Say What? 9 Annoying Things White Men Say On Dates With Black Women

August 6, 2014  |  
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For some Black women, going on a date with a White man can be extremely nerve-wracking, especially if it’s their first time dating a white man. You might be wondering, “Will we have anything in common?” “What are going to talk about?” and “Will there be any awkward moments?” Well, in this case your best bet is to go into the date thinking that he’s just a normal guy, regardless of his race. Unfortunately, sometimes that plan fails miserably because some of these White men can’t help but keep reminding you that you are Black and they are White. It’s not that they do it on purpose, but it’s just that sometimes make certain comments that can seem annoying or even inappropriate. Making these comments cannot only ruin the date, but turn you off dating White men altogether. Not sure what I mean? Well, here is a list of the most annoying things that White men sometimes say on dates.

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“I love Tupac, Biggie, Jay Z, Kanye etc.”

It’s 2014 right? So why do some White men still feel the need to prove that they like hip hop or “Black” music? For all you know, I could actually really like alternative or rock music. The point is, stop trying to prove to me that you’re “down” with whatever. It won’t make me think you’re cooler; it will only make me think that you’re trying too hard.

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“So what do you think about [insert most popular current Black issue here]?”

Generally speaking, it’s not a good idea to get into a deep discussion about politics on a first date, but for some reason, White men will sometimes want to know what you think about certain popular issues concerning African Americans. Don’t take this the wrong way, it’s not that I mind discussing it, but I just feel like these issues shouldn’t be the first things you think of when we go for a first date. So all I remind you of is affirmative action, healthcare, and the Trayvon Martin case? There’s more to me than these Black issues.

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“One time my friend said the N word, and I was like ‘No, that’s wrong’”

For some reason, some White guys feel the need to prove that they are some sort of civil rights activist. This usually involves sharing some sort of heroic story where they once combatted racism. The story usually ends with “I told them no because you should not judge someone by the color of their skin” or “I said you shouldn’t do that because it’s racist.” Can we just have a normal date where we talk about what we like to do for fun or what we do for a living?

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“I have so many Black friends”

Sometimes White men will go on and on about their Black friends thinking that it will somehow impress you. This sort of reminds me of the times when White people say something inappropriate, and get accused of racism, but then quickly reply “There’s no way I’m racist because my friend is Black.” Although, the issue with your date wouldn’t be racism, the conclusion is still the same. I am more concerned with YOU, than who your friends are. After all, I am on a date with YOU, and not your friends. Having Black friends won’t help the situation if you have the personality of burnt toast.

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“I love all types of women”

For some reason, White men often feel the need to re-assure us that they love women outside of their race, but if you’re already on a date with me, isn’t obvious you like women outside of your race? Otherwise, you wouldn’t be on this date with me. There is no need to waste time re-assuring me of this. Once again, I’d rather be talking about what normal people talk about on dates, like what they like to do for fun etc.

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“I have a thing for Black girls”

Although this might seem like the last one, it is nothing like it. Somehow “having a thing” for Black women has a completely different connotation to it. It sounds like you have some sort of fetish for Black women and want to use me for some nasty fantasy you have in your mind. Statements like this are an immediate turn off for me. Sorry, but I have no desire to fulfill your sudden thirst for a Black woman.

 

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“Damnnn girl” or “Girl, you crazzzzy”

One of the worst things a White man can do on a date is re-enforce Black stereotypes, even if it’s in a joking way. Why? Because that tells me that you are simply judging me by my skin even though one would think you wouldn’t do that (after all, you are on a date with a Black woman). You may find it funny, but I don’t, especially if I don’t fit into the stereotype you are talking about. Not every Black woman says “Oh no you didn’t!”

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“Do you want some hot sauce?”

In this day and age, I think it’s safe to say that most White people know that referencing fried chicken in any way shape or form to a Black person can be offensive. Unfortunately, some people still haven’t gotten the memo about hot sauce. Not all Black people love hot sauce, hot wings, or spicy food. Once again, please don’t re-enforce Black stereotypes.

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“Why is it okay for Black people to say the n-word, but we can’t?”

**Sigh…that age old question that just won’t go away…even on a date. It’s not that I have a problem with White people who are genuinely curious as to why it is considered inappropriate, but it’s the fact that you’re making me answer the question as if I am representative of the entire race. Believe it or not, we’re not all the same, and some of us have differing views. Once again, your best bet is to keep the conversation light and fun. Save the debates for after we know that we actually like each other, not when we’re still trying to…

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  • William Stenberg

    The upshot of this article seems to be, ‘Walk on eggshells’.

  • Michael Rogers (Gay)

    I have dated some black boys (I have a slavery fetish, deal with it) and they do say some annoying things as well…like “do you have AIDS?”, “will I get AIDS?”, and “do I have to lick your rectum?” (answer is “yes” to all three)…so maybe this article is just a little bit racist

  • whymilikethis

    Wow. You are one walking, talking colossal crock. I feel sorry for the people who had to raise you and have to have you as a relative.

  • whymilikethis

    Just because NONE of us are responsible for any of it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen! The descendants of the African slaves are still treated as lesser than in all respects of life today as well as every person of color. Just because you aren’t inconvenienced doesn’t mean others aren’t.

  • whymilikethis

    Yes, matter of fact, white people ARE to blame for what they did not just to PoC but what they did to Native Americans back then AND continue to do today! I think you are confusing people wishing and doing what they can so PoC have adequate health care including birth control (Planned Parenthood) with prisons being privatized and the war on drugs imprisoning PoC for a couple of joints while white people get to live even though they are serial killers. Please, not everyone is as moronic as you. Its not a certain political party thats screwing over Native Americans and PoC – its just plain white people, primarily white men like yourself, and regardless of their political affiliations. The legalization of pot is a GOOD thing for PoC! That means a great deal of the PoC prisoners who are in there for smoking pot doing the same sentence as white murders will no longer be rounded up, imprisoned and controlled by miserable men like yourself. Telling PoC to wake up… are you for real? What about you? It seems to me you are from another planet, throwing your white supremacy around like its welcome.

  • Carl

    I listen to Yes, the Moody Blues, and other classic rock, think politics are divisive, and don’t really give a hoot about PC nonsense. I believe we are all just people. And sometimes I admit that I have been deeply infatuated with girls who happen to be black. Guys say and do stupid stuff because they are attempting to impress or sound relevant. I figure, you will either like me for who I am, or you will not. I cannot be what you want me to be, and you cannot be what I want you to be. If you are sweet, adorable, have a great attitude about life, then maybe you are for me 😉

  • Patty Wacker

    I grew up in the segregated rural south. As a farm boy I had a fair number of “colored” male friends because we all worked in hay fields in the summer (no I did not drive the tractor) and put up silage and orchard grass seed in the fall. When schools integrated I was a junior in high school and I got to know some of the women that I never had met but it was frowned on by both races to be with them one on one. After high school I went to Nam and learned to ignore color and to respect values of others. When I got back I bumped into a black women I went to high school with. She was a senior and had her shit together and I was a freshman on the GI bill up to my eyeballs in change and uncertainty. We ended up at a bar where she had a part-time job and I waited until 2am for her to finish. Then I went back every weekend for the entire year and we fell in love. Just before graduation she told me she was pregnant and that she wanted to have the baby. Both sets of parents disowned us and we started out our life together scrapping and clawing for every thing we needed to survive. Thank god for the GI bill. Forty seven years later we are still together, still in love and loving but we have a few more children, grandchildren and just last year a greatgrandchild. In those forty seven years I jokingly said everything in the list but always with a laugh, a hug, and a kiss. She thinks I’m a pig but good GOD how we love each other and oh how happy. I love you Jewel!

  • Medina-Merino

    How much did those models get paid?

  • KM

    And,what about Crystal Meth in your neighborhoods, Yet, whites are the majority on welfare. Why? Do care about about Planned Parenthood center in our neighborhoods. When I read about killing of abortion Doctor always white killing and in white hoods. Or school mass shooting. ALL white.

  • Mark

    Man this article is, well just strange. I honestly can’t see myself even discussing most of these topics on a date. Except possibly the fact I find ethnic women stimulating.

  • whymilikethis

    Only 9? Really?

  • Fraga123

    Let the feathers fly!

  • Greg Jones

    What stereotypical nonsense is this, what type of white men have you been going out with, if this was the other way around about ‘Annoying things Black women day to white men’ there would be uproar on here, seriously, a stupid article.

  • Nathan W

    Especially about the fried chicken and hot sauce … get real, it’s a) true and b) about the least offensive stereotype you could mention.

  • Richard Cranium Jr.

    I aspire one day to be a self-actualized perfect human like all African-Americans are…

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  • DRATON

    Never had that problem dating white women, race doesn’t even come up.

  • Hotbod Handsomeface

    I make it a point to let them know I like chocolate milk.

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  • Donald Schuster

    Wasn’t this against the law??

  • Donald Schuster

    This was – and should now be – against the law.

  • Pablo Diablo

    1. Are you pregnant at the moment?
    2. Reckon you could use your ebt card to split the bill?
    3. Do you ever go into stores and steal groceries?
    4. How many times have you been in jail?
    5. Is it hard to comb your hair?
    6. You DONT have a pimp, right?
    7. Will you be offended if I order fried chicken?
    8. How many kids do you have?
    9. 2 things you cant give a black guy…a fat lip and a job! yuk yuk

  • Coco Love

    omg the comment here is so funny full of insecure people lmao

  • paris

    i find this article offensive really. when there is natural chemistry between 2 people regardless of race, theres no need for awkward thoughts of ‘what am i gonna say or should i ask this or that’ all of that nonsense goes out the window. you just date and have fun. if your dating a person of another race just to try it out then your probably gonna fail b/c its fake, it will be akward and uncomfortable. when you know you know, thats all there is too it.

  • FratRapistHomophobe2

    Good list, I think one of the reasons black women are subjected to so many microaggressions is that most men of all races would rather not date them, which means those who do tend to be losers…hoping this will eventually change because black women are wonderful despite the smell, lower intelligence, overweight issues, and apelike appearance. I married a black woman before my gender transition and never looked back (or black).

  • sprina

    This fake myth that was created by man that black people are violent is a big lie.people should wake up and smell the coffee,anyone from any race be it based on religion can decide to be violent, white women who want to date black men should not have fear,people should learn to give other people from different races than their own the benefit of doubt

  • sprina

    Anyone living in the 21st century and is still racist is a child grow up guys there is no race that is superior to any other race based on the fact that we are all born and yet still die,people should feel free to date from any race they want,judging and picking people based on their color is just so backwards marry anyone you want,the choice and happiness is yours with great love.

  • waltonsimons

    You know, this is literally the first time I’ve ever heard that there’s a stereotype about black people liking spicy food.

  • Roling Eyes

    This kind of nonsensical gobbledygook is no better than outright racism. If someone is saying **** that asinine on a date it’s likely one of two things. A) he’s a moron to begin with at which point, the lady should be on her way asap. or B) the dude is nervous as hell because of all this nonsense with races somehow being different from one another creating unnecessary pressure on someone who clearly can’t handle it, at which point, he’s not a good candidate for dating since he’s allowing outside nonsense to interfere with good sense.

  • SirOliverHumperdink

    This article is severely (reverse) racist. Why is it somehow okay to white stereo type, but not black? Racist pigs.

  • Lawrence

    What you mean is American white men and all this proves is Americans are assholes, which we already knew ?

  • crittermom

    Well, I for one never heard of the thing about hot sauce. Fried chicken, watermelon, yes … but not hot sauce. So, if you’re black, and I happen to offer you some hot sauce … it probably just means that I think hot sauce would taste good on whatever you’re eating, and that you might want some. Just like offering you ketchup for your fries.

  • Thomas Musselman

    Let’s have some more racial stereotyping based on the particular individuals you’ve dealt with.
    That will be fair and enlightening, just as it always has been.
    Oops, that’s racism, I forgot.
    Guess what? People are stupid, shallow, emotionally disturbed, mistaken, deluded, selfish, insensitive, weird, heartless, ignorant….and anything else you can think of, especially in the dating world. That’s why everyone hates to date. It isn’t about their race.

  • Meena S

    I’ve been dating white guys over the years and guys are all the same I find. There are the good, the bad & the ugly , whether they be black or white. I’m comfortable with white guys & they seem comfortable with me, so I cant relate to these weird questions per article.
    Only thing I would say is they most I’ve met really do have that superior complex at first. In that they think I should automatically say yes when they ask me out. When I say no, some have been rude so I had to put them in their places.
    Otherwise, I have dated some great white guys. In fact my some of my best organisms happened when I dated one particular white guy. Unfortunately his OCD was unbearable so I had to dump him.

    • Annamuffin

      Hahaha that’s funny…

  • DeeJay Gude

    I had no idea that hot sauce was a racial stereotype. When did that happen?

  • Green Lama

    Isn’t it stereotyping to assume that White men will say these dumb things?

  • Jon Storey

    Must be an American thing as this is article is quite Victorian in its thinking.

  • SamyyCiao

    This article and comments are by angry black men – white men and black women are out of the closet in record numbers and nothing is going to stop the trend.

  • B. Nolk Y-Z

    but when a black man goes on a date with a white woman he just be sayin “yo dets hav sum kids den i ruin yo credit ratin and disappear”

  • Beaugrand_RTMC

    You have the unmitigated GALL and the arrogant stupidity to assume you have any idea whatsoever about what Barack Obama thinks?

    Barack Obama has 14 ancestors who fought against the Brits in the Revolutionary War- it’s a matter of public record. That’s 14 MORE THAN YOU, and that makes him a “better American” than you, by the “Conservative” method of accounting.

    You’ve really got your head screwed on backwards. A “Liberal” isn’t a “Communist,” and a Liberal isn’t a “Socialist,” as anyone with half a functioning brain understands. That’s more of the Right Wing Stupid anti-Intellectualism that is so popular and fashionable today among the bigoted and intolerant and racist “Conservatives” of the Greed Over People party.

    And the advantages of being white and male go back 400 years, not 200, beginning with land grants given to white males by King George in the 17th century. It continued all the way through to the 20th Century, with non-white non-males being denied access to FHA and VA housing guarantees in the ’50s and through the ’70s; such discriminatory practices in real estate have never completely stopped, with non-whites paying more interest than whites, and with white males paying less interest than females of any color.

    My ancestors weren’t here 200 years ago, but I’ve certainly benefited from “white privilege.” I’ve also benefited from “Christian privilege” and “male privilege” and “accentless English-speaking privilege.” I’m aware of those privileges and I don’t insult others by denying it.

    “Tea Party” began ostensibly as a “small government, lower tax” grassroots movement (although funded from the outset by the Kochs. That’s a little disturbing, but not legally improper). Initially, I thought it was a great idea, but it’s grown ‘way past being a tax protest group. What’s disturbing about the Tea Party is that it became a magnet for hateful intolerant racist bigots like YOU.

  • calling you out

    The hot sauce one is kind of dumb. If I’m putting hot sauce on my food, I’m gonna ask you if you want any and if you have a problem with that, there’s a problem with you.

    In the same vein, if I want some goddamm fried chicken, I’m gonna go over there and stand in line for some, and I don’t really care that its a sensitive issue for you. If you don’t want any, that’s fine, but I’m not gonna NOT offer.

  • amre

    “DO YOU WANT SOME HOT SAUCE?” That is total bs; HE IS JUST ASKING IF YOU WANT SOME!

  • Alias44

    Rap music is stupid. I am a black male and I love white women. I do not date black females at all. I like rock and roll and hard rock music.

  • Alias44

    I think black women are ugly. I am a black male who only dates white women. Black women look too male IMO with all the fake hair and other stuff. I am not attracted to them.

  • hwy505

    It works both ways.

  • 614sword

    And to the young lady that wrote this article, thank you. Can’t say enough how refreshing to hear realness.

  • james bryant

    I can’t understand how a sister can date someone outside her race when knows that chances are they hate the males of her black race . Whites were racist before blacks were. I have ben asked if I was racist or prejudice. My answer is no. But I do not trust white people. And why because their history and the present actins put me in that frame of mind.

  • james bryant

    As much as white men like to date black women, there is one thing for sure. They will never accept a black man as a friend or an acquaintance. A black women would be more accepted in a predominately white club than a black man. You will see a group of white people going out with maybe one or two black women with them but you will not see a black man with them. Black women are more likely to date a white man than a black man dating a white women. Unless he is a musician or an athlete. Also, when a black women is dating a white man she has the tendency to forget who she is and try her best to fit in with whites. Look at the weeves they ware.

    • naynay

      When Black women wear weaves (not weeves) it is a different way to wear your hair and not to fit in with Whites. That went out in the 60s when the Afro was the sign of the times for Black women. Weaves are worn with different lengths, colors, styles and not like the way that White women wear their hair. If you every notice, weaves that were designed for White women because of their thinning hair and their need to project full, long and hair with body — Secret Hair, Fashionhair, Secret Extensions just a name a few companies specifically for White women. Black women do not like to wear human hair that is Caucasian because it does not look good. They prefer human hair like Virgin Remy hair from India, or Malaysian, Brazilian hair. etc. Weaves are definitely not just a Black thing!!

  • Jack Vincennes

    A stupid article. Any man that says these things is a retard. I do take issue with the hot sauce thing. I love hot sauce and would ask anyone if they would like me to pass the hot sauce as a matter of courtesy.

  • Jones

    hmmm… not a single question or comment about hair or ashy skin.

  • flamestar

    Normally I hate this type of article but this one didn’t include all whites and make us all out to be hateful morons. Great points I have overheard a few of them. I have gone out with black women an have stayed away from black topics. All I do is think about what I wouldn’t want her to ask me. Like she looks up at me with her flaming brown eyes and says, “What do you think about Trayvon Martin?” I would think about running. I have been in mixed groups and have heard some black women say” I like white men,” and it’s embarrassing. Any racial stuff isn’t good until you get to know each other, even then. The only thing I don’t understand is the hot sauce remark. I like it and offered it to her and she didn’t seem to mind.

  • DrSnake

    I did not know “hot sauce” was a stereotype. Good–if weird, info to know. 🙂

  • Richard Williams

    Don’t date idiots. problem solved. Then there will be no need to write moronic stereotype ridden articles like this one

  • Dasya

    I love hot sauce. Frankly, I think that’s just thoughtful. But the rest of it…yeah, don’t have any love for those moments. Take out the hot sauce one (cause some people LIKE hot sauce and you can just say “no thanks” if you don’t want it) and instead put in “What do your parents think about you going out with me…”

  • It would be racist NOT to offer someone hot sauce just because they’re black. I offer it to everybody to put on everything. If these things annoy you, stop dating white men.

  • orlandojonn

    Guessing we won’t see a reverse article called “things black women should never say to a white man” that’s completely off the liberal agenda

  • pogo13

    I’m a white guy who has dated several black women over the years. Always had a good time. Maybe there are some knuckleheads who say stupid things but they get subtracted from the gene poll pretty quickly.
    In the real world, few men are going to say or do anything stupid that will place their chance of getting laid in jeopardy. That’s why we go out, right? To have sex at some point.

    Remember ladies – it’s the woman who decides whether sex is going to happen at the end of the evening or not. A man might hope and wonder and yes, even pray that she’ll give him some, but he’s never quite sure. He never knows. She knows, but he doesn’t.

  • Racist_Biatch

    The author of this article is inherently racist.

  • WASP

    “stop trying to prove to me that you’re “down” with whatever.”

    But what if he is? Does that mean taste in music is off-limits as a topic of conversation? …because we have that in common?

    Raciss author.

  • WASP

    “Well, in this case your best bet is to go into the date thinking that he’s just a normal guy..”

    Well seeing as how whites are the majority, white men are just “normal guys.”

    Raciss author.

  • Sean

    What a load of bs….. never read such crap b4.
    Get a grip of the real world not what is floating around your empty head.

  • Klaus Flauten

    I like dating black women. I think they’re beautiful. Some are nice and some aren’t, so I am looking for a nice woman with whom I can spend my time.

  • Lungs_of_Steel

    I can thankfully say I’ve never said anything like these.

    But, overall, they’re relatively harmless – sometimes it takes a wiser person’s guiding hand to educate.

  • Jon Stout Cunningham

    The way to test a hypothesis, or theory, or opinion…is to ask what the reaction would be if the tables were turned. Any way you look at it, this is a racist, despicable comment, and white persons are owed an apology. Thank you.

  • JA6180

    As far as interracial dating goes, from personal experience, I don’t think anyone should date interracially unless you already have interracial friendships. The REAL kind of friendships as in, they’ve been in your house and ate your home cooking and vice versa, they know several of your close relatives, and are the type of friend that’s close enough to be walking in your wedding as opposed to just being invited or told about it.

