A Personal Essay From Tamika Fuller…Fighting For My Daughter: Power, Wealth, And Hip-Hop

April 8, 2015  |  
By Raven Carter
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By Tamika Fuller

There is nothing like the very first moment a woman connects with the child growing inside of her womb. Those first stirrings of life may be barely visible to some people, but when I found out that I was pregnant with my baby, my heart immediately made room for her in my life. I would sit in the stillness and wait for a sign from her like I was waiting to hear the voice of God.

Unfortunately, the same cannot be said for her father. And having him rip my baby from me feels like an act of willful violence that reoccurs every single day that I wake up and realize that she’s not by my side.

Let me start from the beginning.

When I found out that I was pregnant two years ago, I immediately told Chris. The world knows him as an internationally famous Hip-Hop artist and actor (Ludacris), but despite the hurtful things said about me, that’s not why I was attracted to him. We had been good friends for many years, and when he told me he was newly single in spring 2013 we became intimate. Things took an ugly turn, however, when I found myself unexpectedly throwing up in his bathroom, and ultimately learning that I was pregnant.

The psychological manipulation began immediately. He broke down in tears when I told him that I wanted to keep our baby, and he begged me to abort the child whose heartbeat was developing in rhythm with my own. He told me that it would destroy his career and his image. I contemplated heavily on terminating my pregnancy. I don’t believe in forced parenthood or trapping anyone into raising an unwanted child. However, when I visited the clinic and heard my daughter’s heartbeat on the ultrasound, I knew I couldn’t go through with it.

He promised me the world – trips on his private jet and other perks of the rich and famous – if I would just have the abortion. He made me feel as if I was ruining us. It was as if he believed that our friendship should take precedence over the life growing inside of me and when he realized that it didn’t, it couldn’t, my real nightmare began.

I am fully aware that people often assume an average woman who gets herself impregnated by a celebrity is a gold-digger looking for a quick and easy payday. However, contrary to popular belief, I was fully cognizant that I was going to be a single mother. I knew that he was not going to be involved – I was okay with that. I went through my entire pregnancy alone and worked full time with no support from him. Most of the people in my circle never even knew he was the father until our court case made headlines. Deep down, even though I knew he never wanted the baby, I was hurt at the idea that there was a real possibility that my daughter’s father might not be part of her life. I thought that he would accept our daughter’s impending arrival and want to take part in the process, but I now know that thinking was naive.

Knowing that he had no desire to have a baby, imagine my surprise when he filed for physical custody of our daughter and a judge ruled in his favor. I was stunned, devastated, and overwhelmed. I asked myself over and over again, “How could this happen to me?” What had I done wrong? It felt as if I were screaming into howling winds and no one could hear me say, “I’m a good mother. I love my daughter. I’m a good mother. I love my daughter.”

What kind of mother gets her child taken away from her? I only cut back on my work hours following my maternity leave to ensure that I had enough time to spend with my daughter during the first year of her life. However, it was this financial reasoning along with events that transpired 20 years ago in my teens that were the justifications used when issuing the decision. The retribution continued to roll in because apparently taking away my child wasn’t enough of a punishment. I was then denied assistance with lawyer fees and told that her father needed to authorize the pictures I posted on my personal social media page. As I apologized to my friends and family for not being able to share imagery of the evolution of my child, I scratched my head: What does Instagram censoring have to do with disparate income levels? Subsequently, I now have no child, no First Amendment rights, and I’m in debt to the tune of six figures.

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  • TrueBlood

    blah blah balh. Should’ve waited until marriage dumb broad. I have no sympathy for baby mamas. Have a seat Tamika _ _ _

  • Jimmy

    LOL at all the hood rat stories 🙂

  • namedmesunshine

    Tamika Fuller, you are so wrong. You are selfish and inconsiderate. You are not telling the whole story as to why the judge made the case against you. What about your first child whom you abandoned? The one who changed the whole dynamic of this case by testifying against you? All of a sudden you are a great mother? You are a money hungry greedy woman who is giving every good mother a bad name. Shame on you Tamika.

  • Cookie

    Women want to be like men, then when the system decides against the woman like they would a man in custody cases, the woman writes a sob story full of excuses. Her oldest child and her are in a great place? Wow. Birth control methods should not have only been used by the man, but the woman too. If you do not want a child, you use protection, both. Kissing and telling…really? No one has heard the side of this man who wants his child living with him. Why did she not protect herself to ensure she would not become pregnant and have waited a while to see where the relationship would go? Really? Sorry, you do not get my pity vote. A mature, self-confident woman and didn’t “mean” to get pregnant with a super-stars child would have just moved on. “He knows I cry every night”? Vomit…nope no pity vote here darlin’.

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  • Welcome to the life of a WILLING father that has his kid/s ripped away from him unfairly by a spiteful mother, and failing court system.

    Y’all want equality? This is part of it. With equality comes letting go of the notion that the mother is automatically the best option for the child. Deal with it!

  • james

    Luda didn’t abandon karma like you did ur oldest daughter tho rite…

  • james

    You should have just taken the child support payments and childcare he was already paying and been happy. When you tried to screw him over, he dug up every dirty little secret you didn’t want anyone to know about. Her own daughter testified about her abandoning her. kill the pity party,get a real job like grown people do and be accountable. Then work on your daughter back. She’s on here begging for money for court fees because she lost tryna sue somebody ctfu.

    • jessica
      • james

        she admits in the article he paid her child support, first directly to her and then after that, to the court which then paid to her.

        she went to court to ask for more and got burned. im lolling at all of you trying to make him look like a deadbeat but shes the one with no job and doesnt have custody of her baby, Yall mad?

  • GTFOHWTBS

    Give this mother back her child. #youlowlifesonofabeach

  • GTFOHWTBS

    feeling so sad for her pain . How could you take a child from her mother. Im not a fan of Ludicrous and will NEVER be. #youreapwhatyousow

  • Negrakitty

    This is truly heartbreaking, the idea of anyone other than my mother raising me truly sickens me. What is almost as bad are all the comments on here bashing her and not Ludicrous – not cris – for taking his child away rather than paying child support. Cos of course it’s always the BW’s fault – never the BM. SMDH.

  • kitahowell

    I think this woman will eventually get her baby back… I hope she can get at least joint custody…

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  • Patrycja

    seriously, wtf? he asked her to have an abortion bc he didn’t want to have a baby and then he decides to take the baby away from her?

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  • Henny Penny

    70 percent of father’s win custody cases? What a farce.

    Mother’s are not the only parent and not the only ones who can raise a child. While co-parenting is for the best in a divorce situation, obviously that’s not the case here. The judge obviously saw something because Family Court will never choose the father over the mother.

    You wanted equality, feminists. Don’t go crying because you finally got it.

  • KayKay

    Seems like she lost a fight that she started. It’s sad, but come on, if you are penning essays quoting statistics on custody battles then you should’ve done this research before dragging him into court asking for $15,000 per month in child support. She should’ve at least accepted the $1,800 for a while and requested a modification later, or asked for a more reasonable amount in court but not $15,000.
    Yes he made $12 million in 2013, but dating a man for 90 days and becoming pregnant does not entitle you to his fortune. Who needs $15,000 per month to raise a child? If I were Ludacris and had someone trying to extort me like this, I would have fought for custody too so I would not have to be in and out of court with this woman for the next 18 years.
    She made a poor decision being greedy that sparked retaliation and ultimately the child loses because that baby is no longer with her mother where she should be. He is a coward for begging her to get an abortion, but she put her baby in this situation by being greedy. Always think of your children and their best interest first!

  • MsApollonia26

    Its a crazy situation getting involved with any Man that acts like that! But these woman need to realize that you have to be smart & grown enough to know that I will use birth control when sleeping with these men What about disease’s,ain’t any one worried about that! Glad its not me!

  • Stop using kids as pawns

    Unfortunately, the court systems are very much flawed. And yes, often times it’s who ever has the most money to blow that wins the case. Not to mention J & D courts are the lower level courts in which a judge is allowed to use their personal opinions to make decisions…where as the appeals courts then to be the court of record. Meaning that they are a court of law and whatever laws are on the books and in place are what they have to go by. We all know how babies are made and ultimately every time you have sex you are at risk for creating another life. Women do have more rights than men in the area of “choice” when it comes to keeping or carrying a child and ultimately, I feel that playing field should be leveled. It’s his DNA as well that’s within that woman’s womb. And let’s not get started on child support. Yes, if used correctly it’s a good thing. However, most of the time it’s instead counted as a source of household income and other than paying the “adults” bills…it’s usually not used on the child. I’m sorry but as a child and teen…I didn’t pay rent, utilities, groceries, insurance…etc. It was my parent’s responsibility…the one who chose to have me and was supposed to be able to raise me in all manners that paid the bills as it’s never a child’s responsibility to pay to be here. They didn’t ask to be born.

  • guest

    maybe just maybe he doesnt post pics of his kid because he doesnt feel the need to exploit their time together for sympathy? I dont personally believe in putting children all over social media.

  • rainbow

    wow

  • Vanessa Porter

    This was a really nice piece but I’m inclined to trust the judge in this case. I see she made several references to money but never to what she was doing with those child support checks. You know, why she didnt at least have an apartment. I know that as women and especially if you’re a mother, you’re inclined to side with another woman out of a sort of understood loyalty. But if I’m objective, Seems the baby is right Where she needs to be. He has the better parenting history, more stability, isn’t constantly seeking attention and is apparently coparenting. Yet I’ve read not only harsh remarks towards him but his wife as well. That’s pure bitterness.

  • jonny

    If you say that “he shouldn’t have had sex without a condom if he didn’t want a baby”. Then maybe she shouldn’t have had unprotected sex if she didn’t want to lose her child. If you know he doesn’t want to be with you and he can win custody battle don’t have sex with him.

  • currvalicious

    I feel for her. I don’t know what more she can do, it sounds like a done deal to me. Maybe once Eudoxie has her baby, she’ll convince Ludacris to give Cai Bella back to her biological mom. I’m sure his wife will want his undivided attention when it comes to their new baby.

  • Miss Wise

    I feel so bad for her. I bet the baby is with the nanny more than Ludacris.

  • My Opinion

    Please! The judge must have learned something for this chic not to get custody of her baby, not for something she did 20 years ago and the courts really don’t lean towards the father unless there was something against the mother.. like a well kept home, social media, drugs, employment.. something.. But I know she’s not going to tell it all.. so what, she writes an essay to mess up this dudes career.. Girl! go sit down somewhere, get your sh*t together and try to get your child back because that cute baby girl deserves only the best!!

  • mrs moonie

    Does she at least have visitation?
    If she was trying to railroad him then I can see him getting mad and going for full custody.
    Two wrongs don’t make a right. the only one that loses in the end is the child.
    I just hope he is all in emotionally and physically.If he isn’t that baby will grow up feeling something is amiss in her and her dad’s relationship.
    The mother also should NEVER! speak ill of him. it will backfire on her in the future.

  • mrs moonie

    When he asked me to abort and I didn’t I wouldn’t have asked him for nothing and never spoke of him ever until she was 18 or older and decided she wanted to know who he was.
    I don’t care if I was homeless I wouldn’t ask him for S**T!
    By the grace of god we would make it.
    My first pregnancy the father asked me the same. I said no and was ready to go it alone.
    He came around a few months later and we raised that baby together got married and had another baby.
    I refused to have anymore kids unless I was married.
    That first baby is now 22 and a college graduate and we are still raising the second a 13 year old girl.
    Had he not come around he wouldn’t have had to worry about me cause I am a survivor.
    I hope she didn’t do this purposely because some women do that.
    I hope she at least get visitation.
    I want to see what happens when his new wife decides she wants out.
    These women should get together and do a reality show.

  • jb

    Kim, thank you! Most of the comments on here is unbelievable.

  • jb

    You lost respect for a father for taking care of his kid? Yeah, that makes sense.

  • scarymary

    So how much did she settle for given that Chris has full custody now? Please don’t comment that there wasn’t any settlement. I know there was.

    How much?

  • TEAH

    I think it’s sad that women are blamed when it takes two to conceive. She did the right thing by keeping her baby and this is what she gets in return? May God bless her and I hope that she continues to fight for her daughter and find a new lawyer to lead the fight!

  • Candy London

    I feel sorry for her bc just like so many of us ‘women’, she thought that if she had a baby by him, that things would change. That type of thinking is juvenile and real women should know that if you’re going to ‘play around’ that you should protect your own body. Based on the first half of this letter, it seems that she was just a booty call; he never planned on sticking around. I remember going through things like that in high school. Women…. when a man tells you the booty is good but he doesn’t want anything else from you…believe him because if you continue the so-called relationship and end up pregnant, you may find yourself raising a child alone and becoming just another baby mama. Not saying the man is right, he should’ve used protection also, but that’s the sad reality. Sorry you lost your baby.

  • Issac Abrams

    Why would he want a baby that never wanted in the first place, will he truly love that child, or have contempt for her bc he dislikes her mother? I have lost respect for him

    • LegendInMyOwnMind

      Most men don’t really get attached to children until after they are born. Up to that point the baby is just a conceptual thing. He didn’t want a baby but when HIS baby was born, she ceased being a concept and became a person that was part of him. If you were really a man you would understand that

      • Issac Abrams

        Yea right. No excuse for begging ur gf to have an abortion. Lost all respect for him.

        • LegendInMyOwnMind

          G/F? She was a side chick…a friend with benefits.

  • ttt

    Is it true she lost her appeal

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  • Brit

    Yall are ridiculous and personally taking her side because she is a woman. Well I am a woman and let me just say that there IS two sides of a story and then the truth, because Tamika carried her child and filled her duties being a mom during her parenting does not hold much weight once the baby is born. I’m tired of women trying to force men to take care or be in a child’s life. Sex was meant to procreate-and if you have sex you run the risk of getting pregnant but that risk is low using the proper protection methods. WE(as women) can NOT force men we lay down with to take care of a child they didn’t want(regardless of its true or not), we can’t say “oh when the baby gets here that’ll change” NO cause what if it don’t? Then you’re in a similar situation, $7000 regardless of how much I make is good money to take care of a child and I’m pretty sure as the baby would’ve grown Luda woulda pulled out more money on his own to give directly to the child instead of the mother. If she had sex w| anyone aside from Luda or a person with money she would’ve gladly taken $7000. As an artist I would not be too fond of my money going into the hands of my baby’s mother UNLESS I know her intent is true, that’s where selecting parenthood becomes important. It’s much more serious than just saying “oh I want to keep the baby” no! We need less single parent households and more families! Women can be very manipulative and vindictive especially because it’s so easy for us to “play victim” because we’re women. I could be wrong but I don’t think all of her story adds up to her being a perfect fit(if there will ever be one)

  • Kim

    Tamika is parading around this comment section as someone named Sandy. She’s flagging all comments who don’t support her side of the story. Lame a** chick.

    • Alexia

      yes indeed, just realized most of the comments about how he was already paying 7k/month in child support have been deleted!! (including mine).
      If you cannot take care of a child with 7k/month, then you’re not a responsible parent (regardless of the father’s net worth/income, yes of course he could afford to pay more, but that’s not the point). Truth hurts.
      That’s what happens when one is too greedy….

  • kneelbeforetigers

    Yep– after reading this, I will NEVER support Ludacris or anyone/any project affiliated with him. Disgusting….

  • LegendInMyOwnMind

    Why did he bring up her past? Same reason you don’t give a klepto a job at a bank or a crackhead a job in a pharmacy. Your past is the best indicator of future actions.

  • Ministry101

    that hurt my heart to read!!!!!! smh

  • fromanotherplanet

    These comments. Lordt!!!

  • atll9979

    Oh cry me a river…..she continues to publicly shame the father of her child and has the nerve to talk about the lack of justice for mothers…..men have been getting kicked over by the system forever and will continue to be treated as second class citizens. Thank you judge for recognizing that men play just as big of a role as a parent than the mother. The baby is obviously in the better household. You’re in debt, you’re ethics are questionable, you’ve proven not to be a fit parent with your first born and now you’re looking like an opportunist with this interview (who your daughter will one day get to read). Chris is married (better household stability), doesn’t have financial problems and has proven he’s capable of being a good parent evident from his first born. The only reason he even took you to court is because you didn’t accept his generous offer of child support and instead dragged him to court to request an unreasonable amount. Greed.

    • LegendInMyOwnMind

      While Tamika lay asleep in her bed, dreams of expensive pocketbooks, red bottom shoes and reality television shows danced in her head.

  • Kela

    You can tell this is all so he doesn’t have to pay child support. Oh look now he finally married this chick he’s been with for years. Then she probably said now I want my own baby since you had a baby on me. So sad taking a child from the mother.

    • DenyseP

      Puh-leeze!!!!! He’s a freakin’ millionaire — several times over!!! He’s not regular Leroy, from around the way, who doesn’t have a job and is desperately dodging child support enforcement! Paying whatever child support he owed wouldn’t hurt his bank account one lick. He filed for custody to spite the mother of his child. Plain and simple.

      • Kim

        So where does the mother’s responsibility to provide for her child financially come in? When does she have to get a job and stop being a dead beat with her hand out? This lady is forty years only and only brings in $800 a month. It doesn’t matter how much money he has, she is not entitled to it. The judge has set it up so that the only person entitled to it will get it, the child.

