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Who knew that Raven-Symoné’s “Where Are They Now” episode would open up such a large can of worms? But her’s did, indeed.
As we mentioned before, Oprah asked her about the now famous tweet about gay marriage, which many took to mean that she, herself, was gay.
And while she did confirm that she was in a relationship with a woman, Raven-Symoné says she doesn’t want to be labeled as gay. In fact, she doesn’t want to be labeled as African American either.
First, the tweet:
“That was my way of saying I’m proud of the country. But, I will say that I’m in an amazing, happy relationship with my partner. A woman. And on the other side, my mother and people in my family, they’ve taught me to keep my personal life to myself as much as possible. So I try my best to hold the fence where I can but I am proud to be who I am and what I am?”
Oprah: So when did you know who you were and what you were?
Raven: In that topic of dating and in love, I knew when I was like twelve. I was looking at everything.
Oprah: Boys and girls? Did you have a word for it?
Raven: I don’t need language. I don’t need a categorizing statement for it.
Oprah: So you don’t want to be labeled gay?
Raven: I don’t’ want to be labeled gay. I want to be labeled, a human who loves humans. I’m tired of being labeled. I’m an American, I’m not an African American. I’m an American.
Oprah: Oh girl, don’t set up the Twitter on fire. What?! Oh, my Lord! What did you say?
Raven: I don’t know where my roots go to. I don’t know how far back they go. I don’t know what country in Africa I’m from. But I do know my roots are in Louisiana. I’m an American and that’s a colorless person.
Oprah: I mean, you’re going to get a lot of flack for saying you’re not African American. You know that right?
Raven: I have darker skin, I have a nice, interesting grade of hair. I connect with Caucasian, I connect with Asian, I connect with Black, I connect with Indian. I connect with each culture.
Oprah: You are a melting pot in one body.
Raven: Aren’t we all? Isn’t that what America’s supposed to be?
Oprah: That’s what it’s supposed to be, for sure.
Whew, child! She said a mouthful. And Oprah was right. She set Twitter on fire. The show aired yesterday and as I type this, “Raven Symone” is still trending.
We all have the right to define ourselves for ourselves and I certainly understand not wanting to label yourself as gay when you’re attracted to both sexes and believe love is love but the “not African American” part, is troubling to me. I understand that in this country, where you’re judged firstly and primarily by your color, the label can become heavy and problematic, even dangerous. But doesn’t the choice not to acknowledge it mean, that on some level, you’ve internalized the messages that it’s somehow inferior, or less American? Furthermore, “American” is a label too. (You need only leave this country to see the implications, positive and negative, that it carries.) So, it seems odd to only tell half of the story. You’re American but unless you’re Native American, there’s more to it. And I can’t help but notice that many other races and ethnicities take the time to celebrate those differences. Have you ever heard an Italian American, Mexican American or Chinese American deny their heritage, even if their ancestors have been in this country for centuries?
It just seems that Black people, across the diaspora, keep trying to run away from Africa. And that’s what I don’t understand. A lot of us aren’t able to point to a specific country, but there are tests that could answer that question if you really wanted to know. Honestly though, do you have to know a specific country to know there’s some Africa in you? There’s a reason why Raven, as a “colorless American,” noticed her darker skin and interesting grade of hair. One, because our country has conditioned us to notice and even demonize it, but also because it points to that undeniably African part of her ancestry, whether she wants to label it or not.
I’m not suggesting that Raven is ashamed of her African ancestry; she said she connects with Black culture, but I do wonder why she’s decided to omit it from her story.
What do you think about Raven-Symoné’s comments? Watch this portion of her “Where Are They Now?” interview with Oprah in the video below.
Is there always smoke where there’s fire? Lots of celebrity women have been accused of being gay. Some have come out, some are more comfortable in the closet and some have said you’re way off base. Still, that hasn’t stopped the speculation from running wild when it comes to these ladies.
Fans have been questioning Queen Latifah’s sexuality since her U.N.I.T.Y. days but she’s always insisted on staying quiet about her private life. Recent pictures of her on vacation with a mystery woman suggest that she may have come out without making an announcement.
This past week should have simply been a time for celebration for Faith Evans and her family. But with the internet being what it is and keyboard thugs being what they are, a joyous occasion took a bit of a negative turn. This past week, Faith Evans shared a couple of pictures of her son Christopher Wallace Jr. (Biggie’s son) graduating from high school. She included this image with the caption: “My first born son @cj_toa & I #proud.”
You’ll notice that she tagged her son in this post. And bloggers did some investigating, looking through the images on Wallace’s profile. Sandra Rose and others found this image of Wallace and a classmate.