  • David

    I get most of these – but I like fried chicken and I like hot sauce. I certainly won’t go out of my way to reference them, but I’m not going to avoid them either. If I’m going for fried chicken, the girl better be comfortable with me asking if she wants to come, because I’m not going to stop liking fried chicken if and when we get married. If I’m eating something that I like hot sauce with, and she hasn’t shown herself to dislike hot sauce, I may very well ask “hey, do you want some too?” I didn’t even know there was a “hot sauce” thing.

    I’m out of the dating game now anyway, I found myself a great gal when I was in Brazil – but frankly, why do people of any particular ethnicity or colour feel a need to treat a date of any other ethnicity or colour any differently than they would a date of their own ethnicity and colour? To me, doing so in and of itself is offensive.

  • fredlos the invincible

    “Black people aren’t all the same.” Well, ditto with white people. Please don’t produce such silly lists as if they are the indicator of the responses of white people. I am white and I have never asked any of these questions while dating a black person. Unlike you, I don’t see the race of the person. I see a person only.

  • sf_jeff

    What’s up with the hot sauce? I would think this is more a stereotype of Hispanics or white people than black people. It is possible that this is a regional thing? For what it’s worth I eat hot sauce with every meal it’s offered and could not imagine being offended by it in a million years.

    Of course, context is important. I would never ask a black person if they wanted to go to the grocery store to pick up a stereotypical item, but if you are already there and it is a very small part of you trip, then I think “Would you like to get X?” when you are standing next to X is appropriate when you have been talking for a while already.

    Anyway, if you have genuine respect for someone and they can hear it in your voice, then the words don’t matter so much.

  • Eric

    She seems to have rented a load of crappy comedy movies, where some silly geeky white guy dates a black girl and says some stupid line. It seems buffoonish and almost like a caricature of real human behaviour. Your article was kinda unnecessary, and just seemed to be written as something to pass some time.

  • Jay Adu

    Is there a list with the annoying things blacks say when on dates with white guys?

  • racknstack

    I wish I would have dated a black woman before I got married. Variety is the spice of life.

    <—————————Plus, I think she would have dug my 'stache.

    Magnum PI.

  • Eric Smith

    Hey, wait a minute- I’m white, and I LOVE hot sauce. I offer it to a black person, I’m racist? Since when?

  • CWO

    Now, let’s be real honest here…Just how many white men do you truly thik would ever want to date a black woman??? VERY DAMN FEW!!

  • Malby

    So, it’s bad that a date is “trying too hard” and it’s bad for him to raise serious subjects to discuss? I consider both rather complimentary. As for “reinforcing black stereotypes,” only the stereotypee can reinforce black stereotypes by doing the thing in the stereotype. So you really mean that the date shouldn’t act as if the stereotype is true. Yes. But really, what’s insulting about fried chicken or hot sauce, especially if the hot sauce is available? Isn’t it like asking, Would you like black pepper or Would you like a coke with that?

  • Wesley Pipes

    One thing I noticed is that whenever I see a white man with a black woman, that woman is usually dark skin. Wonder why that is…I’m guessing they don’t want their kids to be dark.

  • AS

    As a white guy married to a black woman can I say assumption is the mother of all cock-ups. And also people take this piece of advice given to me by my late father-in-law:
    Truly beautiful people have an interior that matches or surpasses the exterior.
    Get to know the person, as nobody matches a stereotype.
    London, England

  • TryButYouCantPutMeOffChocolate

    sounds like a date where anything you say will be deemed as bad… good/bad/joke/inquisitive/friendly/jovial/polite/mock offensive/mock offended/hold the door open in a gentlemanly manner/try any joke, sod that, this cow needs a kick in the proverbial. Get over it.

  • SinisterExaggerator

    Great fun reading the comments…by the way it’s “reinforce” not “re-enforce”.

  • Steve

    My question is: what the heck are white men doing dating any woman of another race? Same goes for white women. Do you have some sort of race suicide wish?

  • ree

    The right white guy is no more annoying in what he says than the wrong black guy who could be annoying which can be a turn off. Please stop it with your negative white man/black women article. Your readers are not dumb.

  • Sorry, I call BS. I have been told by SO many black women that “they,” yes “they,” have a “thing” for ‘white” men! What is wrong with this? Nothing!

    I, at one time, was heterosexual, and I dated black women. Now, I am 100% gay, and I am also attracted to black men. In fact, I am attracted to men of color, but I am open to a man of any color. I was the same way with women, so I would honestly say I am open to “all women,” which was mentioned previously. Why am I attracted?

    I love the contrast in colors. I am very white, and I like the contrast of white on black and black on white. Yes, we are humans and we see color, which includes black men and women that are attracted to “white men.”

    Your article starts off by discussing the “fears” of a black woman going on a date with a “white man,” but then you belittle the annoying things that a white man does to relax the situation.

    If sex is eventually to happen, the woman would be GREATLY benefited by a feeling of complete acceptance and relaxation to gain the much pleasure. So, why is it wrong for a “white man” to ask a “black women” what their opinion is on the most important black topic of the day? To me, it is the usual characteristic of a woman that hates the “topic” now, because it is annoying, but, if a relationship is started, she would get angry at the man for not understanding her culture. I believe the same goes for gay black men with the same concerns.

  • Ian

    The fact is there are stereotypes of every look to which most of us do not conform.

    Personally I didn’t know there was a stereotype of black people liking hot sauce, but this suggests I would get in trouble just for offering! Equally this website has a feature called “Ask a black man” as though they are different from white men.

  • TheBigGuy

    Your headline says, What white men say and in your article, you put “sometimes say.” Your fake. I date black women. Never thought of saying any of that.

  • Beaugrand_RTMC

    This makes me wonder if there are any things a black woman shouldn’t say to a white guy on a date. Hmmm. Nothing comes to mind.

  • Lydia

    Well I am Dutch and I don’t find it at all annoying when someone I meet tells me they used to have a Dutch gf or that they have relatives over in Holland. My hubby and baby daddy is from Nigeria and often when I meet people from there (quite often in London) it is a common topic after they see me with the kids for example. I think you are just very sensitive towards the whole race issue. let the guy try to prove himself, and if he wants to mention his friends to you, or his previous encounters or want to do a black man scatch ( I once rapped a who T Pain song to one of my hubby’s friends who claimed white people could not rap) then let them. They don’t do it to be insulting, they actually really want your approval

  • I’m a white guy married to a black woman (25th anniversary this Tuesday) and all I said was, “My previous black girlfriend was satisfied.” [Flame suit on.] We have two gorgeous biracial children and still enjoy each other, that’s all I care about. P.S. I helped her buy a 911 Porsche about one year ago as a reward for all her hard work and success (Ph.D. with a successful science career).

  • John

    Although all these things are silly to say I don’t agree with the general point in this article, the point being that it’s best to always strive to be politically correct and over analyze everything you say and do because perhaps your black date might take offence to what you say. That’s not how you build an equal and trusting relationship. Instead I would advise you to just be yourself and don’t worry about whether your date will take offence to you being you, if she does, she’s not for you and that’s all there is to it.

  • Sean

    uhm no. very rarely can you find a black male that genuinely likes a black female. white females are either sleeping with or cheating with or desperately trying to sleep with a black male. that’s how god created this world. wonderfully pleasant.

  • Mikey

    White men?? Dating black women?? LOL

    Black women are ugly, that is why black men try not to get stuck with one, either. They don’t want to date anyone who looks remotely like thier ugly mommas. Still though, they need to stay away from white women.

    And this is NOT racism! If a white man brings home a beautiful Asian woman, she would be instantly accepted. But if it’s a black woman…yuck!

  • acedynamo

    I’m a white man who loves his freaking hot sauce and fried chicken! Bring it you vanilla tounged bi-atchez! =)

  • Euticys

    I will say as a white boy that dates black women that I can’t say that I have ever done any of these things listed here. This might be due to the area of the country that I grew up in was predominantly black, but I could see if some northern boy out of Montana or something might make these mistakes due to nervousness in encountering another culture they know nothing about. I have had seen my friends act ridiculous on dates with Asian women and say stupid things just because they don’t know the culture. But do white boys all over make these mistakes I would say for the most part no. And I love hot sauce more than anyone I know so if I ask if you want some it is just being respectful , cause I might use the rest!

  • Tomas

    As a white guy, personally I can’t get euough hot sauce! Ironically my favorite is “Scorned woman”

  • Pablo Diablo

    I think the most annoying thing would be, “How was work today?” followed closely by, “Are you pregnant at the moment?” and finally “When’s the last time you were arrested?”

  • Geoff Juniper

    My girlfriend’s black and I never said any of these things, either on a date or since. But that’s probably because I’m a real person and not a stereotyped character in a fictitious date scenario. But we both like hot sauce.

  • Ed Taylor

    I am a white guy. I don’t base who I date on their race. I base it on whether there is an attraction and whether they are nice.

    I’ve lived most of my life in DC. I know enough to look for things I have in common with someone. I like people who are interesting, intelligent, and have a sense of humor.

    I hadn’t heard the ‘hot sauce’ bit before, so maybe I am not as sophisticated as I thought.

    I like for people to approach me based on whether they are attracted to me, and whether they think I am a nice guy, so I use the same tact with them. I guess it’s the ‘Golden Rule,’ applied to dating.

    I found the article informative, and understand why the items listed would be annoying. I’d feel the annoyed if someone assumed I like NASCAR, country music, and was a social conservative.

  • Folcrom Tafazah

    This article was laughable. It has absolutely no context outside of the continental US.
    Folcrom.

  • elviswiggle

    This article is a typical anti-white-male-bashing article that is found quite commonly in today’s media. Same old B.S.

  • jim

    I’m white and i love all types of hot food, but, jesus, sounds like if I eat anything other than good old english fish and chips i’m going to offend someone to the very core of their soul!

    Maybe people should stop and think whether this descent the minutae of identity politics, to the point where putting a piece of chicken in my mouth in the presence of a black woman, somehow becomes an act of racism, is actually the bigger problem and restriction.

    Yes, equality is a must to strive for, but please don’t get that confused with identity politics, which often only serve to put people even more narrowly into the identity restricted box they claim to want to escape from.

    If white people can’t even eat chicken in the presence of black people, then sorry, but black people need to get a grip and see the bigger picture that they’ve lost sight of.

  • LargoLagg

    Don’t ask her what the Kweepy Kwacka brought her for Kwanzaa either!

  • Bryan Scandrett

    Women telling men how to behave never gets old does it?
    Not if you’re a woman any way.
    The one thing ALL women don’t want to hear from men is, “Won’t be doing that again. Goodnight.”
    Wonder when the penny is going to drop?

  • SuzyQue

    Sounds like you’re dating boys instead of men. That could be the problem.

  • niknar

    Interesting piece.

    I agree that most of these statements would be in bad taste, & I can see them as being things that white guys might carelessly say to his black date. One thing white guys should realize, that the writer alluded to in one of the items of this essay, but it also applies to other points, is that simply by going out with her, you indicate that you’re at least to some degree open-minded & accepting of her as a friend if not more, which is why she has accepted you as a date. You need not try to “prove” yourself on this point.

    On the other hand, one should not cavalierly dismiss his interest in certain black celebrities or news stories related to race as simply trying to impress you or superficially looking for a connection with you. He might genuinely admire said celebrities or be truly interested in said stories. I am so into music, & would try to connect musically with whomever I’m with. I wouldn’t necessarily assume that a black date would be into what’s popularly considered “black music” (in essence, nearly all American music is black, having been created by African-Americans), & I would ask what kind of music she likes best or what her favorite artists are rather than starting with “Do you like Usher?” or “I love hip-hop” or something like that. I happen to like many types of music, so whichever way she went I could probably find something we’d like in common (it would be hard with Country though). Likewise, I tend to be interested in the issues of the day. I was staying with my elderly dad when the decision not to indict the policeman who killed Michael Brown was announced. It upset me so much, I wanted so badly to talk to someone about my feelings about the decision. My dad at a younger age would’ve been a good person to talk to, but not anymore. He has 2 caregivers (1 black & 1 Latina), so I was hoping to talk to one of them about it, but I had trouble starting a conversation about it. Fortunately the black caregiver eventually brought up the subject, & then I poured my feelings out to her, & we had a really nice conversation.

    Anyway, that’s my 2 cents worth about this subject.

  • Tyler

    Lots of white guys like rap, suburban or even rural(like in Napoleon Dynamite) middle class white guys, like rap or other genres of black music. How do you think those rappers are making all that money, only selling to other black guys? If a guy is pretending to like rap to impress a black women that’s stupid but that’s not always the case.

    • DaveHolden

      Only losers.

  • tommy_one

    I never heard any of those but the best is when they say “let me pay for that.”

  • Tay

    It’s not about whether it’s a black woman’s first date with
    a white man, but in most cases, whether it’s a white guy’s first date with a
    black woman. And also whether or not the
    white guy is a douchebag. The problem is
    that most white men don’t view black women – or any other non-white women – as WOMEN…who
    are just like any other human women. They
    act like we are some entirely different and separate species, thus leading them
    to say a bunch of douchey stupid sh*t.

  • turkey giblets and gravy

    i love big l and bob marley..so, what do you think about twerking? one time somebody said octaroon and i said shut it, pal! my black friends love that about me..i have yellow fever. i love black women, too..*z-snaps* *nudges frank’s red hot* what do you mean YOUR word? how can you OWN a word? does burnt toast have worse personality than regular toast? thanks for dating me

  • ZH38

    I kept thinking that this site was some kind of spoof site, but apparently it isn’t. Really, “9 things white guys say to black women on dates” is what this is about? Got a laugh out of it, though. The parts about ‘I have lots of black friends’ and ‘I like Kanye/Biggie/Tupac’ were laugh out loud funny.

  • Survivor

    Okay, I’m white. I’m also married now, so this article doesn’t entirely apply to me anymore. However, I was curious in general about it. I agree with how most of those comments would be inappropriate, especially on a first date, but … there were a few I don’t think would be so bad. For one, I’ve never heard the hot sauce thing. Personally, I love hot sauce and I put it on everything I eat these days. So when I ask if you want some at dinner, I’m being polite. When I ask if you wanna get hot-wings, its because I want to. As for the comment “I love all sorts of women” I see what your saying, but personally don’t think you should take that one so sensitive. I suppose it depends on context too though. I mean, I can’t imagine someone just out saying something like that unless prompted with a question like “What kind of woman do you like?”. Without that prompting question, I think the statement is a bit out of place. The rest of those statements however, I don’t think I could see myself making.

  • Aaron Barr

    Some commentary from a white guy who dated a black woman for 4 years through college. That said, we knew each other through common classes for months before we started dating so some of these don’t really apply:

    1. I never liked rap, hip-hop etc nor did I ever make a secret of it.

    2. I’m a conservative libertarian and very much interested in politics but I wouldn’t bring up that kind of issue, at least on a first date, unless she did first.

    3. Sorry black women, but this is something you’ve helped contribute to and also relates to #2. We live in a culture that in many ways seems to think that race relations haven’t changed since the ‘50s and breeds hypersensitivity to potential racism on the part of blacks and paranoia on the part of whites, especially white, heterosexual, Christian men who seem to be viewed and treated as the universal oppressor.

    4. See #3. Sadly, a consequence of it is tokenism.

    5. Not sure why this would come up for the reasons listed.

    6. This was never an issue for me but I get that some guys are like that. I wonder if they’d advise a black woman dating a white guy not to say she had a thing for white guys.

    7. Definitely get why a black woman would find this annoying. I do too but for the reason that it’s so transparently fake. That and I like to cultivate the idea that I could pass a 3rd
    grade grammar test.

    8. I sorta understand but at the same time, maybe he’s just trying to be courteous, especially if he’s not asking just about hot sauce but other condiments, salt, pepper etc.

    9. What white guy ever asked that to any black person? Amongst ourselves maybe but not to a black person. That said, I honestly find the whole notion mystifying. I’ve never felt the inclination to address another white person as my honkey/cracker/cat-eyed devil etc. That’s an ugly term that should have no place in decent society, how it somehow turned into a term of endearment is beyond me. Especially when I’ve also heard it used as a derogatory term by blacks as well. And the whole ‘er’ vs. ‘a’ ending thing just makes no sense at all; it
    just seems to reinforce the stereotype of blacks not having good grammar. Lastly, it just smacks of a double standard.

  • alasia min

    I didn’t know the hot sauce thing was a stereotype

  • Samuel

    Re-read this article and swap Black and White around and see it’s the same tedious anti-white slant.

  • MyUnhappy

    There don’t seem to be many sensible comments here.
    I have spent most of my life with non white women. Chinese, black West Indian and African women.
    The first thing that anyone needs to know is that everyone is an individual and so should be treated as an individual.
    Slightly oddly I have hardly ever experienced any prejudice against any women I have been with. Over 13 years just one miild instance when she was accused in a street market of being a fussy foreigner when choosing tomatoes. She calmly replied that she may be a foreigner but does not speak with a cockney accent!
    Another time with an African woman at a small hotel the resident behind the owner told the owner not to take us. The owner ignored him and let us stay and made us coffee and told us how much he had enjoyed his recent holiday in Africa.
    The reality is that its not who you are, what you look like but only how you behave. If you swear every third word and steal then obviously people will not like you.
    If you are clean, smart and polite then everyone will like you.
    Sometimes I am amused at the lack of knowledge of some people. One black girlfriend was asked by her friend what it was like touching my straight hair!
    Just ignore the colour and relax and enjoy yourself.

    • Run

      Blah blah blah..,and womp womp womp!!

      All of that BS just to say that you don’t believe that racism exists! Do you know what that makes you?

  • Full of it

    Black people bring up race more than white people. I am experienced in the matter.
    This story is backwards

    • Run

      We bring up racism, because we are willing to deal with it openly, for number one! Pretending that it isn’t there doesn’t help anyone, except for the racists who want to pretend that it doesn’t exist.

      YOU CANNOT WISH RACISM AWAY BY PRETENDING THAT IT DOESNT EXIST.

      You don’t want to talk about race or racism, Because YOU aren’t usually the target of racism.

      If you’re white, you don’t deal with racist cops who want to manufacture an excuse to shoot you in the face.

      You don’t endure racist school teachers who play favorites with children who don’t look like you and assume you to be less intelligent than they are. You don’t endure a health care system that does little for you in the way of preventative care.

      You aren’t denied jobs or fired in favor of similarly-situated applicants and employees who don’t look like you.

      You aren’t sentenced to longer jail/prison terms for crimes similar to those committed by similarly-situated members of other groups.

      You can live wherever you want without residents accusing you of being a potential nuisance BEFORE you even move in. You don’t experience housing discrimination.

      OF COURSE…YOU aren’t interested in discussing racism!

      Secondly, blacks are most often the targets of racism, usually from whites. If you don’t live with a barking dog, you won’t complain about a barking dog, but if you live with one, you will complain.

      Blacks don’t ENJOY discussing racism. If you’re tired of fearing about it, just think of what we feel like LIVING with it.

      It takes a lot of gall to ask or try to force blacks to pretend that we don’t experience racism daily. We do, and we aren’t going to spend our lives pretending otherwise just so that YOU can be more comfortable.

      We are NOT comfortable, so why should you be? Given the fact that we are quickly moving backwards in terms of race in this country – at this rate blacks might be wnslaved again by 2050 – I’m going to keep discussing race, and I simply don’t give a flying phuq if it makes you uncomfortable. It’s YOUR mess to begin with.

      CLEAN IT UP!

  • waymas

    White men are taught that if they do not feel guilty, then they are racists, and that everyone sees them as guilty.

    • Run

      …then they are taught the absolute truth! Whites SHOULD feel guilty, and if they don’t they deserve scorn. The way blacks (and other people of color) are treated in this country and abroad is an enduring crime against humanity itself!

      • waymas

        I judge you as the same as a black man that is addicted to drugs, ridding around pimping girls in a pink cady, an mugging old ladies for their purses, so you SHOULD feel guilty. How do you like it?

        • Run

          I’ll ponder that every time I look up at my three Ivy League degrees, or when I’m again named top account executive at my job with a very prominent international, Seattle-based firm.

          Oh…my bad…my $90K convertable BMW (my OTHER BMW, that is), is the perfect setting for pondering why I am such a loser, with my $3,000 Armani suits, my $1,500 Tom Ford wingtips, and my ridiculous waterfront condo overlooking the Puget Sound.

          What do I know?

          I’m only a self-made millionaire who sits on the board of three separate nonprofits, coaches and mentors teens, and runs an admissions consulting business for law and business school applicants – several of whom started out poor and now earn six-figure salaries. But you are right; I’m just a big dummy. Lol.

          I’m such a stereotype… 😉

          • waymas

            You should know better than to stereotype us all a racists then. That was my point.

          • Musashi5000

            And yet you’re still oppressed. Poooor baby.

          • waymas

            According to you, I am too. That was my point. It’s not a one way street.

          • Tom

            nothing stereotypical here at all

      • waymas

        I recommend that you revisit Martin Luther King’s I Have A Dream speech, and try again.

