RIP: Karyn Washington, Founder Of Empowering Site, For Brown Girls, And #DarkSkinRedLip, Commits Suicide

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Karyn Washington

We had the opportunity to talk to Karyn Washington, founder of the website For Brown Girls, and mind behind the project, #DarkSkinRedLip, on more than one occasion for the site. The young woman launched her website in order to celebrate the beauty of black women who don’t always feel the love out here, and pushed the project #DarkSkinRedLip to encourage black women of all shades to embrace wearing red lipstick after rapper A$AP Rocky said that women of darker complexions shouldn’t rock it. That project, like For Brown Girls, was about empowering. That’s what Washington was all about:

“When the blog was initially created, my cousin and I were dealing with self-esteem issues relating to our complexion and we would vent to each other.  Through talking it out and building each other up, we felt better but also didn’t like the fact that we were even having these feelings to begin with. We also realized that other girls may be going through the same thing and wanted to use Tumblr as a means to vent, encourage others and overcome. Since then, I have gained a greater passion for the cause and helping others.”

But while empowering and supporting black women through her endeavors, at the same time, Washington was also facing some struggles, reportedly depression, and according to a friend, trying to deal with the loss of her mother. All these things eventually became too much for her. Sadly, Washington, passed away on April 8 at the age of 22, reportedly committing suicide. This is a major blow for all who were fans of her amazing work, as well as her friends, including blogger and friend Aliyah:

When I look at you I see a reflection of myself and most certainly that is why this hurts so badly. From now on I’ll forever remember your big beautiful smile, your charm, ambition, professionalism, entrepreneurship, confidence, humility, your drive, and your beautiful Brown Skin. That is what I’ll choose to remember… because to be honest, I’m a bit angry with you. Indeed I’m being selfish, but my heart is devastated- yet, because I know a tad bit about what you were going through I can understand. I’m guilt tripping because I wish I could’ve been there for you a little bit more.  I’m so sorry, but I can’t help but to think that with just a little bit more time or a little less distance, proximity would’ve allowed me to make, maybe the slightest difference…. Forgive me!

We’ve spoken about the struggle of dealing with depression and mental illness on this site, and the propensity for many people of color to pass on seeking help and counseling because of worry of public opinion and shame. With losses like these, it’s even more important to spread the word about the realities of these internal battles. Washington was a woman who made a difference and her push to remind us as sistas of our beauty was major. Continue to support it and to spread love, as Washington so loved to do.

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  • LotusBud

    Although tragic, I understand why she did it. Being a black woman is brutal psychologically, emotionally, socially, and physically. I think she was courageous to leave this planet, despite the possible grave spiritual consequences. To me, suicide was an act of ultimate bravery to end a lifetime of suffering.

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  • Dresia Vaughn

    i’m so sorry to hear of this lost. losing a mother is one of the worst pains in the world. i’m so sorry for the lost of her mother as well.

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  • Jane Doe

    The blog/site is full of negativity,details and horrible stories…What about the good things of these celebrities !!!ijs

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  • Patricia

    This sad. This beautiful young lady. A such a young age.

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  • TJ SOTOMYOR

    TNN RAW UNCUT

  • http://www.jasmine-rose.com/ Jasmine Rose | Makeup Artist

    One way that both black men and women can celebrate the innate beauty of us, regardless of how beautifully brown we are is by starting businesses that PROMOTE and CELEBRATE us. In addition, to creating LOCAL support groups for those of us battling with depression and anxiety. We should aim to uplift both black MEN and WOMEN!

    • mmmdot

      I completely agree. Great ideas!

  • shabba400

    Kay was such a beautiful, inside and out. So fun to be around. She will be truly missed. RIP.

  • Tee Soonuwillknow

    Very sad that people do this to themselves. When you lose faith in God and in yourself, this is what happens. Young girl. Makes no sense. To be honest, she should have reached out to her very own site for comfort. She gave up and threw in the towel. I especially want the black community to take a look at itself and kill the negativity and not themselves or others. One race divided and scorned. Just horrible. And people should also stop praising these celebs. They don’t want anything from you but your money. They don’t benefit the communities. I’m sure they’re in horrible mental shape. The communities need to stick together and eventually unite ALL communities and not be separated. Be a collective race for a chance and stay that way. It’s too much like right. As a unit, this kind of thing can be eliminated. Depression is a Psych term that they have embedded into us all. All of this society nonsense has taken over and people have let it. Our skin is beautiful. No make up needed! Natural in its state. Youthful and soft. We have different shades like every other race. We just have to learn to appreciate our skin and our lives a lot more. Love yourself enough not to harm yourself. Very sad that she let the devil win. He is a liar. She should have fought him off.