    • LegendInMyOwnMind

      He was paying child support. She got greedy and wanted more

  • Sandy

    Preach!

  • Cleveland Cutie

    I believe her. People are so in love with the image and idea of “Ludacris”. I’ve lost a lot of respect for him. And he chose to have sex with her UNPROTECTED, but now all of a sudden she’s such a deplorable woman and unfit mother? None of that mattered before right…

  • KJ

    Yes it does take TWO to make a baby. Yes HE did not protect himself. BUT, did she? Did she even sit down and talk to him about how she wanted to have his baby, prior to getting pregnant? She would be the one who ends up pregnant and have to carry most of the responsibility, so why not have this discussion with the one you’re sleeping with unprotected? These are the type of talks you have when you’re casually sleeping with someone you “supposedly” know. We can blame men for a lot. A whole lot, but when it comes to our own bodies WE need to take responsibility.

    Now if she so called wanted him to just pay child support and move along, then she would of taken the first amount of support offered and kept quiet about it. If she didn’t even want people to know who the father was she would of sat down with Ludacris and a lawyer, came to an agreement (and 7K is more than enough a month to raise a child) and went on with her life. If she wanted a father for that child she would of had the child with a man who also wanted a child with her. She knew way before that child was born how he felt. Doesn’t
    make how he felt right BUT he didn’t mislead her at all.

    Does she deserve to have her child taken away? I don’t know, as it is still unclear on the situation with the first child and being a little money hungry in this situation is not a good look.

    I say all this to remind people that, you have control of your own life. You can blame everyone under the sun for the bumps in the road but you control your own destiny. Tamika’s life is the way it is because of HER own decisions.

    • DenyseP

      It’s not about the “7K a month being more than enough” to support the child. The law maintains that the child should be afforded the SAME lifestyle as the wealthiest parent, so support is based on his income/net worth, not how much it takes to raise the child.

      • Kim

        Well now that the child is with her father, she will definitely be afforded the SAME lifestyle. It’s time for momma to get her ish together.

        • DenyseP

          You DO know that money doesn’t equal love, right? Will Ludacris and his new wife love and care for this child the way her own mother would – or was the custody move just to spite the mom???

  • Seriously….

    This letter has so many untruths, I don’t know where to begin. First of all, Chris had to go to the lawyer to get visitation because she told him and his mother they couldn’t come see the baby because Eudoxie would be with him. Second, adequate child support doesn’t equal 15k/mo. She admitted she was in debt six figures. Why would you give that much money to someone who doesn’t know how to manage money? Third, the lawyer’s fees didn’t get denied. The lawyer’s exorbitant fees got denied. Chris paid all of Tameka’s law expenses. There is also much more behind the scenes that is going on here. The moral of the story is to not try to turn your child into a lottery ticket. Had she gone to Chris in the beginning and say, “How are we going to co-parent,” there would have been no court case. SHE DID NOT DO THAT! Instead, she went to the scumbag Kessler. Just by involving him shows it was all about the money to her. Just look at the past stories. It is all there. And Pilar Sanders? Did you not see the Deion’s Family Playbook episode where his two kids were talking crazy like they are members of a tribe and have different names after spending time with their mother? She is mentally unstable.

    • Bkabbagej

      So, this child’s well being has been reduced to how much money the mother asked for? So just fighting for No increase in support wasn’t enough, he HAD to have full custody? In all you explanation, I didn’t see one word about the baby. Maybe visitation was denied by the mother because he didn’t want the baby at first and then once he decided he wanted to have visitation, he had to bring his girlfriend along? Couldn’t visit his child with his mother and get acclimated, develop a relationship with the child and the mother, then introduce his child to his fiance. No matter the situation, would you want your child around another woman as soon as she’s born? This whole situation sounds so sad and no matter what you know, both of these individuals needed to think and grow up…poor baby!

      • LegendInMyOwnMind

        It is illegal to just deny visitation. She was dumb on so many levels

      • Kim

        Her asking for more money demonstrated to the court that she is incapable of providing a stable home for the child. If she can’t provide a stable home for the child with $7,000, then she comes off as irresponsible and not having the child’s best interest at heart. Also, the court feels that it is always in the best interest of the child for both parents to provide for the child financially. The fact that she is forty years old, didn’t raise her first child due to financial instability and now can’t afford to raise this one without an extreme amount of money, looks really bad on her part.That’s what the court looks at.

  • nick

    Right! No HE should’ve been smart, he’s the one with all the money! He looks stupid anyway, almost 40 years old, you make movies, sell albums, and you like it raw??? Negro Please! The new instant ramen wife doesn’t want him dealing with a BM, but truth is, he still does! But he wanna grow a heart when somebody says a bad Paul Walker joke….boo hoo on that then…

  • nick

    Men always get blamed when a woman gets pregnant…she’s the villain, its her fault..he is absolved of any responsibility, as if he is some innocent sheep led to ‘party’ by the woman, poor defenseless man…just like in the old days, an unwed girl got pregnant and she was humiliated in front of the whole church and shipped off while the culprit got nothing…foh! Walgreens is on every corner….but some condoms! In Atlanta you should want to buy them anyway, its a haven for HIV…and that’s a fact(CDD)….

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  • nick

    Fight, fight, fight…so she’ll know when she is older that you did…I met a young lady years ago…her father was a well known preacher in our city…she said when she was born, her mother was in college..her parents weren’t ‘together’ but amicable. He told her that he would keep their daughter until she finished school…but when she graduated, he filed custody…he accused her of abandonment, needless to say, he won. She said she was miserable without her mother…instead she had a microwave stepmother, who he conveniently married just before filing who had kids of her own…she was in tears after all those years…she said the minute she turned 18, she left everything and moved in with her mother…..I have seen a scenario like this in my own family….the dad with the highly connected and expensive lawyers wins….even when lies were exposed after he got custody….I don’t know this lady or Chris Bridges, but I know dirt….this is sad…to have a child taken away from you and some other lady with no children of her own is now ‘mom’? Or some nanny paid to feed, clean and appease your baby? 11 days a month is what a breastfed baby is reduced to? It’s a shame before God.

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  • thisisadamnshame

    I feel bad for her however, who is to say that, regardless of the father’s feelings at the first notice of the pregnancy, the father’s feelings did not change. Who is to say he cannot parent the child just as well as the mother can? I’m just playing the devil’s advocate. I’m in NJ and previously worked in Family Court; the judge decides what’s in the best interest of the child, not what’s in the best interest of the parent’s feelings about not being able to have full or sole custody of the child. Can Ludicris not provide a better life for the child? I’m just asking. Does he not have more financial resources? and can’t he offer the child just as much love as the mother offers? Who is to say that a father cannot love a child as much as the mother loves the child? I was on the opposite end, I had full custody of my son. I too got pregnant as a senior in high school. I love my son beyond all measures (he’s now almost 23 years old), and unconditionally but, I do believe that he could have been offered the same depth of love from his father that I gave to him. I do know that some times I made it hard for his father to be around him and I’m accountable for that. Just playing the devil’s advocate here. The judge does also look at if there are previous children from either parent and the parental relationship with that child. If she did not have custody or wasn’t the parent or guardian of primary residence of her first child, why would a judge grant her primary residence of the second child? Just asking?

    • Bkabbagej

      So he can be forgiven and open to change but she can’t? I don’t understand your advocacy for a baby after being with her mother for 8 months, being taken away to a father (because he has more money), that wasn’t in the child’s life on a daily or consistent manner the better parent. You know some judges are just as enamored with celebrities as the rest of the public and any judge that makes their decision based on who can offer more material things to a child is not thinking of the the child’s best interest. There are plenty of people that have very little that have children, should their children be removed? She’s such a bad person while he was dating(sleeping with her her), during her pregnancy and during the first 8 months of the child’s life. She became bad mother after she asked for more money, not a neglectful or abusive mother but a mother that was unable to care for her child. So bad of a parent until the child was in danger and HAD to place with the father. What happened to co-parenting, she was just that bad huh?

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  • Joi de Vivre

    There are some terribly malicious comments here and probably by people that think they are above being in this position. It is obvious why he did what he did but here are sheeple in their idolatrous minds believing this woman set him up. It TAKES TWO TO MAKE A BABY HE WAS PRESENT AT CONCEPTION HE DIDN’T PROTECT HIMSELF AND THEN HAS THE AUDACITY TO SAY SHE SET HIM UP. Y’ALL ARE EXTREMELY DENSE. WHAT DO YOU THINK HAPPENS WHEN YOU HAVE SEX. THE BABY DIDN’T ASK FOR THIS AND DESERVES BOTH HER PARENTS I AM TRULY SICKENED BY AMERICANS SOMETIMES HOW STUPID AND ENTITLED WE ARE HOW SINFULLY DESPONDANT TO OTHERS WE ARE…HOW QUICK TO MALICIOUSLY HURT ONE ANOTHER BE IT WITH WORDS OR THROUGH ACTIONS. I HOPE THIS ISH. BACK FIRES

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  • MC12

    You didn’t need 15K in child support. You are a gold digger. And why is it so bad if the father wins custody battle?? It’s just as bad when child is taken away from his father.

  • Vickie Soblessedtobeme Jordan

    this have really touch my heart I pray that she get her daughter back

    • LegendInMyOwnMind

      If she stil doing crap like this I hope not

  • Trini_Angel

    Now that I’m hearing her side I think I understand……I hope other women out there read this and think twice about hoking up with these men. My sister went through something similar, where there was no court order in place and the father just came and took the child. Now less than a month later, he’s calling my sister asking for money for the child! Really??

  • Negrakitty

    Gosh the amount of hatred being spouted towards this woman is unbelievable! Would you all, who hate on her, feel this way if it didn’t involve a rich BM? Think perfect example of the misogyny within the black community. Black women are the backbone and lifesource and yet many continually tear into them. The idea that I could of been raised by anyone other than my mother sickens me. No woman who is fit and able should have her child taken away. Ludafuckincris obviously has done this to be vindictive and he deserves a kick up his upside his ugly head.

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  • Nunya Biznys

    My baby is my life. I couldn’t imagine this happening to me. This woman makes some very good points. Even if she had given up a previous child to adoption, does that make it right to deny her the right to parent her own child. This is an injustice.

  • Guest

    Tamika, you tried it! People do not be fooled by this sad tale. Let me remind you all that Ludacris offered her 7k a month AND joint custody- and because of greed, she rejected that offer seeking more money ($20,000) and FULL custody of their child. By rejecting the joint custody offer, she opened herself to all this mess! Here’s the lesson, don’t bite the hand that feeds you. She did this to herself, now she’s looking for pity. She had her chance but unfortunately for her and her daughter, she blew it.

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  • Kweli

    Dang. A woman complaining about being on the short end of a child custody battle. Imagine that. Another damsel in distress.

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  • Ashanti

    Ludacris and his wife are pieces of sh!t.

    • Justsaying

      Looks like comments insulting Luda and his wife are staying up whereas comments exposing Tamika’s shady ways are getting deleted. How bias.

    • Kim

      Ashanti you must one of those “low life” baby mamas. Why are you blaming this man’s wife?

      • Ashanti

        Kim, on the contrary, you must be one of those low life, brand new, heartless, self-centered, narcissistic, no child-having chicks with no sense of compassion.

        You see, a real woman and a real mother would never take a child from his or her mother or even be comfortable with her man doing the same. How could you sleep at night, knowing that your man’s infant child has to be cuddled in the middle of the night, fed throughout the night, and taken care of throughout the day? You mean to tell me, that Ludacris’s wife would feel absolutely fine going in that room at 2 am in the morning, picking up that baby and rocking her, caressing her little head, preparing the bottles, changing the diapers? Or is Ludacris doing all of this on his own? Or with his mother or sisters? Why would you take that joy from a mother?

        If I were a wife to a man with a child–an infant for that matter–I would never allow my husband to fight for custody of a baby that young. Regardless any pending child support–he laid in the bed and had s e x without protection. Deal with it. I would not marry a man or continue a relationship with a man who would do that to a woman.

        You see, if you were a sensitive, caring, and considerate woman, you would know that bonding with a baby in your body for 9 months, giving birth to that child (without the child’s father by your side–regardless of the circumstances), and then continuing that physical, spiritual, and emotional bond with the baby through sensory contact (skin-to-skin, smell, heartbeat, body warmth) and b r e a s t feeding/nursing, etc., and then getting that bond snatched away by a scorned father who could never take the place of that birth mother, would absolutely destroy a mother.

        Ludacris and Eudoxie are heartless individuals for taking away a baby from its mother. You don’t even do that to a dog– There are state laws across the US in place against the early separation of a puppy from its mother. Why would you do this to another woman?

        • lennie

          Well Tamika was pretty cold and heartless to sleep with Eudoxie’s man. i don’t believe for one second that she thought he was single. So if Tamika can disregard Eudoxie’s pain, why not the othere way around?

          • Bkabbagej

            There is another human being involved, are you kidding me? Her man knew he was in a relationship, why did HE have unprotected sex with someone he wasn’t in a relationship with? Eudoxie is pregnant and if he has no thought to remove a baby from it’s mother, she better be prepared for the possibility he’ll do it to her, she is NOT exempt. Remember to treat people the way you want to be treated.

            • lennie

              Well, those are the risks one takes when these games are being played, it may end badly for everyone involved, but right now Eudoxie is making the most out of an unfortunate situation. I say kudos to her!

          • Ashanti

            Tamika? So if your reasoning is that Tamika did Eudoxie wrong by sleeping with her man while she was still with him, then what do you think about Ludacris sleeping with another woman while he was in a relationship? So you feel it justified that Eudoxie should disregard Tamika’s pain because she slept with a taken man. But when does Ludacris pay for his infidelity? If your belief is that they are both wrong because they knew that they were creeping behind someone’s back, and that Eudoxie ended up marrying the man who cheated on her and accepted his infant daughter into his house, knowing that it would devastate the mother, then she is even more damaged in my mind. So she marries that man who cheated on her and supports/stands by while her husband takes the baby away from the woman he cheated with. That’s some a$$ backward, low self esteem, gold digging sh!t. With all the men out here in the world, you would not only marry a man who cheated on you without a condom, but then support him as he snatches away a baby from its mother. So in the end, Ludacris wins–he gets his woman back and gets his new infant, and plus, he’s expecting a new baby. One big happy family. Karma is a b!tch. We’ll just sit back and see how all this turns out. SMMFH for Ludacris and Eudoxie supporters.

            • lennie

              hun, I was responding to your first post where you decided to drag Eudoxie’s character. I’m speaking specifically to the comments you made. If YOU want to say that she is heartless then I can say that Tamika is equally heartless. A woman who would knowingly (yes knowingly, because I do believe she knew he was still with Eudoxie) sleeps with another woman’s man is heartless and once a woman does that to another woman, don’t expect the scorned woman to care about your feelings. Yes, Ludacris is the worst out of all of them, but that is Eudoxie’s choice to do what is best for her and her child. Sorry to sound cruel, but children are born every day, no woman is going to care about a sidechick and their offspring when the sidechick has brought hurt into the main chicks life. If Eudoxie is a heartless gold-digger then she plays the game well and Tamika is mad she couldn’t play at the same level. You have sex with another’s woman man and then want everyone to put you and your child first?! Please! The world is cold, most put them and theirs first. People who say only the needs of the child matter need to be real. Everyone has wants and needs and will seldom put those wants and needs aside for someone else’s child. Eudoxie can’t be expected to put Tamika’s child first because she needs to put her and her unborn child first by ensuring she is supportive of her husband. Yes, he is the one who caused all of this, but now Eudoxie has to survive and thrive and that means accepting his child into her home, but she doesn’t have to like it and she doesn’t have to advocate for Tamika or her baby girl. Also, there are reports that Tamika didn’t want Eudoxie around the baby, so once again Eudoxie is being disrespected by a sidepiece who invaded her world. Sorry, but this is a war between two women, (both done wrong by the man calling all the shots) and Eudoxie won, so now the spoils of that war mean having the husband, the money, and the sidechick’s baby so Tamika can’t control what goes on in their home. Eudoxie has to deal with Ludacris infidelity and his offspring, she is just trying to survive this mess. Why should she have to advocate for Tamika having custody when she knows that will just give Tamika more control over what goes on in Eudoxie’s home? I don’t believe she is heartless, I think she is ensuring her well being and the well being of her unborn baby.

              • Ashanti

                So basically you advocate retaliation against children to “be wit yo man.” (*head rolling*) So then you’re a selfish, cruel piece of sh1t too. I’d hate to have you as a stepmom. Beware of this one folks… A poor excuse for a woman would rather have a rich rappin’ American cheater and his infant child so she could create a fantasy picket fence family instead of taking her a$$ back to school, finishing her degree and raising that kid alone for the time being.

                You’re on some basic sh.t. I’m on some woman sh.t. Real women place blame on the men and they punish men who demonstrate bad behavior; and they care about other women and they care about children. They don’t do tit for tat sh.t — like, “you did me wrong, I’m pissed, so I’m going to do me and forget about you and your kid.” They don’t do that. It’s petty and wrong. Two wrongs don’t make a right.

                Real women aren’t so caught up in creating a family with a broken man with no morals, they have the strength to endure the hurt and either be alone or move on, and allow their All Mighty to send them someone who is worthy of their pearls.