        • Run

          That’s HIS dream, not mine! I don’t live by his antiquated rules. His teaching of passivity got blacks into the mess we are in now!

          STFU!

          • waymas

            It wasn’t his teachings that did this. It was the long time socialist lib agenda to trap and enslave dark skinned Americans into prison city reservations, under a racist government’s control, using their tool of poverty-ensuring-social-programs, disguised as help and compassion.

      • Musashi5000

        Just like the black (and white) abortion rates. Some sins are clearly more worthy of scorn than others apparently. Talk about a crime against humanity.

  • LHathaway

    So, even telling a black girl you like black girls isn’t any good?I guess the only thing I have left to tell her is I have a big weenie. . .

    • Run

      …but why lie?! Lol.

  • GuestX

    White women like themselves some BBC (they’re hoes anyway); you see it all the time. Daddy must be proud.
    But, white men and black women dating? Seriously? They freakin’ hate each other. They’d rather spit on one another than date.

    • Lisa547

      blackgirlwhiteboylove dot com has literally thousands of examples and pictures of such couples. But OK, you keep telling yourself that.

  • Rex

    How bout….
    Yo Aunt Jemima, make me a pancake b!tch!
    Like white men actually date kneegrow women……I mean other than the few white guys with mental problems….

    • Run

      That isn’t really true. The white men I see with black women tend to get the pick of the litter. They date the more attractive ones, and the often appear to be more educated than the norm.

  • This is the most condescending piece of garbage I’ve ever read.

  • Oops

    Racist.

  • awm49

    I don’t know if it its an American thing or a straight thing but only one of those issue came up and it was only after we had both been angered by someone else’s casual racism. Perhaps because I am autistic I don’t see race as an issue the concept of colour based prejudice is bizarre. I also have no idea why a race or colour would be associated with fried foods and I personally hate hip hop and rap music.

  • dehdeh

    How would a date who orders mexican know whether you like hot sauce unless he asks?

  • SamyyCiao

    I have dated many black women all – yes everyone was the perfect date, perfect lovers and never have had one negative racial experience or discussion that put either of us on the defensive or made each other mad or sad – people today of all races do get along better one-on-one than society seems to let you think about race relations in America. Trust me – or go to the mall or a baseball/football game in America – there are more and more interracial couples eery month of all types – this is a good thing and is happening on it’s own without a lot of racist hate from the haters that are against races mixing or getting along.

    • Run

      You are in denial.

      Race relations in the U.S. are quickly moving backwards. The fact that some people like to sleep with those if other races does nothing to change that immutable fact!

      Plenty of white men love to screw black women but couldn’t give a flying phuq about black men, and in fact hate them.

      Lots of black men who date white women enjoy having he white man’s trophy.

      A lot of white women love black men but cannot stand black women. And many black women who are with white men hate white women!

      Interracial relationships stem mainly from the heightened s3xual experience whites enjoy. People of color are exotic to them, but it changes little or nothing about the way they view people of color intellectually or socially.

      Believe it or not, people who date and marry interracially can be some of the most racist people in the world.

  • whitemenblackwomen

    my name add org is a nice dating

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  • Netty D

    I’ve never heard any of these questions before in my life! People are people are people! Its your environment that sets you apart to a great degree. IF two people can communicate, laugh, love, and share, race want have a place. I’m not going to spend my life seeing color!

  • Mayfiel511

    This is stereotypical rubbish on so many levels. If you all can’t do better articles than this I won’t be back. Interracially married 10 years.

  • LarryBundyJr

    Are these genuine? Half of them sound like they’re from some awkward 80s sitcom. :S

  • Elvis

    I didn’t know the thing about the hot sauce and that question seemed totally innocent to me until it was explained in context. What if he’s just asking because its on the table and he’s using it? Try not to over-react if you encounter any of this. Sometimes things are perceived to be what they’re not because you’re looking for it.

  • Noggy

    Honestly, I had no idea about black people and spicy foods. That’s a stereotype I must have missed.

  • Archie Bunker

    Is it wrong to take her to get a fried chicken meal and have watermelon for dessert?

    • Oops

      Black men are on the down low.

  • Vince

    OK I’m black myself and the “hot sauce” one just comes across as paranoid. I live in Texas, alot of people around here, black, white, hispanic, asian, indian, etc. LOVE spicy food and put hot sauce on everything. If someone was to flip out because someone asked if they wanted hot sauce that’s just dumb.

  • JoaquinSpandex

    Ewwwwwww, mentally stable white guys do not date black women.

    • Oops

      Some have low standards.

  • Doug Davis

    I don’t any white guy that went out with a black women

  • Skillet

    Wow. Congrats on a story that is not only the most racist I have ever read, but also one of the dumbest and most highly offensive.
    Again, Congrats…

    • GuestX

      It’s derogatory towards white men, so it’s cool; if it was offensive to any other demographic then there would be a problem. Welcome to 2014: Obama’s America. :/

  • billrowland

    More racist crap. No one does these things and it is just more anti-white propaganda.

    • Oops

      They’re mad cause white men have big schlongs.

  • BuckSnorts Rush

    Thanks for the advice, but black females are not called “women”, or “girls”, they are called SOWS… No self respecting human male would date one… Same thing goes for human females…

  • Cardio32

    I am black and I think most black people arent racist. We dont dont like stupid people closed minded people.

  • z

    As a white guy who’s dated and had long-term relationships with many black women, I wondered if there’d be anything on that list that would ring familiar. The only one that did was about asking what she thought about some culturally related issue. Personally I don’t think that’s weird at all. Obviously, it would be interesting to get the perspective of someone on an issue that more directly relates to their life experience – just as long as it’s not some non-stop topic of conversation. The rest of the stuff on that list is bs. As for ‘having a thing’ for black women. I don’t see that as fetishizing at all. In fact, I think it’s insulting to label that as fetishizing…. it’s personal TASTE. There’s nothing wrong for someone to be more attracted to a certain type of look, that’s not FETISHIZING. A fetish is defined as something a person NEEDS to perform sexually, or otherwise. I personally don’t NEED to date a black woman, but I certainly do love the way they look.

  • Cardio32

    I met a white guy who lives in my neighborhood and he ask me could he cook me dinner one night and would I like chicken so I can naw on the bones. Mind u did I mention he is white I could have died in anger when he said that. I said to him no you can’t cook me nothing and for the record I don’t naw on bones. And I walked away. Oh another thing that pisses me off this older white woman also lives in my neighborhood and when she tries to strike up a conversation with me she says girl so I say it back to her. Mind you I live in North Carolina and I moved down here from Ny.

    • magicman2276

      Down south that’s what they call people that are significantly younger than they are. If she called your mother or grandmother that it would be an insult.

      • Cardio32

        Oh I see, I still don’t like it. Because I have yet to hear this white woman call any of the young white women in my neighborhood girl. She will either call them by their nane or call them miss so and so. So, I will either call her girl back or hun I can tell she doesn’t like that so I get a real laugh off knowing I have pissed her off.

  • Andrew Page

    Other things we say on dates with “black women”:

    “Wow, you look nice tonight!”
    “I like that dress.”
    “Would you like an appetizer?”
    “Can I get you anything?”
    “I dunno about you but that movie sucked!”
    “Lemme get the door for you.”
    “I got this.”

  • Tom Edwards

    Most of the remarks listed in the article are so bone-headed, it is hard for me to believe a woman would want to go out with a guy that dumb to begin with. I haven’t heard anybody say “Some of my best friends are black!” in at least 30 years. For the record, though, I learned a completely new one from reading this. I love hot sauce, but I had absolutely no idea it was a “fried chicken/stereotype” thing. Learn somethin’ new every day 🙂

  • Tonya

    Wow. There are so many negative comments in this thread. Let’s try to be positive and uplifting. Please stop the racial stereotyping. There is already enough of that in the world and on the internet. Love and respect yourself and one another.

  • All Purpose Al

    “Thank God you gals are hypersexual, ’cause I’m about to bust!”

    Not good.

  • Kat23

    I’ve been asked stupid questions by every race, religion, sexual orientation and gender. It’s not just white guys. My favorite stupid question was from a brother, who asked me how many children I had. I said I didn’t have any children (still don’t). He told me I wasn’t a “real woman” until I had children. I asked him how many children he had; he told me three. I replied “I guess that makes you a REAL woman.”

    First and LAST date with that fool.

  • Janine

    I am a proud black woman who only dates white and Spanish/Latino men… I have never, in all my years, had a white man ask me ANY of these questions or make any of these comments. Not sure where you guys are meeting these men, but maybe it’s a location issue instead of a white man issue.

    • Run

      It’s a white man issue, and an AMERICAN WHITE MAN ISSUE in particular.

      And how does a “proud Black woman” not find beauty and intrigue in black men?

      Or, do you date Black Hispanic men? If you don’t date black men of any kind…ever…you may want to re-examine how “proud” you may be.

      There’s nothing wrong with dating interracially, but if one purposely avoids dating all black men it reflects a deep-seeded psychosocial issue – and, to an equal degree, socioeconomic issues – concerning race, ethnicity, beauty standards, materialism, etc.

      As is the case with Asian women who openly profess that they want to represent Asian beauty but will only date white men.

      It makes no sense, because you date long-term or marry from your dating pool. Your offspring thus typically come from those people with whom you maintain long-term relationships or with whom you marry.

      • David Swanner

        Or maybe not any issues, but there’s something she finds hot. Hard core feminists can be excited by rape fantasies and practice bdsm. Some people like certain things and it doesn’t have anything to do with anything else.

        I like curves. Give me a curvy girl over a skinny girl, even if the skinny girl looks like a model any day of the week. Does that give me issues? No, we all have who we’re attracted to.

    • chicagomycity

      “Proud” Black woman, but ONLY dates white & Latino men……righhhht. Very Proud……

  • Run

    As soon as a white person randomly brings up “a black friend” (one you will almost NEVER MEET OR SEE THEM WITH), I know they’ve got done underlying race issues. It’s always ONE, and that person is usually “the best friend” they have ever had.

    And here’s the cherry on top: this “best friend who is black” is often a conservative whose social and political views just happen to line up with those of many whites. These days, those black friends think T r e y v o n M. got what he deserved, or wish other blacks would stop “playing the race card”.

    I remember feeling that a white female classmate of mine was racist, and she knew that I thought she was. Sure enough, she felt the need to let everyone know that she had a black friend.

    It was so random within the context if the discussion that I just rolled my eyes into the back of my head and tuned out the rest of her little spiel.

    When a white person does this, he/she is either really insecure, at best, or trying to escape detection for being a racist.

    And don’t think that your white date can’t still be racist. Lots of white men can’t stand black men but will sleep with a black woman in a heartbeat.

    Many white women are intimidated by black women and couldn’t care less about socializing with them, but love (uh…”dating”) black men.

    • yureon

      Lol you are wondering why she did that when you automatically assumed beforehand that she was a racist? HAHAHAHAHHAHA. That’s called race baiting. YOU are the one with underlying race issues. You go through with this whole bravado of “testing” her.

      • Run

        Trust me when I say that this woman jumped through sone very specific hoops that showed her to be racist.

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  • Luke

    I dont get thing about fried chicken, i live in europe, and frankly everybody here likes fried chicken rich, poor, muslim, jews, men women. Fried chicken is f&$^% delicous, if fried chicken aproached me, said that im the chosen and gave a satchel full of magical herbs and spices i woulde be like “F$&@* Yeah!!!”

    • Run

      It comes from slavery.

  • aLuke

    How about, “I’ll leave the tip”?

    The hot sauce question cracked me up. Just be yourself no matter what race/ethnicity you may date outside of your own. I thought that was a rule of thumb with dating…?

  • Tony Price

    I’ve been with my wife for 7 years and can’t say we have ever discussed race in any way shape or form. I do love her skin (she is the colour of deep cognac) and I tell her this frequently.

    • Run

      Well, that’s just as bad. Pretending racial issues don’t exist isn’t smart or hip, it’s downright foolish! Wishing away racism doesn’t work, and any mixed-race couple that doesn’t discuss it has trust issues.

      If you cannot discuss race issues, you are afraid of what lies beneath the surface, and of the impact your honesty could have on the relationship.

      Blacks and whites come from two different worlds; their views can never line up perfectly. If they do, it’s because one of the people is lying in order to “get along”…that or somebody is brainwashed!

      • David Swanner

        Dude, he’s allowed to admire his wife’s beauty. He’s saying *she’s* beautiful. Not that he finds all black women hot or that he fetishizes black women in general.

        • Oops

          Run is on the down low for the white bro.

  • David Swanner

    I’ve been dating a wonderful black woman for over a year and a half. She’s the first black woman I’ve gone out with since my early to mid twenties. We live in South Carolina. I’ve been surprised that it’s such a non event. I wasn’t expecting race riots in the streets, but maybe a grumpy look from an old couple in their 70’s, an off comment from an acquaintance, just a little thing here or there. But there hasn’t even been that.

    On our first date, I asked her if she was liberal (because I am). ‘Why? Because I’m black?’

    “Well, yeah….92% of African Americans vote Democrat. I thought I’d try the 92 side, before the 8 side. But that’s just me.” …and we both laughed.

    But she’s more than a wonderful black woman. She’s a wonderful woman. Smart, good hearted, great personality, caring, beautiful, dazzling smile and just a joy to be with. I’m thankful that I met her and that we get along so well together.

    • Shirodx

      Wow that’s good.
      I also thought that being in South Carolina it would have been crazy there for you two.
      Good to know it’s not.
      Cool:)

    • Run

      Please! She gives you the best s3x you’ve ever had in your life; that’s the hook. Keep it real!

      • Justquestions89

        Wow that’s mean… I have always wanted to know, why so many blacks think it’s impossible for someone(not black) to actually love a black woman… I mean don’t get me wrong I hear black women say the same about bm/ww but when it comes to another race loving a bw it’s like h3ll fire and brimstone… Just impossible for that non BM to actually want her. Do you think it’s because alot of bm don’t see the value in bw therefore finding it impossible for any other race to do so as well…

        • Run

          I see the value in black women. I think they are some of the most beautiful women on Earth!

          But you must remember that black men are MEN. Therefore, we know other men, and we know what tends to motivate them.

          I have a hard time believing that most of the white and non-black men who date or marry black women aren’t motivated purely by s3x.

          Of course they would never admit it, but I think most people see it that way – despite their reluctance to tell you that.

          With white men, it stems from their history of treating black women as nothing more than s3x objects. White women have historically done the same with black men.

          Furthermore, whites have never made any secret of their low regard for the intellectual and social qualities of blacks.

          On one hand, you portend to treat us an inferior to whites. On the other hand, you try to convince us that you’re dating or marrying us because you find us to be so intelligent and interesting. Those two things don’t mesh.

          People can deny it all they want to, but most whites dating blacks are doing so because they find it to be an exotic, heightened s3xual experience.

          • Justquestions89

            So why aren’t more black men seeing this when they not only date out, marry, and procreate with non BW? Or why aren’t they held to the same accountability? I just think it’s odd.. BM are told to date out marry who you want love is love. Blah blah but bw are suppose to stay in the confines of the ever dwindling choices of black men? At some point it’s inevitably for bw to have to date out. Between BM being incarcerated, homosexuality, increasing amount of IRR, colorism among blacks! Whose left? BW already outnumber BM to begin with add in the other variables and there are barely any options left..

            I understand what your saying though, but does it really matter when the other options given to BW are the same why not try other races?

            • Run

              The only standard any couple should be held to is that they truly appreciate and love each other as human beings. Do I believe most whites who date blacks satisfy this (or vice versa)? Nope.

              Oh yes, we are guilty of dating and marrying whites for many if the wrong reasons, as well.

              I truly see nothing wrong with interracial dating or marriage. I have seen some beautiful interracial couples…with beautiful children and beautiful lives.

              My only gripe is that too many people do it for the wrong reasons: trauma in prior relationships, psychosocial brainwashing, economics/finances, exoticization, rebellion, curiosity…

              I also feel hurt when black women write off black men completely, as though we are all the same.

              Many of the same black women who don’t want to be stereotyped by white men are dating white men because they have grown to stereotype black men specifically – and maybe men of color in general.

              How is that for irony? Lol.

              • Justquestions89

                Completely agree with u on that.. Had a white coworker engaged to a bm she use to brag about how jealous BW were of her and how great the s3x was; as soon as he lost his business, she started asking me question like why bm didn’t like to work and throwing every stereotypical question about bm my way. I just gave a blank stare cause her ex would tell her all kinds of degrading things about bw and to see her turn on him so quickly with racial undertones was amazing. (And they had a kid together).

                I Just wish both sides (bm/bw) would be held accountable for understanding the negatives and positives that come along with IRR.. Just seems so one sided…

    • Justquestions89

      Wow she is a lucky woman… Good luck to you both….

  • Marc W.

    And one thing I have noticed in my few decades on this earth, is if you look at places, be they entire countries, towns or just neighborhoods, that do not have any inter-racial couples at all, it is usually a really unattractive or unsafe place to live…..and if white, quite boring. If black, often a high very violent area. Even the best omelette gets better with salt and pepper added. lol

    • Run

      White = “Boring” (i.e. quiet and bland but “safe”)

      Black = “Unattractive, Violent and Unsafe”?!

      Now that doesn’t sound racist at all, does it? (*eye roll*)

      There are lots of nice, middle-class and upper-middle-class black neighborhoods with low crime rates. Have you ever been to Houston’s McGregor Park?

  • Marc W.

    I am so glad that most people on this board have gotten over the need to even say “Oh she’s dating a white man? She is a traitor to her race. How do you think it makes a black man feel?” I’m serious I used to hear this all the time 20 years on boards like this. I will say this, the expression “Say What”…………..That’s got to go. That’s so 60’s thru 80’s. And no educated man would ever bring a woman home who even used that vernacular anymore. Am I right, people?

  • masher

    If you find black woman attractive it would probably be much easier to date an African woman. African people are generally very nice and easy going. They just want to live here , have a career, and raise a family. Far less cultural baggage than dating an African American. And I see that happening a lot in this city.

    And you shouldn’t be ashamed if you have a strong preference for miscegenation. Be aware that many are just prejudiced against miscegenation and some will do all sorts of things to make it difficult. Could it be that articles like this are just anti-miscegenation? Seems so to me. If you have a strong preference for Africans then don’t be ashamed about it. Go and get involved in African (Kenyan, Ethiopian, Nigerian) community events. Learn about their language and culture. Go there and teach English or something else. I think Kenyans all speak English. All the ones I know speak English very well. But anyway, don’t be ashamed and don’t let haters get you down!

    • Run

      The “cultural baggage” carried by African-Anericans belongs to white travelers!

  • tired tired

    enough racist crap already please, USA- it’s been enough. Try to see people as individuals, enough pigeon-holing, enough, enough

    • masher

      I can read your comments two ways. That alone is interesting.

      • Run

        It’s definitely loaded. This is a person who is sick of “hearing about racism”.

        He should imagine how sick we are of LIVING WITH RACISM!

  • PJ

    I seriously didn’t know that there was a stereotype involving black people and hot sauce. Guess I learned something new today.

    • masher

      Lol, me neither. I mean I can’t imagine they would just make that up but then again I’m an American white guy and I grew up around some very racist people and I never heard this before.

      The watermelon thing I never understood. Who doesn’t like fried chicken and watermelon? You would be a liar if you said you didn’t love both. A total liar! Every human on Earth loves both, and together. Actually Koreans do it right, they serve them with beer. Go to Korea and they have beer and fried chicken in restaurants.

      We are so behind.

      • Run

        Hot sauce is also a metaphor for black “attitude”, for better or worse.

        Sometimes it means being stylish, other times it beans being angry, strong or temperamental.

        It can also represent creativity, s3xuality and a host of other things.

        The hot sauce metaphor, as it pertains to blacks, is almost inextricably bound to our historical experiences.

        The Black Panthers, Malcolm X, Dorothy Dandrige, Michael Jordan, Magic Johnson, Prez O, Deion Sanders…they are all hot sauce. It’s not just the way we eat; it represents both style and strength.

        Moreover, “eating” is a metaphor in the black community that means getting opportunities, making money, being included, etc.

        So think about it this way: blacks have had to fight for everything we have gotten…most often things that already belonged to us (like our human dignity). Hot sauce and eating serve as metaphors for the strength that has gotten is through rough times.

        That’s why I live the hot sauce metaphor. It speaks to me personally and reflects the strength of my people.

    • Run

      That reference wasn’t literally about “hot sauce”; it pertained to all that goes with it.

      Blacks are stereotyped as liking or even preferring spicy – and thus comparably unhealthy – foods.

      Just like a reference to the names “Lequisha” or “Shaquanda” are about the broader scope of “ghettoized”, pseudo African-French-Spanish names, the hot sauce reference was meant to metaphorically boil down a stereotype of a larger scope.

      MORE EXAMPLES:

      The “neck roll” is a metaphor for “black female attitude”. Hence, a black woman writing an angry complaint to her boss might be termed as “rolling her neck”.

