I’m convinced Mack’s decision to star in the adult film was less about falling on hard times and more about a way for him to finally live in his truth, even if he had to do it passively. There’s no doubt in my mind that Yusaf knew this video was going to make its rounds.
And while there might have been some weight lifted in his decision to finally be honest about his sexuality, the reaction from those closest to him weren’t always supportive, as he might have assumed.
In a recent interview with a Philadelphia Fox affiliate, Yusaf Mack talked about the hardest conversation he’s had in the two weeks since the tape was released.
He said it was the one he had with his 23-year-old daughter.
Mack says she said, “Kill yourself. You embarrass us.”
Then the interviewer asked him how he responded.
“I just threw the phone down and starting crying. I didn’t have no words, nothing to say. What could I say? ‘Who you talking to like that?!’ She’s got feelings. I’m her dad. All I could say was, “You’re right.” and threw the phone down.”
What makes the situation so tragic is that sometime in the past two weeks, it’s not clear if it was before or after this phone call with his daughter, Mack did think about killing himself. He called a couple of his friends and told them he was considering the feat. One of them came over, sat with him and eventually dissuaded him from the notion.
Today, he says all thoughts of suicide have passed.
“I’m free. I’m happy.”
Still, Mack, who says he’s known for the past eight years that he was gay, wishes he would have handled the situation differently, particularly with his fiancé, who was with for five years.
“I should have just come out and told her the truth and I’m sorry.”
Mack also had a message for his daughter and his other children.
“To all my kids, I’m sorry and I’m going to still be y’all father regardless, of what I am or who I am.”
I understand that Yusaf’s daughter is going through a helluva lot. Homosexuality aside, no child should have to deal with her father’s porno being the talk of the town. And I pray she hasn’t stumbled across it in any way. Still, despite her hurt, saying something like this to her father, represents the exact reason he kept his lifestyle a secret for so long. I don’t have to tell y’all that telling your father to kill himself is never ok, particularly when he was going through a challenging time in an attempt to be his truest self. Perhaps she didn’t know he was considering suicide but imagine the guilt she would have felt if he’d taken heed to her advice. Words are powerful and it’s a good thing Yusaf followed his friends encouraging ones rather than his daughters.
Hopefully, after she’s had some more time, Yusaf and his daughter will be able to make amends.
You can check out his full interview in the video below.
Once upon a time, hip-hop was criticized for its homophobia. But with Frank Ocean out and proud and Milan Christopher starring in Love & Hip Hop, things are changing in a big way. Do you know who’s at the forefront of hip-hop’s more inclusive future?
With Raven-Symoné and AzMarie Livingston setting a new standard of cool and Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi becoming red carpet favorites, more and more lesbian power couples are coming out to take Hollywood by storm. And with the recent Supreme Court decision ruling gay marriage legal in all 50 states, you can expect to see many more couples that look like the following powerful pairs.
“Your Yard is Becoming Relentlessly Gay”: Baltimore Woman Fires Back At Rude Neighbor By Making Yard “Gayer”
One Baltimore resident thought she was just hanging a set of innocuous rainbow jar solar lights in her yard. Little did she know she was actually creating some sort of — er — “homosexual haven.” A neighbor, appalled by the so-called “gay” sight, left Julie Baker a crude note that has the social media world up in arms, according to Wonkette.
But don’t worry, Baker handled it.
First, take a look at the note written by the anonymous neighbor:
“Your yard is becoming Relentlessly Gay! Myself and Others in the neighborhood ask that you Tone It Down. This is a Christian area and there are Children. Keep it up and I will be Forced to call the Police on You! Your kind need to have Respect for GOD.
A Concerned Home Owner.”
Baker passed on the note to a friend, who then decided to pass it on to George Takei, an activist best known for his role in the Star Trek TV series.
“…You know what happens when [Takei] posts things on Facebook,” Wonkette said. “ALL GAY HELL breaks loose, and the damn thing has gone viral.”