                But real womanhood comes with age and maturity. I see that you and Eudoxie have neither on your side right now. In time, you silly little girl. In time…

                • lennie

                  You all up in your feelings, not even trying to hear common sense. Real women don’t sleep with taken men. Real women in their 40’s got the birth control on lock. Real women don’t run to blogs after they lose court case and try for public sympathy. Real women don’t try to keep a child away from it’s grandmother. Real women don’t do petty things like tell the father to keep the child away from the wife. I’m the little girl?! You are the one living in a little fantasy world where you think a scorned, cheated on woman is going to put a sidepiece and her child above of her own needs. Tamika retaliated when she told the father not to have the baby around Eudoxie, when she refused to let the grandmother she the child, on and on I could go with her behavior. But you seem to think everyone is supposed to play fair except her? You sound like a fool. Wives don’t play to do fair when someone is evading their territory, they play to win. But you will learn, you silly little fool. In time…

        • Kim

          Baby I have five children, but I also own a business. I don’t have to ask any man for money when it comes to my kids. My children’s father has his own, and I have my own.

          • Ashanti

            You must’ve done the same or you’re just an uncaring mother. I don’t see how you could bear 5 children and not blame a woman who would would–regardless of what you did with a taken man–sit by and watch her man take an infant away from it’s mother.

            But if you have 5 children and own a business, then you don’t have time to be going back and forth with me. But it does shed light on the kind of mama you are… Didn’t nobody say nothing about asking a man for money. And then you go on to talk about your bank accounts? TMI Boo Boo. Then what kind of father of 5 kids has his own money? What kinda brotha did you choose to have your kids by? If my HUSBAND gave me 5 kids, his money definitely would not be his own. It would be ours.

            You here, with some baby daddy ish. I’m here with some husband ish.

            And opening your response with, “Baby.” Gettt-Ttttowe

            Ugh. I already know what I’m dealing with… You prolly loud, mean, and rude as h e l l.

            • Kim

              Having his own and having my own means that we are both bringing something to the table. That’s what wifey does. She makes sure that she is never out cold when it doesn’t work out. You must be simple if that has to be broken down for you. And who said something about bank accounts? If you were here on some wife ish, you wouldn’t be supporting this dead beat baby mama. I’m the one who’s loud, mean, and rude as hell, but you mad. LOL.

              By the way, it’s because i own a business that I have time to be going back and forth. Bosses don’t have to ask for time off. GTFOH with that basic bish ish!

              • Ashanti

                Mad at an unproductive, braggadocious, insecure, ghetto fake boss with 5 kids with nothing better to do than to go back and forth with a stranger? Good mothers come in all different packages. Some women work, some stay at home. Intelligent, well loved and cared for, and successful children come from both types of moms. Just because you haven’t been exposed to brilliant, graduate degree-having, articulate, well read stay-at-home mothers who would rather sacrifice fake nails, hair weaves, and skrimp dinners to stay at home and provide a wholesome, calm, nurturing environment for their children, doesn’t mean they don’t exist.

                Your idea of a good mother is a loud mouthed, kays swangin’, gum chewing, talking loud on the elevator, name brand having ghetto bird “boss” who spends her time on gossip sites trying to “read” people. But there’s another group of mothers who are humble, secure, natural, non-materialistic and spend their time at the park with their kids, at the library with their kids, on the Internet furthering their education, at the PTA fundraisers, in the classrooms volunteering, etc.–forgoing some of the pleasures of life just to make an initial impact on the early stages of their children’s lives.

                Child, get yo a$$ off the computer and take care of your 5 da mn kids. You need to direct your energy at the aforementioned.

                Focus.

                • Kim

                  Why you still mad though? LOL

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  • Apple Lee

    So she wants to start an organization for women talking about their custody battles. She should realize this is another drop kick in the stomach to her oldest daughter. Is she starting an organization for children who are emotionally damaged because they were abandoned for the first 15 years of their life?

  • Dericka

    This made me tear up. Luda is sick for wanting to put his money and his foot in the way of a mother- daughter relationship.

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  • Calvin G

    The fact that his career requires him to constantly be away from home which prevents him from being a full time father shows that the judge got it wrong. The judge basically took this little girl from her mother to being in the care and custody of neither her mother nor her father. Regardless of her history or his money, How could that decision make any sense?

    • lennie

      How do you know that he doesn’t take his child with him?

  • ai14

    if you only read her letter and her side of the story, it sounds really sad and disgusting. That’s what I thought UNTIL I read on other articles that Ludacris was already paying 7K/month and she wanted more. Now, okay, Ludacris is multi millionaire and could afford paying way more BUT if you cannot raise your child with 7K/month (regardless of how much does the father makes), then you’re not that good of a parent, especially since she doesn’t seem to try to find a better paying job.
    And that 7K/month was for child support, not to support your greedy lifestyle!
    The man didn’t want the child in the first place, so if you chose to keep the baby, then act like a real independent woman.
    Though I’m a woman, it’s hard to feel sympathy for her….

    • Rightly Guided

      So, she should lose her child because she’s greedy?

      • ohokay

        No. He greed put her in a situation where she risked losing her child, and in the end she did. Her greed opened her up to this unfortunate predicament. She chose to risk losing her child, for money.

  • DoinMe

    Truly sad, but I know exactly what she’s going through.My ex was rich, powerful, and DIRTY. He tried to get full custody to avoid paying child support and tried to sling my name through the mud. It was the biggest battle and most stressful thing I had ever been through in my life to retain custody but I came out victorious. In Tamika Fuller’s case, I think Luda paid off the judge just like Usher (she better hook up with Tameka Raymond’s lawyer). A lot of that is going on in Georgia with these celebrity fathers.

    • Apple Lee

      LOL, she did have Tameka Raymond’s lawyer!!

      • DoinMe

        Really?? Welp….

    • LegendInMyOwnMind

      Many of you are under this mistaken impression that a father tries to “get custody to avoid child support”. It’s an asinine argument. If you have primary custody then you have to support the child financially

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  • Lana

    Every time I hear a celebrity story like this I always wonder why does it seem that the woman is the only one responsible for birth control. This goes for people in general and not just celebrities but I would think for some of these celebrity men who have kids with different women they would realize before having unprotected sex with random women the possibilities and what’s at stake( I.e career, money).

  • starapple

    I can never understand how readers of this story can pick a side when there is still so much about this case that has not been made public.

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  • I am rooting for you. I am praying for you Tamika. The Lord will repay.

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  • Monkey’s Uncle

    Sigh. Who cares what he told her, he got her pregnant. And what are you talking about – she’s bitching b/c he won’t let her be a mother to her child, not because he won’t be with her or a father. Totally different scenario. Regardless once the baby is here, her needs are number 1. And she needs BOTH her mother and her father ideally. Even a misogynistic commenter like yourself can’t argue with that.

    • duh

      Tameka does not seem to be very intelligent and can see why Luda doesn’t want her raising his child. She seems to be a greedy self absorbed girl who has not done very much with her life so far but have kids out of wedlock and work for minimum wage. No wonder the judge decided Luda was the better parent.

      • Monkey’s Uncle

        And you know this how? If I was going to base opinions of others on very little info, I’d say you come off like an ignorant misogynistic troll. See how that goes?

  • Guestest

    They are both responsible because it takes two. Luda knew he didn’t want kids with her so why not strap up and if she knew that she didn’t want kids then she should have had her birth control as well… These men are fully aware of what can happen when they do not put a condom on their “member”.. They aren’t babies. Two grown ups who made a foolish decision.

  • Skandalis

    What she should of done was get him to sign his parenting rights over he should of been real to the public and said “I told her I didn’t want a child rather than aborting it, I just signed my parenting rights over & I am moving forward in my life.” that’s it. Now she still looks like a gold digger & he looks like a straight jerk for taking a baby that he didn’t even want! And eudoxie is just with him to keep her green card.

  • Skandalis

    I see a lot of black women this, black women that… I am not a black woman but geez ALL women seem to make the wrong mistake of hooking up with a guy who thinks they are in it for the long haul. WE ALL AS WOMEN OF ALL RACES need to be a bit more conscientious of who we deal with! You are lucky if all you got walking away from him was just a BABY, shoot, you could of contracted HIV or hepatitis or herpes AND a baby !

  • thestoosh

    To add….a lot of the dysfunction in the black community are black women (yes black women need to share some of the blame) are not being selective enough of who they choose to get pregnant by. Life is about choices….this woman most likely knew that Luda was with his Eudoxie publicly, so if your intentions to have a baby by him were genuine, which I don’t think they were, why get mad when he says that he doesn’t wanna be in the baby’s life? Too many black children are brought into a world of dysfunction b/c adults choose not to do things the right way…..which is marriage….yes marriage is an old concept, but this nearly 70% out-of-wedlock/no-father-in-the-home rate has not done us any good in the long run statistically. We lag behind other communities in a lot of areas and it first starts with the type of environments selfish individuals are bringing children into.

  • Skandalis

    Maybe she took him to court originally to pay child support she prolly texted him or wanted to blackmail him and when he caught wind of what she was doing, he didn’t say NOTHING to her he prolly thought “ok, you wanna take me court for support? well i’ll beat this i’ll just take the kid and show that you are just out for child support and besides you are in a 6 figure debt… blah blah blah” WIN!

  • Skandalis

    He wanted a baby, just not with her. He was in between with his new “wife” eudoxie and this woman above while him and eudoxie were seperated, so he made a baby with her. when he found out she was preg he LOST it! He was thinking… I am not completely separated from eudoxie! I don’t want to lose her completely! That’s when he told this woman to get an abortion. so it would all go away. but- it didn’t so he hired a realllly good lawyer. and when i say he wanted a baby just not with her i meant it as in he took the child from her and placed her in his home with a diff woman.

  • Skandalis

    WHY DIDN’T LUDA SIGN HIS PARENTING RIGHTS OVER & HE WOULDN’T HAVE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT?

    • LegendInMyOwnMind

      there is no such thing as signing over your parental rights

      • Skandalis

        yes there is. he can voluntarily give up his rights as a father, or he can choose to relinquish his rights. same thing.

        • LegendInMyOwnMind

          He can abandon the child but once the custody has been awarded (either to her or some 3rd party) he will be required to pay child support until the child is 18. There is no legal action a person can take that will absolve them of their parental responsibilities.

        • LegendInMyOwnMind

          Again there is no such thing as giving up your legal rights. He could have stopped trying to see the kid but he would still be legally responsible for paying for the child. If that were the case men would never get trapped paying for an unplanned child.

        • LegendInMyOwnMind

          The only time that can ever happen is if both parents give the child up for adoption. Sheeesh – the foolishness that people believe…

  • Skandalis

    She said she has a 6 figure debt by the age of 20?! Geez…what exactly were you into? You graduated by the age of 18, you had your first child around that age (b/c you said you were in high school) and you were in THIS much debt?! Yes, to me my personal opinion it looks like you were seeing dollar signs when you got knocked up, do I think you love your daughter? Yes, absolutely, everyone loves a baby.

  • Skandalis

    She said.. Unfortunately, my custody situation with my daughter’s wealthy and powerful father, and the court system that loves him is not unique. Tameka Raymond had to go through it with her famous ex-husband and father of two of her children, R&B singer Usher Raymond. Royce Reed had to go through it with her child’s father, NBA player Dwight Howard. Pilar Sanders lost custody of her three children in favor of her ex-husband, NFL legend Deion Sanders.

    There is a favoritism shown to wealthy, male celebrities.

    Then why would you hook up with one knowing they are callous like that? I guess she was under a diff impression?

    • LegendInMyOwnMind

      OR the courts saw right through these gold diggers’ charade

  • thestoosh

    There is only one problem that I can’t seem to get past when it comes to this story. You STILL had the baby even when he admitted that he didn’t want it. What does that say about you and your motives to have the child then? The only woman in my humblest opinion that would CHOOSE to be a single mother knowing that she won’t receive any help from the father (when you factor in that the father is rich and famous) is a woman who knew she would benefit from it financially. Wait, so you knew this man didn’t wanna have the baby from the beginning, but then turn around and say he’s not paying child support. How do you have the nerve to expect anything when you made such a selfish decision? You CANNOT force a man to be a father when he already told you that he didn’t want to be a father. What a selfish decision to make….you CHOSE to bring a child into this world in a dysfunctional situation. Black women we need to make better choices….not all babies are blessings when messed up individuals are using them as chess pieces. Every adult involved is extremely messy and selfish….including Luda’s current wife, who still married him and is pregnant after all he’s done and will most likely treat that little girl horribly. We’ll be seeing some dysfunctional human beings walking around in the next 20 yrs.

    • Skandalis

      ALL women need to make better choices. They should be a little boit more conscientious of who they are dealing with regarding a future with a boy (I say boy because there are no MEN)

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  • rachel

    I don’t think that 70% of men get custody, I wonder where they got that fact? My husband went to court everytime and has always been very active in his daughters life and he didnt even receive 50/50. I know of men trying desperately to see their children more than 2 weekends a month and run out of money in the legal system who favors mothers. I think the best case scenario is courts do a more equal visitation when possible, no bias towards mothers or fathers, as long as each parent is fit and loving both parents should be able to raise their children. What happened to Tameka was unfair, but if she got 5 more days a month it would be equal.

    • Her interpretation of the stat is misleading. Upwards of 50% of men who ask for custody do recieve it, but that includes men who ask for joint custody.

  • Ifuaskme2

    Women need to weigh all options before getting pregnant out of wedlock. Now by airing dirty laundry she has sealed her own fate of never getting custody. You can’t win a war when the enemy sees you coming. THINK!

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  • RClark

    I knew from the beginning that the reason he wanted full custody was so he did not have to pay child support and now learning because of his image as well. I cannot believe the courts awarded him full custody! I don’t care how good your lawyer is, isn’t it the judge’s job to see the truth through all of the lies and manipulation. I’m done with supporting Ludacris and anything he is involved in. This was cold, callous and just down right dirty.

    • nick

      You’re right…and its amazing(and not in a good way) how people are defending their opinios by calling people names….you have an opinion, I agree with it..but if I didn’t, I’m either going to keep it moving, or reply, but I’m not going to insult you..Keyboard Assassins…smh

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  • ” I want to provide support for women who are pregnant and aren’t receiving help from the father of their child. I also plan to provide resources that will educate women on how to have a safe and healthy pregnancy while under seemingly insurmountable stress. My organization will guide low-income mothers to financial assistance as well.”

    Didn’t you get $7k a month in child support? Didn’t you lose custody because you got $7k a month in child support and still didn’t have a stable home for your child? Also…yes, your daughter was left with family…after the drug dealer YOU left her with died.

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  • Tee83

    Lots of good points here… My main issue is that at the end of this, BabyGirl will suffer the most…
    And I agree with Opal… It’s about time we women make provision for ourselves in these situations. We DONT have to lay down and open our legs to any man… Once we make the choice to #1 pick and choose who we give our bodies to, WE control how these babies are brought into the world and what that child’s life would be like.
    I feel sorry that she is in the predicament of having to fight for her child; but earlier judgment could have prevented all of this. We got to be more careful ladies. I may feel a little different if they were “dating” but even then, (and I’ve learned the hard way too – so don’t think I’m ill willed or inexperienced) a talk should have occurred if they were dating that ok, if WE become preggo, what will WE do?
    Because that never happened, here we are reading this very sad story..
    God bless her aching heart and her BabyGirl.
    Kinda makes me wanna go file for full custody of my kids, but I know for a fact neither would try any BS like this…

  • WakeUp***FLAWLESS

    This is so sad poor tink,i hope they can get this all settled out and tameka dont ask luda for shxt,u said u took care of your childs needs alone and throughout your pregnancy ,you can do it now…i know that the man should help financially too but id just bite the bullet in this situation and be a finacially independent single mother

  • Cathy Chalk

    LUDA if this is true, you will have to face the MASTER behind it. Get ready because it’s coming.

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  • chalon hinton

    NO MATTER WHOM SIDE YOU ARE TAKING IN THIS STORY IT IS THE CHILD WHOM MISSES OUT THE MOST. I ‘AM A STEP MOTHER AND I WOULD ONLY PURSUE CUSTODY IF THE CHILD WAS IN PHYSICAL HARM. I THINK THEY NEED TO CO PARENT AND I PRAY TO GOD IT NOT ALL ABOUT MONEY. THE END IF PEOPLE ARE TRYING TO BE SPITEFUL IT WILL COME TO BITE BACK.

  • Theresa

    All he had to do was send her some child support and call it a day. He’s a turd for being so evil, especially when he wanted her to terminate. Karma, Luda, Karma. And sista-girl, hindsight is 20/20.

    • Kim

      He was paying her $7,000 a month in child support. All she had to do was be a responsible parent, get a job, and stop being greedy.

  • OpalCR

    Bye ma’am

  • Kim

    Child when you are in your forties, didn’t raise the first child due to financial difficulty and still only making $800 a month, you are not trying to get your life together. Go get a job, get it together and stop trying to use this child as a paycheck.

  • Guest

    Folks are quick to judge others choices and yes, sometimes mistakes. Luda should be ashamed of himself and Eudoxie must have nothing going on for her to marry him(that cheap a– wedding). She doesn’t sound like a bad mother sounds like she was doing the best she could as a young mother and now.