      The “Cabbage Patch Dance” is about black males and the many ways we celebrate in sports…our bravado. Thus, one must not literally do the Cabbage Patch in order to give attitude on the playing field. Richard Sherman’s post game rant celebrating the Seahawks’ AFC Championship victory over the 49ers was a form of Cabbage Patch Dance, because he exhibited the bravado of Muhamad Ali and other flashy black male athletes.

      “Calling Al and Jesse” is – metaphorically speaking – a reference to ANY complaint about racism/discrimination, whether meritorious or not. It doesn’t mean that one is literally calling Al and Jesse, although those phone calls can sometimes literally follow the complaint.

      In fact, any time blacks discus race at all, we “have Al and Jesse on the line”.

  • brb

    Esi’s experience must be limited to very insecure, sycophantic white dudes. Most white guys wouldn’t say these things, not because they’re afraid of offending, but because they’re just stupid, boring comments in the first place. Except for the hot sauce, not sure why that’s even on the list. Of course, some people (looking at you Esi) see race is even the most innocuous comments.

    • David Swanner

      Do you want some hot sauce?
      No thanks, I’m not into it, but could you pass the salt?
      Sure.

      Not *everything* is a big deal.

  • m k

    First of all, I’m 100% in favor of people dating whomever they choose. Black, white, Asian, Latino , same sex, whatever. Like many people I observe people and things around me as I travel in public. And since leaving military service at the end of 1967, it has been very common for me to see in person and not on TV, Black men and white women, white men and Asian women but, in those 47 years I can only recall seeing 2 instances of a white man with a Black woman. I am not here to try and argue that white men and Black don’t date much more often that what I have observed but I would make the case that there are far more cases of Black men dating white women, the white men dating Black women.

    • masher

      Your observations are backed up by the data. African American woman’s “out marriage” rate (out marriage is the technical term) is very low. Its remarkably low. There are a few theories on why. Its a very interesting read and I think it illuminates the complex interrelationships between race, gender, and class in America. You don’t exit hundreds of years of chattel slavery without deep scars.

  • Sam Cro

    So Lamar Odom, Kanye West, and Tiger Woods walk into a bar, look over the white woman and say….

    Fill in the punch line..

    Ever notice. First thing a black man will do when he makes money… buy a white girl. At least Louis Farrakhan and I agree that the black birds should not mate with a Robin.

    It’s always the white girl with the black man, is it because black men find black woman ugly? This interracial mingling has gotten out of hand. When Europeans were building cities, monuments and churches, blacks were still running around jungles living in trees.

    What do black women think of this? Maybe blacks should figure out why over 70% of black babies are born out of wedlock.

  • Jackie

    Let’s change the title: Annoying Things Black Women Say On Dates With White Men. Does that sound right? Are black women OK with an unfounded generalization that they say really stupid things on dates with the white men they are trying to impress? If you’re OK with it than bash away… What a stupid article. Who reads this sh*^#@t?

  • bobbie digital

    This article was such garbage and I’m calling B.S.

  • Donald Graham

    Over the past 30 years I dated a couple of Black Women and married 1 and the only comment here I ever used was about hot sauce, and usually because it was in my hand since I love a good spice and and I was brought up to share.

  • Dave Kalin

    I’m a White dude. I’ve dated every race on the planet in nearly every corner of the planet.

    American women are the only women this obsessed over race…and Black women are the worst.

    Black men are that much better. I knew Black dudes who dated White girls in High School and when I was in the Army. These same dude became upset when I dated Black women.

    It was hilarious.

  • Dave Kalin

    Don’t ever go to Asia. You are way too uptight. Asian people will say all of these things and more to you. lol Asian people will greet you by telling you that you’ve gained weight.

    Americans are so freakin’ uptight. It’s hilarious.

    • YungAmbition

      That is so true ,

    • masher

      I know what you mean. I can’t imagine a Korean being upset if I asked about kimchi. They would just say they like it and asked if I liked kimchi too. If I said yes then great. Let’s go eat korean food! Same with Japanese, Russians, Ethiopians, Kenyans…pretty much the entire planet.

  • Chaz

    Does these things really happen? Lol

  • anonymouse

    Why do Black women who ‘prefer’ white and other men get mad when another Black woman states that she only dates Black men? Doesn’t that mean more pale guys for you?
    I don’t get it.

    • Lisa547

      Black woman who prefers white men checking in here. I don’t “get mad” at black women like yourself, I just simply think you have questionable taste in men, that’s not the same thing, lol.

      • YungAmbition

        But why is preferring black men questionable , by sister has dated nothing but black men. Andall of them have been susuccessful businessman and or police officers . I just feel that when sistas like yourself have bad experiences with nn black men, and decide to date out, you envy the black women who finds a good black man

        • Lisa547

          Envy? You have GOT to be kidding me.
          I didn’t have “bad experiences” with black men, I have never dated one. I have always known being a beautiful mixed girl from a middle class background that I could attract and do better and so have.

          I’m sorry but in addition to not being as attractive (to me anyway) as white men, black men are just too high risk. I don’t want STD’s, domestic violence or infidelity! Black men have the highest rate of all 3!

          No offense, brotha!

        • anonymouse

          She just described herself as a ‘beautiful mixed girl’………………….lol! That’s all you need to know right there!

          But anyways, people(men and women) who think like that are NO loss. They wanna talk about the negativities of Blacks, but they ignore those same issues in Whites.Whites steal, cheat, murder their spouses and they still line up for it. What you really have to think about is what kind of a person would date someone who has such disdain for the men and women of their own race. The answer is- a person that is just like them….a person that ain’t $hit. No respectable person would date someone who has such a negative view of their own race……..all that they’re doing is feeding into white superiority.

      • anonymouse

        I would say the same about you. I love my own and don’t get the appeal of exclusively dating others………that indicates other issues that need to be dealt with that can’t be resolved by thinking that someone is a better partner because of their non-Black skin.

        • Lisa547

          It’s not about color, it’s about culture. The culture that black men choose to embrace and promote is simply hostile to the interests of women in general.

          But hey, if you’re cool with being someone’s “b****,” “h*e” “side piece” or “baby mama,” more power to ya! Just not for me.

          • anonymouse

            Excuse me?? I’ve never been anyone’s b*tch, wh0re,side piece, or baby mama. If you think that’s all every Black man is and white men are exempt from it, you have issues. And you’ve never even dated a Black man, so your assessment is a bit laughable and more irrelevant.

            As I’ve stated earlier in this thread, it’s so funny to me that white women don’t have this glowing opinion of white men as some of these Black women seem to have.

            • Lisa547

              My opinion is irrelevant because I’ve never even dated a black man? As if I don’t have eyes? As if I don’t have black male family? As if I’ve never heard, “Yo light skin!!” when I’m just walking down the damn straight? (You think I have color issues, they are nothing compared to black men’s color issues). Maybe if I had been one of the millions upon millions of black women who had had a child with a black man only to have another woman turn up at my door claiming to be pregnant with my man’s child, and have that man not even prioritize seeing his child after I kicking his no-good a$$ out, that would make my opinion more relevant? Honestly, if I were the mother of a very young black woman I would rather see her with a 40 year old man of another race than a black man her own age.

              “White women don’t have this glowing opinion of white men that some of these black women seem to have.”

              But I think it’s pretty telling that those same white women are three times as likely to leave a black man that they’re married to than a white man. Says it all, really. Black men don’t know how to act with ANY race of women. You pregnant for a black man? Better hope no trannies show up at your door claiming they had sex with your man.

              • anonymouse

                Yes, your opinion is irrelevant. That’s like me saying all Hispanic men are like this or that when I don’t date them. That little scenario that you described can occur with any no morals having race of men. Dating a man of another race will not protect you from any of that. What’s next?? A man is a man regardless and if you think his skin color magically will keep him from disappointing you, you’re very naive or has some serious issues. When other race of men dog you out, you’ll turn to dating women? That’s as misguided as what you’re telling me about reasons to not date Black men.

                Do the other race men that you date know of your disdain for Black men?
                Interracial marriages as a whole, don’t hold up…so your point doesn’t stick. All that I know is that white women have major issues with their men and they’re being abandoned, coming up missing, or being buried in their backyards…….but we’re gonna ignore that reality.

                I don’t let other people’s failures affect or justify my decisions.I don’t care if everybody else’s relationships fail..long as I got mine….I’m cool.

                • YungAmbition

                  I think im in love with your intelligence

                  • YUNG AMBITION AKA CHASE

                    This from a color struck BW hating self loathing gnome?
                    I have seen you hate on BW so I don’t even know why you’re here Chase!

                    • YungAmbition

                      Im not color struck and im not chase lol

                  • anonymouse

                    lol!

                • Lisa547

                  “Do the other race men that you date know of your disdain for Black men?” My partner knows of my romantic indifference to them, yes. What you call “disdain” I call “fine for friendship but not foolish enough to go there romantically.”
                  “Interracial marriages as a whole, don’t hold up…so your point doesn’t stick.” It’s ironic that you should mention this given the statistical reality that black women/white men marriages in particular are more stable than both the notoriously unstable black/black marriage, AND 44% more stable than white/white marriages as well.

                  • anonymouse

                    So, you would be ‘friends’ with someone who you describe as ‘ embracing culture that is hostile to women, don’t know how to act with any race of women, gets you pregnant…leaves and their tranny lovers come to confront you,has color issues, and is predisposed to giving you titles such as, ‘b*tch, wh0re, sidepiece, and baby mamas’.

                    Those are the type of men that you find fine for friendship?? ok There’s a lot that I could say, but……..ok.

  • Ebony J Hinton

    #8 has the BEST accompanying photo! LMAOOOO!

  • 313 Intelligence

    The article should’ve discussed some of the important issues. Like how to explain why your weave is off. Or why you have to challenge a man to prove your strong. I don’t know about other BM but any BW that has been with a WM’s is desperate and doesn’t measure up to an intelligent successful BM such as myself. Shot out to all my quality, naturally beautiful BW who are just what a BM needs.

    • JEALOUS BITTER BM ARE SAD!

      No one cares what you think and your presence here shows your insecurity..this has absolutely nothing to do with BM
      yet you insist on pushing your comments and insults here like scared hens.

    • jc

      GET LOST

  • Lilacbenson

    My husband has never said any of the above during our dating trial,i guess everyone is different. Smh at the racism,gender war and blatant deep rooted hate i see on here,smdh.

  • Pixie

    I’m going to resist the urge to join the tempting racial debate below bad comment on the article lol. I hate it when white guys make a reference to weave to let it be known they they know about black people things. And it comes out of nowhere lol, like it could be windy or look like it’s going to rain and they’ll be like “don’t want to mess up that weave now do we?” Or “that’s the best weave I’ve ever seen” and then they’re feeling so proud like yeeeepp.. I know black things, we are having a moment lol… They don’t realise that although it’s not a secret… black guys don’t say that lol smh (sooo cringe- better believe another date doesn’t follow!)

  • These are fabulous and I was just flicking to see if you’d note my favorite:

    “I have a thing for Black girls.” That needs not be said. If you’re dating ME I can presume you like me. However, I do not want to hear that you have “thing” for Black women. You should have a thing for ME. If all I have to is Black, that’s not attractive to me at all.

  • This is i think annoyingly so annoying that i want to crash my screen.

  • guest

    Go to Maxim, FHM, GQ or any of the other white men’s sites and type black women into the search window. NOTHING comes up.

    Go to virtually ANY black women’s blog and you can’t count the number of articles about white men.

    Does anybody really believe this disparity is not embarrassing?

    • guest

      Another embarrassing thing is the time you spend researching something that really doesn’t concern you. It’s summer. ..why are you searching taking polls and obsessing when you should be out enjoying the weather? You Bitter Black Males are pathetic.

      • guest

        Not responding to the substance of my comment and attacking me personally was your way of telling me my observation is correct.

        I love you too.

        • guest

          No pointing out your sick obsession and insecurity over BW-WM relationships is my way of telling you to seek help.

  • James

    I don’t date outside my race so I don’t have to worry about this lol

  • yoda

    Never really talked about rap once I told them I don’t even really listen to it. No one has ever asked me about ‘current black issues’. Didn’t really have to talk about the N word either. I’m not interested in white men with black friends. The white men I’ve been on dates with never had to say anything about loving all types of women. It is not that serious. If they’re on a date with me, I’ll assume they have some kind of interest in black women. I don’t do that black stereotypical talking bull$hit because if I don’t normally talk like that, why would he joke with me like that. Who the hell would ask if you want hot sauce??? NOBODY EVER ASKED WHY BLACK PEOPLE DO [BLANK] SO WHY CAN’T WHITE PEOPLE!

  • Sharee Godinez

    I went on a coffee date with a Mexican guy who called me ‘hot chocolate’ the whole date. He must have done something right because I married him 5 years later.

    • case

      Desperate women do desperate things.

      • mase

        Jealous Black Males do too.

      • Sharee Godinez

        So it’s desperate to keep a guy who has a good job, a great family, makes me laugh and treat me like a partner, eventually married me, gave me two children and works hard to take care of all of us because he’s the wrong color and makes corny jokes?
        Riiiiiiiiiight.

        • BM SU©K

          These BLACK male beasts are just jealous you have a real man and not dealing with their unemployed felony having diseased a$$es!

          • YungAmbition

            I have no diseases and no criminal record, but I would never date you, ugly monkey

            • BM SU©K

              Obviously you don’t date anyone you insecure shyyytface little leprechaun!

    • YungAmbition

      Yea I heard they have a thing for fat black women,, yuck

      • YUNG AMBITION AKA CHASE

        Now you have to find someone who likes short emotional self hating ugly black boys right?

        • YungAmbition

          Im not ugly plus im 6″2 not even close to short lmao

          • YUNG AMBITION AKA CHASE

            Lying little f@ggggit!
            Ugly Beast!

            • YungAmbition

              Uh huh

          • PJ

            But you felt insecure enough to reply in self defence. Interesting.

      • Sharee Godinez

        Are you commenting on my accompanying picture? Do you realize I am PREGNANT? Dumbass.
        Where your supermodel at?

        • YungAmbition

          Thats black women’s biggest excuse, but im not going to argue im happy you found someone to love you

          • YUNG AMBITION GETS NO PVZZY!

            You lonely ugly little roach!

            • YungAmbition

              Lol, sure sure sure

        • YUNG AMBITION AKA CHASE

          He has no one and that’s why he stalks BW online…he’s a bitter ugly insecure disgusting creep.

  • guest

    The problem is not interracial dating. It’s the obsessive focus BW blogs put on WM while their blogs COMPLETELY ignore BW.

  • mike h

    Interesting. Good read.

  • Alisha21

    Its not annoying, some are genuine when they ask their questions.

  • THE COLONIZED MIND.

    YES!!!

    While white folks are doing everything they can to show us how much they HATE us, lets do everything WE can to get them in our beds!

    YES!!!

    • Lol@Bitter Black Men

      Now take your theory to a Kanye thread.

      • THE COLONIZED MIND.

        Yes, any black man who points out the colonized mindset that encourages black people to abandon each other for the love of their historical oppressor must be bitter, jealous insecure, angry…..

        • Lol@Bitter Black Men

          Yeah because ten times out of ten you’re not saying this on stories or features about ww bm.
          do preach the same rhetoric to them and if so can you provide the site?

          • Lol@Bitter Black Men

            7 hours and no response?
            Lololollolol!!!!!

  • Jess

    So many people in the comments are so worked up over who bw are supposed to choose as a partner when it is all so individual. I have no problem dating men of any race, but I have found that I am more attracted to men who are not black (including wm) from personal experience. The black men who have approached me seemed to be all about sex first and me last. I am a little old fashioned. I’m just not going to give up that easily. Men that I have dated from other races showed more respect. Not shading black men, but show me one who who will respect me and I will think differently.

  • alt-K

    The author of this article must be dating very corny and insecure white men. I have dated plenty of white men, and this has not been my experience at all. The men I date don’t even reference any of these things. It’s a date like I’d have with any black or Hispanic man. In my younger years (teens and early twenties), I dated a few corny white guys. Keep in mind this was in the 90s before interracial dating was common, so I suppose both parties were uneasy. Let’s stop generalizing, folks!

    • reality check

      You’ve “dated” lots of white men but not one of them married you. What you were really doing was allowing “plenty” of white guys to use your body to explore their racist sëxual fantasies. But you call it “dating.”

      You were just a willing participant in your own sëxual exploitation.

      SMDH.

      • guest

        Exactly. Whenever you hear a black woman say she’s dated lots of white guys, she really means she let lots of white dudes f*ck her.

        I know one young black woman who graduated from an Ivy league school and claims to have “dated” more than 100 white guys. She’s only 27 years old and I know exactly what she means by “dated.”

        • bigshot

          Its OK when there smuts for wm but let a bm date out all hell break loose with these thots. I can’t take em serious. #hyprocrites

        • another guest

          You’re just a bitter jealous black man that has to make up lies to deal with the fact some black women prefer white and other race men.
          black men will say and do anything to discourage black women from dating out including bullying, verbal abuse and historical ‘reminders’ although you seem to forget history when dating white women. There’s nothing you can do to stop black women from preferring other men so it’s best you get over it.

          • Ms.D19

            Very true-where are all these race loyalist when Black men are dating outside their race at a rate of 2x’s more than Black women? But yet when Black women do it they are wh×res! This ridiculous double standard is insane!

            • h

              Black women would date out just as much as black men do if white men were willing and you know it. Stop acting like bkack women are turning down handsome and successful white men. That’s BULL and we both know it.

              • Ms.D19

                Is it? Have you done the research? I know lots of Black women that have turned down successful White men because they weren’t interested. I think the sad part is people assume Black women are so low they can’t pick and choose who they want to date or be with be he Black or White. Black women have agency and just as much room to choose their mates as anyone. Only thing is when Black women don’t choose Black men there is this chorus of folks telling them how they have somehow betrayed themselves and their race-total nuttiness!

                • h

                  Black women have turned down successful white men who were seeking what?

                  I’m not talking about casual sëx, I’m talking about a committed relationship that leads to marriage. If you believe that there are many black women turning down physically attractive and successful white men for SERIOUS relationships then you are completely delusional.

                  Men are the ones who pursue women and ask for their hand in marriage. Men, regardless of color, routinely have sëx with women they would NEVER marry. No one said black women are too low for anything so stop it. We both know that if decent, handsome and successful white men were looking for black wives, they would have NO PROBLEM finding them.

                  • Ms.D19

                    I live in a world where people are asked on dates to get to know one another and in some cases if you are not interested you turn down said date. Not all Black women are so desperate that they have to accept any offer presented. In my single days if a man did not initially peak my interests for whatever reason-there was no reason to pursue even the initial dealings of a date and if there was no long term commitment-why in the world would we sleep together? My issue is people make Black women sound so undesired and unwanted when I have seen the contrary.

                    And LOTS of people have premarital sex. Most people married did not wait until their wedding night-so that idea that men only have sex with women they don’t intend to marry is a very flawed idea. There are not that many virgins walking around.

                  • jloveee

                    Black men have this fantasy that decent goodlooking well to do white women want to marry them.That is not the case usually she is white trash and grew up poor and has already been ran through by white men and has finally got around to dating black.These same black men try to tell black women no one wants us. Lol. That is so not the case.

              • Lol@Bitter Black Men

                You sound like a
                scorned high school girl!

            • guest

              So true!!

          • willie

            discourage black women???
            the proof is in the wedding!!!
            and they are NOT marrying you!!..

            and its not b/c BM talked them out of it..

            • another guest

              My question to you is why are you on a site directed to bw arguing over who we choose to date or marry?
              This is none of your business but your jealousy and insecurity brought you here right?
              If bw did this we would be called all kinds of names.
              WHY ARE YOU HERE?

              • willie

                My Bad..I apologize in attempting to bring some rationale to the “detached”
                I’m so use to doing missionary work, its in my blood..so i’m gone DEUCES!!!
                (*slamming the door behind me George Jefferson style*)

                • another guest

                  Once again…,WHY ARE YOU HERE??!!
                  The drama is a wonderful touch but you still haven’t answered my direct
                  question have you?

        • SoYouWantMeToDoWhatNow?!

          Oh, so you do hide in the bushes and take pictures of black women while they’re on dates with white men!?! I knew it!! Either that or you’re a mind reader….tell me which one. I must know either way. Ok, so even if your “story” about this girl were true…okay, now what? I’m not really sure how you’re affected by the actions of two consenting adults. Help me out here. (I’m assuming you’re a man) So, every woman (if you like women, again I’m assuming you’re a man), that’s gone out with you has slept with you? Is that how your dates typically end?