    May she find rest and peace.

    • Nik

      You should probably look up causes of depression and just more information on mental illness in general because what you’re saying doesn’t make a lot of sense as it is simplistic, uninformed, offensive and dangerous.

      • Tee Soonuwillknow

        It makes a LOT of sense. I know what they told YOU depression is. And you can roll with that. Most people are sheeple. You seem to be apart of it along with the 5 likes you got. I made my opinion and that’s all it is. You don’t have to agree. But, I certainly can’t take a college course from an internet fruit cake supporting the fact that society and others like YOU support that fact that it is ok for people to off themselves. I do NOT have sympathy for those who take their lives on the count of self hatred. It is selfish and ridiculous. Nextly, If you READ the other comments on this post you can CLEARLY see that I am responding to OTHER post as well. (“You should probably look…..”)

        Mental illness is what they designed for you to think it is and also designed it to happen. I suggest you wake up and stop blindsiding yourself with the nonsense. For you to even take that much energy into focusing on what I wrote…. (shm) you should have used that same energy to reflect your own thoughts. You can say whatever you wish… sure…. however… you are clearly miserable and have absolutely nothing else better to do with yourself. I am a Christian. Suicides (even Catholics agree) is selfish and disgraceful. She created a site to HELP others. SHE should have used her OWN resources to help herself. So say what you want….. you sound like a Montel Williams advocate.

        Dangerous? Is that a threat?

        • Nik

          You are ridiculous. I’m not going to waste my time trying to instill common sense into you. Your “points” are nonsense. They warrant no further energy from me. I just pray you never have a child or a friend with depression because your ignorant, uninformed attitude is the exact reason things like this happen. And to your last comment, your ridiculous opinion is dangerous because it ignores the stories and struggles of people with mental illnesses and tells them to get over it, which results in isolation, shame and in many cases, suicide because there is no solace or support from people like you. Nice try trying it make it something it wasn’t with your threat nonsense though.

  • wyntertainment

    There is something terribly wrong about the reporting of Karyn Washington’s untimely death. The problem is… nothing has been reported! Who? what? when? where? why?how? Who found her? What time was she found? Where was she found? How did she die? Was there a note that proved suicide? Why are there no details? This rush to slap a label her death, and force a pitiful rationale down the throats of her grieving followers, is an attempt to stop any further inquiry into the cause of death. All the news outlets are just re-running the same press release. Where are the quotes from the police report? She deserves better than to have her brief, but powerful life summed up in an easy “dramatic narrative.”

  • MsIsis

    As “strong”, independent, successful women of color, the words depression, suicide, eating disorders, and psychological problems are BANNED, and NEVER to be uttered – ever. It’s a “white” thing, that many in the African American community laugh at, denying it’s existence. People see me and tell me I’m so strong, I can withstand anything, I handle it all seamlessly, I’m their rock! I’ve had women tell me that I make being a single mother look “so glamorous” (losing a lot of weight, beautiful kids, kicking a*s at work, parties, laughs, FB & IG shots of me and friends just having a blast!) and they were jealous of my life. I have no close friends or family to talk to about my deep, almost debilitating depression, eating disorder, and how I’ve perfected the facade of hiding it so beautifully. I feel Karyn’s pain. It is a shame, and more so in my North African culture. Depression is the devil. I self medicate, but hide my meds. My psych doesn’t ask me to talk any more, she knows I won’t because I can’t. I live in my weak, and in a sick way, I understand Karyn’s decision to end her life. God bless and rest her soul.

    • KeepingItReal

      MsIsis…no disrespect…but black women wouldn’t have the problems of “depression, eating orders and psychological problems” if you STOPPED trying to be white and truly embraced and loved yourself. Those “afflictions” are white people problems. This woman had a website uplifting beautiful black women but her suicide makes me wonder if she believed what she was actually saying. If you truly love yourself…you would do EVERYTHING to preserve your health and safety. It’s sad…but before someone gets on a website…log off the computer and log into your inner sanctum. Be selfish and pamper yourself and treat yourself very well. If you don’t see how blessed we all are…just to have life, health, etc…then you are truly missing out.