    • Kim

      No she was not doing the best that she could. Otherwise, she would not still be making only $800 a month and telling the court that $7,000 was not enough to raise this child. GTFOH! You mad at this man’s wife when it was this woman who laid down with him knowing that he was committed to another woman.

      • WakeUp***FLAWLESS

        He knew he was committed to another woman,thats his problem if we want to be frank about it,she didn’t owe eudoxie anything

        • yolyene

          And now Eudoxie doesn’t owe her anything.

          • WakeUp***FLAWLESS

            Thats petty,its her child she lost not a dirty dog man

        • Kim

          Who said that she owed Luda’s wife anything? You made the comment that Eudoxie must have nothing going for her because she married him. We all know that Tamika has nothing going for her, or else she wouldn’t be 40 years old making only $800 a month and asking the court to increase the $7,000 she was already getting in child support to $10,000. If you can’t take care of a child with $7,000 a month, you are lame and a poor excuse for a parent. Any parent who gets that much money a month and still cannot provide a stable home should lose custody.

    • nick

      If I’m with ‘Luda” for 5/8 years I’m having a wedding like Princess Di….oh but he’s broke…..the living room, and his momma getting my dress from JC Penney/Ross??? After all those years???? Oh Ok

  • Dawn

    This is very sad. I hope they can work things out, and come up with an agreement that is truly in the best interest of the child.

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  • mommyhasaheadache!!!

    There’s more to this story……

  • MichelleLD

    I’m really glad to hear others mentioning birth control on here. I hope that she will work with young women around that area too – and not just about being pregnant and mothering. It’s crucial that they be taught to be responsible. How about teaching abstinence?

  • Kim

    I have no sympathy at all for this woman. For so long women have been using all types of tools to gain the upper hand in court. Women file frivolous restraining orders, they call CPS, they accuse fathers of physical and sexual abuse and anything else that they think will help their case. Now they want others to sympathize when they get a taste of their own evil medicine. Nope. In all of the cases that she mention: Dione, Dwight, and Usher, the mothers were doing ugly and evil things and saying all sorts of negative things about the fathers. That’s not a good look in court. I have some experience here and the judge places the child with the parent who is most likely to support the child having a relationship with the other parent.

    Here this woman went to court making a case for how she couldn’t raise a child on $7000 a month. If that’s not irresponsible, I don’t know what is. It’s not just fathers who are financially responsible for their kids, but these deadbeat mothers are too and when $7,000 and medical insurance is not enough, you are just greedy and your priorities are misplaced.

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  • Kim

    Now she wants to co-parent amicably.

    • Valeria

      How do you know she didnt want to do that before?

      • Kim

        If you have followed the story at all, you will find that this woman was asking for sole custody as well as an increase in child support from $7,000 to $10,000. If you can’t raise your child on $7,000 a month, then you are an irresponsible parent.

  • Valeria Silva

    I see so many people on here persecuting her without knowing her. Her letter was heartfelt and deep and I feel her pain.

    • maybe

      Anybody can write an emotional letter, to get others to see from their point of view. Letter has wayy too many contradictions. Plus she know alot of people pity her because shes a mother who lost custody of her child. She just trying to take different avenues.

  • Marilynn

    She spun this whole story to put herself in a better light. She never discussed the reason for the custody battle, which was her demanding a ridiculous amount of support every month. She said herself that she was prepared to be a single mother after she told Ludacris, since when do single mothers get $7K in child support every month?? The saddest thing is that she saw this child as a paycheck, or a come up. It’s hard to feel bad for her. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that he shouldn’t be financially responsible for his child, but it doesn’t take $7K a month to support a child. She was financially unstable to raise her first child, and all these years later, she still can’t support a child? Where’s the growth? I believe that children should have both parents in their lives, and full custody should only be granted in extreme situations. She absolutely has the right to share custody of her daughter with the father, but she shouldn’t be allowed to charge him a crazy amount of money every month either. Also, she made sure to push the fact that he wanted her to have an abortion when he learned that she was pregnant. To me, that doesn’t mean that he loves her any less now that she’s actually here. When I found out I was pregnant with my youngest child I cried. And they weren’t happy tears. I truly did not want to be pregnant and abortion was a serious contemplation for a long time. But now that my son is here, I couldn’t imagine life without him. I look at him and can’t even believe that I contemplated abortion. So to me, the fact that he wanted her to have an abortion when he found out about the pregnancy has nothing to do with the custody situation now.

  • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

    i’ve lost total respect for him…to fight for sole custody of a child you never wanted just so you don’t have to pay to support her is gross…i just hope he’s really giving that baby the love & attention she needs…he has no integrity

    • Kim

      As if mothers have never considered abortion before deciding to keep the baby. GTFOH with that mess. He is supporting his child because he has his child. He just didn’t want support a greedy woman who was asking for more money when she was already receiving $7,000 a month. If $7,000 isn’t enough to raise a child, then she is irresponsible and the child should be with the more responsible parent.

      • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

        Gtfoh with ur response… it doesn’t change my opinion…girl bye

        • Apple Lee

          I don’t think he didn’t want to pay child support. Even the $10,000 a month that she wanted is just a raindrop in a bucket to him, $120,000 a year. He just found out that she had another daughter she abandoned and probably felt it was in the best interest of this baby for him to have custody.

          • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

            April that would make sense if it wasnt for the lengths he went thru to hide his income…he looked at that baby as a total financial liability when the real liability was his d*ck

        • Kim

          You GTFOH! you want to question this man’s integrity as if the mother has any. Any women worth anything at all would have gotten it together by the time they were forty. She didn’t raise the first kid because she couldn’t afford her, now she has another that she can’t afford. If anybody lacks integrity, it’s this money hungry woman.

          • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

            U aint got nothing better to do…do u?…why u really mad though…& for what? was his corny azz paying ur bills?…would it have cut into ur income?…girl go somewhere watch some fast & furious movies & listen to ur old ludacris cds…u act like u on his payroll or something are u his pr agent or what?!? Sitting here commenting on every single post in this thread defending him…u & ur favorite rapper can go sit down somewhere

            • Kim

              I would ask if she was paying your bills, but the dead beat aint got no money. Besides, you jumped first you basic b****. So why you really mad? It’s not about Luda being my favorite rapper; I don’t own one CD, but right is right and wrong is wrong. This heifer is WRONG period.

              • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

                So u really are slow then

              • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

                Stupid troll see my response above…not gonna respond twice…

            • Kim

              Well you sure are defending this lazy woman real hard too. I would ask if she’s paying your bills, but the dead beat aint got no money. Besides your basic butt jumped first, so why you mad? Just because I don’t agree with this lowlife, I must be a Luda fan. That’s some typical basic bish ish! I don’t own one CD this dude has ever put out, but right is right and wrong is wrong. This woman is DEAD WRONG.

              Another thing, since you so busy doing what I do, you aint got nothing better to do either.

              • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

                Yeah ur so mad ur not even making sense…i jumped first but ur responding to my post lol…& not once did i defend her u dumbazz with the comprehension of a 1st grader retarded rhesus monkey…i said i have no respect for him…which i don’t why do u care so much? …go cry into ur tits & no i don’t have anything better to do im on vacation at the beach so ur part of my entertainment…continue…

              • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

                Hey mn y’all are not gonna keep deleting my responses to this simple wench…like i said before i don’t have nothing better to do im on vacation & ur entertaining me…not once did u read where i said anything in defence of her my comment was about my disgust for him…why that bothers u so bad i could care less…now are u done?

                • Kim

                  But the fact that I don’t support her bothers you though. Simple wenches get mad just because someone has a difference in opinion. That’s your simple, basic bish a**. If you don’t like others disagreeing with you, why post in the first place?

                  • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

                    Dumb bish idgaf what u agree with or don’t what u support or don’t your the one that’s bothered by my opinion & keep being bothered because u are simple minded as shyt lol

                  • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

                    Don’t esteem yourself so high to think that anything you could possibly say matters to me…even your wannabe disrespect you’re clearly a fool i never once said you needed to support her…u must be lonely… has this exchange with me brightened up your dull existence? i sure hope it has…clearly you needed it lol

            • nick

              For real….favorite rapper, girlfriend(oh yes, he will have one if not already) or himself…lol

  • wisdom

    She contradicted herself “Regardless of what a judge decides, having less money than the father does not mean that a mother cannot adequately care for her child.”….So why were you being so greedy with the support amounts?

  • VVV

    I am glad she spoke out for herself because I never really knew her side of the story. All I knew from the tale was woman got pregnant for Luda and wanted child support. I do feel sorry for her and I wish her all the best.

    • She was already getting support. She lost custody because, for whatever reason, she couldn’t provide a stable home for her child on her income and $7k in child support.

  • wisdom

    Come on now, she knew darn well that dude wont fitna look at that baby pop out her coochie when he knew he cheated on Eudoxie. Although he done seen the cooch, by this point he was over it……

  • Lissa329

    Yall are missing it! I think what he is trying to say is “If my money isn’t enough for you to take care of this toddler, FINE! Let me take her off your hands then!!” Tamika’s greed is what her problem is. That’s where a lot of women go wrong: Thinking that these men have to afford you a lifestyle. They are not obligated to you! Just the child!

  • Christian Michelle Beckley

    When a man asks you to get an abortion and you decide to keep it you have decided to be a single parent. I am that single parent i don’t expect anything from my child’s father and just like i don’t expect anything he does not give anything and that’s fine with me. My daughter will make her own decision about him on her own in time. I think that she needs to fight for her child he has tons of kids and he is mad because she isn’t allowing him to get away with not taking care of their child which she shouldn’t. i absolutely commend her for taking action, he is very rich and that baby deserves her biological mother as well as her biological father. it hurts that black men have an issue with stepping up and then once they get a little bit of money they act like douche bags. I hope his wife realizes the damage that has been done once she has her own, no one understands a mothers love except a mother.

  • Dani

    U people are nuts!! Absolutely nuts!! When I look at some of these lame, judgmental, insensitive, ignorant, grotesque comments, it definitely reaffirms the scripture “if my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven, and I will forgive their sin and will heal their land.” 2 Chronicles 7:14

  • etonni

    Tacky

  • GymJunkie43

    Granted there are 3 sides to every story, this woman clearly thought throwing a baby on Ludacris would create a loving relationship with him and his pockets. 2 years ago he was going on year 5 with Eudoxiee. I don’t understand these women. They need to stop watching Tyler Perry, Lifetime and Disney movies. No pregnant sidechick gets upgraded. He just gives you however much money it takes for you to take a long walk, off a short pier.

  • Gail

    She is not being honest. I have known her and Chris (Ludacris) for decades. Meka had been messing with him on and off since his Hot 97.5 days. She knew he had a girlfriend and didn’t care. Anyone who feels sorry for her should go jump in a lake.

  • ToyaSharee

    She was probably no angel either, but I believe every word. Ludacris gives me a “creep” vibe and for some men when the having babies talks start, it’s like my girl Jazmine said, “They get brand new.”

  • DC

    I feel no sympathy for her.

  • Commenter

    After reading everyone’s comments I just have to say, I didn’t realize all of Chris’s friends that know him so well are commenting on this… Oh, wait, none of you know him personally??? How can you possible make comments on what he said/did/feels about this situation unless you know him. Plus, you are taking the word of a woman looking for a big pay day on top of it. I don’t doubt she loves her daughter but how can you possibly know that he doesn’t love her either??? The facts were presented in court and a judge decided. Maybe she should have asked for equal custody instead of being greedy. You really don’t have any clue unless you are in the situation yourself. I know first hand how much a father can love their child and have the mother try to take that away because she is jealous of it. How you can witness a mother force her little children to lie and manipulate a situation so that it goes her way. There are two sides to this story and I see all of you passing judgment based on that. It won’t matter to some of you what either side has to say. you have two people that made a kid and from what I observe it looks like both of them love her very much. Instead of focusing on bashing your child’s father, which she will eventually find out about because of the internet, you should shut up and focus on being the best mother you can be. by putting this in the news you are demonstrating that public opinion matters. I feel sorry for you that you think you need to write some “feel sorry for me” letter to the world to get strangers to side with you. I don’t know what America you live in, but the one I know favors the mother unless the mother is unfit. I don’t know where those crazy statistics came from but I think they are wrong!!! Stop writing letters to the public, stop complaining about what happened, stop trying to garner sympathy…. Start focusing on what you need to do to be in her life, start focusing on what you can do to mend your relationship with your baby’s father, start an amicable relationship with the stepmother. Your daughter is very young and one day you will have to explain to her why you wrote this letter and why you said the things you said. The same goes for the father. One day he will have to explain why you said these things about him. But the bottom line is, this is between you and your family. Stop making it a public spectacle for strangers to pass judgment on. I say these things because I know first hand what it is like to live through something like this. I witnessed a vindictive mother lie and manipulate her children so they would not like their father anymore. It backfired on her and now none of her children live with her. I truly hope you change for the better and have a strong relationship with your daughter. You also need to look in the mirror and decide on the person you want to be. Do you want your daughter to be proud of you for overcoming adversity or do you want her to eventually resent you for bashing her father to the media. Think about it carefully because the relationship you have with your daughter depends on it.

    • becky

      I guess your girl Tamika has a host of friends commenting on here as well

    • Gail

      I do know them both personally. Meka is an opportunist. She is bitter and is getting exactly what she deserves. You just like all the other folks out there are speculating. YOU ARE WRONG. DEAD WRONG! There is so much more to this story that I will not disclose for confidentiality reasons, but the courts were more than generous to her. She knew exactly what she did. Do you have access to the court transcripts? No? Then please don’t speculate. And I will end this by saying, Attn: All men- PLEASE dispose of your OWN condoms. You never know what batshit crazy loon will do with it. Be WARNED!

  • truf

    Blahhh for every sin there are consequences……. sin here was fornication.. the first consequence was the unplan pregnancy, 2nd consequences was her losng custody, trying to be greedy. Luda will has/will suffer his consequences as well. Some people just suffer harsher consequences than others. THis same situation could have happen to someone else, yet they may not ended up pregnant etc….Point is take responsibilites for your own actions…Ion feel sorry for nobody!!

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  • Princess

    OK WAIT… so when this first made headlines i believe i read an article on MN that he WAS PAYING child support then she asked for a lot more and that’s why he wanted custody.
    WHY DID SHE LEAVE THAT PART OUT HER ESSAY???? I’m sorry but if she couldn’t accept the amount he was already paying (i believe 5 or 7 G’s a month) then i agree with the people who have no sympathy for her

    • Gail

      It was $6800 a month to be exact plus healthcare and dental covered.

  • primer

    Sighs….DOnt women get tired of using that old lying of an excuse. You know when a man is with somebody else. Play dumb all you want.

  • Tonironi

    I lost a HUGE amount of respect for Luda after this…

  • Shon T

    I pray your babygirl is back in your arms. There are tons of single mothers, working a regular job, not banking in millions who are the best mothers ever, so that is some bullshit they are feeding you. Ludacris needs to stop1

    • Kim

      No the BS is when a mother is getting $7,000 a month and still can’t provide a stable home for her child. This is why she lost custody of her child. She is clearly irresponsible.

      • Guestest

        Luda is irresponsible as well for having a child he didn’t plan. So what are you talking about? BOTH of them should be held responsible.

        • Kim

          I was speaking about irresponsible in terms of her not being able to manage $7,000 a month in child support and provide a stable home for her child. Luda clearly has no issue when it comes to being able to provide, so she is the irresponsible party here.

          Any parent who is getting $7,000 a month plus benefits and still can’t provide a stable home for their kid, is irresponsible.

          • Guestest

            That’s not irresponsible that’s greedy if true.

  • I cant though

    Wait so when women ask for money to raise a baby no matter what their income is its ok. But now she lost custody and has to pay him child support its dead wrong. When a woman has consenting sex and shows a history of not “raising” and being able to provide for a child loses custody cause she used her baby as leverage,its wrong?
    I am sorry but can we discuss the type of money she asked for a month? 7K and she wanted more after his career had stalled and he was waiting to film. I can’t jump on this bandwagon of people having babies and know they are struggling, repeatedly. Ludacris is guilty of being an idiot for having unprotected sex. He and her both lied down knowing the consequences. Just how she contemplated abortion so did he. These women are not having unprotected sex with these men thinking it will end there. They see a payday. You keep using your kids as leverage for the “goodlife” I don’t feel sorry when some judge calls you on it. Women can pull at heart strings with these types of stories but at the end of the day look at her history she could not raise her first baby and gave it to family I don’t care if she was in High school. Then she has a baby again with a guy that she knew would not stay and commit, that is more of a reason for woman to use protection. Plus he happens to be what most assume wealthy. She claims she was financially strapped before and during but money had nothing to do with it? No! This needs to keep happening so women can see STOP BRINGING KIDS INTO THIS WORLD FOR A PAY CHECK and men STOP HAVING KIDS WITH WOMEN WHO YOU KNOW WILL COME FOR THE MONEY or BARELY KNOW, OTHERWISE YOU WILL HAVE TO RAISE THE BABY.

    • Gmaes

      Well Said!!! She even went to get a job to prove she wanted the baby. She was not working and expecting to just live completely off the money he was giving her… girl bye all the way that baby was a meal ticket and it showed to be obvious in court.

