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This past week should have simply been a time for celebration for Faith Evans and her family. But with the internet being what it is and keyboard thugs being what they are, a joyous occasion took a bit of a negative turn. This past week, Faith Evans shared a couple of pictures of her son Christopher Wallace Jr. (Biggie’s son) graduating from high school. She included this image with the caption: “My first born son @cj_toa & I #proud.”
You’ll notice that she tagged her son in this post. And bloggers did some investigating, looking through the images on Wallace’s profile. Sandra Rose and others found this image of Wallace and a classmate.
It’s no secret that Sandra Rose has been known to be a bit messy in her day. And while it’s generally understood that children should be off limits, those are not rules to which she adheres.
And instead of letting it be what it was or choosing not to comment, one way or another, not only did Sandra post the picture on her blog, she tweeted the link out with a the hashtag #GayPride and @ mentioned Faith.
Faith promptly responded:
I’m not mad at Faith at all. Whether Christopher is gay or not is really none of Sandra’s business and it’s not her place to put labels on him when we’ve yet to hear him speak about his sexuality. I don’t know what’s going on here in this picture but does this look like the classic Titanic scene with Rose and Jack to anyone else?
Point is we don’t know what’s up. To be clear, being called gay shouldn’t be an insult but everybody’s not so evolved. And it’s no secret that in many circles, particularly with teenage boys, it can present a problem. For Sandra to do this and put it on the internet is foul, to say the least.
Judging by this speedy response, I’d say Sandra should be cool before Faith catches her in these streets. She really don’t want it.
‘I Would Try To Get Him Help’ Antoine Dodson Speaks on Supporting Son Regardless Of His Future Sexual Preference
Antoine Dodson, the man famous for becoming an internet sensation after telling the the public to “Hide ya kids, hide ya wife, hide ya husbands … cause they rapin’ everybody out here,” recently became a father to son, JaCobie with a woman he simply refers to as “his queen”. When Dodson announced that he would be a father last September, it was to much of the public’s surprise since most had assumed he was gay.
Early last year Dodson became a Black Hebrew Israelite and claimed that he was no longer into homosexuality. He stated he wanted to move forward in his life and have a wife and family. As confusing as Dodson’s choices may be for some, Dodson is not quick to force his lifestyle onto his son. TMZ reveals that Dodson feels if JaCobie turns out to be gay, he’ll still love him, but he’d do his best to turn him straight.
He told TMZ he believes living a gay lifestyle is wrong and anti-religious, but he would love his son regardless. He stated:
“I wouldn’t be shocked because I lived that life before. I would try and get him help.”
“Even if he couldn’t be fixed it doesn’t matter because I still support him no matter what.”
Geez, can we let this baby live his first month on Earth before we begin discussing his sexuality and what will or won’t be accepted? Admittedly I am all kinds of confused by Dodson. It’s not that I don’t believe people can change, but is it truly possible to up and change your own sexuality, let alone someone else’s? How about we focus on solid foods and potty training before we debate who little JaCobie will date.
We told you Instagram’s Direct Message feature was going to cause some trouble. And though this is certainly not the first example of someone being put on blast, this one says quite a bit. Recently, one third of TGT, singer Tank, took a screenshot of one of his Instagram direct images and posted it on his account for all to see.
It was a man, who Tank says claimed to be a minister, exposing himself in a video. Tank didn’t delete the video or keep it to himself, he took a screen shot and posted this lengthy message on Instagram.
I first apologize for this image to all my fans and anybody who sees this! This man is claiming to be a minister and sends this to my DM!! This is what’s wrong with the church now! Misrepresentation of God and who he really is!! This is the devil operating in our sacred place! We can’t allow this ANYWHERE!! I have no problems with homosexuals BUT I do have a problem with this!! What message were you trying to send a straight man “minister”? I hope ur bishop everybody in ur congregation become aware of your actions! If you’ll send this to a celebrity God only knows what ur sending to kids and etc!! The devil is working and this is what it looks like! I won’t stand by and allow it to happen! I will take this down soon, BUT this serves as a warning to you perverts infiltrating our churches!! You’re not welcome!! I pray that God deals with you swiftly and accordingly!!
If you’ve ever been the recipient of an unsolicited genitalia picture, you know the disgust and violation Tank feels. And we don’t have to tell you that someone who claims to be a man of God shouldn’t be sending video–not photos–but video of his wang to strangers. That’s wrong on a whole ‘nother level.