The note, which has nearly 24,000 shares on Facebook, pinched a nerve with many users:
“If someone hangs decorative jars in their yard and you think of homosexuality, I have some bad new for you,” a Facebook poster by the name of Natsumi Takanawa said.
“Tone it down??” Facebook commenter Christopher H. Justus asked incredulously. “After a letter like this, my yard would look like Las Vegas.”
Well, Baker is taking Justus’ advice. If the “Concerned Homeowner” and “others” thought Baker’s yard was “relentlessly gay” now, they better grab their rosaries because Baker is about to turn her home into the most insufferably “gay” residence you’ll ever see in your life.
Launching a GoFundMe campaign, Baker is asking for $5,000 to paint her home in vivid rainbow colors:
So, I am starting this fundraiser so I can work to make my Home even More “relentlessly gay” If we go high enough, I will see if I can get a Rainbow Roof!
Because my invisible relentlessly gay rainbow dragon should live up there in style!
Put simply, I am a widow and the mother of four children, my youngest in high school and I WILL NOT Relent to Hatred. Instead, I will battle it with whimsy and beauty and laughter and love, wrapped around my home, yard and family!!!
Baker has already surpassed her $5,000 goal and received more than $43,000, so far, to make her home look like a Gay Pride float.
Each parent reacts differently to the news that their child is gay. Some don’t take it well at all. Others are accepting and then there’s this last category, where your mother launches into a whole comedic routine about the so-called announcement.
That’s what happened when a Tumblr user named Bri came out to her mother.
She wrote: “My mom says this was how it was when I came out. I love her.”
See what Bri’s mom said about it in the video below.
We thought we knew all about these A-list stars. We bet you can’t name all of the celebrities with gay parents either!
Mel B isn’t the only celebrity that’s fessed up to an all-girl affair. These celebrity women say that they’re straight, but that hasn’t stopped them from sleeping with women.
Remember back in 209 when LiLo caused a minor scandal when she started dating female DJ Samantha Ronson? The female spin doctor isn’t the only celebrity Lindsay has dated, but she recently told Radar Online that she considers herself straight:
“I like being in a relationship with a man, but there’s something just different about it with a woman. … I have made out with girls and had a relationship with girls.”
Who knew that Raven-Symoné’s “Where Are They Now” episode would open up such a large can of worms? But her’s did, indeed.
As we mentioned before, Oprah asked her about the now famous tweet about gay marriage, which many took to mean that she, herself, was gay.
And while she did confirm that she was in a relationship with a woman, Raven-Symoné says she doesn’t want to be labeled as gay. In fact, she doesn’t want to be labeled as African American either.
First, the tweet:
“That was my way of saying I’m proud of the country. But, I will say that I’m in an amazing, happy relationship with my partner. A woman. And on the other side, my mother and people in my family, they’ve taught me to keep my personal life to myself as much as possible. So I try my best to hold the fence where I can but I am proud to be who I am and what I am?”
Oprah: So when did you know who you were and what you were?
Raven: In that topic of dating and in love, I knew when I was like twelve. I was looking at everything.
Oprah: Boys and girls? Did you have a word for it?
Raven: I don’t need language. I don’t need a categorizing statement for it.
Oprah: So you don’t want to be labeled gay?
Raven: I don’t’ want to be labeled gay. I want to be labeled, a human who loves humans. I’m tired of being labeled. I’m an American, I’m not an African American. I’m an American.
Oprah: Oh girl, don’t set up the Twitter on fire. What?! Oh, my Lord! What did you say?
Raven: I don’t know where my roots go to. I don’t know how far back they go. I don’t know what country in Africa I’m from. But I do know my roots are in Louisiana. I’m an American and that’s a colorless person.
Oprah: I mean, you’re going to get a lot of flack for saying you’re not African American. You know that right?
Raven: I have darker skin, I have a nice, interesting grade of hair. I connect with Caucasian, I connect with Asian, I connect with Black, I connect with Indian. I connect with each culture.