      • Nik

        This is the most ridiculous and offensive thing I have ever read. Depression has nothing to do with self-love and to dismiss it as an insecurity problem is extremely problematic and offensive. Depression is a mental disorder. It changes the way your brain works and it changes the actual chemistry of your system, it makes you unable to find joy or cope because it actually reduces the amount of chemicals that make this thing possible. This is so wrong. Stop blaming the victims for their mental illnesses, that is why things like this happen, because people like you will never understand what mental illness is and will also think it can be cured by a spa day and self love and you will continue to deny mental illnesses because it is a “white thing”, which is something every article about Karyn Washington’s death has been saying and how it is detrimental to our community. Mental illness isn’t a race thing and it isn’t a self-hate thing, lordhavemercy.

        • mmmdot

          YES! Thank you! I love every single thing about this response.

  • Brown Sugar

    rip sista

  • tammy

    This is so sad to me, I too suffer from depression you know I always say you never really know what’s going on with people our society is so quick to pass judgement on someone, we take on look a someone and make an assumption about that person when a lot of times it’s more going with that person than what you think. You can’t always go by looks, what kind of job a person has or just their home life period.

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  • kiki

    So sad. When its time to go…its time to go!

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  • Bill Jackson

    Mistabilda’s TRIBUTE IN MEMORY OF KARYN WASHINGTON ” OUR NEW

    BLACK MADONNA”

    THE NAME KARYN MEANS ” PURE ” just like our first BLACK MADONNA.

    Sweet Karyn’s death is a shocking wake up call for all black people, especially the dark

    ones. I am positive that God will bless Karyn for her ultimate sacrifice that shocked black

    people back into the reality that the homogenization process in America is not fully

    complete until all of the chocolate is gone. America has not changed. A tiger can not

    change its stripes but can only whitewash them with deception. Karyn’s plight was living

    proof that the fat tiger is still thriving silently everywhere seeking new prey.

    Another reality is that Karyn’s life was not sacrificed because of depression but the

    hidden root cause of her death was from the OPPRESSION OF REJECTION…. not

    only by strangers but by her own people who she loved. When her mother died that was

    probably the one person who Karyn knew that loved that dark skin that Karyn was in just

    as much as she loved the bright and radiant person that was in that skin.

    History always repeats itself and Karyn is just one more TRUE BLACK MADONNA

    removed from the race and placed on the trophy mantle of black people that meant to

    remind us of how powerful and beautiful that black people once were. This memorial is

    purposed to honor her induction to our true hall of fame for her great contribution.

    Karyn’s sacrifice reminds me of another dark skinned person’s sacrifice in the name of

    love that tried to get his people to love each other. That black man’s name was Jesus. He

    was also a victim of rejection and tried to do something to change it because he realized

    that rejection is the most painful and slow death poison that kills human beings. His

    rejection was recorded in the greatest history book that is also rejected too because of

    it’s dangerous truths…it reads in Isaiah 53: HE IS DESPISED AND REJECTED

    OF MEN: A MAN OF SORROWS, AND ACQUANTED WITH GRIEF:AND WE HID AS IT

    WERE OUR FACES FROM HIM: HE WAS DISPISED AND WE ESTEEMED HIM NOT.

    This one scripture alone is the definition of ‘LIVING IN BROWN SKIN “as Karyn

    showed us. The worst rejection is when your own people don’t esteem you…because

    their esteem is the seed of your own self-esteem. No white person in history was rejected

    before his birth, during his life and 2000 years after his death as if he was still alive. This

    fact alone testifies to the perils of living in a skin color that can only be hidden in the

    night or in the midst of others of the same color. More history of the perils of black skin

    is recorded in John 15; 18 as a consolation to dark skinned people as it reads “IF THE

    WORLD HATE YOU, YE KNOW THAT IT HATED ME BEFORE IT HATED YOU. 15:25 BUT

    THIS COMETH TO PASS, THAT THIS IS WRITTEN IN THEIR LAW, THEY HATED ME

    WITHOUT A CAUSE 15:24 IF I HAD NOT DONE AMONG THEM THE WORKS WHICH

    NONE OTHER MAN DID, THEY HAD NOT HAD SIN: BUT NOW THEY HATH BOTH SEEN

    AND HATED BOTH ME AND MY FATHER.

