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I don’t watch very much football. I like HBO’s Ballers, and aside from drooling over how beautiful Cam Newton is, that’s about it. I get whatever little tidbits I can about the NFL season from the news and friends. But somehow, I know a lot about New York Giants wide receiver Odell Beckham Jr. What I know about him, though, has very little to do with football.
Over the last few months, I’ve noticed different people and blogs either alluding to or claiming that Beckham is gay. Why?
Because he dances.
Not only does he dance, and dance in a very entertaining way, but he often dances shirtless, with male friends, and does so while rocking a blond ‘do. Something that gets a dance-happy Chris Brown praise from people (because he’s also danced shirtless, with male friends and rocked a blond ‘do) gets Beckham a severe side-eye on a weekly basis.
Despite the machismo that usually comes with being a football player, his stellar stats, and the fact that many women ogle at Beckham, there seems to be a growing group of people who think he’s gay. Every video of him doing the nae nae outside, in the house, in the club–wherever you can think of, is pretty much riddled with remarks about Beckham’s sexuality. I find the videos wildly entertaining, but others find them to be an opportunity to slander him.
And every week, before kickoff of his games, Beckham claims that he actually hears gay slurs from opposing players and their fans. As he told NFL Network analyst Michael Irvin, it’s nothing new.
“He deals with it a lot. For some reason, everybody goes after him with gay slurs,” Irvin told the Daily News. “He’s a different kind of dude. He has the hairdo out, he’s not the big muscular kind of dude. The ladies all love him. He’s a star. I wonder why people are going in that direction. It blows my mind. I told him he can’t let stuff that people say get to you.”
Even Beckham’s good friend, Kavahra Holmes, who could be seen doing a full dance routine with Beckham on social media recently, took to Instagram to let people know that no matter what folks say, they’re going to keep dancing.
Lolll it's crazy how we been brothers for so long and if anybody really knows us know anywhere we go they see us being clowns and dancing but of course it's made as "we gay" Lol ain't no shade no where in the mix.. Strictly brotherhood and just cuz we dancing having fun don't make us gay.. I dance with our without him and vice versa so the "gay" comments really funny .. We laughing … But we gone keep dancing lol.. Str8 up.. #SQUADDDDDDDDDDDDD @iam_objxiii
I was initially going to write about this about a month ago when a video of Beckham allegedly looking at a teammate’s backside surfaced–though it definitely looked like he was looking at the guy’s cleats. But I changed my mind because I thought, “Who really cares if he’s gay or not?” But apparently people do.
There’s something really tired about the way people think it’s cute to try and shame people into saying they’re gay. It’s like forcibly kicking someone out of the closet, and it’s obsessing over the sexuality of someone else. This is especially tired when it’s a person who isn’t gay defining what it is about a person that makes them gay, solely based on stereotypes.
People talk a lot about gay agendas, but it often feels like there’s an agenda to make anyone who dares to be different gay. If individuals don’t fit into a certain mold or stereotype, then they must be gay. If a man dances in an over-the-top way and has fun in a positive, non-stereotypical way with friends, he’s gay. If he’s not out here big, bulky and beating on folks like some of these other football players, he’s gay. If you haven’t seen him out and about with a woman romantically, he’s gay. If he stands too close to a friend who wears his hair in a similar fashion, he’s gay. If he shows love to his childhood friends, he’s gay. If he makes the wrong face in a picture, and his eyebrow goes just a little too high, he’s gay.
It takes nothing for people to act like they’re the authority on homosexuality.
But what bothers me the most about this is that people are so pressed about the lives of other people as if getting to say “I told you so!” will get them a free pass into heaven or a check for a million dollars. Gay or not, what Odell Beckham does in his bedroom doesn’t change the talent he has on the field. And it doesn’t change the fact that it’s nobody’s cot damn business.
I know someone who tried to push a colleague out of the closet. We’ll call that “someone” Shawn. Said colleague wasn’t out here dating women, pretending to be something that he wasn’t. But because he hadn’t come out and said he was gay, that somehow bothered Shawn. When we would hang out, Shawn would say things like, “So, I think ___ is gay,” to which I would respond, “Maybe so, maybe not” with a shrug. And though that should have been the end of it, Shawn was obsessed and talked about it every time he came around our friends and me.