Oprah: You are a melting pot in one body.
Raven: Aren’t we all? Isn’t that what America’s supposed to be?
Oprah: That’s what it’s supposed to be, for sure.
Whew, child! She said a mouthful. And Oprah was right. She set Twitter on fire. The show aired yesterday and as I type this, “Raven Symone” is still trending.
We all have the right to define ourselves for ourselves and I certainly understand not wanting to label yourself as gay when you’re attracted to both sexes and believe love is love but the “not African American” part, is troubling to me. I understand that in this country, where you’re judged firstly and primarily by your color, the label can become heavy and problematic, even dangerous. But doesn’t the choice not to acknowledge it mean, that on some level, you’ve internalized the messages that it’s somehow inferior, or less American? Furthermore, “American” is a label too. (You need only leave this country to see the implications, positive and negative, that it carries.) So, it seems odd to only tell half of the story. You’re American but unless you’re Native American, there’s more to it. And I can’t help but notice that many other races and ethnicities take the time to celebrate those differences. Have you ever heard an Italian American, Mexican American or Chinese American deny their heritage, even if their ancestors have been in this country for centuries?
It just seems that Black people, across the diaspora, keep trying to run away from Africa. And that’s what I don’t understand. A lot of us aren’t able to point to a specific country, but there are tests that could answer that question if you really wanted to know. Honestly though, do you have to know a specific country to know there’s some Africa in you? There’s a reason why Raven, as a “colorless American,” noticed her darker skin and interesting grade of hair. One, because our country has conditioned us to notice and even demonize it, but also because it points to that undeniably African part of her ancestry, whether she wants to label it or not.
I’m not suggesting that Raven is ashamed of her African ancestry; she said she connects with Black culture, but I do wonder why she’s decided to omit it from her story.
What do you think about Raven-Symoné’s comments? Watch this portion of her “Where Are They Now?” interview with Oprah in the video below.
Is there always smoke where there’s fire? Lots of celebrity women have been accused of being gay. Some have come out, some are more comfortable in the closet and some have said you’re way off base. Still, that hasn’t stopped the speculation from running wild when it comes to these ladies.
Fans have been questioning Queen Latifah’s sexuality since her U.N.I.T.Y. days but she’s always insisted on staying quiet about her private life. Recent pictures of her on vacation with a mystery woman suggest that she may have come out without making an announcement.
This past week should have simply been a time for celebration for Faith Evans and her family. But with the internet being what it is and keyboard thugs being what they are, a joyous occasion took a bit of a negative turn. This past week, Faith Evans shared a couple of pictures of her son Christopher Wallace Jr. (Biggie’s son) graduating from high school. She included this image with the caption: “My first born son @cj_toa & I #proud.”
You’ll notice that she tagged her son in this post. And bloggers did some investigating, looking through the images on Wallace’s profile. Sandra Rose and others found this image of Wallace and a classmate.
It’s no secret that Sandra Rose has been known to be a bit messy in her day. And while it’s generally understood that children should be off limits, those are not rules to which she adheres.
And instead of letting it be what it was or choosing not to comment, one way or another, not only did Sandra post the picture on her blog, she tweeted the link out with a the hashtag #GayPride and @ mentioned Faith.
Faith promptly responded:
I’m not mad at Faith at all. Whether Christopher is gay or not is really none of Sandra’s business and it’s not her place to put labels on him when we’ve yet to hear him speak about his sexuality. I don’t know what’s going on here in this picture but does this look like the classic Titanic scene with Rose and Jack to anyone else?
Point is we don’t know what’s up. To be clear, being called gay shouldn’t be an insult but everybody’s not so evolved. And it’s no secret that in many circles, particularly with teenage boys, it can present a problem. For Sandra to do this and put it on the internet is foul, to say the least.
Judging by this speedy response, I’d say Sandra should be cool before Faith catches her in these streets. She really don’t want it.