  • leanne

    He told you exactly what he was and you chose to ignore it. Now you are paying the price for it. I know you probably love her now that she is here, but I think you were looking for a come up when you found yourself pregnant and it backfired. He did not want to be a father. yes, it takes to to have sex and get pregnant, but you are not a child. Why were you not handling your birth control?! I just don’t believe all this happened by accident, you gambled, you lost.

    • I can’t though…

      AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So true I am not sorry for her.

  • Selita

    Love this!! Absolutely love this. It is so poignant and beautiful. I was waiting for her to share her side of the story. Ludacris has completely warped this entire custody case now I see. and the photos of her and her child are gorgeous

  • blogdiz

    Every time I read the self righteous and judgmental comments on this blog I cant help feel that some of us can only build our self esteem on the griefs and mistakes of others
    She has known this man for years the responsibility for birth control lies with both of them plus birth control can fail, She had a teen pregnancy over 20 YRS ago and gave that kid to her family to raise sad but this is not uncommon in our community. Maybe She saw this as her second chance to be Mom she couldn’t be the first time

    Halle Berry has to pay child support to her child father as the court rules that the chijd should not be disadvantaged in any way when staying with the poorer parent this is how child custody goes not who has more money (I sincerely hope those of you parroting this rubbish never find yourself in a custody dispute where the other party earns more than you)

    Luda did this to spite her and get out of paying child support plain and simple , She never took him to court to ask for more money he was upset with what the court awarded IN THE FIRST INSTANCE and his response was to file for custody to avoid paying it that is all
    I’m done with him Luda., he is low and I hope his wife is taking notes Cus any man that treats a woman so cold can do the same to you someday

    • I can’t though

      Wrong! He had to 7k and she asked for more. Then he filed for custody. It was apparent and clear that baby was leverage for her to live a good life. She was not even working anymore. She followed down the same road of 50 cent baby mama. keep asking for more

      • Sandy

        He filed for child support first, just so he beats her to the punch, but she then filed later, she didn’t ask for more money, when she filed for child support, the judge saw Luda was making it big, so he made it that luda will pay more than the 7k. Get your facts straight people.

    • guest

      Please stop with the bs “he did this to avoid paying child support” argument….now that he has custody, he can spend the money on the child as he sees fit. This woman only earned $800 a month. That isn’t even enough to take care of herself let alone a child

  • grandma

    The probate court system is very broken. Currently we are fighting to protect my eight year old granddaughter from her father – her father that assaulted her and was criminally charged – but the probate court decided to “disregard” that – and ordered unsupervision with this man anyway. Now the court has ordered that this eight year old girl “negotiate” with the man that assaulted her. Why? Because he is her father and the judge said so? We did not comply and now we were just served papers for contempt. Who can help me keep my granddaughter safe? Anyone? Apparently not – because I have called every office in Massahcusetts I can think of, and while everyone says “that is terrible, that is not right” – who will stand up the the judge? No one, so in comtempt we stay – perhaps one day I will be a yahoo news story for kidnapping – but rather – it is protecting……

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  • Knowledge

    Tell your story Miss.Fuller! Do NOT let that weezle looking lil rat and his fake med.student THOT TAKE your beautiful baby girl! Tell it to whom ever will listen!
    WE ARE ONE BLACK MOTHERS, STAND WITH MISS.FULLER!!!

    WOW!
    YA’LL IN TEARS!!!!????
    The bastard LUDA was you guys hero last month and Miss.Fuller was a gold digging thot. What a f’ed up bunch of sista’s.

    • Kim

      No Black mothers do not stand for this BS. I am a Black mother of three and I would be just fine with $7000 for all of them. This greedy thang wanted more for one child. Black mothers should not stand for this at all. Instead we should be encouraging one another to educate ourselves so that we can provide for our children and not have to depend on the men to take care of us when it doesn’t work out.

      • Sandy

        You all ain’t bashing Halle berry ex for asking for more child support, but yet you are bashing the black woman, how pathetic

        • Kim

          Who said anything about Halle Berry? You have no clue what my stance is on Halle Berry and her ex. Also, this has nothing to do with this lady being Black. It’s about lazy women who think just because they have a vagina, they should live in a mansion. Women always say that they can do what a man does, and should be treated and paid the same as men, but as soon as the baby pops out, you don’t want to get your fingernails dirty. You can miss me with this BS.

  • Ms_Sunshine9898

    Call me cruel, but I’m not here for this sob story. She knowingly had unprotected sex with a man known to be a celebrity. Any internet search of his past few weeks would have show the likelihood of his singleness thanks to his celebrity. And while I’m not impressed with his behavior during her pregnancy, I’ve seen quite a few people in unplanned pregnancies have a complete change of heart once their babies are born. Last but most importantly, being a parent means doing what’s best for your child and you can not financially be responsible for your child, then you as a mother need to make the next best decision and past that child over to the willing and able father until you are financially able to give your child the life they deserve. You failed ma’am when you attempted to hit payday not only with a sob story to accompany it, but an excessive amount of child support as well. I feel sorry for you, but your choices have led you where you are. . .

    • Mocha

      Eh..I disagree a little. If we’re being clear here, both she AND Luda had unprotected sex with each other. They are both equally responsible. When it comes to being a parent, giving your child the life they deserve is relative. To some, its making sure they have clean clothes, food, and a roof over their heads. To othes it maybe having the latest of everything new and being able to travel the world. It depends on the individual and what they consider to be the life they deserved. I think most parents would and try to give their kids both if it’s within their power. But, if a parent can’t do everything, I can’t knock them for being able to provide the basic things. Let’s be honest, most parents are not COMPLETELY ready financially anyway. You don’t know what to expect because it’s new to you. I think they both failed. Mainly Luda and this is why. Something tells me he knew it wasn’t completely over with his now wife. Of course a baby would be an issue. None of this was considered PRIOR to you going out and gettng someone pregnant. He is just as accountable as she is in the “wrong department”.

      • _a_

        I could agree with you if this woman wasn’t so knee deep in debt and had bills that were 3x her monthly income. Theres a HIGH chance that she was not going to be able to even provide the basics going forward.

        • Mocha

          Most people who are in debt before they have kids! lol! Would be knee deep too if the collectors came calling sooner. LOL. Most people born on this earth wasn’t born into families with money to burn. It’s plenty of people out here with LESS making baby after baby. I don’t agree with that. My point is she is not soley to blame. It took TWO PEOPLE to make that ONE baby. If he didn’t want to get caught up, he should have strapped up.

          • _a_

            Most people may have some form of debt, but that dosent mean that they have no way to pay it like this lady. Lets not act like there isn’t a difference. She was way in over her head only making $800 a month. Imo they’re both idiots.

  • Toni-Toni Bud

    This is sad

  • JustAGuest

    I’m sure I’m going to get some angry comments but speaking as a woman, I don’t buy this. She said ” I don’t believe in enforced parenthood or trapping anyone into raising an unwanted child.” but as soon as he told her he did not want to participate, she went for his wallet. If she truly did not believe in forced parenthood, then she would have raised her child on her on and forgot he even existed. But did she do that? NO. She wanted a certain lifestyle, one she didn’t have before she had a baby with him, but obviously one she felt she deserved after getting pregnant. And don’t tell me she didn’t know what to do do to NOT get pregnant, because obviously before she slept with Ludacris she was doing it since she hadn’t had another child since her first daughter she had in highschool. So now her birth control stopped working. Chile Please!!! He is that child’s father and if he is fit to have the child why can’t he. Where is it written that a child should only be with the mother if she is unfit? If you have two fit parents then either one should be able to raise the child.

    • game

      EXACTLY!

    • Guest

      oh shut up

  • Kim

    The mistake you made was asking for child support. You knew he did not want the baby when you told him you were pregnant, The moment you made the decision to have the baby anyway, you should have made the decision to not want his financial support. You made the choice to have the baby on your own, make the choice to support the baby on your own,,,,,I don’t feel sorry for you one bit, you made this bed….Now you want to play victim because he played the game better than you….

    • Anita

      Child support is a RIGHT for the CHILD. By law, one is LEGALLY obligated to financially support the child they willingly conceived (and it is a willing act if you lay down with someone, make no mistake about that). So, because she expects financial support for her child she deserves to lose that child? That is crazy. I don’t know if this woman is sketchy or not but where does the responsibility of the man that is having sex with all these supposed gold diggers in all of this? If he truly wants to avoid a situation and not be “trapped” into having a child and paying child support he should get snipped.

      • Kim

        I am not disputing that support is not a right…I am saying she knew what she was getting into….He did not want the baby!!!! So as a woman and a mother, I would have weighed that tiny fact in to my decision making. She knew what she was doing….She thought that baby would place her on easy street, and she got the rug pulled from under her….Now the baby will be raised with all the perks that the mother thought she would get.

        • JustAGuest

          Kim I agree with you 100%. We women want it both ways. When we get pregnant and decide we don’t want to be a mother, we will make sure to take care of it, morning after pill, abortion, adoption, abandonment, even if the man wants to take the responsibility and be a father. But we make the choice because it is “Our” body. We laid down with the man, so why can’t he be a father to the child we don’t want. But then when the man says he doesn’t want to be a father with the woman, she still lays down gets pregnant, decides to keep the baby and then force him to be a father and/or provide support. Men have no say so whatsoever in whether or not they want to be fathers. Just something fundamentally unfair about that to me.

          • Kim

            AMEN!!!!!!

        • Damn Shame

          That baby will be raised as an outsider. Ludacris wife will look at that child and see Tamika, and will forever be reminded that she was cheated on. And if that wasn’t bad enough, now she is being asked to raise it! Luda can’t possible help because he is a traveling star and besides that, he don’t want too! Ludacris made it clear he didn’t want the child while in the wound; and he made no efforts with connecting with her when she was born or thereafter. Yes, that child will have all the best clothes and food and toys, but in her fathers house she will NOT get the same love her mother gave her. She will be raised by the Nanny. Especially when Luda’s wife gives birth to “their” child. Money does not buy the important things in life, like feeling wanted or loved.

          • Kim

            Exactly…..This could have all been avoided if she was not using this as her meal ticket! And we cant predict the future….I have a step child that I love unconditionally, And I put forth more effort with my step child just so he does not feel some type of way… The mother is getting a taste of KARMA!

    • Mocha

      If he did not want the baby or another baby with anyone outside of his current wife he should not have had unprotected sex with her. Neither of them should have. Break or no break, he should have put a hat on. Or we wouldn’t even be having this conversation. Why is every one missing that vital point? lol!!!!

      • Kim

        It was both of there responsibility to have protected sex….So I fault them both for that….But as a woman the responsibility ultimately lies with us, we are the ones that have to carry and have the baby!

        • OpalCR

          I don’t understand women. We are so busy trying to compete with men we go to irreversible lenghts to make a point. Smh

          • Kim

            This is the USA were we are supposed to be as equals with men. So your point is?

            • OpalCR

              I was actually agreeing with you smarty pants!

              • Kim

                I’m sorry….I was on the defensive mode….every person seems to only see her side.

                • OpalCR

                  No i see both without emotion since i am childless myself.

                • confused

                  But why ould you be in a defensive mode on a blog about lives you dont personally know tho??

                  • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

                    Lmao good question

        • Mocha

          It ultimately lies with us, true. So why is he mad that SHE decided to keep the baby? Be mad at yourself for allowing yourself to be so weak and not thinking clearly in the begining IN CASE something like this was to occur. Luda, just as simple as she is if he thought she was going to abort that baby. He needs to be honest with himself as to the responsibility he holds in this messy situation. It’s not pretty, but it’s the adult thing to do. Own your sh*t Luda. You slipped up!

          • Kim

            I agree they both slipped up…. But after the mistake was made…She thought she would cash in on the mistake…she under estimated Luda, and you see where she is now…He daughter will have a privileged life….She the mother just wont.

    • wveronica7

      She didn’t ask for child support he did…I can’t understand why everyone is against this woman. He asked for child support, he filed the documents not her. She only asked him to help her get her car fixed. The ignorance is so disgusting in this case. Of course everyone runs to support the one with the money and the power. I guess when it comes down to humanity and justice the whole world is star struck. Are we to subject every woman to an abortion because a man who nutted doesn’t want a child!! WTF! He didn’t want her and he will not be around a lot because of his work, let her stay with her mother.

      • Kim

        Please RE-READ the article both pages, she most definitely did file for child support….and she said she was only asking for what his other children get..So re-read and then comment!

        • wveronica7

          No, I did. You should reread the case or a previous MN article. He filed for child support first! She filed after him. He originally asked the judge to not order him to pay more than a certain amount. She filed an answer requesting the support that she felt was fair and due. Especially since he rejected her request to fix her car

          • Kim

            This is the problem….He was clear with her were he stood! And for her to expect anything from him is LUDACRIS! If she would have just went about her buisness and left him out of the situation she would still have her baby….Karma is real

  • MizMi

    I WANT to feel sorry for you….I do. BUT…..

  • traboe

    How did he go from wanting her to abort the baby to wanting full custody…I dont get it. This is very sad

    • Yvette

      I don’t get it either. He didn’t even want his daughter to be born but somehow the judge thinks he is worthy of full custody? Like my parents always told me….money talks and bullsh*t walks. Too many judges in ATL are star struck.

    • Kim

      There are thousands of mothers who considered abortion or adoption but are now very good mothers. So if a woman can change her mind about not wanting her kid, why can’t he?

    • Sandy

      Exactlyyyyyyyyyy. I don’t get it either

  • gillyn

    I’m sorry…I just have to ask this person…did you use birth control????? Because I’m thinking that you didn’t…throwing caution to the wind…and hoping that one day down the road, you WOULD get pregnant and he would marry you. What is wrong with a brother NOT wanting children while he is in the throws of his career. What is the crime in that…and what about that don’t these young women understand. I think it is a SMART man who DOES NOT WANT CHILDREN while he is at the height of his career, or trying to get one off the grownd…and it is a GOLD DIGGING MAN TRAPPING female who doesn’t want to hear that, respect that, want the same thing. babies, babies, babies….can a women try to do something else besides have a baby…especially if she is NOT married to the guy. This is nothing more than a sobby story of a stupid woman who tried to TRAP a guy she’s known for a long time into a long term relationship without DISCUSSING with him whether or not either of them wanted children. When will these women ADMIT that their PLAN did not work….you cannot make a guy love you or want to be with you by getting pregnant. Thousands and thousands of stories will tell you how that little scenario will play out.

    • Candace Sibley

      He set himself up to be trapped, just like she could have used birth control, he could have used a condom! Do not put all of the blame on her!

      • gillyn

        but..isn’t it SHE that is crying the blues about it??? isn’t it SHE that now finds the need to write a novel about it??? Isn’t it she that is left…yet again…like they all are…without the man????? isn’t it she who is ALWAYS left in the bad situation???? the females. these females neet to STOP PLAYING THE VICTIM and start taking responsibility for their own actions. NO ONE HAS CONTROL OVER YOUR BODY OR YOUR LIFE BUT YOU..and trust me…nobody wants to hear your sad sobby story. You profess to being this ‘STRONG, INDEPENDENT WOMAN”, yet you continue to do such stupid, irresponsible, and life altering things to YOUR LIFE…then you cry, and complain and dog men. Its your life ladies. If you were so strong and independent…you would NOT be in the desperate and sorry situations you find yourselve in…but you would be pursuing your careers, travelling, meeting people..men like-minded like yourselves, and gaining worldly knowlege and experiences…THEN deciding to settle down and have a family. Ladies, try using this as your motto going forward: “I am a stong, independent woman who wants to chase planes to exotic places…not baby daddies for child support.

        • Did you even read it?

        • Anita

          How about the PLETHORA of these famous black men (athletes and entertainers alike) with multitudes for children and baby mamas? Are they not a pathetic statistic for going around spreading their seed like farmers and not doing the honorable thing by committing to one woman and being a single family unit? We all know that there are groupies out there waiting to get knocked up, so why don’t these men remain monogamous (most have a main chick anyway), use condoms, or get a vasectomy. Sure, they have the financial resources to care for their village of children, but does that make it right? Are they not a statistic themselves? Isn’t it confusing to have so many half-siblings that the children need a spreadsheet to keep all the names straight?

          • Kim

            The PLETHORA of Black men wouldn’t be able to have multitudes of children and baby mamas if the PLETHORA of women weren’t willing to spread their legs for them just to get a check.

      • Mocha

        EXXXXXXXXXXACTLY!!!! It’s a two way street. He is not innocent in this. I don’t feel sorry for the BM, but I am being realistic. They both created this issue and they both could have prevented it.

    • 1Val

      He didn’t use birth control.

    • CTROCK

      Did he use a condom? It takes two to tango

  • Trillary Banks

    I believe her……and I hope and pray she gets her daughter back. Nothing in this letter surprised me about Ludacris. Except the part where she mentioned his other kids. I knew he had a daughter and one on the way with Exodus, but you mean to tell me there’s more?