But we have to say that Tank took things a bit too far when he made the assumption that just because the man was gay and completely inappropriate, that he was automatically a pedophile. That’s a stretch and an unfair characterization to place on someone without proof. Literally, it’s one of the worst things you can call a person.
I will say he does bring up a good point about the church. Gay, straight or somewhere in between there is no part of the “church” game–or the common decency game–that would make it ok for you to send an unsolicited, unwanted picture of your junk. It’s no bueno. Still, I feel a way about Tank putting this man on blast like this. Was the man wrong? Sure. But Tank doesn’t know what type of scrutiny this man might suffer in this alleged church, if he is indeed outed in this way. Basically, I don’t know if Tank should have taken it upon himself to expose this man in what could potentially be a physically or emotionally damaging situation. Revealing his sexuality to his church members should have been a decision he made on his own, if he ever decided to do so.
What do you think about Tank’s comments? Do you think it was right for him to expose the man?
Last night, if you were on Twitter pretty late, you might have noticed that Trey Songz was trending. And if you clicked on the trending topic, you would have quickly learned that the internets were claiming, with questionable evidence, that Trey Songz was indeed gay. And there was a tweet from his “verified account” to prove it.
Here it is:
Then there was this older, suspect picture of Trey supposedly kissing a man.
Though I knew this was probably a fake, it looked pretty convincing. But I highly doubt Trey Songz would use Twitter as a way to come out if he really were gay.
Anyway, the topic trended for hours with a slew of different reactions. Some said they suspected long ago that Trey was homosexual. Others offered support claiming that whether he was gay or not they didn’t care and would still bump his music. And then there were those who shed fake emoji tears at the devastation.
Finally, this morning, during working hours, Trey addressed the slander:
The things you people craft up with hatred in your hearts. The things people believe without question, or validity, all baffles me.
— Trey Songz (@TreySongz) March 26, 2014
Photoshop and a retweet is all people need to believe, any and everything. I feel bad for the impressionable, no minds of their own.
— Trey Songz (@TreySongz) March 26, 2014
If I’m gay then Tupac bringing me a ounce for this session wit Biggie tomorrow. No weapon. #LOVE
— Trey Songz (@TreySongz) March 26, 2014
When you’re an R&B singer in the limelight, often times the gay rumors will follow. There are those who swear, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that Trey Songz is gay. But if he says he’s not, then we’ll have to accept that. It’s not hard to photoshop some text on a Twitter profile. And that picture, upon further reflection, is not even Trey in the first place. Personally, I don’t know why people are so pressed either way.
I guess when you’ve endured all of the health challenges that Robin Roberts has over the past few years, you start to understand what’s really important in life and feel more comfortable and confident in being your true self. Perhaps that’s why, for the first time, “Good Morning America” anchor Robin Roberts stepped out of the closet–as far as the public is concerned– and acknowledged her “longtime girlfriend.” There was no huge announcement on GMA, no declaration at a parade and no blog post. Instead, in a letter, under a picture of she and her dog KJ, she expressed her gratitude for all she’d overcome the past two years and thanked her girlfriend Amber in addition to other family members, doctors, friends and fans. Here’s what she had to say:
And there you have it. Good for Robin. I remember, before last year I had never even thought about her sexuality. (As it should be.) But when rumors started to swirl that she might be gay, it wasn’t something I had a hard time believing. At the end of the day, it certainly doesn’t change anything. She’s a skilled journalist, she’s a fighter and a survivor. The things we’ve always loved about Robin have not changed and I’m glad she’s now feeling comfortable enough to share another part of who she is with the world.
Did you have any idea Robin was gay? Are you surprised she finally decided to come out and in this way?
“I Don’t Know What I’ll Be Like Next Year”: NYC Mayor Bill de Blasio’s Wife Opens Up About Her Homosexual Past
Bill de Blasio was elected the next mayor of New York City on Tuesday, defeating Republican opponent Joe Lhota.
By now, New Yorkers have become well acquainted with De Blasio’s family–daughter Chiara, son Dante, and wife Chirlane McCray–all of whom were visible figures throughout his campaign.
In May, a 1979 Essence piece written by McCray was picked up by the media in which she discusses her identity as a gay black woman.
Read and see more at BlackVoices.com
Filmmaker, JD Walker is raising funds (and awareness) for a film project in the pre-production stage — a coming out story, new to Hollywood. And that’s a story about a queer woman of color, Alyssa (Margaret Kemp, Children of God ) and how she not only comes out, but transitions and grows after her divorce and secret life with another woman. A story told through the lenses of her daughter, the film will focus on the impact of the divorce on the child, and how the mother and daughter come to terms with each other’s choices.