“Do you think his brother knows he’s gay?”
“How could his family not know?”
“I just feel like he’s trying too hard to conceal that sh-t.”
So, during a phone conversation, he tried to push said colleague into admitting that he was what Shawn thought he was.
“If you’re gay, just say that you’re gay.”
That’s the route Shawn went trying to facilitate a very sensitive conversation with my colleague. It ended ugly. And while the colleague eventually came out a few years later and has been happily living in his truth, he no longer speaks to Shawn, an individual who tried to force him to live in said truth when he was ready for him to do so. Good riddance.
I say all that to say that they call it a personal life for a reason. This fascination with knowing the ins and outs of people’s sex lives and being able to label them to feel like you are right about something, to be in the know, or to feel comfortable with them is quite disturbing. And if you somehow get satisfaction or sleep better knowing where someone stands in their sexuality, it might be time that you question your own.
Yusaf Mack Says Caitlyn Jenner Inspired Him To Accept His Truth, Reveals His Interest In Transgender Women
2015 has been a crazy year of sorts for Philadelphia boxer Yusaf Mack, as his secret lifestyle turned national headline-worthy when footage of him in an adult film with two other men hit the internet and outed him as an alleged homosexual.
After denying having sexual desires for men and claiming that he was drugged prior to the video, Mack finally confessed to being gay. But even still conquering his fears of being an openly gay man was tough for him as he had to explain his situation to his 10 children and ex-fiancee, some of which had their own gripes about Mack’s secret lifestyle.
Now, after months since keeping it real about his sexuality, Mack is more open than ever about sharing his lifestyle with others. In a recent interview with HipHollyoowd, the 35-year-old said that Bruce Jenner’s transition into Caitlyn inspired him to embrace his sexuality, too. He even compared his own situation to Jenner’s, being that they are both heralded sports champions and he was afraid of being judged.
“When I seen Bruce Jenner did it, I said ‘If he can do it, I can do it. I don’t have to hide anymore,’” he said. “He’s an Olympic four-time gold medalist, and I had several titles in boxing. If he can do it, it’s inspiring to me. I can do it.”
Mack also revealed his interest in transgender women saying, “My interest is trannies,” the boxer said. “I love trannies. I’m attracted to trannies. I don’t like nobody [with] muscle like me.”
Press play and watch the full interview above.
The heterosexual among us will never know the anxiety, fear and anguish some people in the LGBT community feel when grappling with the decision to come out and reveal their sexuality. Though I could understand why Yusaf wouldn’t feel comfortable coming out, having a fiancé and 10 children, there was also a larger part of me that wondered why he just couldn’t be honest with himself and those near him.
Though he says otherwise, I’m convinced Mack’s decision to star in the adult film was less about falling on hard times and more about a way for him to finally live in his truth, even if he had to do it passively. There’s no doubt in my mind that Yusaf knew this video was going to make its rounds.
And while there might have been some weight lifted in his decision to finally be honest about his sexuality, the reaction from those closest to him weren’t always supportive, as he might have assumed.
In a recent interview with a Philadelphia Fox affiliate, Yusaf Mack talked about the hardest conversation he’s had in the two weeks since the tape was released.
He said it was the one he had with his 23-year-old daughter.
Mack says she said, “Kill yourself. You embarrass us.”
Then the interviewer asked him how he responded.
“I just threw the phone down and starting crying. I didn’t have no words, nothing to say. What could I say? ‘Who you talking to like that?!’ She’s got feelings. I’m her dad. All I could say was, “You’re right.” and threw the phone down.”
What makes the situation so tragic is that sometime in the past two weeks, it’s not clear if it was before or after this phone call with his daughter, Mack did think about killing himself. He called a couple of his friends and told them he was considering the feat. One of them came over, sat with him and eventually dissuaded him from the notion.
Today, he says all thoughts of suicide have passed.
“I’m free. I’m happy.”
Still, Mack, who says he’s known for the past eight years that he was gay, wishes he would have handled the situation differently, particularly with his fiancé, who was with for five years.
“I should have just come out and told her the truth and I’m sorry.”