        • Gumpchun

          Wait a minute, are you saying that the black men who dated her were all monks and celibates? Come on. And not every date ends up in the sack. As a white man dating a black woman, I don’t see her as a mere bedmate. As a matter of fact I don’t enjoy sleeping with women I am not serious about. It makes me feel slimy, for a reason, because it is slimy. I have to feel that we have the potential to be together for good, for real. I have said no to additional dates with women of all races because I knew I had nothing in common with them at that point. And I didn’t sleep with them and then dump them.

          Don’t attack a black woman who over the course of a long dating life dated plenty of white as well as black men. I mean this is 2014.

      • Truthiz

        So are you saying that bm are honorable and marry bw if they sleep with them? Perhaps you should look at the marriage numbers in the black community before you make this ridiculous comment ever again. Some of you are so intimidated by wm you’ll say anything.

        • reality check

          Ok, I’m intimidated and terrified of white men. If that’s what you want to believe, fine. But don’t forget the words bitter and jealous. You know, the go-to words everytime a brother calls a black woman out on her white man worship.

          Everything I said is true and I suspect you know that. Show me a black woman who says she has “dated” many white guys and I will show you a BW who has allowed many WM to fulfill their racist sëx fantasies.

          • Truthiz

            whatever…
            even if this were true how does any of this affect you?
            Why are you complaining over what consenting adults do?

        • willie

          intimidated??
          BM do not go out off their way to look European..If anything, its the other way around…
          Now can some of my BW say the same about WW??

      • Alisha21

        Its called dating dude. Experiences and having fun… jessh. Stop with this racist crap. Let people date whoever they want.

        • reality check

          Nobody can date whoever they want. They can only date those who want to date them. The fact is that most white men only “date” black women for sëx. When they are ready for a wife, they choose a white woman 98% of the time.

          • SoYouWantMeToDoWhatNow?!

            Are you sure? How do you know?

            • reality check

              There is a mountain of anecdotal evidence to support this. Starting with the fact that the number of black women married to white men doesn’t come anywhere close to the number of BW who have had sëx with a WM.

              • another guest

                Can you post your legitimate source /llink to this comment?

              • SoYouWantMeToDoWhatNow?!

                It’s interesting that you haven’t produced any scientific evidence (as I demanded in my earlier post, lol). Apparently in two hours you’ve been able to quantify the number of white men who only want to have sex with black women, based on anecdotes from however many people you would be able to talk to in two hours. I am nothing, if not impressed with your dedication to rid of us this scourge known as a preference and freedom to date and have sexual relations with anyone we prefer. Your efforts will not go unnoticed. #getouttaheretoo

                • willie

                  lol…if dating wm means the world to you..as it apparently does…then do you boo boo

                  • another guest

                    It looks like she already is boo boo..
                    Bitter Much?

                    • willie

                      lol..you mean “already has”..
                      correct grammar much??

                    • another guest

                      Lol…..you get the tho!
                      Bitter Much?

                    • another guest

                      Point

                    • another guest

                      Perhaps you should get a job as an English teacher and spend less time worrying and stalking bw.

                  • SoYouWantMeToDoWhatNow?!

                    I think everyone has a right to choose. Actually, I don’t have a dating preference either way. If he’s nice, kind, honest, God-fearing, etc., I think those are good qualities for any man to possess regardless of ethnicity.

                • jloveee

                  lol right! hes a clown

              • David Swanner

                Wouldn’t that hold true for *all* women (or even all people)?

                The number of people they marry doesn’t come close to the number of people they’ve had sex with.

                What a stupid ‘statistic’.

            • guest

              It’s funny how black women will make all types of assumption about black men who date out and present them as facts. But these same women will demand quantifiable evidence and detailed scientific studies to support any assertion that most white men only want black women for s e x.

              • another guest

                So basically you cant answer her question right?

              • SoYouWantMeToDoWhatNow?!

                So what you’re saying is…you don’t know either? I don’t think my questions were an assumption about anyone’s dating preferences. Perhaps if you reread it, maybe the questions will make more sense. Oh and a demand is generally categorized by making a statement,which is also known as a declarative sentence; I asked two questions also known as an interrogative sentence–just thought you should know the difference.

                • another guest

                  Lol! Dayuuuuuum!

          • willie

            unfortunately some of bw confuse procreation with recreation..they are NOT the same..

      • SoYouWantMeToDoWhatNow?!

        How do you know alt-K was giving up the “goodies” on her dates with these men? Were you hiding in the bushes taking pictures? You’re trying to shame her for something you’re assuming she did…get outta here!!

  • don’t care too much,all of the person are the same,no matter white men
    to black women,or black men to white women,as a men,keep your heels,head
    and standards high,then we will be popular with the women,if you a short men,I advise you choose Chamaripa shoes when have a dating

  • no more brainwashing!

    If black love dies racism has won.

    • t

      Why is it when black women date or marry another race black love always comes up but if it’s the other way around everyone is silent?

      • Laine

        No one is silent when we see black men with non black women…Stop lying! But you are just a troll employed by MN to stir up some trouble…

      • stop the propaganda!

        Contrary to what millions of black women believe, the VAST majority of brothers choose sisters over all other women. I know that this is very hard to believe with the relentless propaganda campaign being run by the Interracial Crusaders Movement, but it is true nonetheless.

        9 out of 10 black people choose a black mate.

        • Laine

          It’s sad that people don’t want to see this. And it’s pretty common among all other groups. Most people marry within their race…. White men marry white women the most, white women marry white men the most, asian men marry asian women the most etc etc..And of course most black people marry each other. I don’t get the hype… But it doesn’t matter.. Who people choose to date or marry has nothing to do with me…:-)

        • Lisa547

          That being the case, you don’t need to cry about the other 1/10 of us existing, or whine like little babies when an article is written for US and not you.

      • Ms.D19

        Suddenly there is “Black Love” when Black women start exploring their options! Its absolutely ridiculous!

        • Wake the f*ck up!

          Please stop. Black women have been exploring their options for a very long time. You interracial crusaders who are determined to undermine black love will never win because the truth is you can’t force a white man to love you. He will always pkace his own women above you. Only she can give him what he desires most which is a WHITE SON. The few white men who actually marry black women are the exception. Not the rule.

          • Ms.D19

            You sound like the real crusader. And why does a Black women finding love with another race undermine Black love? We are all free to do as we please, it does not diminish Black folks if my husband is White. And who said anything about forcing someone? And I must know A LOT of exceptions!

    • Let’s Be Honest

      Black love been dead-Killed by Black Men about 20 years ago.

  • h

    Maxim Hottest 100 list had only three black women on it.

    A MN hottest list would have at LEAST 50 white men on it.

    At some point, racial pride has to set in.

    • t

      Do Black Men have racial pride?
      Like Wayne Brady and Kanye and Kobe and Jonn Legend and Ice T and Dave Chappelle…Do BLACK MEN like these have racial pride or is this just s requirement for BLACK WOMEN?

      • black man speaking.

        Why do black women place so much importance on a handful of whitewashed celebrity black men and completely ignore the fact that 90% of black men love, date and marry sisters? Do we not matter at all?

        • guest

          Translation: She made an
          excellent point but i can’t answer so i’ll deflect.

          • Ms.D19

            EXACTLY! I caught that too

  • Gabie Aldrich

    Wow! racism is live and in effect today! It’s 2014 folks!

  • Louis Thorndon

    Jack Wrong is correct that this is stereotyping white people. But I think that you just have to lighten up. Whilst I have never said any of this, you need to realize that the men are nervous on a date too, unless they are much older or are players, and so they are sure to say some stupid things. If the above points keep on coming out, on third and fourth dates, you have a point.

  • Sasha

    Dumb arse article written by a black woman who hasn’t dated a white guy or she dated the hillbillies. These questions never came up on ny dates and I have dated a few white men them and latin are my preference. ..

    • YungAmbition

      Lmao

      • jloveee

        Whats so funny? Are you feeling a little pressure because some black women like white men?

        • YungAmbition

          Naw, there are plenty of women for me in the world black, white, latina, asian. I just like to laugh at desperation

          • GUEST

            Plenty of women for you yet you stay commenting and fretting over bw’s affairs.

            • YungAmbition

              Not really just stating my opinion

          • Sharee Godinez

            Wait up! This is the same one who said I was desperate for marrying a Latino? By your own standards, the only woman that is for you is black….right?

            • YungAmbition

              Huh, I was just responding to her comment about me. I said that I am really only attracted to black women, but I could date whatever type of women I want, I am approached by them all very often

    • jelost

      That’s what i thought. I can think of about 9 off the top of my head lol

  • where is the reciprocity?

    I just visited Maxim. com and FHM. com. two of the most popular sites for young, professional white men. I typed interracial dating into the search window and nothing came up.

    NOTHING!!!

    Today’s word is reciprocity.

    • me

      Oh boy here we go with the insecure bitter black male comments.
      What does any of these magazines have to do with dates people have already gone on.
      I knew you would be here the instant you saw bw&wm.

      • Laine

        How do you know that’s a black man? Are you just trolling, or what? Stirring up the pot? Getting more clicks for MN? Gotcha…lol

        • StansB4Real

          You can tell by his insecurity… Its as plain as day.. The black male wears his insecurities on his sleeve..

          • anon

            I’ve seen you on other sites. You are clearly mentally ill.

            • Laine

              Right? I just clicked to see her or his other comments… A lot of negativity, a lot of profanity. It’s sad

              • StansB4Real

                Do you really think people cant see right through you insecure black males on these blogs?? MN never gets this many comments but all the sudden something comes up in relation to bw/wm and all the sudden we’re at over 100 comments?? Why the need to point out what other magazines aren’t talking about bw/wm?? Why then need to attempt to rub that in a black womans face?? Its insecurity – and I get the feeling you’d see that if the roles were reversed like you insecure black males usually do…

                • Laine

                  Why point out that white sites are not talking about black women? Well, why not? Does the truth hurt?
                  And exactly…, MN knows that these articles will bring out all kinds of idiots, including you, and they will get a lot of clicks. Why are you so focused on hating the ones you hate ( black men). Why not focus on loving the ones you love? Go to a site that caters to white men, since they are the ones you like so much. You need serious psyciatric help, bye ! And I’m a black women…., how do we know you’re not some old white guy?

                  • StansB4Real

                    Again – the insecurity is real… I doubt very seriously you’re a female, namely a black “women”… I can tell youre a bitter insecure black male just by your need to insult me when i never insulted you.. My comments must have hit that weak black male nerve that makes weak little black males snap and start attacking women.. I bet if I was infront of you you’d want to physically fight me.. The point I’m making is that only someone who felt they could lift thrir self esteem by lowering someone elses would have felt a need to bring up whats being talked about or not talked about on another site.. I see that comment here several times – probably from the same person under multiple names – and there is no need for it..

                  • Gumpchun

                    Who says white sites aren’t talking about interracial dating? I can say for a fact that white men consider black women fully a part of all “the fish in the sea.” If we find the find the girl we love there, we are going to grab her, if she’ll have us. It is hard enough to find someone in this world that to limit yourselves to pre-existing conceptions and prejudices. Love is love. The main problem in connecting with a woman is culture, not race, and I don’t mean a “shared” culture I mean liking some of the same stuff, having understandings about values, being curious and interested, being interesting, connecting mentally. Laughing a lot. Are those racial? I don’t think so.

              • anon

                This person is damaged. Her constant use of profanity and vulgar insults is suggestive of someone with profound mental issues. I don’t know what her journey has been. It must have been rough. But to hate half of your OWN race is not normal. No matter how she tries to justify it.

                • StansB4Real

                  Well seeing that I’m biracial (black mom, asian dad) and I only hate black males – wouldnt that be hating only 1/4 of my race???

            • StansB4Real

              Why?? Because I give the black male the same hate & disdain that he dishes out?? Get used to it.. If he can dish it out then he can take it.. Stop whining… I’m willing to bet you dont see them as mentally ill when they’re tearing down black women…

          • Laine

            I didn’t get insecurity from his or her post, sorry….lol..

            • StansB4Real

              Well I did… Its very common on Bòssip…

      • v

        Ummm, what part of the comment was untrue?

        It’s embarrassing to have black women blogs devote SO MUCH attention to white men when NOT ONE of their blogs devotes ANY attention to us.

        If you are truly unable to see this, then something is seriously wrong.

    • me

      Today’s other word should be insecurity.

    • anonymous commenter

      That’s because white mens have put white and Asian women on a pedestal. Not black women.

      Only black women think it’s normal to obsess over a race of men who act like they don’t exist.

      • anonymous commenter

        *white men’s sites*

    • yureon

      More bollocks. Just because there are a certain amount of black women who find white men attractive doesn’t warrant or demand a reciprocated feeling.

      That is like saying, I asked you out on a date and paid for it. NOW RECIPROCATE AND DATE ME. Or a guy approaches a woman in public and saying hi and she HAS to reciprocate and say hello back.

      No today’s word is “shaming.”

  • Jenb

    I really think this article is pandering to white people. Why does it matter what a white man thinks of black women, or if they find us attractive. We can focus on this topic, when white men’s magazines start devoting as much time to black women, as this site devotes to white men. I don’t care which black actresses are dating white men, it doesn’t matter.

    • guest 2

      I wish I could give you 100 upvotes! This unreciprocated obsession has become embarrassing. White men’s magazines virtually ignore black women.

  • T.J.

    In this day in age I don’t care who the black women/men dates. if you can’t find a good black man/woman to sweep you off ur feet, open ur heart to just anyone. Best way to raise above racism is to multiply as mix people.

    • guest

      Sure. Because that’s worked real well in places like Brazil. smdh.

      • T.J.

        Idk much about brasil, but as much as racist america is tripping over the first mix race president, I just think the best way to raise above all the hate and racism is to simply have more mix kids all across america!

        • Maggie

          Sorry to burst your bubble but mindset will still be applied to the new categories. So in your “utopia” (aka desire to remove yourself from your current category) there will now be the darkest mixed people all the way to the lightest. And guess what? Society will come up with names for all those categories.

          • T.J.

            Stop speculating, you don’t know that.

            • Maggie

              Its not a mystery nor speculation. Its human nature to categorize whether you want to accept that or not.

          • Gumpchun

            That is pretty cynical. I prefer to look at successful mixed race and culture totems like ancient Alexandria, the seat of tremendous scholarship and wealth and a very mixed culture where tolerance won the day.

            Why assume the worst? We are getting much better in the world in that regard.

        • Laine

          I’m sorry, but I think you’re being very naive…

          • T.J.

            Ok, if I’m so naive then what do u think is the best way to raise above the hate n racism?

            • Laine

              Education! Educating people about history, letting them understand that even though we are equal, we are not the same. We all have our differences, and that’s okay. That’s what makes us unique. And patience… Knowing that things won’t change drastically.
              But most importantly it’s about knowing your self worth…I know who I am, and what I’m capable of.. nobody can put me down. And as soon as ethnic minorities get aware of their own power, their own strength as a community, they won’t let themselves fall victim of a racist system or racist propaganda. Europe has zero to none natural resources. Everything they need, from energy to food, to flowers comes mostly from somewhere else. From poor black and brown countries. As soon as these black and brown countries start to realize what they are worth, things will change, and it will be a playing field with equal oppertunities

              • T.J.

                Nice try, education has never stop anyone from being a bigot. The educated ones here are call republicans. The people from those black and brown countries u talk about know their worth. Their problem comes mostly from U.S. foreign policies (which u know nothing about) and also from the free trade act.

                • Laine

                  No, the people from those black and brown countries have been brainwashed into thinking that they can’t develop their countries resources on their own. That they need western companies to do it for them, because they can do it faster, better, more efficient etc. I’m originally from one of those countries myself. And I know a whole lot about the US foreign policies, I don’t know why you would assume that I don’t. US foreign policies and the free trade act being effective has a lot to do with the lack of self worth some black and brown countries have. The market can be as open as it can be, the US can hold one embargo after the next. All those things won’t be effective, if black and brown countries learn that what they produce is just as good or even better, and that they don’t need the West. The West needs them more.
                  But I digress, bottomline… having mixed babies won’t get rid of racism or racist systems. And I’ll be damned if the way I’m going to procreate will have anything to do with the opinion of some racist pig. Having mixed children, just because they will then be more accepted? Ehm.. no, I don’t think so…

                  • T.J.

                    Well I didn’t say having mix kids would end racism. I said it’s one of the best way, to rise above the hate n racism out there. Just open ur heart to anyone that u have a crush on and stop waiting for a black man to come sweep u off ur feet. And that’s what I was saying.

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  • Aaliyah Noelle

    The worst I’ve ever heard was “wow you actually speak properly for a black girl ”
    And “oh my god your hair is sooooo soft”
    But those were from a cuban. Never dated a white guy

  • FromUR2UB

    Oh, no! THAT doesn’t happen! Not with Bliss Personified!!

  • Ms. Bee

    You better be that white man’s fantasy.

  • v

    OMG! Why is there such an obsession with white men on black women’s blogs?

    White men don’t spend one minute talking about black women over at Maxim, FHM, Esquire, GQ or any of the other spaces that cater to them.

    Is this some type of mental illness????

    • guest

      It most definitely is a mental illness. It’s called brainwashing.

    • t

      Really the mental illness are you insecure bm that get so bent out of shape and paranoid at the mere mention of bw dating and preferring nbm.

      • Laine

        How do you know the poster is a black man? And what he or she said is kind of true right? Black women are rarely featured or not at all in magazines or blogs or whatever that cater to Caucasian men. And I don’t thnk we would ever have an article like this on site like that. “how to go on dates with bw”, “what black women say on dates” etc… never…lol.. And you know that, too. The mental illness and obsessing part may have been exaggerated, but the rest is true.

        • guest

          You sound like a white woman who dates black men but secretly hates/envies black women

  • But why would you even continue to deal with someone who talked like that.. anybody with sense would know that is the first and last date with that person.

  • Diva

    I’ve had a white guy tell me how much he LOOOOOOOVED fried chicken on a first date. Now while that may have been true, it still made me uncomfortable. I also breiefly date another white guy who would always say little things during a conversation that would remind me that I was Black; he’s even used the “I love all types of women” line on me. What killed me about him was that we were friends for YEARS before we dated so I’m not sure why he would say stuff like that to me. So it does happen. Maybe not often, but it does happen.

    • Gumpchun

      As a white man I trying to figure out why they would be so stupid. I suppose I have bumbled some things while dating, we always do on first dates when we are kind of nervous. I once dated a Japanese woman and made some stupid (non-dirty) joke about sumo wrestling and she started crying. We got over that and became very close. I would counsel patience to see if they are just suffering from foot-in-mouth-itis which usually goes away after a few dates. The race thing fades pretty fast and you are just yourselves together. If they are still saying stupid ***, dump them.

  • AfricaChillin

    It’s hilarious how America loves to yap about being a melting pot but, as soon as someone decides to date out of their race? All hell breaks loose. It becomes a huge deal. Such a pathetic contradiction. Date whom ever fits the criteria that you are seeking for in a relationship regardless of race. The individuals that date out of their race, and then have the audacity to bash their own race over some stereotypical BS, are the ones we all need to pray for, for real. Their reasoning is embarrassing.

    • CK. ®

      Wisdom!

    • guest

      If you look closely you’ll see all hell doesn’t break loose unless it’s a bw dating a nbm,then all the dumb comments and hypocrisy starts. In the Black community here it’s fine if a bm goes out of the race but bw get cursed out and told how wrong they are if they prefer nbm ..esp if he’s white.

      • YungAmbition

        I have been given attitudes , been cursed out, and called sellout for just hanging out with non black female friends, so lets not act like sistas dont hate hard when black men date out

        • r

          You’re such a liar. .AND I knew you would be right here commenting even though you say you don’t care but are always on threads about bw/wm.

      • Ms.D19

        TOTALLY true! You are a race traitor if you are not sitting in a corner waiting for your ideal Black man to come floating along…

        • guest

          Lots if hypocrisy and double standards in the black community that are finally being addressed. .only because many bw are fed up.

      • tailgate

        the biggest BS I ever read on this site. Go back to the sista site to this and look at all the BM bashing. Full of crap. GTFOH with your nonsense.

        • guest

          I guess I struck a nerve huh a$$hole? You emotional vaginas are always humorous. .hide and deny all you want but the double standards
          are real so you GTFOH with your lies and bullsh!t.

    • T.J.

      New york city is know as a melting pot not America. It’s no longer a big deal to date outside ur race in america, but u will get some looks from the bigots. Get it right africachilling,

  • Say What?

    Some of those guys in the picture for #5 look a little…rough…

    • Machone

      That reminds me why I don’t like dark skinned men. LOL

      • guest

        How do you know she’s referring to the dark skinned men in the photo?

        “Massa” done did a real good job on you! SMMFH.

    • Laine

      Really..? LoL…. I didn’t see anything wrong with them… But then again, taste and preferences differ…:-)

  • sasha

    unless you are going on dates with donald sterling types i don’t think these comments will be an issue

  • sasha

    Yeah, I don’t get why every article on interracial dating focuses on WM given that so many BW who date out date Latino or Indian guys. i have heard from many BW that if they were to date out, they’d prefer to date non-yt. why is yt the default on MN then? oh yeah. more clicks. smh.