It’s no secret that Sandra Rose has been known to be a bit messy in her day. And while it’s generally understood that children should be off limits, those are not rules to which she adheres.
And instead of letting it be what it was or choosing not to comment, one way or another, not only did Sandra post the picture on her blog, she tweeted the link out with a the hashtag #GayPride and @ mentioned Faith.
Faith promptly responded:
I’m not mad at Faith at all. Whether Christopher is gay or not is really none of Sandra’s business and it’s not her place to put labels on him when we’ve yet to hear him speak about his sexuality. I don’t know what’s going on here in this picture but does this look like the classic Titanic scene with Rose and Jack to anyone else?
Point is we don’t know what’s up. To be clear, being called gay shouldn’t be an insult but everybody’s not so evolved. And it’s no secret that in many circles, particularly with teenage boys, it can present a problem. For Sandra to do this and put it on the internet is foul, to say the least.
Judging by this speedy response, I’d say Sandra should be cool before Faith catches her in these streets. She really don’t want it.
‘I Would Try To Get Him Help’ Antoine Dodson Speaks on Supporting Son Regardless Of His Future Sexual Preference
Antoine Dodson, the man famous for becoming an internet sensation after telling the the public to “Hide ya kids, hide ya wife, hide ya husbands … cause they rapin’ everybody out here,” recently became a father to son, JaCobie with a woman he simply refers to as “his queen”. When Dodson announced that he would be a father last September, it was to much of the public’s surprise since most had assumed he was gay.
Early last year Dodson became a Black Hebrew Israelite and claimed that he was no longer into homosexuality. He stated he wanted to move forward in his life and have a wife and family. As confusing as Dodson’s choices may be for some, Dodson is not quick to force his lifestyle onto his son. TMZ reveals that Dodson feels if JaCobie turns out to be gay, he’ll still love him, but he’d do his best to turn him straight.
He told TMZ he believes living a gay lifestyle is wrong and anti-religious, but he would love his son regardless. He stated:
“I wouldn’t be shocked because I lived that life before. I would try and get him help.”
“Even if he couldn’t be fixed it doesn’t matter because I still support him no matter what.”
Geez, can we let this baby live his first month on Earth before we begin discussing his sexuality and what will or won’t be accepted? Admittedly I am all kinds of confused by Dodson. It’s not that I don’t believe people can change, but is it truly possible to up and change your own sexuality, let alone someone else’s? How about we focus on solid foods and potty training before we debate who little JaCobie will date.
We told you Instagram’s Direct Message feature was going to cause some trouble. And though this is certainly not the first example of someone being put on blast, this one says quite a bit. Recently, one third of TGT, singer Tank, took a screenshot of one of his Instagram direct images and posted it on his account for all to see.
It was a man, who Tank says claimed to be a minister, exposing himself in a video. Tank didn’t delete the video or keep it to himself, he took a screen shot and posted this lengthy message on Instagram.
I first apologize for this image to all my fans and anybody who sees this! This man is claiming to be a minister and sends this to my DM!! This is what’s wrong with the church now! Misrepresentation of God and who he really is!! This is the devil operating in our sacred place! We can’t allow this ANYWHERE!! I have no problems with homosexuals BUT I do have a problem with this!! What message were you trying to send a straight man “minister”? I hope ur bishop everybody in ur congregation become aware of your actions! If you’ll send this to a celebrity God only knows what ur sending to kids and etc!! The devil is working and this is what it looks like! I won’t stand by and allow it to happen! I will take this down soon, BUT this serves as a warning to you perverts infiltrating our churches!! You’re not welcome!! I pray that God deals with you swiftly and accordingly!!
If you’ve ever been the recipient of an unsolicited genitalia picture, you know the disgust and violation Tank feels. And we don’t have to tell you that someone who claims to be a man of God shouldn’t be sending video–not photos–but video of his wang to strangers. That’s wrong on a whole ‘nother level.
But we have to say that Tank took things a bit too far when he made the assumption that just because the man was gay and completely inappropriate, that he was automatically a pedophile. That’s a stretch and an unfair characterization to place on someone without proof. Literally, it’s one of the worst things you can call a person.
I will say he does bring up a good point about the church. Gay, straight or somewhere in between there is no part of the “church” game–or the common decency game–that would make it ok for you to send an unsolicited, unwanted picture of your junk. It’s no bueno. Still, I feel a way about Tank putting this man on blast like this. Was the man wrong? Sure. But Tank doesn’t know what type of scrutiny this man might suffer in this alleged church, if he is indeed outed in this way. Basically, I don’t know if Tank should have taken it upon himself to expose this man in what could potentially be a physically or emotionally damaging situation. Revealing his sexuality to his church members should have been a decision he made on his own, if he ever decided to do so.