Walker, a black feminist writer who identifies with the queer community, won the 2013 Sundance Pitching Contest and raised more than her $25,000 goal for the film through a Kickstarter campaign. But other than traditional Hollywood struggling to take notice, Walker says some people don’t want to see another film tackling coming out.
“A lot of people complained that they don’t want to see or read about or hear another coming out story particularly in film. But every time we witness another teen suicide, another teen who is being bullied just because who they are, we know there is still work to be done,” Walker said. “Personally, I don’t think that the idea of telling another story about how homophobia impacts subjects or people of color… I don’t think that the story can ever get old. It’s important it’s told in a very unique way.”
Walker talks about the status of her upcoming film and about why stories reflecting the intersection 0f homophobia, racism, sexism and classism need to be told in an exclusive interview with MadameNoire’s Deron Dalton:
MN: What inspired you to write and make The Postwoman?
JD Walker: “I have always been interested, both as a professor and black woman, in exploring black women’s quadruple oppression on screen and in literature and in writing. And that’s black women’s oppression by their gender, their race, their class and their sexuality. And I noticed over the years — my background is as a journalist and a theatre major — that a lot of images I saw in traditional Hollywood didn’t reflect my reality, my cultural reality or even just my experiences as a woman of color. I really wanted to help humanize queer women of color on screen and to give more black women characters voice.”
“…When we look at traditional Hollywood cinema from as early as D.W. Griffith and Thomas Edison, we see three-different stereotypes of black women in cinema. And that is the black woman as mammy, the black woman as sapphire and the black woman as matriarch. Doing this film [is] a way for me to address social justice issues and to address homophobia and the importance of eradicating homophobia, racism, classism and sexism not only in the world, but specifically the African-American community.”
MN: How did you come up with the name and the story The Postwoman?
Walker: “I originally did a short film for the queer women of color film festival. I was offered an opportunity to take a free class for women filmmakers. It was originally a comedy. It was a short about a woman sitting on her balcony, and she sees this mysterious postal carrier woman walk by her. And it’s partly autobiographical because one afternoon in the summer, I was sitting on my balcony and I noticed a female postal worker delivering the mail quietly and her hat was tilted down low… and I couldn’t see her eyes. But then I started thinking because I’m writer about what’s her story. That’s how I got the title The Postwoman, but I’m not really fond of the title for a feature film so the title may change. The short screened at over 20 black film festivals [a combination of black pride and LGBT film festivals] between 2009 and 2011. The story just grew by word of mouth and that’s what really inspired me to begin screenwriting as a profession.”
MN: Usually the media representation of the LGBT community are images of white men, younger white men or just white men in general, do you feel there are enough coming out stories for people of color on film or on TV?
Walker: “I don’t think there are enough coming stories for people of color on TV or film, even GLAAD has documented that most of the scripted TV LGBT characters are white males. If you look at… any kind of LGBT distribution you’ll see that the stories are about white males mostly. Our stories don’t get told. I think it’s important we hear a multiplicity of voices. Not just the coming out experience, but what happens after that, how do people survive and grow in life. There are so many great stories that independent black filmmakers produce that don’t make it to the mainstream or that people never see. And for me that’s painful.”
MN: What issues are highlighted in this film that interlink with real-life LGBT issues?
Walker: “First and foremost, we see the intersection of gender, race, class and sexuality in this film. I think that a lot of the films I’ve witnessed… we haven’t really seen how quadruple oppression can effect a subject or a character. Most of the films we seen about LGBT individuals are comedies featuring white males.”
MN: “Romantic comedies? I’ve written about it… for the Huffington Post… that gay formulaic comedy. You see an average-looking white guy hooking up with a really handsome-looking white guy and all their trials and tribulations in dating each other. That’s basically that formula.”
Walker: Laughs. “Somehow we can’t get around that. We have to get around that.”
MN: “I’m not going to lie to you. I do watch them all.” Laughs.
Walker: “I do too. I like them… and that’s all we have, but doesn’t mean we can’t demand more from our writers and to demand that they dig deeper and look at the realities of race, class and gender. I’m just trying to help to humanize black women characters on screen and to give more black women/actresses voices and depth. That’s the reason why I really decided to make this a dramatic feature film.”