  • SMH

    What Ludacris did was a COWARD MOVE. Men do it all the time. At Tamika’s expense, Ludacris is hiding behind what he really did was cheat on Eudoxie. He didn’t want to become public enemy number 1 by social media, radio, tv and so forth for cheating on his girl Eudoxie. He’s trying to be the hollywood blockbuster movie star, the man who visits the white house, the platinum selling rapper who gives back to the community with his precious wife by his side. He didn’t want the world to know the truth: he cheats on Eudoxie, he is manipulative and selfish and he wasn’t even there when the baby was born. So at the expensive of Tamika–a woman with a blue collar job, a regular, everyday life that was good enough for him to lay down with, but not good enough to be the mother of his child. He defames her character, brings up her past and her financial status and uses ALL that against his millions, his fame, his fans and his pride. Instead of just telling the truth, instead of just dealing with what happened and co-parenting the right way. This little girl will grow up and will see the truth sooner than Ludacris would like to think. Kids grow up so fast. Let’s just hope him and his wife don’t brainwash and manipulate the little girl into believeing about her mother what they got the judge and all his fans to believe about her. Tamika you are not alone, I pray your daughter is returned to you. God sees all.

    • nikki

      You summed everything up in your comment. That’s it. That’s all.

    • Kim

      Child please! This gold digger is not getting her child back as long as she is writing ESSAYS for sympathy. Maybe when she decides to write a DISSERTATION to get a degree, she’ll get somewhere. How you gone be forty years old and can’t provide a stable home for your child with $7,000 a month in child support? She can miss me with this BS.

  • Edgar Allen Bro

    I’ve been saying that Luda is a BAN for at least 10 years…

  • wveronica7

    summary please

  • Love1

    I can relate to her. It’s so easy for a man to blame the woman, say the woman is crazy, twist her past mistakes (as if his hands of his past are clean) and use it all against her. Men who are narcissists and manipulative and selfish know how to and quite tactfully if I may add how to influence other people’s thoughts and views of other people in their favor. He has money, and compared to his money, her’s is quite mediocare, so money talks, fame and popularity wins folks over and so forth. I’m quite sure Ludacris was with Eudoxie when he got Tamika pregnant and he wanted her to abort the baby to make it his little well kept secret that he cheated on his precious Eudoxie. So what does he do? Insult her intellegence by giving her money and promises of riches for the abortion but has a baby on the way now that he is showing off on social media like he is this great loving husband. SMH. Lets make the mother of my daughter look like a gold digger, a crazy unfit mother so I don’t have to give her 25,000 a month for 18 years. SMH. And what kind of woman is Eudoxie to accept all of this? I pray she gets her daughter back. God sees all and no one can escape the wraths of karma…

  • gapeach0614

    **Yawn!!** I should’ve known she was gonna write some heart gripping tale of two unwed people having unprotected s*x, one being a wealthy and powerful man, fully aware that she was never going to be more than a FWB. The decision has been made. Chris made the best out of the situation by taking full custody despite not wanting the baby. Why would he want to keep a child with a woman he doesn’t want to nor plan to be with?! Might as well gain full custody, save a few coins from child support and raise the kid on his own. She’s comparing here situation to celebrities who were once MARRIED to their children’s father (except Royce and Dwight). This was just a quick f*** gone wrong. They both played a role. Chris isn’t some child snatching cold hearted man. He’s still the child’s father. Let him own up to the responsibility and do what’s right. Usher, D. Sanders and all the other single father’s out there with full custody seem to be doing just fine. Either way, they’re both too old to still be playing these raw s*x games.

    • Anita

      I don’t get your logic. Because she’s a single mother she deserves to lose custody?

      • gapeach0614

        Where did you get that from?! Look at the circumstances. This child didn’t come from love; she came from lust. Check out her history. She didn’t necessarily say WHY she left her first child and WHAT she was doing those first few years. Clearly it wasn’t the military or college or else she’d be making more than $800/month. Everything isn’t rainbows and lollipops with this woman.

        • BeeJayGee

          She didn’t “leave” her first child – she was a senor in high school and I’m assuming wanted to finish unlike a lot of pregnant teens – her family helped her – you know the whole “it takes a village?” So people saying that she “left” her child need to get their facts straight…in fact re-read the story – she spelled it all out.

          • Maggie

            So she was making babies 20 years ago that she wasn’t ready for eh’?

            • BeeJayGee

              Trust me you can be 20, 30 or 40 and not ready for a baby – you only think you are but have no idea particularly when you first get home with the little bundle. I had a kid at 21; not another til 41 – when bringing him home I asked myself” what the hell were you thinking” and was completely clueless on how to take care of a newborn although I’d had one 20 years prior. No one is perfect and I’m sure in hindsight she wishes she never slept with him…

          • henny

            no the only thing she did was tell her side of the story

          • gapeach0614

            But she was gone for a few years. That time away was obviously not used to better herself or else she’d be more stable and making more than $800/month.

            • BeeJayGee

              Not necessarily – do you know how many homeless PhD’s there are?! We’d all like to assume we know someone else’s life but we really don’t – I appreciate that she “put herself out there” by writing this piece – she didn’t have to but understood the “perception” – “she must be bad if they took her kid” – and that is probably not the whole truth at all so she put “her truth” out there.

          • LegendInMyOwnMind

            She left the baby with the drug dealer baby daddy. After he was killed the baby bounced from family member to family member and she was nowhere to be found

          • Kim

            Okay but why hasn’t she gotten it together after all of these years. She is forty, high school was a long long time ago. She needs to woman up.

            • BeeJayGee

              Still no reason to have your child taken from you when you clearly didn’t want her to begin with…

      • gillyn

        No Anita….its because she was stupid enough AND irresponsible enough…or Selfish enough…or DESPERATE enough…to get pregnant…ie: have sex without protection or without the consent of the other party with whom they were having sex. thats all it is…plain old green-eyed stupidity.

        • 1Val

          Anytime a MALE has unprotected sex with a woman his ejaculation is his consent to her pregnancy!
          And you have audacity to call women stupid.

          • Anita

            Exactly. I never get why it’s the woman being stupid and/or trying to trap the man when he is a willing participant in the act himself and knows that pregnancy is a possibility.

            • 1Val

              Its just their denial of male responsibility to be monogamous, practice safe sex and prevent unwanted pregnancies.

          • Yvette

            Speak on it 1Val. Speak on it!!

            • 1Val

              If anything his lust “trapped” him into becoming a father.

              • henney

                his lust and her appeal….

          • wveronica7

            I’m so disappointed at all of these comments dragging this woman! She is not the only player in this. If anything, he’s the one with more to lose so I would say he’s the stupid one.

            • 1Val

              At the end of the day this is a mother bereft of her child. Only a heartless person is capable of disassociating themselves from a mother’s love for her child and a baby’s love for its mother.

              • Kim

                Where is your compassion when it’s fathers who are being denied a relationship with their children? You can miss me with this. I don’t believe for a minute that this woman is not being allowed to see her child. She just doesn’t have custody and she can no longer try to use the child to control this man and get a bigger paycheck. While I don’t doubt that she loves her child, I also don’t doubt that the father loves her as well. Besides, If her child was her first priority she would have been in court fighting for custody and not an increase in child support.

                • 1Val

                  This article is about mother mourning the lost of her child custody instead of a father. I certainly will dismiss your lack of compassion for this mother who you can readily admit loves her daughter but shouldn’t be upset that she no longer has custody of her child.

                  • Sandy

                    Say it again pleae, I dont think they heard you.

                • henny

                  just like that

                • Sandy

                  You did read the part where she tries to call to speak to her child, but he puts her on voicemail, right? If Chris really wanted what was best for the child, he would have agreed for shared custody, but nook, he didn’t want yo being out a penny because maybe he is trying to punish tameka and save his marriage, what rubbish..

                  • Kim

                    Child any woman in her position will play the victim. You have no clue what goes on inside of a courtroom. All types of things come out that she will never tell you in her little essay. These judges don’t come to these decisions lightly. All I see is a bitter woman trying to get back at her baby daddy. How many essays has Luda written? None. How many times has he bad talked her to the media? None. Everything you are hearing about this case comes from this bitter woman. I take anything she writes in this little term paper with a grain of salt.

          • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

            Say that again 1Val…i don’t think they heard you

          • henny

            and vise versa, anytime a woman agrees to have unprotected sex is her consent to get pregger…I say they both stupid

          • nikki

            THANK YOU!!!!

          • Guestest

            Thank you! Wtf is wrong with some of these people?

          • anonymouse

            it’s appaling that women are cosigning this nonsense. A woman’s fertility is limited to the point that there’s only a few days a month where she can get pregnant. Men, on the other hand, can impregnate women whenever and can until they are elderly. It’s obvious to me who’s the real problem, but we are taught to mess up our bodies with hormones so that males can be excused of their role in the reproduction process.If a man does not want to have a child, he should keep his $emen to himself and not release in into a fertile woman. It’s that simple

            • nick

              He should get a vasectomy, point blank….that way he’s cleared…

        • LEF

          You do know people can get pregnant even when having protected sex, right? Condoms, birth control pills, etc. don’t always prevent pregnancy. You assume they were being irresponsible but it is quite possible they did use protection and she got pregnant anyway.

          • gillyn

            all 350,000 women who did and didn’t mean to?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????

      • henny

        no she shouldnt loose, but she shouldnt get sole either…she should get 50/50 or shared

    • guest

      She’s hurting and missing her child. Show some empathy.

      • gapeach0614

        I see right through the BS…. I CANT.

      • gillyn

        guest….wouldn’t it be nice AND fair…for all these bleeding-heart females to show the same EMPATHY to fathers who are prevented from seeing THEIR children because some stupid woman is mad with him because he is not with her…for whatever the reason. where is that fairness?????

        • 1Val

          Go find another soapbox.
          Just go whine elsewhere.

        • DC

          THANK YOU!!!!!!! I feel more empathy for denied fathers than I do for a greedy baby mother.

      • Rodarte

        She should have thought about that before. Too many women out here targeting wealthy celebrities and using them as 18 year pay checks. While its a good easy strategy it’s not a moral one, these celebrities are finally now fighting back. I wish they wuld just keep it in their pants. I’m not defending him, heck i dont even like him.

    • Edgar Allen Bro

      Exoudie, is that you? #YouNext

      • gapeach0614

        Nah because I wouldn’t allow myself to be in this situation. I just expressed a thought. Chill.

        • Guest

          Who cares what you say now.. For all we know you have had a million abortions but you are judging her. The situation is done and she can’t go back so why focus on what should have been done. Save that for your daughter not this post

          • gapeach0614

            Who’s judging? I stated an opinion. was all that necessary? I’m sure this type of shoe fits you well since you seem to be so uptight about it. Perhaps you should’ve been aborted. Good day

    • Anita

      Additionally, you think a parent should go ahead and “raise the kid on his own” to “save a few coins??” Where does raising a child out of love come into play or is it just all about the coins? Children are very perceptive and if it is, indeed, about “saving coin” the child will eventually pick up on that.

      • gapeach0614

        In court, love isn’t enough. It can’t be measured. It wasn’t a surprise when he was granted full custody. Yeah yeah I know raising a child takes more than finances but in court, it’s looking to be the main factor.

    • OpalCR

      I see no lies. Althought my heart goes out to Cai,i see no lies.

      • gapeach0614

        Why though? She’s with her other biological parent. She’s too young to understand these circumstances and I’m sure she’s nothing less than a happy healthy child.

        • OpalCR

          Because i don’t think chris loves her at all and in my experience women are horrible to outside children,especially women who are powerless in their relationship.

          • gapeach0614

            Well don’t be so quick to assume his new wife will mistreat his child. She wasn’t obligated to marry him nor stay with him after the deed was done. This is what she signed up for. I don’t think Chris would allow such a thing to happen. The child didn’t ask to be here.

            • FormerlyLL

              So you think that she will treat her the same as her newborn baby? I am sorry, but even the sweetest of the sweetest women are going to treat their own biological newborn child better than the child that reminds you that your man is a cheater. I won’t go as far as saying she will abuse the child, but her preference will always be her own baby.

              • Kim

                I think you women are basing your opinions on how you would treat a stepchild. Please don’t speak for all stepmothers, only yourselves.

                • FormerlyLL

                  Oh please with that weak argument. I would not purposely treat a child bad ever, and FYI I don’t have kids or step-kids. I am speaking about this situation in particular. His wife is pregnant with her FIRST child and this child will only be about 2 years old when she delivers. I don’t think she is going to put his child before her own. It may not be something she even thinks about, probably more subliminal, but the end of the day this a baby who was conceived with a non compliant baby mama. Are there good step-moms? Absolutely. Can she be a good one? Absolutely. But there are more stories about step-moms treating the step- kids worse than their own– hence the term “evil step-mom”. If you were a good one, then you shouldn’t be concerned with anonymous people on the internet and their opinions on step-moms.

              • henny

                well I tried my plus children like my own, so yea its possible..hell I got 4 plus we have 2 together, and we are now married

              • nick

                She stayed with a cheater, & forget that ‘break’ crap. ..so who else is a ‘gold digger’? And if she divorces him 5 years from now you can bet he won’t go for custody of that one….watch

    • gillyn

      yet another SMART woman who sees this for what it is. ITS NOT ROCKET SCIENCE PEOPLE. stupid women do stupid things…then want to blame every man for their sorry circumstance. the ball IS ALWAYS GOING TO BE IN YOUR COURT LADIES, BECAUSE ITS YOU YOU YOU WHO WILL BEAR THE BURDEN. IF YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT SPENDING THE REST OF YOUR LIVES CHASING DOWN MEN FOR CHUMP CHANGE…HEY…SCREW UP…GET PREGNANT…RUIN YOUR LIVES…BECOME INNER CITY AND CELEBRITY STATISTICS. thats all you will ever be….and the only ones who don’t see or realize that little tid bit…is YOU YOU YOU.

      • 1Val

        Your ignorance is bliss may you revel in it.

      • gapeach0614

        My thoughts exactly! She should question her taste in men. He called her up saying he was newly single because he WANTED A N*T! Come on now! She’s in her 40s. She should know how the game goes. Of course she wants people to be on her side so why else would she put out this NY Times best seller of an essay? Where was this essay during the custody battle? Was this expressed to the judge?

        • BeeJayGee

          Telling her story could have actually been cleansing for her – wow – I jut don’t get the anger at this woman – she just wanted to tell her story – I’m sure she doesn’t care what any of us think – I see both sides but I still feel more for her than I do for him – he did this out of spite – no matter what the circumstances and I don’t think she decided to not abort thinking it would be a come up for her. But some of you are angry at others as if it happened to you when they are doing what you’re doing – stating your opinion.

  • Pissed

    My heart really goes out to her. what kind of man would take a child away from their mother. I can see if she wasn’t fit to be a mom but this woman sounds like she has her head on right. she should not be punished because he cant keep it in he pants. now she has to think about some other woman raising her child. sad

    • henny

      so what, he would have to think about another man raising the kid if she had found another guy

      • Monkey’s Uncle

        No he wouldn’t because she wants him to be involved in the baby’s life. Reading is fundamental.

    • LegendInMyOwnMind

      You can see if she wasn’t fit? Does this sound like a fit mother?

      “Fuller had a daughter whom she abandoned 20 years ago. She abandoned
      that child and left her with the father, who was a known drug dealer who
      was killed in a drug deal gone bad.

      Fuller then left the baby with her family and moved out of the state.
      She later moved back to Atlanta – and failed to contact her family to
      let them know she was in Atlanta until 3 years later!

      When her family filed a petition for temporary guardianship of Ms.
      Fuller’s first child they told the court they didn’t know where the
      mother was. Fuller lived between Georgia and California for years
      without contacting her family or her first daughter.

      Amazingly, Fuller’s attorneys called her eldest daughter to the
      witness stand on Tuesday to testify for her mother. But the young lady
      broke down on the stand when she described how jealous she was of the
      bond between Fuller and Cai — a bond that the eldest daughter was
      deprived of because Fuller abandoned her as an infant 20 years ago.”

      • jb

        Most of the women on here don’t care about facts.

        • LegendInMyOwnMind

          It’s all about feeeeeelings, nothing more than feeeeeeeelings

      • Vanessa Porter

        This is exactly why I’m not buying the bull. I read that when it first published and knew exactly why he was given custody

  • Chelsea Harmon

    I’m so proud of her for sharing her truth and allowing other women a chance to see the inside of the twisted legal system.

    • Kim

      It’s only twisted now because mothers are losing. KMSL.

      • Monkey’s Uncle

        True – the legal system has never been unjust until now (sarcasm font)

  • 1Val

    Bless her heart! A heartbreaking tale.

  • leilani dupree

    Who ever the judge was that gave ludichris custody was low down for that, anyone who has ever heard his music know all he talk about is sex,drugs,an partying ,how in the world could anyone see him fit to raise even a goldfish let alone a young child.Don’t think for a minute that his wife will love that poor child like her own,if anything his wife will probably resent the little girl because she is not her’s,an try to put her own baby on a pedal stool.

    • Author Destiny Carter

      So because his performing persona and the music he makes is something you don’t agree with he should not have his child? GTFO with that. You don’t know his wife or how she will love that child soooo……..

  • hi-liter

    I have no respect for Ludacris, and my respect level has gone up for men like Dwayne Carter and Shawn Combs. Say what you want, but I have never heard any of lil Wayne’s or Puff’s baby mamas say, “he don’t want my baby, or he doesn’t take care of my baby.” Luda is a selfish prick who tried to trick his “friend” into aborting her baby knowing dayum well that he wasn’t going to give or do anything for that woman if she had an abortion or not. He only took that baby because she gave birth. Eggsodee should have told Ludacris to let that woman keep her baby, AND pay child support and HELP her take care of HIS baby. He knew she didn’t have a pot to piss in when he was faulking her.