What do you think about Tank’s comments? Do you think it was right for him to expose the man?
Last night, if you were on Twitter pretty late, you might have noticed that Trey Songz was trending. And if you clicked on the trending topic, you would have quickly learned that the internets were claiming, with questionable evidence, that Trey Songz was indeed gay. And there was a tweet from his “verified account” to prove it.
Here it is:
Then there was this older, suspect picture of Trey supposedly kissing a man.
Though I knew this was probably a fake, it looked pretty convincing. But I highly doubt Trey Songz would use Twitter as a way to come out if he really were gay.
Anyway, the topic trended for hours with a slew of different reactions. Some said they suspected long ago that Trey was homosexual. Others offered support claiming that whether he was gay or not they didn’t care and would still bump his music. And then there were those who shed fake emoji tears at the devastation.
Finally, this morning, during working hours, Trey addressed the slander:
The things you people craft up with hatred in your hearts. The things people believe without question, or validity, all baffles me.
— Trey Songz (@TreySongz) March 26, 2014
Photoshop and a retweet is all people need to believe, any and everything. I feel bad for the impressionable, no minds of their own.
— Trey Songz (@TreySongz) March 26, 2014
If I’m gay then Tupac bringing me a ounce for this session wit Biggie tomorrow. No weapon. #LOVE
— Trey Songz (@TreySongz) March 26, 2014
When you’re an R&B singer in the limelight, often times the gay rumors will follow. There are those who swear, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that Trey Songz is gay. But if he says he’s not, then we’ll have to accept that. It’s not hard to photoshop some text on a Twitter profile. And that picture, upon further reflection, is not even Trey in the first place. Personally, I don’t know why people are so pressed either way.
I guess when you’ve endured all of the health challenges that Robin Roberts has over the past few years, you start to understand what’s really important in life and feel more comfortable and confident in being your true self. Perhaps that’s why, for the first time, “Good Morning America” anchor Robin Roberts stepped out of the closet–as far as the public is concerned– and acknowledged her “longtime girlfriend.” There was no huge announcement on GMA, no declaration at a parade and no blog post. Instead, in a letter, under a picture of she and her dog KJ, she expressed her gratitude for all she’d overcome the past two years and thanked her girlfriend Amber in addition to other family members, doctors, friends and fans. Here’s what she had to say:
And there you have it. Good for Robin. I remember, before last year I had never even thought about her sexuality. (As it should be.) But when rumors started to swirl that she might be gay, it wasn’t something I had a hard time believing. At the end of the day, it certainly doesn’t change anything. She’s a skilled journalist, she’s a fighter and a survivor. The things we’ve always loved about Robin have not changed and I’m glad she’s now feeling comfortable enough to share another part of who she is with the world.
Did you have any idea Robin was gay? Are you surprised she finally decided to come out and in this way?
“I Don’t Know What I’ll Be Like Next Year”: NYC Mayor Bill de Blasio’s Wife Opens Up About Her Homosexual Past
Bill de Blasio was elected the next mayor of New York City on Tuesday, defeating Republican opponent Joe Lhota.
By now, New Yorkers have become well acquainted with De Blasio’s family–daughter Chiara, son Dante, and wife Chirlane McCray–all of whom were visible figures throughout his campaign.
In May, a 1979 Essence piece written by McCray was picked up by the media in which she discusses her identity as a gay black woman.
Read and see more at BlackVoices.com
Filmmaker, JD Walker is raising funds (and awareness) for a film project in the pre-production stage — a coming out story, new to Hollywood. And that’s a story about a queer woman of color, Alyssa (Margaret Kemp, Children of God ) and how she not only comes out, but transitions and grows after her divorce and secret life with another woman. A story told through the lenses of her daughter, the film will focus on the impact of the divorce on the child, and how the mother and daughter come to terms with each other’s choices.
Walker, a black feminist writer who identifies with the queer community, won the 2013 Sundance Pitching Contest and raised more than her $25,000 goal for the film through a Kickstarter campaign. But other than traditional Hollywood struggling to take notice, Walker says some people don’t want to see another film tackling coming out.
“A lot of people complained that they don’t want to see or read about or hear another coming out story particularly in film. But every time we witness another teen suicide, another teen who is being bullied just because who they are, we know there is still work to be done,” Walker said. “Personally, I don’t think that the idea of telling another story about how homophobia impacts subjects or people of color… I don’t think that the story can ever get old. It’s important it’s told in a very unique way.”
Walker talks about the status of her upcoming film and about why stories reflecting the intersection 0f homophobia, racism, sexism and classism need to be told in an exclusive interview with MadameNoire’s Deron Dalton:
MN: What inspired you to write and make The Postwoman?