For the past few years there has been much interest in actress Raven-Symone’s sexuality — mostly because it’s something she never speaks on, perhaps until today. Two hours ago, the former Disney star sent out an interesting tweet that many think is confirmation of her homosexuality. She wrote:
I can finally get married! Yay government! So proud of you
— Raven-Symonè (@MissRavenSymone) August 2, 2013
What’s confusing is the timing of the child star’s message. Many think it is a response to the Supreme Court’s decision to overturn The Defense of Marriage Act which will allow same-sex marriages to be recognized by the Federal government; however this decision was handed down in June, making her about two months late on the acknowledgement. The tweet also appears to be in direct conflict with a statement the 27-year-old made early last year when rumors surfaced she was dating former “America’s Next Top Model” contestant Az Marie. At the time, she said:
I’m living my PERSONAL life the way I’m happiest. I’m not one, in my 25 year career to disclose who I’m dating. and I shall not start now. My sexual orientation is mine, and the person I’m dating to know. I’m not one for a public display of my life. However that is my right as a HUMAN BEing whether straight or gay. To tell or not to tell. As long as I’m not harming anyone. I am a light being made from love. And my career is the only thing I would like to put on display, not my personal life. Kisses!”
Though Raven still hasn’t technically put her personal life on display, she may have put her sexual orientation out in the open. But with no further comment from her, all one can do is continue to speculate as we have been.
What are your thoughts?
I watched this video (Video Of Black Teens Rapping About Oral With Other Men Goes Viral, Radio Host Blames Single Black Mothers) a few weeks ago and I was confused more than anything. I warn you, if you haven’t seen it. It’s a bit graphic and features a group of pre-teen African-American boys rapping about their skills performing oral sex on other men. As graphic and offensive as the boys were I couldn’t figure out whether they were joking, embracing homosexuality or making a statement on their own sexuality. Initially I didn’t continue watching the radio host’s commentary about how these boys’ behavior was a result of single-motherhood because I wondered why someone was so quick to point blame. What I witnessed was a group of boys much like the young men who would sit in my sexual health classes and immaturely ask me was it more safe to wear two condoms or can a woman get pregnant from butt sex. They were obnoxious, curious and completely clueless.
I did eventually watch Tommy Sotomayor’s commentary and I didn’t get how he was contributing to the solution by agreeing that most black men ain’t ish and black mothers are genocide to our race (Sorry Tommy, I’ve got classrooms of young black men that disprove this theory). The sex educator and ally in me was too busy cartwheeling that finally a group of young black men weren’t using derogatory names to refer to homosexuality or talking about being gay like it was dirty or repulsive. In fact, you might even get an impression that they were proud of it. That’s something to be celebrated, right? Even if it wasn’t in the most PG, politically correct language.
I was bothered more by the boys’ age in relation to them rapping so publicly about such sexually explicit acts. I would have felt the same way if they were saying they were going to “filet mignon” some women’s private parts Lil’ Wayne style. But instead of knocking the boys’ sexual preferences or public displays of it, it sounds like what they needed was someone to sit down and talk to them about healthy sexuality and values not a radio DJ to get on a soapbox talking about how they would be failures at life because they were raised by single black women. It’s easy to talk about who is responsible for the problems in our community, but it’s quite a challenge to play an active role in the solution.
The video did begin to have me questioning how young is too young to come out? I remember being curious about boys as early as seven-years-old, but is gay something you can’t truly claim until you’re older? In all actuality, the first crush I remember having was a girl crush. Sexuality was a foreign concept to my second-grade class and most of us were just beginning to figure out what “going together” or having a boyfriend or girlfriend even meant. One day I decided to “propose” to my best friend and the class threw us a wedding during recess. Did I “like” girls. Probably not. At seven-years-old all I knew was that my best friend was pretty, funny and nice and I wanted to make sure we’d be friends forever and at the time a proposal was the only way to express that. I got down on one knee and all. At 29, I’m confident enough to look back and know that I wasn’t a experiencing any first feelings as a lesbian. I’m completely heterosexual as far as I know but I still wonder WTH was I thinking in second grade. This whole business of sexual attraction and relationships is confusing for adults, and for pre-teens it’s complete chaos.
Can you tell when you’re dealing with a brother who’s on the down low? We like to think that we can tell when we’re barking up the wrong tree, but that’s not always the case. These celebrity men (and women) had the world fooled — or at least that’s the assumption that was made when either their own actions or someone else’s mouth outted them. We’re not confirming anyone’s sexual orientation here, but whether or not these celebs are in or out of the closet, at the very least they’ve got some skeletons in there.