    • guest

      Because for many black women, “exploring our options” really means date white men.

    • Feather

      Most black women do not like indian guys. You lying.

      • sasha

        I didn’t say they did! Most bw prefer to only date and marry bm.

      • jloveee

        She damn sure is lol. I would rather date white then latino then asian. no pakistanis, no men from india. im just not attracted.

    • yoda

      where are you at that you’ve seen black women with indian guys? i’ve seen black women with white, asian and sometimes latino men but definitely not indian.

      • sasha

        I think I was trying to respond to you but my comment ended up in the wrong place!

    • sasha

      As I mentioned I’m from boston. Maybe it’s college students and recent grads dating each other. Also I’m of carribbean decent so Indian/blk marriages are pretty standard there. I have no Indian heritage, but I have female family members in the old country who are married to Indian men. Or maybe I just know weird people. All I know is that both Indian men and blk women overwhelmingly prefer staying within their respective races, but I also know a fair amount of interracial couples of that persuasion. A pretty high number especially considering that there really aren’t that many Indians in the US. And like bw, I have observed that when Indian men date out, they tend to prefer non ww. Of course, you’re never gonna see that highlighted in a media that pushes that a yt partner is everyone’s dream. :/

  • Zettai

    LIES made up for clicks and controversy! Got to #4 before I called it quits on this. Let me guess, there’s a “I bet you’re so wild in bed” one in here too, right? EYE ROLL!

    • lulubear

      lol no but “i have a thing for black girls”

      • Zettai

        Shame!

  • nero

    You guys are obsessed with white men. You talk about them like they are new species from space. Something tells me, many of y’all have never actually spoken to a white man before. Even Asian women are not this obsessed.

    • sasha

      yeah seriously. it’s not that complicated. also, esp if you are a girl, just go on a date and let the dude take the lead. i’ve dated my share of yt guys, given that i live in boston (SMH), so i can say from experience that a man is a man.

    • enlightenment

      Seriously. Who gives a flying rats a** about white men? I don’t see black women being covered this much on white sites…come on now!!!

      • guest

        “covered this much”?

        Black women aren’t discussed AT ALL on white men’s sites! That’s what is so disturbing about this obsession. It isn’t reciprocal.

        • Sasha

          What about the black men who go out of their way to make it known they like that white catfish . In youtube vids and on websites you guys going extra hard and its rarely reciprocated kim k does not equate to all white women. Just saying….

          • YungAmbition

            Go date your white boys black men are not missing you, you are bitter which is why youare on this bpBlack mans head about”Why do you black men date out”

            • Sasha

              I date white men not boys and why did u feel the need to come at me. I didnt say anything about u making a comment about all ur non black females friends. Because I dont care about black men and who they date they are not my priority but u worried about what I have to say tragedy! I addressed him because he acts like white wome. Flock to be with brothers or talk about brothers. These chicks run to africa and jamaica to use you guys as fetishes… wanna try that mythical big black snake.. that is all

              • YungAmbition

                I am born n raised in L.A. right on Figueroa St. which is a hoe stroll, its mainly black prostitutes and their white male tricks, if white men genuinely loved bw, you all would be married at a mich higher rate. I love black women and thats all I have dated and want to marry. I have not developed self hate, and a dislike for my own race like you have

                • Sasha

                  Well I personally dont consider it self hate because black men are not of me. What do you mean you ask? Well black men on a personally level have always disappointed me since birth. I have tried to date brothers and I can not connect to this mentality of wanna be players and hip hop and imma be a rapper… black men have always been crass and disrespectful in their approach to persue me. They think as though I should automatically want them which irritates me more. Some in turn when they see I have no interest will try to use me as a bridge to talk to my non black girlfriends. Black men of today are pure trash as I see it when they do date within their own race they act as if they are doing the sista a favor like please keep it moving… unfortunately I have not had good experience with my quote on quote own kind. I do respect the older generation of black men because they have morals and respect when addressing black women but these new negros can kick bricks. I dont care nor have time for them! Since im not a dude its not self hate its personal experience hate..

                • Sasha

                  Oh and hunny at least they are marrying sistas and not living with them for 30 something yr before they leave to the next victim. Putting nothing but kids in her and leaving her single and unwed. You can love black women good for u. But this black girl is tired if disrespectful black men. I give an example of why im fed up with these new age negros. Last week I was in Manhattan and walked by these panhandeling boys trying to hand out their cd. They shove it in my hand and then as im walking they ask for a donation I politely say I have no money and hand it back to them. (I did but unknowns dont get my funds) so these negros go off and say dont bring ur arse to Ny if you aint got money. Now when the white girl b4 me declined they made no spectacle about it. But when I said no we have to get loud and try to embarrass the sista. See thats one example why im tired of black men. I have many others trust and believe.

                • Sasha

                  Oh an other thing ill date black men but he will most definitely not be a self absorbed african american male… Africans and island brothers may be a little dominating dominating but They take care of their children and family

                • Sasha

                  she did make me better thanks for noticing young man good for you. Now moving on because you bore me…

          • Laine

            What do black men have to do with this article..? Isn’t it about white men and black women? If you don’t like what black men do, why bring them up?

            • h

              Because she’s full of hate.

              • Sasha

                If you say so… lol I aint losing sleep over internet peoples opinions of me!

            • StansB4Real

              Because black males are in here talking trash and hating with their insecurities.. If they can dish it out then they can take it…

              • Laine

                How do you know the posters that are “against” this artcicle are black men? One in the beginning seemed to be a white men, and most are just other black women. I saw only one with a profile pic of a black man, who was talking like he was a black man. They could be black, but there’s absolutely no evidence. I for instance am a black woman, and also find this article kind of absurd…

            • Sasha

              Lets play both sides of the coin these dudes acting like only black women advocate for white men while all these non black women come to them. But yet they stay bumping they gums with these threads dedicated to non black women so if we gonna talk lets talk about it all.

          • guest

            Do you really believe it’s normal for BW sites to focus so obsessively on white men when WM sites devote ZERO attention to BW?

            • Sasha

              Actually I dont roam madamenoire like that. But tell me what sites besides those created by black men who focus so much on latinas and white women as their cover girls and rarely throw black women a bone. Black men coverage and adoration for us on a media scale is just as limited as site like fhm or whatever magazines u guys mention. Look in smooth mag U’ll have 37 pages of non black women and one with a token black girl just like FHM does. now do you have something to say about those? There are a couple of white men who love black women websites but they arent as popular as madamenoire so black women do get coverage from other races. Just not on a high scale as this! I dont own the site if u have a problem with it address the author/creators… black women aint getting adoration from home camp so I guess whoever made this thread is letting people know we looking elsewhere now!

        • enlightenment

          Yup you right. Not AT ALL. But look at how many comments interracial dating articles get tho….of course MN is gonna keep posting about white men. SMFH.

    • brittney

      Asian women are far more obsessed. The average black women doesn’t want a pink man

    • Ms.D19

      If Black women are obsessed-what are Black men since they outsource themselves at 2x’s the rate of Black women? Just wondering if the judgment is equally dispersed

      • stop it!

        Black women would marry out at a much higher rate than black men IF THEY COULD. But marriage requires TWO willing participants.

        • Ms.D19

          Maybe my world is a little more open b/c where I am from both sides date who they want. Your reply implies Black women are unwanted which has not been my experience. But my question remains-where is all this Black Love talk and judgment when Black men date outside? Just wondering…

          • stop it!

            In what part of the universe are WM eager to MARRY black women? Again, I’m talking about MARRIAGE, not casual s e x.

            • Ms.D19

              I live in California and know lots of interracial marriages with Black women. Now I will say a lot of the Black men here are slow to marry, especially to Black women. But its all based on experience. From some of your responses you seem to think its incredible that Black women could be found desirable by different types of men. I wonder why…

              • Sasha

                His mindset is why I stay away from black men ignorant!

    • Telena

      so I guess ALL Black women are obsessed because you read one article on a website? You’re an idiot.

  • T. T.

    What type of white men are you all dating? Now I will say I’ve only been out with 3 white guys I have never heard any of these things from any of them. If your white date says any of theses things especially about wanting hot sauce please politely correct them since they believe the hype. Now while I do love a dash of hot sauce here and there in certain dishes its rude for them to assume I do just because I’m black.

    • jack wrong

      this is the irony of this story,

      its a black woman stereotyping white people and what they would say to a black person.

      • really?

        Your stupid a$$ found this site also? Just go away!

        • Lost Soul

          IKR!

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          • BuckSnorts Rush

            It’s not about color, it’s about character.. All races intermingle peacefully with each other, except one… Robbery, assault, disease, drugs, violence, failure, and never taking responsibility??? NO ONE wants that.. But it’s what you blacks are all about….

            • Danielle Spears

              You couldn’t possibly be serious. If that’s the case who wants to mingle with serial killers and people who like to eat other people who hide the bodies in the basement freezer.

              • Jo Ca

                Overall rape statistic alone Blacks of Sub Saharan descent commits more
                than 75% of rape upon White of European descent women as compared to
                their population of 13% than hair hatted women of Sub Saharan Descent.

                • Beaugrand_RTMC

                  You’re probably not going to be dating black women much.

                  • waltonsimons

                    “You’re probably not going to be dating black women anybody much ever.”

                    Fixed that for you.

                    • Pat

                      You nailed it.

                  • FratRapistHomophobe2

                    He probably won’t even rape black women much (because he’s too disgustingly racist)

                  • Pat

                    Nor will he date white women…

                • flamestar

                  That’s racist.

                  • whymilikethis

                    That’s pure ugliness & I am not just speaking about the heart in this example.

                • james bryant

                  I would say that they are playing catch up wit all the rapes Europeans committed but that will be stooping down to your level. An seem to be just the type the ladies are talking about

                • jxsumrall

                  wow where do you this crap omg

                • L4cen41re

                  i find these facts extremely racists.
                  Next time at least have a decency to write a triggerz warning

                • Jiggahmy Ninja

                  At worst, you’re full of crap. Cite your stat so we don’t have to take your word for it.

                  At best, your “stat” is misleading. There are more than 40 million blacks in this country and 4230 were arrested for rape in 2013. That’s less than 0.01% of the black population or 0.0014% of the entire population.

                  So, if you want to condemn that hundredth of a percent, that’s fine. But don’t condemn the other 99.9.

                  • whymilikethis

                    LIke anyone at all, EVER, would take JoCa’s word for anything, even if he provided a site.

                • Nyemba M’membe

                  That’s a stupid lie!

                  • Pat

                    It is… This is what I answered to that guy : What the sexual assault stats show is that most come from men (men yes) that come from North-Africa (i.e muslim migrants) and certainly not Sub Saharan people (black people). From my own country crimes stats (from the government) black people have the exact same crime rate as local Swiss people. Where criminality comes from is : Eastern-Europe and North-Africa. Not from Black people.”

                • Fraga123

                  What does your black girlfriend think of you?

                • whymilikethis

                  You need to supply your FACTUAL link to these stats, Einstein.

                • Pat

                  No… What the sexual assault stats show is that most come from men (men yes) are from North-Africa (i.e muslim migrants) and certainly not Sub Sharan people (real black people). From my own country crimes stats (from the government) black people have the exact same crime rate as local Swiss people. Where we have criminality come from is : Eastern-Europe and North-Africa. Not from Black people. So stop believing in stereotypes or may be you are jealous some white women prefer other races…

                  • whymilikethis

                    White men commit most rapes. 52% of them.

              • DRATON

                That’s easy black women do.

              • whymilikethis

                And rape little boys and girls.

            • minni 22

              and you know white people brought the diseases to the rest of the world look at the history you people injected diseses one you realize you were becoming the minority you race hating fucker I hope god rid the world of people like you

              • Yureon

                We humbly thank you for HIV/AIDS and Ebola. Especially a few weeks back when you brought it to America.

                • Lydia

                  By replying to these foolish comments from a obvious racist with equally stupid replies, you are no better than him. I know your blood starts to boil reading this stupidity but it is better to reply with: damn it must be hard living with yourself every day.

                • emmavoberry

                  A few Ebola cases, which probably would never have “come here,” if the international community had nipped the epidemic in the bud where it was originally. As well, had American been better prepared, especially the DALLAS hospital, there would not have been any spread from the one Liberian national. Do remember American whites were a few of the very few cases rest of the few cases that “came here”.”YOU?” I don’t think there a lot of West Africans responding to these tips.
                  And I guess West Africans are giving America enterovirus, drug-resistant TB, MRSA, and the flu that is killing children across America–oh and West Africans are causing the super-bugs in our hospitals. Your comment is so lacking in sense or any grasp of fact that I can only advise that you better-educate yourself or stop trolling.

                  • whymilikethis

                    America would have come up with a treatment for Ebola except Africa doesn’t have any money and so, Africans just had to die. Just think if it weren’t for selfless scientist & virologist not to mention humanitarian, Jonas Salk, who never took ONE PENNY for his polio vaccine and thought it ABSURD to take money for it, claiming: “There is no patent. Could you patent the sun?”

                    When news of the vaccine’s success was made public on April 12, 1955, Salk was hailed as a “miracle worker” and the day almost became a national holiday. Around the world, an immediate rush to vaccinate began, with countries including Canada, Sweden, Denmark, Norway, West Germany, the Netherlands, Switzerland, and Belgium planning to begin polio immunization campaigns using Salk’s vaccine.
                    His sole focus had been to develop a safe and effective vaccine as rapidly as possible, with no interest in personal profit.
                    But, I digress, this is about stupid things white men say…

                • Beaugrand_RTMC

                  What an incredibly ignorant worldview. Sadly, not completely confined to rural American hicks.

                  • FratRapistHomophobe2

                    you would be surprised how many white people of all classes would rather not have anything to do with darkies

                    • whymilikethis

                      You’d not be surprised at all, I’m certain, how many people do not like you either, simply for the way you look.

                    • RapedByStephenFryNowaFAG

                      What a COMPLETELY disgusting comment by “whymilikethis” (I’m guessing you’re one of those brown people)

                    • whymilikethis

                      Just what is so COMPLETELY disgusting about my comment. What difference does my skin color make? You are fine with FratRapistHomophobe2’s comment but not mine? What’s the difference? Its OK for him to criticize but not me? Why? Be specific. Be intelligent while you are at it. I dare you to be intelligent.

                    • Dr. Stephen J. Krune III

                      Wow, your bigotry is incredible, and you DARE to ask what is disgusting about it? The answer is you’re a racist piece of s***, die in a fire you f***ing a**hole.

              • Malby

                Diseases travel both ways, or should I say ALL ways.

              • Paul Justis

                Wow,one of the ugliest statements ever posted.Please never refer to yourself as a Christian.God help you.It is sad to see 6 other lost souls agreed with you.And they say Whites are prejudice.Sad world.God help us all.No wonder we have racial problems with some of these horrific beliefs,from all sides.

          • Malby

            “People with which you can date”????

        • paris

          i found it too. weird article from some white guy who tried to date a black woman and let all his racist or sterotype krap fall out of him dumb mouth. most real men wouldnt do that especially if they really like you

      • Melissa

        She’s not stereotyping, she’s listing experiences that have happened to her, and saying she doesn’t like it when it happens. She never said all white men do those things, she’s just saying she dislikes it when it does…you’re exaggerating.

        • jack wrong

          all this things have happened to her? lol
          “annoying things white men say on dates”

          lets be real if i was to say “annoying things black girls say on dates”
          and started listing stereotypes of things black people say,
          it would come across as racists.

          lets call a spade a spade, its stereotyping white people.
          even tho 99 percent of white men on dates would not even say none of this stuff.

        • bobbie digital

          She is listing experiences that have happened to her? Well damn that’s a lot of bad experiences just for one person. i am calling B.S. on this and saying that she absolutely was stereotyping. pff!

          • Gumpchun

            As a white man who recently started dating a black woman, I read the list with trepidation thinking, “Oh man, I probably must have done some of these; I’m an idiot.”

            But frankly, I was relieved. I mean what kind of bozo would say any of this sort of stuff? Even I have more class than that. I feel vindicated. Plus, I got second, third, etc. dates, which is generally a good sign unless she pities you, in which case, fine, I’ll take that too.

            Surely the writer could have picked up that these guys were just lame in general before the date and never said yes. Or is this dating service residue?

            The only thing I took issue with is the Hot Sauce thing. If I am getting my gal takeout, I am going to ask her if she wants any of the condiments on offer, including the hot sauce. So long as I don’t say something like, “I know you want hot sauce” and just ask her if she wants any ketchup, mustard, relish, hot sauce … whatever, I don’t see a problem.

            I did once offer to get her “salt and pepper” and winked at her a bunch of times. She slapped me and that got us over that faux pas.

            • bobbie digital

              You sound like a lot of fun. 🙂 she is lucky.

            • Leonardo DaVinci Barnette

              Do you have a gay brother who might be into black men?! 😉 lol

              • FratRapistHomophobe2

                is that you armond white?

            • xl500james

              You do Realize that s Felony Assault one of the balcks Favorite Crimes

            • Lydia

              OMG I have made literally all these mistakes and more. When I met my partner, he came straight from Nigeria and I from a small town in Holland and maybe met 1 Mediterranean person in my life. Now I did not even know they made people this black.
              He however, never met a white person either, but knew they existed from tv 🙂 We met as international students in Wales of all places.
              I asked him if they have refrigerators in Africa or if they burry food in the ground to keep it cold (I once read they do this in some places :))
              Then when his sister asked if we could bring her a car seat I asked him if they did not have any in Nigeria
              I asked him if he thought all people were originally white since the soles of his feet and insides of his hands were almost white
              I asked him if his dad also married 7 women since this other Nigerian told me he had 24 brothers and sisters and when I started laughing he told me his dad had so I assumed all Nigerians did.
              I asked him if Nigeria already had indoor plumber after watching Hercules movie (indoor plumbing is gonna be big)
              I once told my son as a joke daddy used to live in a banana tree, like the monkeys after he told him I only had wooden shoes as a kid. So when we went to see my family in law and drove up to their palace he started crying cause he wanted to stay in a banana tree and my bf was so angry I told him this joke
              Then he made him cry by letting him assist in killing a goat, blood everywhere, he was scarred for life whilst all the other youngsters were laughing at him for being a cry baby (he was 3)
              And we are still going strong 10 years later. We discovered that I am a way better rapper, he is a way better cook (I don’t eat spices and all Nigerians say I need to learn otherwise our relationship won’t last:)). So it is not terrible to sometimes make mistakes, some people actually like it when you show interest without being sarcastic or evil about it. Unknowingly stupid or not 🙂

              • Capri59

                I hate interracial relationships because of all the compromises that one needs to make, and worst of all, to have to tolerate the ignorance and stereotypes. We Africans will try to be more accommodating than trying to put down others because they are different. But white people are often insensitive and make deliberate hurtful comments because they believe in racial superiority. Africans do not see whites as superior….they have poor eyesight, skin that burns easily, weak of body, poor skin, and ugly noses and mouths. Take it from me, I was born in Africa. If whites had not stolen Ancient Egyptian technologies and African wealth, including its people as slaves to work for them, they could have become extinct by now. Be grateful that the White wealth and premise for superiority was built for you by Africans. Only 5% Whites are rich…..the rest are poorly paid workers that live on credit cards, mortgages and loans, and welfare or food stamps. Africans are lucky to be on their ancestral lands, whether you call them poor or not. I live in Canada so I know the story on both sides of the Atlantic. I cannot wait to return to Africa.

                • BadNews

                  Well go back to Africa. You would the first. Most of them come over here

                • Paulette Paquette

                  Go quickly. I am in an “interracial relationship” and know (for a FACT) that whether or not a couple makes it has more to do with the quality of their character than the colour of their skin!

                • The Grinning Narcissist

                  >>I cannot wait to return to Africa.<<

                  I’ll help you pack…

                  • Capri59

                    Get a ticket and come. And you can buy me a one way ticket! Too many white people pretend to be rich and privileged but we now know that privilege belongs only to the 1%. Many of you 99% are jobless and on food stamps just like everyone else. And your economies are not getting any better. Do you work at Target, Mexx or the hundreds of retail stores that will soon close? You will one day follow me to Africa and work on my farm. A job is a job, isn’t it?

                    • The Grinning Narcissist

                      If I did, it wouldn’t be with you. Your original post that I responded to was so rife with misinformation that if it weren’t so laugh-out-loud ridiculous, it’d be pathetic. You sound like someone with the emotional scope and reasoning ability of a 14 yr. old.

                      “And you can buy me a one way ticket!”
                      There you’ve managed to sum up your entire problem – expecting others to fund your way in the world.

                    • Capri59

                      People to fund my way in the world? You do have the mind of a two year old if you have not read about the retail companies closing all over America. If I leave, I will be leaving all those that are funding many of you.