    • gillyn

      hi-liter…you never heard because you never heard…you never heard because you don’t know, you never heard because you don’t know EVERY ONE any of those guys ever dated…so, until you do….you my dear, will never hear or know anything about it.

      • hi-liter

        When I say I never heard, I mean I never read about it. I don’t pretend to act like I know any of these people, nor I’m I a fanatic. So whatever point you are trying to make, I don’t get it.

    • gapeach0614

      Why just send a check when he can play an active role in his child’s life? What does Tamika need a check for? Why take care of the mother too? He didn’t bring her into this world. His only concern his his child. Eudoxie did right. Take the child and the check. Don’t just give away money. Child support doesn’t make you a father.

      • hi-liter

        He could afford to do both, pay child support AND be a good father. Eggsodee is less than a woman to help her man take another woman’s child away from her. Since he took that one, he should get custody ALL of his children, that way he isn’t paying ANY of the mothers child support. This isn’t his first time at the rodeo.

        • gapeach0614

          How is she less of a woman? She didn’t play a role in this. All she can do is accept his children as her own and support him in whatever decision he makes. So a check defines him being a good father? If he’s taking care of the child out of pocket, then why is a check still needed? OH!!! you think Tamika is entitled to some money because she birthed a child?! When he tried to settle for child support she said it wasn’t enough. Why send more when you can take matters into your own hands and do it yourself?

        • OpalCR

          She is less of a woman for being witha cheating hass,i don’t see how she helped take anything,after all ludacris seems to only go for idiots he can control.

          • Kim

            Well if she is less of a woman then so is Tamika who laid down with a man who clearly wasn’t hers and got pregnant purposely. Grown women don’t get pregnant on accident.

            • OpalCR

              Agreed.

            • Monkey’s Uncle

              But men accidentally get them pregnant?? Get out of here! haha

              • Kim

                Monkey’s Uncle I am woman who spent years in a relationship with a man and I didn’t use birth control and we NEVER used protection. Not once did I get pregnant because even in my twenties I knew my cycle and was very careful about having sex during my window of ovulation. Most young women know how to count their cycle and surely a 40 year old woman knows how to. My husband and I to this day don’t use any type of birth control but we have never gotten pregnant accidentally. Accidental pregnancies is for high schoolers.

                Secondly, since she is the one who will have to carry this child in her womb she is the one with the most power when it comes to making sure that she does not get pregnant.

                Lastly, a woman who still finds it hard to provide a stable home for her child with $7,000 in child support + benefits, should lose her custody.

                • JJ

                  You are an idiot. Accidental pregnancies are for high schoolers? Really, I am a 28 year old wife, I know my cycle very well but if you play with rain you will get wet (meaning you can’t mess with nature) When it is time, it is time. Most children born are accidents and as a woman you need to have a heart. Once you know that you are carrying a child in your womb, the only thing that matters is to love that being and ensure he/she is brought into the world safely. She made a choice to keep and raise a child. A child she loved with all her heart and she made all the sacrifices she could to ensure that the child had a home and lots of love. It is disappointing to hear a mother like you talk down another woman for something she did wrong yet tried to make amends for it. You do not know how hard it is to be a single mother so just shut up and in stead of being negative, rally behind the woman. Even married men leave their wives and abandon kids!

                  • nick

                    Exactly. If you don’t plan the date of conception, it is…..its no abracadabra…..I know married men who didn’t want children…that doesn’t make them better than this fool because, as you said play in the rain….

                  • Kim

                    So because I am a woman, I should approve of what this greedy woman is doing? Girl bye. You sound like a man hating single mother. My husband and I have five and not one was an accident.

                • Sandy

                  please who approved this comment.

            • Sandy

              Lol! What? If you have unprotected sex, yes! U will surely get pregnant, grown woman or not.. I mean he was fine going in raw, do u blame her not to go along with it? Come on and he did say that year he was single..

        • Taneesha Culture Clash Thomas

          Eggsodee! lmao!

          • hi-liter
        • guest

          Eggsodee…lmao! funny

      • Jay

        He actually filed for child support NOT her.. People seem to forget that little tidbit. I guess he was trying to beat her to the punch. That was when he was trying to say he was broke and could only afford a couple of hundret a month.

      • Monkey’s Uncle

        No it doesn’t, taking a baby away from her mom does! Right??

        What about that little issue of whats best for the baby???? Eff the baby right? Who needs a mom! Esp one that wants you!

  • Guest

    My heart goes out to her. I couldn’t imagine that feeling. Keep fighting your fight and put it in God’s hands.
    Ludacris has lost a fan

  • CTB3

    This is the most heartbreaking thing I’ve read this morning. And I believe her. Ludacris did this to get out of paying child support for another child and at this woman’s expense. It’s sad. Alot of wealthy men do the same thing. Chris Bosh is trying to do the exact same thing with his daughter’s mom–a woman who was there for him before he was even famous. My heart bleeds for this woman and I pray she gets her saughter back. The funny thing is, is that Ludacris is telling her it would ruin his career and image yet he has a daughter already AND another on the way. Really? What he really meant was it would ruin his relationship with the woman who is now his wife because he was creeping. So for him to run her name thru the mud and destroy her character only to get out of the child support is cruel and heartless. SMH. And she’s right, men who are popular, charasmatic, famous and wealthy do get the favor shown towards them. He should be ashamed of himself as well as his wife. I just find it utterly shameful and ridiculous. I pray for her strength to fight to get her daughter back.

    • Yvette

      Chris Bosh isn’t trying to do the same thing to his daughter’s mother. Please google him before making accusations.

      • MAA

        @yvette….girl bye….sit down and stfu……

    • Kim

      Oh please. It’s okay for the woman to lay down and have the baby just to get child support but it’s not okay for the man to want to raise the child to avoid it? They both were about the money. If she wasn’t greedy then she would have been able to do just fine with the money she was already getting. Instead she went to court trying to get more money and forgot all about the custody. Her daughter was not her priority, the money was.

      • Monkey’s Uncle

        It doesn’t matter – the baby needs her mom, greedy or not. Her dad is greedy too but I’d argue for his right to raise his child too. Being a good person is not a requirement to be a parent or I’d guess most of us wouldn’t be around.

        • Kim

          Monkey’s Uncle you must be Tamika. Nobody said that this child does not need her mother. Sole custody does not mean that the other parent has no contact at all. It simply means that one parent has the right to make all legal decisions regarding the child. Besides, where were you when she was asking for sole custody? Maybe if she saw the value of having him in this child’s life, she wouldn’t be in this predicament. I have ZERO sympathy for her.

    • duh

      We only heard her side of the story but the judge heard both sides. What made this woman think that she deserved 10k a month to raise one child. If she would have accepted the 7k he offered she would still have her child. Greedy greedy greedy

    • LegendInMyOwnMind

      Everyone seems to forget that she abandoned her first child and left her with a drug dealer, then with various family members while she lived her life. She then demanded $15k a month or $180,000 year tax free from Luda. So you reap so you too shall sow

    • jb

      Don’t feel sorry for her. All she saw was dollar signs. And why is it when a dad wants custody, its only to avoid child support? Do moms only want custody to get child support?

  • OpalCR

    If this isn’t a cautionary tale,i don’t know what is.

    Ladies!!!!!! Unless a man has professed and proved his worth to you,please let the friendship just be that. Why are you all doing this to yourselves? All they want to do is use and abuse you beyond your wildest dreams,why can’t you just enforce sone standards???? F***ck!
    I feel so sorry for CAI.

    No wedding no womb!!!!

    • gapeach0614

      All Chris wanted was a n*t and nothing more. She knew she was just gonna be a piece of a**. Why not strap up?! Why bring a child into a f***ed up situation and get mad at the end results?!

      • OpalCR

        True

      • Rodarte

        10K a month probably sounded like a good bet.

      • nikki

        The same thing can be said for him. He knew that by not “strapping up” or by getting a n*t that there was a possibility that she may become pregnant. How can you then get mad because she chooses not to abort her unborn child? Then you punish the child by not letting her bond with the only mother she has known.

        • Monkey’s Uncle

          The misogyny gets in the way of this obvious common sense reasoning.

    • gillyn

      How many times can I say thank you OpalCR for your comment. This is ridiculous. Its become the norm for these stupid women to get prenant first and ask questions later. pluuuueeeeeeze!

      • Aj

        especially if they are rich!

    • Honeybee12

      “,why can’t you just enforce your own standards???? F***ck!”

      yes mam, so agreed at the entire post! it does get annoying to read and see in real life when people act like they can’t get it together

    • Ghettogirlpj

      LOL!!!! WORD

  • Bella

    Omg I am in tears!!!! I went through something very similar, however it only lasted a couple of months. And those couple of months were unbearable without my child. I couldn’t eat, sleep, or think clearly because of the pain of missing my little baby girl. Thank God I was able to prove his malicious intentions and the judge overruled the custody agreement. However I wasn’t up against a famous person with $$. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. And for people who can’t look past Ludacris the artist, the fame and money, they need to keep their mouths shut!!! Because until you carry a baby for 9+ months and give birth and care for that baby that you are completely in love with to have it snatched away by someone who didn’t even want it, you will NEVER understand!! Kudos to Tameka for fighting for her baby, and her desire to help others in similar situations. I pray that she gets her day in court, and gets her baby back where she belongs!!!

    • gillyn

      save your tears for yourself….but if you were in a similar situation because you got pregnant by a man with whom the two of you never DISCUSSED having children, getting married, wanting a family….then join the thousands of women who would up in the same situation and take ownership for YOUR OWN BAD CHOICES.

      • Mira

        Just because poor choices were made with the type of men that these women slept with does NOT mean they r unfit mothers. So after u take ownership for bad decisons, does that mean u still shouldnt have ur children?

        • gapeach0614

          She’s owning up to it now; she doesn’t have her child. Never know what life (or the judge) will throw at you. It could’ve been prevented if they would’ve strapped up.

        • Guest

          This woman needs a life coach. Unstable life for first child fast forward 20 years later and still unstable. But she wants to blame Luda for not giving her 10k a month? You and only you are responsible for your actions and how you’ve lived your life which resulted in you losing custody.

          A lot of Black Women say they have the right to tell men no and refuse sex but the same women will turn around and blame a man for her pregnancy. Women chose who to date, fvck and have a baby for. Men chose who to marry. This woman was already a 40 year old baby mama and also lost custody if that child. Chose better or except the results.

          • Nick

            Euxdoixe is that you girl…you sure are coming out the gate strong with your opinions…..I dont believe a mother should not have primary custody of her children especially a little girl. His new wife will understand the damage that has been done once she gives birth to her own and I pray that it is a girl.

            • Kim

              So you believe that gender should be the deciding factor? This is why the courts are starting to see through this bull. Most women feel entitled just because they have a vagina. Well with all of these mothers in the news lately who are killing their children, clearly being a woman doesn’t make you the better parent.

              • Monkey’s Uncle

                No, having more money does.

            • Chitown

              Reminds me of siovaughn funches-wade; she’s still fighting for her kids! The media & her wealthy ex husband along w/ his new celebrity wife drag her through the mud for devoting her life to regaining he children.
              The system can be f**ked up sometimes. Let this be a lesson to all the young ladies who want a celebrity BD. If he don’t want kids & u keep it, be prepared to provide for your kids w/o his $ support.

              • JENNYJONES1

                SORRY BUT SIOVAUGH NOT DOING ISH THE JUDGE TOLD HER TO DO AND ACTING A NUT HAD EVERYTHING TO DO WITH HER LOSING HER KIDS. SADLY SHE LET GABBY TAKING HER SORRY HUSBAND CLOUD HER JUDGEMENT WHEN IT CAME TO THEIR CUSTODY BATTLE. EVEN AFTER SHE LOSE CUSTODY SHE STILL WOULDN’T DO JACK THE JUDGE SAID. THE JUDGE WAS TRYING TO TEACH HER A LESSON BY TAKING HER KIDS. SORRY BUT I DON’T PUT HER IN THE SAME CATEGORY OF A LOT OF THESE OTHER MOTHERS THAT HAVE LOSE CUSTODY TO RICH POWERFUL MEN………….JENNY JONES!!!

            • namedmesunshine

              Tamika had no problem abandoning her first child so why is she fighting for this one? That is why she lost the case. Some of you need to read

          • Skandalis

            I completely agree about the life coach thing, but you lost me at the black women part. ALL RACES of women Not just black, not just white, not just hispanics, indians, middle easterns. This happens to women in general.

          • QuestionsBeforeActions

            10K a month in child support for someone like Ludacris is nothing. I thought it was a lot at first too. Looked some stuff up and it turns out in Georgia, the average parent with a six figure salary (100k) pays more than 17,000 a month. IDK how much Ludacris makes per year, but he should be getting some serious royalty checks and he’s sitting on a cool $25 mil, so chick wasn’t being greedy. He is completely cold and Eudoxie is evil if she swayed him that way. I pray for that child at the hands of a vindictive stepmother and family that may not truly love her.

            • Kim

              Are you an idiot are something? How does someone making $100,000 a year pay $17,000 a month in child support? Secondly, it doesn’t matter how much he makes, that money is for the child, not her and if she couldn’t raise that child on $7,000 a month, then she doesn’t have her priorities in order. He is not obligated to take care of this woman, just the child. Now he is making sure of that. If she wasn’t about the money she would have asked for joint custody and went on her merry little way with that $7,000. Her baby is not a paycheck and she should go get a JOB.

              • QuestionsBeforeActions

                baby girl relax. ain’t nobody said Ludacris had to take care of this woman. it is in the child’s best interest to ask for the most child support your lawyer thinks you can get. just google average child support rate and do a little research.

                • Kim

                  No sistah, it is in the child’s best interest for BOTH parents to contribute financially. I don’t have to do research, I’ve lived it and you can ask any family court judge that one.

                  • QuestionsBeforeActions

                    Obviously. And obviously that’s what she was doing. It would be stupid to expect them to pay the same rate when there’s such a vast difference in income.

                  • Sha

                    I stay home with my son. Yes, I was working before the baby but I married a man who could afford for me to stay home. It’s in the child’s best interest to have a parent stay home with them AT LEAST until at least school age. My mom stayed home with me until I started kindergarden…said no one was watching her baby alone until that child could talk. Michelle Obama’s mom stayed home. All these kids out here doing crazy things, girls and boys seeking the wrong kind of attention because that parental bond is weak. Let that judge speak for what is optimal in a broken family in a sub-optimal situation.

                    • Kim

                      You said the magic word, “married”. This woman was not married to this man, so she is not afforded the same comforts as a wife. She needs to get a job.

              • Apple Lee

                LMAO!!! Yeah, $17,000 a month in child support would be $204,000 year.

                • LegendInMyOwnMind

                  tax free

            • nick

              But FF7 just made over 300 mill…..you think he’s not getting any? Album coming out? Oh okay…she’s an ‘accident’ and that’s how she will be looked at, TRUST ME, I KNOW

              • LegendInMyOwnMind

                I ain’t see Tamika Fuller rapping on any album or driving some fast far on the screen. What does his money have to do with her?

            • LegendInMyOwnMind

              diapers don’t cost that much. She gambled and swung for the fence. And she lost

              • nick

                They don’t? You must don’t change diapers much…no rawhides around here….

                • LegendInMyOwnMind

                  they certainly don’t cost $15k a month

                • LegendInMyOwnMind

                  I have yet to see diapers, formula and babyfood that cost $15k a month

          • Red Alize Liddell

            ummmm a woman can’t get pregnant without a man unless she goes to fertility clinic. So how about men start been more selective about who they nut in.

            • Ministry101

              Again, THANK YOU!

        • DontJudgeWhatYouHaveNotWalked

          As long as you’re having sex you run the risk of getting pregnant. Period. It is unsaid when you and the other person consent to having unprotected intercourse. Abortion is NOT birth control.

          • Ministry101

            THANK YOU!!!

        • duh

          The judge made a decision based on what is good for the child not what is good for the parents. Looking at both parents history I have to agree with the judge.

          • Monkey’s Uncle

            Shocker

            • nick

              lol

          • bettie

            I agree. Tamika won 7000 per month AND custody in April of 2014 but she became greedy. 7,000 is more than enough for one child regardless of the man’s lifestyle.

            Tamika lost me when she said she cut back hours “AFTER MATERNITY LEAVE” to have more time for the first year ……… Must be nice.

            You can’t do that as head of the household w/ primary custody TAMIKA! It is not his responsibility to pay ALL of your bills.

            7,000 per month is more than enough to live on in Georgia but you got greedy. Get a full-time job like every other single mother out here.

            • Red Alize Liddell

              Have you ever thought why she was taking that long of a leave? It might be, because she wasn’t primary person raising her first child. So she might have wanted to do it differently.

            • Vanessa Porter

              Damn right. It’s child support, not adult support

        • nick

          Exactly. How many people EXIST because someone made a bad decision? Our own President had a 17 year old mom who made a bad decision but had a decent son, even before he was President, and there are millions of others, like half the celebrities folks are in love with…check the backgrounds of their single moms who had men who were married, older, more money than her, all of the above….they raised children that ‘we’ made millionaires…..