    Oh what a parallel between Jesus life and other black skinned people’s lives all

    around the world to date; this common inner turmoil of almost all dark skinned people in a

    mixed environment. The most contagiously poisonous bi product of segregation is that no

    matter how pure a dark skinned person is on the inside people still view dark skin as

    stained and not pure from the outside no matter where you go when there is a mixture of

    races of varying skin colors or non color.

    Something horrible happened to dark people when segregation occurred when black

    people were exposed to a new way of thinking that disposed their own inner perception.

    They began to see each other using the same value system as their former oppressors

    and as a result they ended up with a devastating identity crisis.

    This was the original intent of the homogenization process initiated since slavery. Now

    that the slaves are not needed because of the new technology and the new workforce of

    Hispanics, America can afford to dispose of the dark skinned reminders of her evil past to

    change the landscape of her newly decorated White House Empire. Time to redecorate

    .Out with the old and in with the new. This continuing saga of rejection is what clouds

    the inner brightness of dark people and the only solution is to shed new light with the

    truth. That was the mission of Karyn’s effort to find beauty in darkness unfortunately

    while being so young , she didn’t even realize that the answer was right at the tip of her

    nose and in her own mirror because dark is the origin of beauty and was stolen and

    replaced with white to benefit our competitors in the human race for survival.

    The one and only category that our competitors are superior all time first place winners

    in since the survival race is the DECEPTION CATEGORY where they have dominated

    undefeated for centuries to date. They are gods of deception and want to rule all matters

    of darkness by perpetrating themselves to be the Light of the World by using their skin

    color as a costume to hide their true inner darkness.

    Their most genius strategy towards winning the race for survival is to eliminate the

    competition by a divide and conquer genocidal technique. This tried and proven tactic

    produces a slow and silent time released explosion that is so powerful that it has divided

    countries, cities, neighborhoods, organizations, households, sexes and any other unit

    that involves the unity of two or more people: because it has the ability to divide the mind

    of an individual with poison that slowly decays ones since of humanity. The actual name

    of the poison is capitalism and the media and other forms of communicable viral

    transmissions like art, music and rap have injected it remotely into the minds of the

    masses. Media is controlled to control the mental direction of those in the human race

    sending them off course and in the opposite direction.

    What other possible way could they even dream to win a race against an opponent that

    throughout history has been known to dominate the world in talent, creative ingenuity,

    unity and physical strength as the dark skinned race? They figured that there was only

    one sure way to beat them and that was to join them at the hip, sexually to infiltrate their

    race to weaken their unity and have them commit the genocide on themselves with

    drugs, alcohol, sex, violence and suicide and use the rappers ,mis leaders in govt. and

    churches to lead them to their death and extinction.

    Thank God for Karyn’s wake up call that forced me to pour some of my heart out to

    you and proclaim her as our newest BLACK MADONNA .The original world wide

    artifacts depicting the True Black Madonna and her dark son Jesus have been collected

    and are hidden in the vaults of the Vatican so that their imposturous paintings and statues

    of a white Adam, Madonna, Jesus and God can go unquestioned as true history.

    The originals were removed from our eyes so that they would be hidden

    from our minds and became strangers to our hearts so that we would

    embrace the gold plated chains of deception concerning the color

    black that has prevented us from loving ourselves. This was their greatest

    accomplishment and their worst atrocity ever committed to dark people even worst than

    slavery, which is THEIR PREMEDITATED RAPE AND MURDER OF THE MINDS

    AND SOULS OF DARK PEOPLE THROUGH SPIRITUAL IDENTITY THEFT.

    Anyone that insists that this problem is not black and white is very lost and mis

    informed and disconnected from reality. I am an eyewitness of 5 generations of black

    struggles and have gone to the root to cut the weed at it’s root.

    These problems did not occur on this level in our original village community when and

    where true love connected our hearts together and we struggled together as one people.

    Capitalism drove us apart and we became socialites and separated our families ,our

    village and ultimately our hearts for each other.

    LOVE IS THE KEY. BLACK PEOPLE DON’T HAVE LOVE LIKE WE USE TO.