Mack also had a message for his daughter and his other children.
“To all my kids, I’m sorry and I’m going to still be y’all father regardless, of what I am or who I am.”
I understand that Yusaf’s daughter is going through a helluva lot. Homosexuality aside, no child should have to deal with her father’s porno being the talk of the town. And I pray she hasn’t stumbled across it in any way. Still, despite her hurt, saying something like this to her father, represents the exact reason he kept his lifestyle a secret for so long. I don’t have to tell y’all that telling your father to kill himself is never ok, particularly when he was going through a challenging time in an attempt to be his truest self. Perhaps she didn’t know he was considering suicide but imagine the guilt she would have felt if he’d taken heed to her advice. Words are powerful and it’s a good thing Yusaf followed his friends encouraging ones rather than his daughters.
Hopefully, after she’s had some more time, Yusaf and his daughter will be able to make amends.
You can check out his full interview in the video below.
Once upon a time, hip-hop was criticized for its homophobia. But with Frank Ocean out and proud and Milan Christopher starring in Love & Hip Hop, things are changing in a big way. Do you know who’s at the forefront of hip-hop’s more inclusive future?
With Raven-Symoné and AzMarie Livingston setting a new standard of cool and Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi becoming red carpet favorites, more and more lesbian power couples are coming out to take Hollywood by storm. And with the recent Supreme Court decision ruling gay marriage legal in all 50 states, you can expect to see many more couples that look like the following powerful pairs.
“Your Yard is Becoming Relentlessly Gay”: Baltimore Woman Fires Back At Rude Neighbor By Making Yard “Gayer”
One Baltimore resident thought she was just hanging a set of innocuous rainbow jar solar lights in her yard. Little did she know she was actually creating some sort of — er — “homosexual haven.” A neighbor, appalled by the so-called “gay” sight, left Julie Baker a crude note that has the social media world up in arms, according to Wonkette.
But don’t worry, Baker handled it.
First, take a look at the note written by the anonymous neighbor:
“Your yard is becoming Relentlessly Gay! Myself and Others in the neighborhood ask that you Tone It Down. This is a Christian area and there are Children. Keep it up and I will be Forced to call the Police on You! Your kind need to have Respect for GOD.
A Concerned Home Owner.”
Baker passed on the note to a friend, who then decided to pass it on to George Takei, an activist best known for his role in the Star Trek TV series.
“…You know what happens when [Takei] posts things on Facebook,” Wonkette said. “ALL GAY HELL breaks loose, and the damn thing has gone viral.”
The note, which has nearly 24,000 shares on Facebook, pinched a nerve with many users:
“If someone hangs decorative jars in their yard and you think of homosexuality, I have some bad new for you,” a Facebook poster by the name of Natsumi Takanawa said.
“Tone it down??” Facebook commenter Christopher H. Justus asked incredulously. “After a letter like this, my yard would look like Las Vegas.”
Well, Baker is taking Justus’ advice. If the “Concerned Homeowner” and “others” thought Baker’s yard was “relentlessly gay” now, they better grab their rosaries because Baker is about to turn her home into the most insufferably “gay” residence you’ll ever see in your life.
Launching a GoFundMe campaign, Baker is asking for $5,000 to paint her home in vivid rainbow colors:
So, I am starting this fundraiser so I can work to make my Home even More “relentlessly gay” If we go high enough, I will see if I can get a Rainbow Roof!
Because my invisible relentlessly gay rainbow dragon should live up there in style!
Put simply, I am a widow and the mother of four children, my youngest in high school and I WILL NOT Relent to Hatred. Instead, I will battle it with whimsy and beauty and laughter and love, wrapped around my home, yard and family!!!
Baker has already surpassed her $5,000 goal and received more than $43,000, so far, to make her home look like a Gay Pride float.
Each parent reacts differently to the news that their child is gay. Some don’t take it well at all. Others are accepting and then there’s this last category, where your mother launches into a whole comedic routine about the so-called announcement.
That’s what happened when a Tumblr user named Bri came out to her mother.
She wrote: “My mom says this was how it was when I came out. I love her.”
See what Bri’s mom said about it in the video below.
We thought we knew all about these A-list stars. We bet you can’t name all of the celebrities with gay parents either!