JD Walker: “I have always been interested, both as a professor and black woman, in exploring black women’s quadruple oppression on screen and in literature and in writing. And that’s black women’s oppression by their gender, their race, their class and their sexuality. And I noticed over the years — my background is as a journalist and a theatre major — that a lot of images I saw in traditional Hollywood didn’t reflect my reality, my cultural reality or even just my experiences as a woman of color. I really wanted to help humanize queer women of color on screen and to give more black women characters voice.”
“…When we look at traditional Hollywood cinema from as early as D.W. Griffith and Thomas Edison, we see three-different stereotypes of black women in cinema. And that is the black woman as mammy, the black woman as sapphire and the black woman as matriarch. Doing this film [is] a way for me to address social justice issues and to address homophobia and the importance of eradicating homophobia, racism, classism and sexism not only in the world, but specifically the African-American community.”
MN: How did you come up with the name and the story The Postwoman?
Walker: “I originally did a short film for the queer women of color film festival. I was offered an opportunity to take a free class for women filmmakers. It was originally a comedy. It was a short about a woman sitting on her balcony, and she sees this mysterious postal carrier woman walk by her. And it’s partly autobiographical because one afternoon in the summer, I was sitting on my balcony and I noticed a female postal worker delivering the mail quietly and her hat was tilted down low… and I couldn’t see her eyes. But then I started thinking because I’m writer about what’s her story. That’s how I got the title The Postwoman, but I’m not really fond of the title for a feature film so the title may change. The short screened at over 20 black film festivals [a combination of black pride and LGBT film festivals] between 2009 and 2011. The story just grew by word of mouth and that’s what really inspired me to begin screenwriting as a profession.”
MN: Usually the media representation of the LGBT community are images of white men, younger white men or just white men in general, do you feel there are enough coming out stories for people of color on film or on TV?
Walker: “I don’t think there are enough coming stories for people of color on TV or film, even GLAAD has documented that most of the scripted TV LGBT characters are white males. If you look at… any kind of LGBT distribution you’ll see that the stories are about white males mostly. Our stories don’t get told. I think it’s important we hear a multiplicity of voices. Not just the coming out experience, but what happens after that, how do people survive and grow in life. There are so many great stories that independent black filmmakers produce that don’t make it to the mainstream or that people never see. And for me that’s painful.”
MN: What issues are highlighted in this film that interlink with real-life LGBT issues?
Walker: “First and foremost, we see the intersection of gender, race, class and sexuality in this film. I think that a lot of the films I’ve witnessed… we haven’t really seen how quadruple oppression can effect a subject or a character. Most of the films we seen about LGBT individuals are comedies featuring white males.”
MN: “Romantic comedies? I’ve written about it… for the Huffington Post… that gay formulaic comedy. You see an average-looking white guy hooking up with a really handsome-looking white guy and all their trials and tribulations in dating each other. That’s basically that formula.”
Walker: Laughs. “Somehow we can’t get around that. We have to get around that.”
MN: “I’m not going to lie to you. I do watch them all.” Laughs.
Walker: “I do too. I like them… and that’s all we have, but doesn’t mean we can’t demand more from our writers and to demand that they dig deeper and look at the realities of race, class and gender. I’m just trying to help to humanize black women characters on screen and to give more black women/actresses voices and depth. That’s the reason why I really decided to make this a dramatic feature film.”
For the past few years there has been much interest in actress Raven-Symone’s sexuality — mostly because it’s something she never speaks on, perhaps until today. Two hours ago, the former Disney star sent out an interesting tweet that many think is confirmation of her homosexuality. She wrote:
I can finally get married! Yay government! So proud of you
— Raven-Symonè (@MissRavenSymone) August 2, 2013
What’s confusing is the timing of the child star’s message. Many think it is a response to the Supreme Court’s decision to overturn The Defense of Marriage Act which will allow same-sex marriages to be recognized by the Federal government; however this decision was handed down in June, making her about two months late on the acknowledgement. The tweet also appears to be in direct conflict with a statement the 27-year-old made early last year when rumors surfaced she was dating former “America’s Next Top Model” contestant Az Marie. At the time, she said:
I’m living my PERSONAL life the way I’m happiest. I’m not one, in my 25 year career to disclose who I’m dating. and I shall not start now. My sexual orientation is mine, and the person I’m dating to know. I’m not one for a public display of my life. However that is my right as a HUMAN BEing whether straight or gay. To tell or not to tell. As long as I’m not harming anyone. I am a light being made from love. And my career is the only thing I would like to put on display, not my personal life. Kisses!”
Though Raven still hasn’t technically put her personal life on display, she may have put her sexual orientation out in the open. But with no further comment from her, all one can do is continue to speculate as we have been.
What are your thoughts?