                    • The Grinning Narcissist

                      Your replies are completely incomprehensible…

                      Aren’t you running late for your flight?

                    • Coco Love

                      ahhhhhaaah lol

                • mofo

                  “At some future period, not very distant as measured by centuries, the civilised races of man will almost certainly exterminate and replace throughout the world the savage races. At the same time the anthropomorphous apes, as Professor Schaaffhausen has remarked, will no doubt be exterminated. The break [between humans and non-humans] will then be rendered wider, for it will intervene between man in a more civilised state, as we may hope, than the Caucasian, and some ape as low as a baboon, instead of as at present between the negro or Australian [aboriginal] and the gorilla.”

                  • Coco Love

                    you must be feeling great after writting this …good for you love

                    • whymilikethis

                      I HOPE I share more DNA with a baboon or a gorilla than I do with any white, racist, middle-school drop-out nose-pickin’ knuckledragger like the Grinning Narcissist. Baboons & gorillas are far more civilzed and I’d date either one of them before I’d date a FratRapistHomophobe2 or a JoCa.

              • Nyemba M’membe

                That man loves you…I would not cope…I get stupid questions from my partner but yours are gold and I am not being rude or anything but…a banana tree!!! lol

              • whymilikethis

                That was delightful 🙂

            • Lydia

              He however, makes the same mistakes.
              He gets annoyed when I sit in the sun during summer, saying he does not want me to loose my white skin (I do).
              He makes fun of me in front of his friends saying I don’t like anything but salt and pepper on my food. It is true, but he does not have to mention it, cause they all laugh at me all the time when he says this
              He not only taught my son I wore wooden shoes as a kid but also said: Look mama’s house, when we were walking through the red light district (it is a normal street in Amsterdam and nothing sordid during the day time). So now whenever he sees red lights he says: mama its your house
              He once claimed there are no gay people in Nigeria and told me he could never be gay ‘ cause how could you live your whole live without sex’. Lol, I really liked breaking this to him.
              So really, black men make lots of mistakes as well.

              • Nyemba M’membe

                mmm but in your particular case you had the most pathetic ones to be fair

            • BadNews

              Actually you lie, liberal. You are dating a gay black man

              • Graham D

                why do people try and use ‘liberal’ as an insult? It’s far better than being an idiot Repubikunt, bending over for the bankers and oil barons

                • BadNews

                  Because according to the Nov 4th elections you have been rejected by America. You bend over to your gay boyfriend, so whats the difference, parasite

                  • Graham D

                    Had to introduce homophobia, didn’t you. I already used that same metaphor, only more intelligently. That is the difference. Prepare yourself for greater poverty my dear mug

                    • BadNews

                      You think of yourself as intelligent, huh? A 2 year degree in liberal arts eh? Go pound sand little man.

                    • BadNews

                      Enjoy your Starbucks job and free coffee

                • The Grinning Narcissist

                  Far better than being bent over by anarchists, economic leeches and America-hating fascists.

                  • Graham D

                    You are not making an argument

                    • The Grinning Narcissist

                      Then, neither are you.

            • pogo13

              I agree. This article was click bait and nothing more. I looked at three stupid examples and quit.

            • Michelle

              BEAUTIFULLY SAID…. GOOD TO HEAR SOME POSITIVITY AND REALISM…..

          • Oops

            Racist beyatch she is.

          • Beaugrand_RTMC

            I suspect you aren’t going to be dating black women any time in this lifetime. That makes your opinion useless.

            • bobbie digital

              My family is black & puerto rican. And opinions can change based on experiences you assuming moron. Kick rocks troll and instigate a fight somewhere else.

        • Daniel Brock

          If a white person wrote anything like this about black people, it would be stereotyping. She is stereotyping and you are a damn hypocrite. You are both racist.

          • Cardio32

            Black don’t think those awful stereotypes of white people or any culture.

            • Guest

              LOL. Blacks are some of the most racist folks around.

              • Oops

                Yassa!!

            • Daniel Brock

              Lol Blacks are some of the most racist folks around. This article is a good example of blatant racism and stereotyping

              • Cardio32

                Well most white people say these things. The white people that never interact with black people and then they meet and go on a date with a black person and they put their whole damn foot in their mouth. Not all, but the one’s that are socially enept

                • DRATON

                  So why wouldn’t a black person know that before dating that person? what is wrong with the black person?

              • Rael Marie

                you are delusional! define the term “racist” then come back with your crap. Because of white hate, blacks had to learn to look out for each other in America, but when we do, our we say things about white people that are historically true, we are racist. You dont know whats it like my friend, you do not know….

                • Daniel Brock

                  LOL Thank you for making my point. When we point out that all of the most dangerous neighborhoods in the country are predominantly black, we are called racist. When we point out the percentage of black children without fathers, we are called racist. When we point out that the reason that a huge percentage of blacks are either in prison or have been in prison is because they are criminals and have committed crimes, we are called racist. When we point out that when a large number of blacks move to an area that was previously predominantly white, crime rates go way up and property values plummet.

                  Yes, because of black hate, when we say things about black people that are completely true, we are called racist. Perhaps black people, as a whole, should learn how to behave and learn something about traditional morals and values. Maybe it would help black people if they would learn that they are not victims and are solely responsible for their own lot in life.

                  Thank you for making my point. When you realize that you are not a victim, you might achieve something in life.

                  Be well.

                  • niknar

                    It is more complex than that. It has more to do with economic status. If you compare black & white people with similar economic status in the same mixed race middle class neighborhood, then these racial discrepancies you mention tend to disappear.

                    Cardio is making an observation that is largely true — something he has experienced himself — about social relationships between races that coincides with what the author has also experienced. It’s not a racist position as they are not demeaning whites as much as they are trying to point out how they feel or perceive rather awkward behavior by some relatively ignorant white guys that are trying a little too hard. It’s actually just friendly advice that you can choose to take or not. I think they realize this is just part of the learning/socializing process we all go through, & they’re just helping us try to avoid some of the pitfalls & have a more successful experience on the date.

                    This is a delicate time in our history, & I advise people to put themselves in the place of others, & how you would feel in their position, & start being kinder & more thoughtful towards your fellow man & woman. Not so much you, but some of the other comments here (& many other places) have been really hateful! Stereotyping, disparaging & demonizing each other does none of us any good.

                    • xl500james

                      Bull Shirt Ky, Tn,WVa. , are Relatively Calm Peaceful and Violent Crime FREE Compared to ANY Detroit, Chicago, Atlanta, L A, or ST :LOUIS, or ANY BLACK Neighborhood for that Matter in ANY City BIG or Small . Its Culture and Intelligence and Civilized Genetics and they dont have Any in any Way Shape or Form !!!

                    • niknar

                      Whatever you say…

                      I have made this observation though that in about a year or so of reading blogs & various comments on these blogs, I have noticed that the comments by black folk have, on average, been a lot more thoughtful, reasonable, insightful, friendly & courteous than comments by white folk. Some comments by whites have been so hateful, insensitive & demeaning to blacks, it makes feel so sad & angry. It’s so hard to believe in this day & age, & so alien to my own upbringing & environment.

                    • Lydia

                      On the other hand I often come as a white girl with my partner in a all black environment and I find the women very aggressive. I have no idea why. OK in Nigeria they think I have stolen one of the rich ones and there are not so many compared to the not so rich ones so they don’t like me for that.
                      But in the UK no one knows his last name and still the girls are very aggressive. one time they did not even let me into the toilets at a club just because they were in a group and thought it was ‘fun to tease the white girl’. Now I would never act like that to a black girl who was obviously standing on her own and feeling alone. I would talk to her or something but would make her feel welcome.

                    • niknar

                      It is true that members of many cliques, particularly racial or ethnic (but it doesn’t really matter which race or ethnicity), will often target a lonely member outside their group & tease, torment or bully that person. On the other hand, there are those, who will welcome a person from outside their group & try to make them feel at home. It depends on the individuals & the group dynamics. The first breeds resentment & hate, & the second fosters understanding, acceptance & friendship — something for everybody to be mindful of.

                      As for jealousy, it can be toxic, so it’s good to avoid jealous people & a situation that feeds jealousy if you can.

                    • disqus_sBKZDGKiG8

                      It is simple. They hate you.

                      Think. How many of the black males in the all black environment are with black women who are darker than themselves. How many are with white women?

                      Then, think about black men in movies, TV, and ads, and in real life (eg. Tiger Woods, Koffi Annan, most rich black men). What is the complexion of the skin of their wives? The only example of a high value black man with options who has a darker wife I can think of is our current president. And, he is a lying politician, the whole story of his life a lie.

                      Your boyfriend wants you to keep out the of the sun. He doesn’t want a dark woman. He is serious about that.

                      Makes you think, huh? He, and the black girls, see you as a white skin object. In his case, one of desire, in their case, one of hatred.

                      By any objective standard, black men despise blackness in their women.

                      Think about that the next time you are complimenting yourself for your liberal behavior and celebrating how you, unlike so many others have risen about prejudice. Among the so many others will be your boyfriend and most of his black friends, male and female.

                      BTW, this article is amazingly racist. Imagine if this were written about the dumb things black men say on dates with white women. It would be banned from colleges, the school newspaper would be suspended if they reprinted it, and the justice department would look into the situation. Black students would march in protest. Al Sharpton would get involved.

                  • Beaugrand_RTMC

                    You will never in this lifetime date a black woman, so your opinion is pointless and useless. But you already knew that, right?

                  • Capri59

                    The white society makes sure that qualified Black professionals cannot get employment to support their families. Consequences? Family breakups! The Prison system runs for profit and Black boys are targeted on purpose for eugenics purposes, not because they are worse than the white ones. The white system here in Canada can provide 3 lawyers for a juvenile, but not one job to the parent. When parents lose jobs and cannot support their families, marriages break, children are traumatized and become criminals or drugs addicts. Many white youths are drug addicts living in government-funded shelters. Hard economics times are coming and white families will soon taste what Black families have lived with for years…..poverty, police brutality, harassment and loss of human dignity. Blacks in the Americans have learned and react based on this unequal system. They cannot get a fair distribution of jobs, access to wealth and opportunities so in their anger, they grab what they can. I watch white people leaving their high paying government jobs to their cars, going to nice homes, and my many certificates are gathering dust in my closet!!!!! Where is justice in this world??? Many people that have interviewed me barely had any qualifications except being white. If you live in an insecure world, it is because of the way the system runs in favor of a few and against many. Black people do not run employment agencies, banks, etc all major employers shut out Black people so that our children can grow in poverty and crime. It is by design. Blame the victims……I blame those that keep all jobs for whites and deny Black people opportunities, except tokenism……..to keep one or two people as examples of “diversity”. With inequality comes insecurity…..always watching out for someone that wants what you have because they have nothing.

                  • Paul Justis

                    Very well said.

                  • KM

                    Typical lying white.

                    • Daniel Brock

                      Facts speak for themselves. You libs seem to have trouble with the facts

                  • whymilikethis

                    You are worried that Blacks or PoC are as racist as white/caucasian? The big difference is you aren’t beaten to death or hung, burned alive or drug behind a truck when YOU are mouthing your racism.

                    • Daniel Brock

                      Actually quite a few white folks have been burned to death by black folks. The rate of murders committed by blacks is extremely higher than that by whites. Blacks tend to be a dangerous race. Don’t like it? Ask the blacks to change their ways. I am not racist. I believe the facts. You liberals tend to have a major problem with facts

                    • whymilikethis

                      ‘Quite a few white folks have been burned to death by black folks’… You mean by genocide? You do know what that big word means, amirite? Blacks are the more dangerous race? You have GOT to be joking!? I am only familiar with America since this is where I have spent my entire life. I have lived with every race on the planet, am friends with every known race on the planet and hands DOWN, the most dangerous people in America and probably the entire world are white, Christian men. Look at the majority of nut case serial murderers. The white RELIGIOUS pedophiles. The cannibalistic, pedophilia serial killers. The majority of rapists are white (look it up). From as far back in history as Christianity goes right up to the present. Most recently, 333,000 Japanese killed and 473,000 wounded in Nagasaki. At least 6,000,000 Jews wiped out, including the mentally ill, Gypsies and people with physical disabilities.The Indigenous people killed by genocide and diseases brought here by the colonies? MILLIONS. Want more proof?

                      German Peasants’ War – A series of peasant revolts during the height of the Protestant Reformation, spurred on by a mix of economic and religious causes. 100k deaths for Christianity (white).

                      Northern Crusades – Crusades to root out the Baltic pagans. Couldn’t find any good casualty estimates, but 150k deaths for Christianity seems reasonable. (white)

                      Lord’s Resistance Army – Christian militants in Central Africa. Remember Kony 2012? 200k deaths for Christianity. (Mostly black).

                      Albigensian Crusade – France leads a crusade to root Cathar heretics out of the Languedoc. Estimates vary wildly from 7k to 1mil, but let’s just say 200k deaths for Christianity.(white)

                      Great Turkish War – A “Holy League” of Christian states rolls back the Ottoman Empire’s conquests in Eastern Europe. 300k deaths for Christianity. (white)

                      The Crusades – All of Christendom spends a few centuries banging it’s head against a Holy Land-shaped wall. 1mil deaths for Christianity.(white)

                      So far, Christianity’s crusading habit is definitely a big source of ‘casualties’ not to mention the death of billions.

                      French Wars of Religion – The French Protestants and Catholics spend 36 years massacring each other silly. 3mil deaths for Christianity.

                      Thirty Years’ War – Protestant and Catholic princes duke it out for control of the Holy Roman Empire (modern Germany). War is waged between mercenary companies that loot the countryside to support themselves. One third of Germany dies. 10mil deaths for Christianity.

                      So, what was it again you were saying about the scary, scary blacks?

                • Matt Smith

                  Just remember, Democrats owned the slaves that blacks in Africa sold to them. As long as you are saying things that are “historically true”, chew on that while your half-white president takes orders from Pelosi and Reid.
                  And you think giving illegal immigrants work visas is good for America? If you’re one of the 24% of unemployed people?
                  Fool.

                  • Lydia

                    a lot of Africans sold their own to the white. I am not saying what the white people did is right but they sold themselves out as well. Again, I strongly object to what happened and the white were of ourse to blame.

                  • Beaugrand_RTMC

                    Yes, that may have been true when all Democrats were Conservatives, and all Republicans were Progressives, or Liberals. But there isn’t a Liberal or even a Moderate Republican left, the new reality is that the racists and the fascists have been drawn to the Republican Tea Party like flies to excrement, and if the Koch Brothers and the rest of the 1% that own government really don’t want undocumented immigrants to have work visas, they won’t get them. You have far more in common with the homeless and the undocumented than the 1%- that makes YOU the fool.

                    • TeaRunner

                      Thank you for your entry in, “The stupidest person I’ve seen on the internet this week.” It’s still early in this week’s contest but your chances at winning are really good.

                    • whymilikethis

                      Don’t sell yourself short, TeaRunner because clearly YOU have won this prestigious award, not Beaugrand RTMC.

                    • Matt Smith

                      So you’re saying the slave-owning Democrats woke up and became liberals who hated slavery (but lock blacks into Democrat-provided housing, Democrat-provided food programs, Democrat-provided transportation, and Democrat-provided schools).
                      And the Republicans, who killed the slave-owning Democrats during the Civil War, decided they made a mistake and became conservatives (on the Fractuous Day?) and that slavery was good and blacks were bad, and refused to treat blacks as a sub-class of society. Those bad old Republicans treated blacks as if they were just people, not needing any special quotas or privileges. While Obama was releasing crack dealers back into black neighborhoods, bad Republicans were fighting Democrats’ attempts to legalize pot. Democrats set up concentration camps in Detroit and South Chicago – which has proven to be a boon to the black communities.
                      Finally, those now-conservative, bad Republicans fought abortion, which killed 1/2 of the black babies that would have been born in New York. Their adherence to an ancient concept of “God” clearly interferes with beneficial Democratic programs such as these.
                      It’s funny-sad when I hear Democrats try to distance themselves from their tyrannical, slave-owning history, when they still practice it today. A Democrat can’t stand for people in other states to not live/think/vote the way they do. They have to have the control.

                    • Beaugrand_RTMC

                      No you simpleton it didn’t happen overnight, it took decades, and the Republican party is still veering erratically toward the right-wing edge of sanity into shrieking madness, so it will gain yet more crazies and lose the saner members of the “Party of Stupid.”

                    • whymilikethis

                      Wow. Time for you to get back on the anti-psychotics, Matt.

                    • Matt Smith

                      Always funny to hear a liberal talk about the magical change from being a slave-owning Democrat in the 1800’s, to being the race-baiters of the 21st century. As a conservative, all you get is equal opportunity.
                      If “Tea Party-ism” is right-wing conservatism, with its focus on individualism and limited government, then moving further to the right leads to anarchy – certainly NOT the state control that is fascism. But a left-wing liberal is a Communist, and the resulting invasive state control is – you guessed it – fascism. Liberals can’t survive in a constitutionally-limited government – their economies (ie California, New York) collapse on themselves and people flee to economic freedom (ie Texas). Selective enforcement of laws, extra-legal “executive actions”, and an armed EPA are all hallmarks of fascism from… Democrats.
                      You rant about the Koch brothers – But your Nancy Pelosi, Harry Reid, and Barak Hussein are all multi-millionaires, owned by billionaires Warren Buffet and George Soros. When Barry gives up his $7 million Hawaii vacation to provide immunizations for poor kids – well, I might just vote Democrat that year. It will never happen.

                    • whymilikethis

                      This is not about politics. I guess you didn’t notice?

                • elviswiggle

                  Rael Marie, your comment is a typical pro-black anti-white racist comment where you try to justify black racist behavior with “being the victim”. That impresses me as coming from one who is a “spoiled American minority” who is used to receiving special double-standard black privileges in a society that likes to bash white males. I don’t buy the “white guilt” brainwashing routine that politically-correct society tries to place on white people. I don’t buy it because I know better through personal experience. Blacks (and other minorities) are guilty of everything they accuse white people of doing. I know this because I’ve seen and experienced this for many years. People do things on an individual level, not on a group level (as in a racial group). Whether one wants to believe it or not, they are individually responsible for their own actions. Your comment shows that you are thinking collectively as a racial group instead of independently as an individual, and that comes from the fact that you’ve been programmed to think collectively by the liberal, leftist, politically-correct (aka Cultural Marxist) system existing in the U.S. today. You’ve been manipulated to think the way you do (think collectively as a racial group). It is a lot easier to manipulate and control people (as in modify and control their behavior) when they are thinking collectively as a racial group than if they were thinking independently as an individual.

                  • whymilikethis

                    Oh, you poor, poor boo boo. Do you need us to call you a Waaaaaaahmbulance? Dear White Guy: No one is saying your life can’t be hard if you are white. BUT, its not hard because you are white.

                • Kris

                  “White hate”? Your an ignorant twit, no wonder race relations are in the toilet. Keep drinking whatever juice your on. No matter, it is your own undoing.

                  There is no such thing as “white people”, as “white”, was always a cultural term used by Anglo’s. Up until the 1960’s, German’s, Polish, Russian’s, Jew’s and Italians, for example, where largely considered “not white”, by Anglo’s.

                  Not only that, geneticists have proven, what we consider “race”, is really species, and ethnicity is really race. It turns out the “racist”, scientists of the early 1900’s, have been proven correct, in terms of the differences between variations of humans to a degree. Granted that doesn’t justify one variant of humans oppressing another, or seeking to cause the genocide of another type of human.

                  I am German American. German American’s kept to themselves largely, except on the issue of slavery. They where dead against(over 5,000 German American’s where lynched before, during and after the Civil War in the South for protesting against slavery).

                  Not only that, by law, German American’s where among the 1st/2nd, group of people to face discrimination because of their biology(race) in America. Also among the first people to have bricks thrown through their windows and other “lovely” treatment. Why do you think there is German named towns, out in the middle of nowhere all over the country?

                  A Caucasian/Caucasoid is “racist”, if they don’t hand over everything they have, including their son’s and daughters. When everything is said and done, if it was that bad, African American’s would be re-settling in Africa.

                  Heck, with all the anti-Deutsch garbage I personally dealt with, + blatant racism from blacks and POC, if Europe was a de-populated and had as much open land as Africa does, I would be gone yesterday.

                  Then again, I would wager good money, that if people like me did do such a thing, people like you would be screaming racism as you followed after, and demanding “reparations” for depriving you of resources because a light skinned person dared to go a form their own communities while shutting you out from the end result of light skinned peoples labor.

                  P.S

                  Racism is a made up word, created by communists to attack Caucasian Christians, to subvert Caucasian Christian nations, as they withstood communism. Peoples have an inherent right to exist. The reason the other variants of humans look down on blacks, is because blacks:

                  Expect other humans to treat them better then blacks treat their own kind, better than black treat other kinds of humans and better than other kinds of humans treat their own/each other.

