10 Things We Owe Our Children

June 20th, 2011 - By LaShaun Williams

A parent’s number one job is to love their child unconditionally; and, for most of us, that comes easily. Difficulties come with figuring out to how to best demonstrate our love and effectively communicate it to our children. Love is not an emotion but an action and children have to see their parent’s love at work.

We are inclined to love our children in much the same way our parents loved us, good and bad. But, we only owe our seed the good as the goal is for every generation to get better. Love isn’t always gentle and it doesn’t always speak in a soft voice, but it is selfless and committed to generating positive outcomes. The act of love encompasses many things and it’s important to tackle areas of weakness individually.

These are a few of the components we should focus on to help convey love to our children:

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  • Real talk

    It should read OWE – sorry

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  • Toni

    This article opitimize eveything that i beleive when it comes to raising a child. When i was 19 i had my child (son) and I knew that i had to sacrafice and raise him the right way. My life had to be about him 1st me second. I grew up in challenging situations where the kid was seen but not heard. I learned from that and broke the generational curse that was bestowed upon my family. I am happy to say My children are well rounded and my grandchildren are presouse Jewels that have a chance in this world to be happy and full of unconditional love and discipline from the heart.

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  • Lynn

    This was a really good article. I am a single mother in the military and everyday I struggle to make sure that I am making the right decisions for my daughter. It is hard sometimes and I am trying to find balance to provide her with the things she needs. She often tells me "Mommy I only need your love" because we spend so much time apart but have to provide for her because she did not ask to come into this world. Everyday I wonder if I am making the right decision.

  • Devon L Jackson

    well, most of the suggestions had a particular female bent…and i chalk that up to the fact that the author was female, so no harm no foul…except for the on point on "consistency" and "knowing that dad is going to pick them up on saturday morning"…i don't think it's a conscientious effort to minimalize the male aspect or the fathering role, but that we have become so inundated and ingrained with the concept of absentee fathers that we obliviously deny their presence and necessity…as a very proud, very involved, and very married father i take that seriously and try diligently to erase that perception and change the paradigm…that's all i was saying…

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  • Jimmy Swaggered

    AN ACTUAL CONVERSATION WITH ME AND BY 4 YEAR OLD:

    "Daddy!"

    "What's up son?"

    "I bet you didn't know Michael Jackson was the first person ever to teach zombies how to dance!"

    "Wow…good point son!

    • Shelese

      Michael Jackson is the best!! Just for teaching zombies how to dance LOL

  • Shelese

    One of the most honest and powerful articles I have ever read. I'm 23 years old, don't have any children but I have two nieces that I have helped raise since I was 13 and everything in this article is what I strive to give them. I feel as if they are my own children and would go thru hell and back for them. They have helped me understand what it means to take responsibility for another little being that is you and came from you, so when I finally have my own children, I know I will be ready for whatever comes my way. And most importantly I will love them unconditionally ALWAYS. I couldn't envision my life without those little girls, and tho I have raised them, they have helped raise me also into the woman I am today.

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  • Jessica

    I love this post. Two things I would add would be 1- Truth and 2 – Education.

    I personally find myself having to dig answers and family information out of my parents and this can be very dangerous. My mother has a disease that may or may not be genetic and as I enter adulthood, I find my self education me and my siblings about health and wellness because our parents did not. Inform your children about any family health, mental or financial issues that may affect them in the future.

    For education, African-Americans still need to practice teaching their children skills our white counterparts consider basic. The value of credit, how your credit score will assist your future, volunteering, etc. It will prepare them to play life's game.

  • lovely

    the pic on #7 is so sweet, makes me want to have a baby of my own!!

    good article!

  • Shontai

    Excellent article! Black families need all the information and resources we can get. Continue to publish empowering articles like these and perhaps the black family will become united once and for all.

  • Ronnie

    aww that was a sweet post..i really want children somebody to carry on …where i leave off..so to speak!
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