      • They never discussed it but everyone knows what could happen when you have sex unprotected. They both consented to having the baby by not protecting themselves.

        • OpalCR

          Please stop believing that.

          • While I agree with your previous comment 100% {no child, no womb}, it doesn’t take rocket science to know that when a man ejaculates into a woman, there’s a chance she could become pregnant. They both acted carelessly and they both should take responsibility. Joint custody.

          • Monkey’s Uncle

            That unprotected sex leads to a baby?

            • OpalCR

              That unprotected se.x means a guy is consenting to anything other than a n*t

          • Cece D

            opalCR you sound like a fool. that’s exactly what a man is consenting to whether he likes it or not everytime he has sex without a condom. He has the ultimate opportunity to CHOOSE when he chooses not to use a condom he’s chosen to have a child. If a pregnancy occurs, thats when the woman’s right to choose kicks in.

            • Monkey’s Uncle

              Why is this such a hard concept to grasp??

            • OpalCR

              You sounds like a fool as well,and i am not reading your brain farts.

        • GymJunkie43

          But why would you want to bring a child in the world, knowing upfront that neither of you want the child?

          • Maybe the idea of her being a single mother was easier for her to accept than aborting her own.

            • rachel

              Or maybe she thougth she would get child support. I wonder if she would be okay with shared parenting 50/50 and no child support?

              • empress123

                Did you not read the part where he would pay her off to have an abortion?

              • Apple Lee

                That’s the part she left out of her sob story, she did get joint legal custody. Luda got primary physical custody. Of course she wouldn’t be okay with no child support because that’s her whole point, she wants the money!!!

              • Ministry101

                The cattle are out the barn. What she or he thought matter not. She should not be blamed for a task it takes to to perform. He knew there was a possibility of a baby. They both knew. Abortion isnt birth control

            • Ministry101

              Everyone doesnt see abortion as an alternative. Some people know they would not be able to live with themselves making that choice.

          • mommyhasaheadache!!!

            She followed with her heart, not her head. She was waaayyyy more into him than he was into her (many make that mistake) or was it possible that she felt having his baby was going to set her up financially?

          • Ghettogirlpj

            Love you!!!!! thank you!!!!

          • Monkey’s Uncle

            Obviously she wanted the child, she had it.

            • Guestest

              Maybe she just doesn’t believe in abortion.

              • Monkey’s Uncle

                Then there is adoption.

                • Guestest

                  Maybe she doesn’t believe in letting someone else raise her child so she had to take care of it herself, we are all 100 percent sure her pregnancy was not planned so…………. when life throws you lemons… in this case, A baby

                  • Monkey’s Uncle

                    I think we are on the same side here – I think its completely her decision regardless of whether the baby was planned or not. I’m arguing with the commenter who said that she shouldn’t have had her if she didn’t want her. Obviously she did!

        • Karia Malania Dezes

          A very truthful and mature way to put it. Absolutely. They’re both adults so they knew the risks. Even with birthcontrol there’s a chance of pregnancy

      • Aj

        thank you, and her greed got her where she is now. Bet she wishes she would have taken that $7,000.00 per month, no she wanted him to finance all of her kids. the baby is where she should be, with her father!!!!

      • Bella

        Get off your high horse!! Like you’ve never made a poor decision in
        your life..Once a poor decision is made you have to roll with punches and make due. So let’s get past the fact that THEY BOTH chose to have
        unprotected sex if that’s even the case. Seems like all the blame is on
        her. This was a two-party event! And she’s taking ownership!! Like she
        said they were friends, and he told her he was single, so I’m quite sure
        she never expected any of this from him , especially because he was
        very vocal about NOT WANTING the baby!! But there’s a bigger picture
        here. The fact that money, fame and power supersedes all! She was
        clearly bonded with her baby, and loved and cared for her. So if it was
        mainly due to financials, the judge could’ve easily ordered her to find
        another/additional source of employment for extra income,left her in her
        custody. A baby belongs with their mother!! Unless they are MENTALLY
        UNFIT!! Being non-wealthy mother doesn’t make you a BAD mother!! I’m
        living proof and my children are doing very well!! Making me prouder by
        the day.

        • nikki

          Exactly!!! I don’t understand how anyone could argue with the fact that unless a child is in danger or being abused in any kind of way. That they should be taken away from their mother. Todd Bridges AKA Ludacris is DEAD WRONG! And I’ve lost all respect for him.

          • Tia Marshall Conroy

            Todd Bridges came from Different Strokes. I believe its Christopher Bridges , I believe.

        • duh

          A baby belongs with their mother ? Evidently the law does not see it that way and neither did Tamika as she abandon her first child. Evidently the father didn’t have deep enough pockets .

          • Monkey’s Uncle

            Well we all know the law never gets it wrong! Case closed! Thank you!

            • nick

              *dropsmic*
              lol @ ‘the law” smh

      • Ghettogirlpj

        Bravo and a wonderful response. You took the word from my mind/mouth and fingertips.

        • Support 4 My Black sistas

          U n that gillyn character r extremely judgemental! Excuse the hell out of her 4 being human and making mistakes past & present. Despite the fact that she had a child out of wedlock by a wealthy man that doesn’t give 2 fcks about her & she makes only $800.00 a month, she still made a conscious decision 2 bare that child n raise her and by doing that is taking responsibility 4 her actions. Many single mothers raise children with way lower incomes than that & their children grow up 2 b successful, established, functional, adults. How financially established a person is shouldn’t out measure the love n emotional support a mother innately has within her 2 give to that child. Just because u 2 aren’t n the public eye n ur business isn’t spread all over the blogs what gives u the right 2 force ur judgements & harsh criticism on anybody else n I’m sure ur both far from perfect. Stop throwing stones n playing God cause u have no heaven or hell 2 put her in!

          • henny

            then she need to better he own financial situation without cs invoved. ijs she didnt want the 7k cause she wanted 10k what sense that make? so we just supposed to feel sorry for her cause now she only get that lil 800.00? nope wont stop and cant stop….

          • duh

            This was never about Tamika even though she is trying to make it about her. It was and is about what is best for the child.

            • Monkey’s Uncle

              Yes, what is best is usually no contact with the mother that wants you.

      • Monkey’s Uncle

        Discussed? They clearly had unprotected sex and unless Ludacris somehow missed that memo, he knew that a baby was a potential result. Unless she told him she’d abort if she got pregnant, he knew EXACTLY what risk he was taking, discussion or not. She is owning her decision, she wants to raise the child SHE decided to have. What is the problem?

      • Berry

        Ignorant comment. There are plenty of women out there myself included who were in a married committed relationship who had children and the SOB wanted to use the children as bait to be spiteful.Don’t be so quick to be judgemental, one day you can find yourself making A BAD CHOICE.

      • Ministry101

        They both made bad choices. To say she is worse then him is ridiculous, because they both made the baby. Unless he missed sex ed or is just plain retarded, he knew that sleeping with this woman COULD POSSIBLY end in a pregnancy. Then he wants to turn around and play the victim after they have and oops. No, it doesn’t work that way. Unfortunately for her he couldn’t be a man about it and wanted her to kill the baby. Then when he saw she didn’t want to go along with that he dips altogether. Only to surface when she needs more money to support the kid because the child was an infant and she wanted to care for the child better. The whole thing is childish on his part. He could have co-parented with her, but his need to make her pay for messing up his reputation ect. caused him to go for full custody and shut her out of the infant’s life. The baby was breastfeeding for goodness sakes!!!! Grow up

    • duh

      We only heard her side of the story but the judge heard both sides. Those who do not remember the past are condemn to repeat it. This girl has a habit of having kids by men that are not committed to having a relationship with her other then a sexual one. Hopefully the next time she decides to have a kid she will be married and in a committed relationship first.

      • Cece D

        what does that have to do with her losing her child? people can be married and the man still run out on the wife and kids surely we have all heard that sad tale. the point of this article is that she wants her child, is fit, but that her wealthy “baby daddy” has the money and power to take her child out of spite. whatever bad decisions they BOTH made is secondary to the issue at hand. she never said she still wanted a relationship with luda, in fact, sounds like its just the opposite. you responded to your own prejudices about this situation instead of the article.

      • Monkey’s Uncle

        Hahahahaha because there is no such thing as a deadbeat dad who was MARRIED to the mom right? hahahhahaha

    • namedmesunshine

      she lost this case because she abandoned her first child. That poor child testified against her in court and even broke down in tears..Save your tears for the right moment. This one here is a liar.

  • Selena McQueen

    I truly feel so bad for her I couldn’t imagine this happening to me. And this was a very well put letter.

    • tttt

      What sad is if you look at his in page he’s never with the child

      • gapeach0614

        People say the same about Amber Rose. Pictures are worth a thousand words but don’t tell the story. A picture doesn’t mean s***

        • OpalCR

          Also true.

      • OpalCR

        True.

      • Selena McQueen

        Exactly never

      • henny

        well some folks want privacy when it come to they kids

        • themeowster

          i’d believe that if he didn’t post pictures of his other daughter anytime he’s with her.

      • mrzjones

        Maybe in his position he doesn’t want his child’s face all over the internet. So she can have a normal life without cameras in her face. Just because he doesn’t post pics does mean she isn’t with him

        • Cece D

          thats really giving him the benefit of the doubt. most of these instagram/facebook celebrities live off of exposure. Discretion is not their strong suit. and I doubt seriously he is that worried about spending time with a child he begged the mother to abort two years ago.

          • speakinmymind

            but he’s not an instagram/facebook celebrity. he’s an award winning musical artist and savvy businessman. if he didn’t want a damn thing to do with her from the time he found out about the pregnancy and she knew that, then why in the hell did she think he would willingly give her money to support a child he did not want. I wouldn’t have paid her child support either. these groupies and golddiggers gon’ learn…if a man don’t want a baby with you, best thing you can do is terminate the pregnancy or accept single motherhood in EVERY aspect.

            • TRUTHBTOLD

              Normally I don’t respond to post but in this matter I had to…You sound soooooooo stupid!!!! How can you put blame on her? If he wouldn’t have stuck his D!CK in her without a condom then she wouldn’t have gotten pregnant. He knew and she knew the consequences of not having protective sex. Also how is she a GOLDDIGGER? Is it because he has money and she doesn’t have as much as him? Women like you are WEAK and IGNORANT!!!!! So quick to speak on something you know nothing about!!!! There are three sides to a story his side, her side and the truth…. And maybe your mama should’ve aborted you!!!! Now carry on and have a GREAT DAY!!!! bye bye hun

              • james

                Lol @ how can you blame her? She’s a grown woman. He didn’t tap her on the shoulder and get her pregnant. She wasn’t responsible either. Sex is consensual. She was prolly tryna get a payout because she slept with a rich man and it backfired.

            • Tia Marshall Conroy

              I’m so sorry you are a dumbf***, your mom should have considered aborting you.

            • TIRED OF DUMB COMMENTS BY DUMB

              What are you stupid? If a man doesn’t want a baby, and the responsibilities that come with…WRAP IT UP!! Why is it when men don’t wear a condomn we must abort, and if we don’t we should not expect support from the father? How would you know if she’s a gold digger, do you know her personally? Don’t judge lest ur be judged! He knew the risks of unprotected sex just like she did, the difference is he puts MONEY before the life of a child and she was willing to do it anyway she had to. Just because he’s rich and famous does not make him a better person. He never wanted this child until he thought he would have to dish out money. He better hope he stays married until she’s off to college so he never has to do it by himself. Wonder what would happen if your Mama aborted you?

            • Sheila Taylor-Mitchell

              your response is very ignorant, she has every right to ask for child support,she didn’t ask him to take the baby. If you don’t want a child protect yourself if not deal with the consequences that will follow you. Why do she have to be a gold-digger ??did he not know who she was when he slept with her, take time to get to know the woman you’re sleeping with .I really have a problem with you think terminating a pregnancy is the answer for you not protecting yourself. The judge was paid off and the woman lost unfair and I don’t blame her I would fight and make my voice heard.

              • Realistic

                She didn’t want a child either…How does she have all the rights? She should’ve aborted. I agree Ludacris is stupid for not wrappingup…he’s also stupid for sleeping with this nobody…also stupid for taking that break baby he knew he didn’t want…he should’ve just paid the money.

              • namedmesunshine

                She should never have abandoned her first born. Her first child testified against her and even broke down in court..that’s why she lost this baby.

            • Marcia

              Thank You! She shouldn’t have slept with this man. Hoes get on my nerves…keep it moving boo!

        • nick

          But his daughter Charisma is all over the place and always has been…that’s how I know her name!

          • Apple Lee

            His older daughter’s name is Karma. The baby daughter’s name is Cai Bella

            • nick

              I thought that at first, but thought I was wrong..lol..thanks

          • freelancepimp .

            “But his daughter Charisma is all over the place and always has been…that’s how I know her name!”

            You might want to edit that FAIL!!!

        • mrs moonie

          He would at least get paped at some point and they would block out the child’s face.
          Has he ever been seen with the child ever?

      • mrs moonie

        You are so right. He had that older daughter of his with him all the time though.
        Maybe the nanny is raising her?

      • currvalicious

        Wow that’s trifling. Euxodie’s page, same thing.

      • truly

        He doesn’t need to post pics to prove anything…let this be a listen to gold diggers including his submissive wife that put up with this during “their break”..and still came back to him.

        • kitahowell

          She doesn’t sound like a golddigger.. She was taking care of that baby alone…

      • themeowster

        of course! she’s with the nannies :/

    • BE REAL

      This is some typical nonsense with women. I have been seeing this girl for 6 months we sat down talked, discussed call it what you want that a baby is not an option. So after 6 months the condom came off. She told me she had everything taken care of in terms of contraception. we are into our 8th month and suddently she has missed her period, this after we had discussed to every conceivable limit that I dont want a child outta wedlock. she now wants to keep the baby. I have no issue with that. but i dont want to be with her anymore. clearly she did this isssh on purpose.

      i dont want to see her. if i had that ludachris money i would do the same thing to this inconsiderate chick. in no way am i marrying dis girl. i only started finding out issh in our 7 month en things were not looking up. i never wanted to have a child raised outside my home or have child who will have half sisters and brother later that is such bullissh.

      I am with ludachris on this one. this chick got pregnant on purpose en he can deal with the child but doesnt have to deal with her issh

      • Negrakitty

        If you dont want a kid then you should ALWAYS use a condom or ABSTAIN. Pretty simple dummy. In regards to her planning this you do know that NO form of contraception is fail-proof? That all of them carry some risk of pregnancy? Of course, like so many ignorant men, your happy to plough the yard but don’t want to deal with the consequences. This is why there are so many single mothers.

        • nick

          I tell my son, male cousins, whoever the hell listens, DO NOT fall for the “I’m on the pill or I can’t have kids” line, but ALWAYS wear a condom!!!!
          Hope they listen. ..

      • Red Alize Liddell

        Please go back to sex education, because you clearly failed it. If you don’t want a baby with someone, don’t have sex with them period.

        • Ministry101

          THANK YOU!!! Its a shame grown people dont get it.

          • Red Alize Liddell

            It is!

        • ComeLetsTalk

          Or snip, snip. Put that on the table, but men want to have it both ways. Free sex but no consequence.

      • DenyseP

        You really like to say “issh,” huh? From your post, it seems that you may not QUITE understand how babies are made. You may need to go back to 6th grade health and SexEd class, dude.

      • Anonymous

        You blaming her because you decided to take off the condom! LOL! You sound stupid with sucker written on your forehead! You never suppose to take off a condom with a chick you never plan on marrying! LOL! You lucky a baby is all you got from going in her raw! Dummy!

        • Ministry101

          I go better. Folks need to stop sleeping with people unless they are committed: marriage. Exercising self-control means peace in the long run, but don’t blame when you do and there is a child involved.

        • mrs moonie

          You are so right.
          Condoms work.
          if you use them right they will do the job they were meant to do.
          I didn’t have sex without them for 9 years and never got pregnant.
          When I wanted the next baby stopped using them and boom! got pregnant.
          I hear it broke so many time it’s ridiculous.
          Get the right size or take class a showing you how to use them correctly.

      • Ministry101

        Sex equals the possibility of babies, POINT BLANK! If you dont want a child or the possibility of a child outside of wedlock, dont do it until your married. We are adults. We need to act like it and stop blaming everyone else.

      • mrs moonie

        Butt sex would end it all. Can’t get her pregnant that way LOL!
        I’m sorry but to quote Boys in the Hood.
        If she says she on something, use something anyway!

      • vdee

        You sound so pathetic saying she did it on purpose but you took the condom off probably busted in her and never intended to pull out. I know one girl who got pregnant on the SHOT. I’ve been with my man almost 2 years birth control for 5 years and look almost 2 years in guess what failed me? Birth controlllll!! What’s funny is I was about to go on the shot too hoping it was at least more effective then the pill so I wouldn’t get pregnant lmfao I did it on purpose too? She probably has just gotten on birth control when she told you that at 6 months. Birth control you should wait to take the condom off for a month, some woman’s bodies take longer to take the hint not to ovulate. You’re an idiot. Run along stupid.

      • themeowster

        you sound so young and immature.

    • namedmesunshine

      i guess you have no idea that she abandoned her first child and that’s why she lost this baby. Her first child actually testified against her. Do some research

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