                  The reason people like you can continue in ignorance, is because the mainstream media, goes to great lengths to cover up the sheer terrifying multitude of black vs every hate crimes that are occurring globally.

                  • disqus_sBKZDGKiG8

                    I suggest you read about what happened to “white” people in Haiti in 1802.

              • Kris

                It is open advocacy for violating the UN Convention on the Prevention of Genocide.

              • ree

                I have to agree.

            • Lydia

              Yes they do. Maybe not black who are raised in originally white countries cause they are used to both, but ‘real’ Africans have some serious stereotypes as well.
              I went there and they though I did not want to speak to them cause I would think I was better, since I am white
              They actually all asked if they could touch my hair and stoked it for 10 minutes cause it was like silk
              They asked me if we could send them snow cause they never had it over there
              They think we are all rich, since every white person in Africa apparently is rich

          • niknar

            I disagree. We keep on seeing tips about what guys in general shouldn’t do when on a date with women (or vice versa), or in bed, or what have you. This is simply another article that’s a little more specific, giving tips to white guys who are interested in dating black women. I was curious, that’s why I read it. I think it’s helpful, & it should be taken in that light.

            I was trying to consider how it would be the other way around, & I find it difficult conceiving of it, simply because these kinds of issues don’t seem to be as applicable. I guess the reason why is because the issues expressed in this article are ones that the white guy might have due to curiosity, ignorance or just trying to fit in, & that would be mostly due to lack of familiarity with black culture. Being that white culture is the dominant one over most of the US, the black date is not likely to be so ignorant & prone to such awkward statements or questions, although I suppose it could happen in black enclaves of society where white guys rarely set foot. But then I’m not sure what those awkward statements would be. It’d be interesting to find out.

            It’s a part of getting to know people of a different culture, & people make missteps & say ill-chosen words in the process. But it’s better than just staying separate & never getting to know how other people live & think (which usually turns out to be a lot more like you than you might expect).

          • Beaugrand_RTMC

            Since you aren’t going to be dating a black woman any time this, or any other century, your opinion is pointless.

          • DRATON

            Just stop dating white men what’s so hard about that?

          • DRATON

            She is not stereotyping she is talking about the things that have happenend to her while dating white men.

        • Stereotyping: “making a broad generalization about a large group of people based on information/experience from a very small segment of that group”

          Care to revise your post?

      • yoda

        You need to take your racist a$$ back to B0SSIP

        • Lilacbenson

          Stat.

        • jack wrong

          yes, because what i said is racists.

          the world racists, like the N word…
          have lost all meaning thats to idiots like you that use it daily.

    • loveablefelder

      First off, you have to be the lowest type of black women to date a white man. I’m black and I would NEVER, date, marry or have kids by a white man. You black women who date and marry white men are at the BOTTOM of the barrel. I wish I would, you got me twisted. I DON’T condone interracial dating and I will NEVER date interracial. SICK BASTIDS!!!! I’M BLACK, MY HUSBAND WILL BE BLACK, AND OUR KIDS WILL BE BLACK. I WISH I WOULD BRING A WHITE MAN HOME..

      • jack wrong

        rest assure, not white person would even look at your twice.

        • loveablefelder

          Lml, I really don’t care. I’m not checking for a white person, so I don’t care. I’m NOT checking for you, so KYS!!!!!!

          • jack wrong

            then why would you be here reading this stuff, or even take your time to write all of that?

            you come across as a bitter ho3,
            go enjoy your black men rather then caring about black woman wanting white men.

            • James

              WTF are you doing here you fuckin agent?!

          • anonymouse

            Check out the Black people who are upvoting this known racist’s post.

            I’m not sure if most Black people are brainwashed or just the ones that come on this site.

          • Jean Grey

            I don’t think anyone at all would look at you. Ignorance in general is no attractive.

        • really?

          we don’t care b!tch!

      • enlightenment

        Lmao. Why are you so mad?

        • loveablefelder

          I’M “MAD”??? “MAD” about what exactly? Dating a white man? Please whatever. You can have those wet dog smelling idiots! !! You mad about MY opinion or no????

          • jloveee

            You seem mad to me.I still like white men.Even AFTER the racist stuff you wrote.So your mission was a fail.

          • Jean grey

            It’s comments and beliefs like this that holds humanity back. It’s one thing to not like how a particular group of people look, that is of course your preference. It is a entirely different story to start insulting them and degrading them because of it, that is just a universal wrong.

          • Lydia

            OK seriously? so you are one of the black angry woman who was beaten by her mother as child. If you want ot generalize than I can say from a lot of experience all black woman beat their kids so I assume yours did as well.
            This experience made you think abusive behaviour is accepted in society, both verbal and physical. Which is just sad and send you in a downward cycle and will keep you always as a person with no good chance of successfully living in a world where 99% of the rich are white. you will probably give this type of behaviour to your children as well and probably allow your husband to beat you up since you are all in favour of physical and verbal abuse, rotting the next generation with your stupidity. it is not often I opt for sterilisation but I think I opt in this case. You are just mean

        • Lilacbenson

          Very much so :).

      • Music

        What is wrong with you?!!! There has to be a deep issue here. It’s one thing to express a dislike for something, but you just went too far by insulting.

        • Music

          Deeper*

        • loveablefelder

          Hahahaha, you’re sadly mistaken and stop assuming. Real LOVE= BLACK LOVE. You’re mad or no? I really DON’T care! !!

          • alasia min

            Wow racist much

      • CK. ®

        “I’M BLACK, MY HUSBAND WILL BE BLACK” right there and then.. I knew this chick was single or NOT married lol Don’t make it so obvious for people to stereotype you just by the way you express yourself.. that’s just sad.

        • loveablefelder

          What??? I’M 23 YRS OLD IN COLLEGE, SO HOW I’M BEING STEREOTYPED??? YOU SOUND STUPID AND DUMB.. AND THAT’S JUST SAD AND DUMB!!!

          • CK. ®

            loI I only came to the conclusion you were unmarried.. and guess what I was right! Girl chill! I ain’t the enemy here!

            Word of advice: Kill them with kindness & class! The words you use are only making YOU look bad. Not so attractive for a young professional.

            *and you definitively don’t want to play the education/school card with me! lol signed – MSc.

            • James

              So being unmarried is some type of scarlet letter? How so? Is her opinion any less relevant because she’s single? WTF are you talking about my dude?

              • CK. ®

                everyone is entitled to an opinion. I only condoned the way she poorly choose to express herself.. why voice an opinion while insulting others is the question.

              • Guestest

                I know right,, Smh

          • speaksthetruth

            Before you get all hot, just listen! It’s not only white men you can date, you are tying yourself to a pole for no reason. What about Asian, middle Eastern, Nigerian, West African, (yes I know these men are black, but their culture is different) Spain, Italian etc. There are all type of people out there. saying you’ll only date one at 23 sounds stupid. It’s like saying I like chocolate cake and will have nothing else. And were are out here looking at you like “did anyone tell her how good lasagna is?”

        • Ms.D19

          I said the same thing-operative word “will be”. This person claims to be in college-but these responses sound a little remedial. And if in fact she is and only 23, she has a lot of learning and living to do before she knows what’s out there be he Black or White.

          • CK. ®

            the difference between having an education and being well-educated my friend.

        • Lilacbenson

          Lmao with their imaginary future husbands ” “. Rotflk

        • Guestest

          What is so bad about being single or not married? Stop generalizing single women because i am single and i am not bitter nor do i care about who black women or black men are dating..

      • racism sucks

        Oh shut up b!tch!

        • loveablefelder

          Kis and smd!!!!

      • Sasha

        Why u worried about who ither black women choose to be with? You on puzzi patrol lezzie? Let them sistas date whoever while ur arse date whoever. Now I could be ignorant as you and say goodluck waiting on a black man to take your ignorant arse he may tap it but I doubt he’ll wife it and u’ll just be another statistic to that 72% of unwed single black mothers

        • really?

          STFU.

          • Sasha

            Lol why u mad cause im talking realness….

            • really?

              Not mad, but you’re the one who got all in her feelings about the OP’s comment. It’s just stupid…..that’s like me saying, ‘girl, go and marry a white man and your ignorant arse might make it on the nancy grace show for coming up missing!’, That’s what white guys do, right? smh

            • loveablefelder

              You’re mad because I was speaking that real and you couldn’t take it, sydad!!!

        • guest

          You sound brainwashed as f*ck! Black women like you who put white men on a pedestal while bashing black men are the reason people look at swirlers as whitewashed coons.

          • Sasha

            Actually no where in my statement did I put white men on a pedestal. You sound like a crab in the barrel along with loveablefelder ratchet arse… she wanted to get ignorant so I addressed her on her level yet I dont see u going after her.. sorry that statistically speaking majority of black women end up single mothers and guess what their kids resemble full black looking children. So its safe to say white & latin men aint leaving us in droves like that now is it?

            • loveablefelder

              You still mad?? Bastid, ratchet hoodrat..

          • jloveee

            When people start talking “realness” or bring up the fact that most black women are unmarried and single mothers then they are c00s huh lol

        • loveablefelder

          Stfu DIRTY BYTCH! !!

          • Sasha

            Go clean that yeast infection puzzi lezzie

            • loveablefelder

              Ya muva, $mut!!!

              • Sasha

                Lol what college u in college of crayon with your slow arse

      • Kristen

        You are just one, small-minded individual in this world of 7 billion people. We’ll make sure to call you when we give a $h!+.

        • SunFlower78

          Right, lol!

        • loveablefelder

          Get a life and why are you mad? Go sit in a corner, because your opinion is NOT needed. Wake me up when I start to care. .. KYS!!!!!

          • Kristen

            Who says I’m mad? I thought I made it clear that the world doesn’t care about your views that wasn’t even backed up by logic. Lol no need to ATTEMPT to spin anything around! The more you talk the more you prove yourself to be a fool. Like I said, there are 7 billion people in this world, and I can guarantee you that the overwhelming majority don’t run any of their life choices by you first. But we’ll let you know when we start!

            • loveablefelder

              You’re the one who’s a fool now go seat in a corner. Who told you to comment back? Hush up until I say so, troll!!

      • anonymouse

        I don’t know about all of that, lol, but I do think that only low types esteem other races above their own. That being said….white men = ew for me.

        • guest

          Then there are MANY “low types” on this site, because BW here regularly put white men above the men of their own race.

          • anonymouse

            I don’t get it myself. Does the white man’s skin magically makes him not cheat, be a good husband, and financially responsible? Funny thing is, white women don’t share that sentiment. They’re always having problems or complaining about their men.

            • guest

              EXACTLY!!! White women don’t view their men as magical unicorns because they know better. They grew up watching their fathers mistreat their moms. They watched their brothers mistreat their girlfriends and wive They are not under some illusion.

              Black women on the other hand grew up watching movies and television shows where the handsome prince and dashing hero was ALWAYS a white man.

              It’s called brainwashing.

              • Lisa547

                It’s called personal experience. I am mixed race. My family is half black men and half white men.

                Guess who cheated more and who provided the higher standard of living?

              • Gumpchun

                Frankly, as a white man, I am counting on that brainwashing to get me a second date. Then I can be the real me: a boho with a big heart and barely two nickles to rub together. Hopefully by them my charm will be working.

              • Yureon

                What else were they going to do?…all the black dads were in prison or didn’t even know what a black father was.

          • Lisa547

            And? Your point is?

        • jloveee

          Black men =ewww for me.

          • anonymouse

            That’s your problem

            • jloveee

              No not a problem at all.I just avoid dating them since they don’t usually turn me on or have goals In life.

              • anonymouse

                If that’s how you feel. I just think that it’s something wrong with a person who exclusively dates out of their own race and badtalks the people in it.

                You mean to tell me there’s not 1 man in all of universe that’s your own race and is dating and marriage material? I don’t believe that.

                • jloveee

                  I don’t exclusively date out my race. I was just being rude as you and all other black people who prefer to date other black people are.I just don’t prefer a race.I date who Im attracted to.

                  • anonymouse

                    How was I rude? And what’s wrong with Black people who prefer to date other Black people?

      • lanford

        You husband will be black…since when do black men marry?

        • THE COLONIZED MIND.

          While only 32% of black men are married, just 44% of white men are. Considering all of the institutional advantages they have from better jobs to a much easier time securing bank loans, shouldn’t that number be significantly higher?

          But please go back to sh!tt!ng on the men of your own race. I’m sure that will help us collectively in the long run. smh.

          • 9Boots

            Here you go with your misleading statistic. While presently 44% of white men are married and 32% of black men are married, you FAIL to realize that 48.4% of BM have never been married as opposed to 27% of white men. Not only are white men twice as likely to get married than black men, they are also more likely to get married a second and third time should they divorce. Please show me another race of men in the U.S. that has a 48.4% NEVER married rate. I’ll wait.

            • h

              Some brother hurt you real bad and you never got over it. Sorry.

              • guest

                That response is wack and a cop out!
                She’s kicking cold hard fact and you have no answer so you come up with the traditional ‘you musta been hurt ‘line! Weak! !

                • h

                  Statistics that are stated without a view of underlying institutional causes and environmentsl factors are empty. According to the FBI, a black mother is many times more likely to kill her child than a white mother is. What isn’t mentioned is how chronic depression, drug addiction and sëxual abuse suffered as a child have caused many african american women to do things that are entirely outside of their character.

                  Quoting statistics without regard for institutional and environmental factors is intellectually dishonest.

                  • 9Boots

                    Who gives a damn about the “why”? Bottom line is black men’s behavior is unacceptable and black women do not exist to be your punching bags. Go punch yourselves instead.

              • 9Boots

                Still waiting……………………….

                • h

                  Waiting for what exactly? Should more brothers get married. Of course. Would that be ideal for the stability of black families and the heath of the black community? Most definitely. But your habit of quoting statistics devoid of any consideration for societal. environmental and historical factors is intellectually dishonest. I’ve read your comments on other sites and disagree with most of your opinions but you are clearly extremely intelligent. I can’t deny that. But some of your positions are so harsh that it is impossible not to see you as someone who wants to see us vanish completely. Regardless of how you feel about black men, there is a connection that can’t be broken by animosity or distance.

                  I appologize for the cheap personal shot. It was completely uncalled for and did nothing but make me look like an a-hole. Sometimes when we are angry we say things we shouldn’t. That’s no excuse but it’s the truth.

                  Collectively, brothers are in bad shape. I don’t dispute that. Many of us have given up entirely because we feel our situation is hopeless. It doesn’t require great courage to attack us.

                  • 9Boots

                    “Your habit of quoting statistics devoid of any consideration for societal. environmental and historical factors is intellectually dishonest.”

                    Facts are facts. No one is holding a gun to black mens’ heads forcing them to treat black women in this manner. Take responsibility for your behavior and repent. Stop harassing black women on websites, the media, and in the streets. Go somewhere and learn how to appreciate black women. Nevertheless the shipped has sailed. Many black women have spiritually, mentally, physically, and financially detached from black men and are not looking back. You will have to get used to it.

                    • 9 BOOTS IS A BED WENCH!

                      You sound f*cking crazy! Most black women know that you black man haters are nut jobs. NOBODY takes you lunatics seriously. The best thing you psychos can do for black men is go be some white man’s negro bed wench and stay the f*ck away from us. All that crazy sh!t you nuts talk hasn’t accomplished a f*cking thing. Still lonely, bitter, angry and MANLESS. Keep dreaming about massa and maybe your dream of being a modern day negro bed wench will come true.

                    • 9Boots

                      You mad bruh? Guess what? Your opinion is as relevant to me as a fly riding on a donkey’s a s s. Frankly, I don’t give a damn.

                    • h

                      I’m sorry you feel that way.

                  • niknar

                    “I appologize for the cheap personal shot. It was completely uncalled for and did nothing but make me look like an a-hole. Sometimes when we are angry we say things we shouldn’t. That’s no excuse but it’s the truth.”
                    Au contraire! You are unusually mature & honest, & look far better than 90% of the people commenting on this thread.

              • Kristen

                Lol you can’t argue with 9Boots..nothing ever phases her lol. You just have to agree to disagree lol

                • 9Boots

                  Ha ha ha.
                  = )

        • loveablefelder

          Yes, you heard me.. What are you mad for? Black men don’t marry YOU!!!!

      • Changeneedstocome

        And this my dear is your prerogative or choice if you prefer,the first part of your comment is an opinion. PHEW…. Thank GOD opinions are not facts.

      • James

        SAY IT AGAIN!

      • Lilacbenson

        Right,you high types of black women are most definitively need to stick with your highest type of black men.

        “My husband will be black” Lmao. ROTFL. Good luck.

      • jloveee

        Youre a racist and I dont have one bit of respect for racist people so I couldnt care less for your opinion. The president wouldnt even exist if people didnt see past color. Call him black all you want but he is here because of his white mother. Now carry on idiot.

      • Lisa547

        lmaoooo that could not be further from the truth. Black women with white men tend to be the thin ones, the educated ones and the middle class ones, which is why black guys get all up in arms about it, because they KNOW we’re the better ones and we don’t prefer them and/or actively avoid them. Shaniquas like yourself are the “nothing but a black man” type.

        Actually, it’s the same with ALL races of women; the best ones go for white guys.

    • Laine

      MN just didn’t fulfill their “click quota” for the week, and they know that IR articles will get them a lot of clicks. So they came up with one of their nonsensical lists again.. That’s just all this is… We see you MN…

    • Joshua tree

      I had no idea about the hot sauce stereotype at all, I’ve probably done this just because I love hot sauce without even knowing it.

    • Kenneth Haynes

      But I like hot sauce. If I use the sauce why can’t I ask if you want some?

    • Robert Leather

      I’m in total agreement with you here. I cannot imagine EVER saying that on a date with a woman who was black.

      But I do know men who are attracted to women purely under the basis of the colour of their skin. But then you could say the opposite is also true. Does it make them wrong? No, just shallow and pathetic.

      Of course, I was also amused by the idea that black women would worry if they would have anything in common. How about a mutual attraction and interest in each other? With the possible exception of a blind date, surely they had something in common before they decided to meet up. Just a thought.

    • Keith Morgavi

      I would automatically ask you if you wanted some hot sauce. Why? Because I love hot sauce not because of anything else. I might even offer you some of my home made Memphis sauce and pulled pork. Why? Because they are tasty. The object is to entertain and enjoy things.

    • Lydia

      I have never met an African though who did not like hot sauce. When they find out I have an African family in law they wish me luck when we go there. Whenever we are in Africa, the house maids make me hotdogs for 2 weeks cause they don’t know what else to feed me and I am not allowed to cook myself. So I kind of thought so too….

    • blahblahblah

      i have never even heard of the hotsauce thing until this article lol… since when is that a stereotype?

    • TryButYouCantPutMeOffChocolate

      not stereotype, I love spicy, I will generally order the spiciest meal in restaurants and when cooking for mates and family do two versions – spicy and less spicy, not sure about the stereotype – and I’m not daft or ignorant, the more we can experience other cultures/tastes the better – without being accused of pandering to stereotypes just for being interested in your culture. Get over it.

    • Annie Laura

      “…especially about wanting hot sauce..”

      I’ve gotta say, this is really shocking to me! I thought I’d heard it all, but I’ve never, ever heard that black people like hot sauce more than anybody else. If I offered someone hot sauce, we’d probably be at a place that serves spicy food. Doesn’t seem unusual to offer hot sauce, any more than salt or pepper, but I guess I’m ignorant on this one.

    • Anon Anonymity

      Never heard of black people liking hot sauce till just now

    • Canadian

      My first thought was “What does hot sauce have to do with race?” Maybe I’m naive or maybe the dynamics are a bit different here in Canada. If I offer my date some hot sauce, it’s because it’s on the table but out of her reach. Race has nothing to do with it. That would be true if she was black, white, or other because there are people of every race who like hot sauce. It isn’t racist if he also offers hot sauce to his white and Asian dates, but you wouldn’t necessarily know that.

    • pheeze

      I really thought the hot sauce was the dumbest entry on this list (yes, I’m white). If I went on a date with a black woman and took her to a fried chicken place, she’d be well within her rights to ask WTF I thought I was playing at, but hot sauce is just… hot sauce. It goes with everything. It’s not a black thing or a white thing. Actually, most chillies come from either South America or southeast Asia, so I’d say it was much more of a Latino/Asian thing – or at least, I would if I was super obsessed with race.

    • paris

      its kinda known blacks love hot sauce and most southeners regardless of black or white love hot sauce so i wouldnt be offended id just ask him, which hot sauce do you like the best? ill have whatever your having.

    • Pat

      My girlfriend is black and she told me she could never eat hot sauce as I do. Never told her anything about black people liking hot sauce… some like and some don’t, like many people around the world

    • Efreet

      I didn’t even know that hot sauce was a “black thing”. for me, it a Thai thing or a Vietnamese thing… and maybe Mexicans…

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