Mel B isn’t the only celebrity that’s fessed up to an all-girl affair. These celebrity women say that they’re straight, but that hasn’t stopped them from sleeping with women.
Remember back in 209 when LiLo caused a minor scandal when she started dating female DJ Samantha Ronson? The female spin doctor isn’t the only celebrity Lindsay has dated, but she recently told Radar Online that she considers herself straight:
“I like being in a relationship with a man, but there’s something just different about it with a woman. … I have made out with girls and had a relationship with girls.”
Who knew that Raven-Symoné’s “Where Are They Now” episode would open up such a large can of worms? But her’s did, indeed.
As we mentioned before, Oprah asked her about the now famous tweet about gay marriage, which many took to mean that she, herself, was gay.
And while she did confirm that she was in a relationship with a woman, Raven-Symoné says she doesn’t want to be labeled as gay. In fact, she doesn’t want to be labeled as African American either.
First, the tweet:
“That was my way of saying I’m proud of the country. But, I will say that I’m in an amazing, happy relationship with my partner. A woman. And on the other side, my mother and people in my family, they’ve taught me to keep my personal life to myself as much as possible. So I try my best to hold the fence where I can but I am proud to be who I am and what I am?”
Oprah: So when did you know who you were and what you were?
Raven: In that topic of dating and in love, I knew when I was like twelve. I was looking at everything.
Oprah: Boys and girls? Did you have a word for it?
Raven: I don’t need language. I don’t need a categorizing statement for it.
Oprah: So you don’t want to be labeled gay?
Raven: I don’t’ want to be labeled gay. I want to be labeled, a human who loves humans. I’m tired of being labeled. I’m an American, I’m not an African American. I’m an American.
Oprah: Oh girl, don’t set up the Twitter on fire. What?! Oh, my Lord! What did you say?
Raven: I don’t know where my roots go to. I don’t know how far back they go. I don’t know what country in Africa I’m from. But I do know my roots are in Louisiana. I’m an American and that’s a colorless person.
Oprah: I mean, you’re going to get a lot of flack for saying you’re not African American. You know that right?
Raven: I have darker skin, I have a nice, interesting grade of hair. I connect with Caucasian, I connect with Asian, I connect with Black, I connect with Indian. I connect with each culture.
Oprah: You are a melting pot in one body.
Raven: Aren’t we all? Isn’t that what America’s supposed to be?
Oprah: That’s what it’s supposed to be, for sure.
Whew, child! She said a mouthful. And Oprah was right. She set Twitter on fire. The show aired yesterday and as I type this, “Raven Symone” is still trending.
We all have the right to define ourselves for ourselves and I certainly understand not wanting to label yourself as gay when you’re attracted to both sexes and believe love is love but the “not African American” part, is troubling to me. I understand that in this country, where you’re judged firstly and primarily by your color, the label can become heavy and problematic, even dangerous. But doesn’t the choice not to acknowledge it mean, that on some level, you’ve internalized the messages that it’s somehow inferior, or less American? Furthermore, “American” is a label too. (You need only leave this country to see the implications, positive and negative, that it carries.) So, it seems odd to only tell half of the story. You’re American but unless you’re Native American, there’s more to it. And I can’t help but notice that many other races and ethnicities take the time to celebrate those differences. Have you ever heard an Italian American, Mexican American or Chinese American deny their heritage, even if their ancestors have been in this country for centuries?
It just seems that Black people, across the diaspora, keep trying to run away from Africa. And that’s what I don’t understand. A lot of us aren’t able to point to a specific country, but there are tests that could answer that question if you really wanted to know. Honestly though, do you have to know a specific country to know there’s some Africa in you? There’s a reason why Raven, as a “colorless American,” noticed her darker skin and interesting grade of hair. One, because our country has conditioned us to notice and even demonize it, but also because it points to that undeniably African part of her ancestry, whether she wants to label it or not.
I’m not suggesting that Raven is ashamed of her African ancestry; she said she connects with Black culture, but I do wonder why she’s decided to omit it from her story.
What do you think about Raven-Symoné’s comments? Watch this portion of her “Where Are They Now?” interview with Oprah in the video below.