    NOBODY’S TALKING BOUT LOVE NOT EVEN THE PREACHER. CHURCHES

    ARE THE REASON THAT THE BLACK FAMILY UNIT WAS DESTROYED! NOT

    THE GOVERNMENT. EVEN THE CHURCH HAS BEN POISONED BY

    CAPITALISM AND SOCIALISM. MOST HAVE BECOME THE HOUSE OF

    RECREATION INSTEAD OF THE HOUSE OF PREPARATION TEACHING US

    HOW TO HAVE A STRONG FAMILY UNIT TO BECOME A STRONG PEOPLE

    AGAIN. WE NEED TO GET BACK TO THE BASICS .THE MAIN THING THAT

    BLACK PEOPLE ARE STILL BEST AT IS LOVE. LET’S DO IT FOR KARYN’S

    LEGACY SO WE WON’ LOOSE ANY MORE OF OUR PRECIOUS YOUTH TO THE

    MISCONCEPTION CONCERNING THE PRICELESS VALUE OF DARK SKIN.

    MY LOVE AND CONGRATULATIONS TO HER FAMILY

    FOR SHARING SUCH A WONDERFUL PERSON AS KARYN WITH US

    SHE IS INDEED AN ICREDIBLE ASSET TO OUR RACE

    I AM TRULY INSPIRED TO HELP CONTINUE HER VISION

    SO HELP ME GOD mistabilda

    REST IN PEACE KARYN YOU ARE MY NEW BLACK MADONNA

  • Dennis Andersen-Young

    yep

  • oakoakoak

    We can sit here and talk about how selfish or sinful it is for someone to commit suicide, but unless you’ve been there, you or I can’t possibly know what pain they must have felt to make that ultimate decision. To actually go that far they must go through deep pain. A pain that is deeper than what a person who isn’t dealing with depression could ever feel.

    • guesy

      Thank you

  • TrillProphecies93

    My heart hurts for her she was beautiful inside and out. She did many good things. May God bless her. If us blacks wouldn’t continue to go along with this civil war whites created for us aka light vs dark we would be in better places! We are all black and great people your skin does not elevate you to a better status. They have many beautiful dark, brown, and light black people! Why do we consantly divide ourselves? We need to come together!

  • Fran Benson

    This is so sad and really hits home for me. This week the body of Dr. Teleka Patrick who had been missing since last December was found and from examining all of the public evidence it seems she also had suffered from a form of a mental illness. This was a brillant woman studying to be a psychiatric but from her own words she was ashamed and afraid to get the mental help she needed because of the stigma and how it might affect her career path.

    That story and this one has made me think of mental illness in the black community and how I believe a great majority of people in the black population with any form of mental illnesses are ashamed or don’t want to admit they have a problem, i.e. then not getting the help they need. I also feel some of them also self-medicate with alcohol or drugs, especially black men. Maybe one day it will be understood in all communities that mental illness is just like any other illness diabetes/high blood pressure; and nothing to be ashamed of. If the help is out there and available it will be sought out and accessed. May they both rest in peace.

  • Apollo

    I think dark skin women are beautiful, stop hating yourselves others love you.

  • Mike Windrim

    So sad. Condolonces to Ms. Washington’s family and friends. I lost my older brother to depression and suicide and while I tried everything I could think of to help him, could not. His depression was too deep. I just want to remind her family and friends that there is most often nothing that can be done to help someone who is too ill to think clearly. Do not blame yourselves. Do not suffer because you think there was something you could do. Too, too sad.

  • Chan

    May this gorgeous African American Princess RIP, remember ladies (African American) beauty started with us and it will end with us there’s no other race of woman that can compete with an African Princess and that’s real talk……

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  • jae

    MadameNoire is it any at all possible to block the IP address of the troll SheDevil? She is incredibly triggering and her comments should not be included in a space where folks are trying to express their sadness at the loss of Karyn Washington.

    • mmmdot

      Thank you! Yes. What kind of a s s hole do you have to be to troll black women on a topic like this. And I don’t even know if SheDevilsRule is truly a woman, let alone a black woman. This troll is so psycho and is using such racist and sexist hateful language I wouldn’t past this…thing to be a sockpuppet troll.

  • FromUR2UB

    Perhaps it would be helpful if, for laymen like myself, a definition of mental illness were published because identifying it can be a gray and murky area. There are so many degrees of mental illness that determine how people behave. Sometimes it’s the result of a chemical imbalance in the brain, other times it seems to have been induced by environmental factors such as enduring extreme cruelty or experiencing trauma. It can be temporary or long-term.
    If you live long enough, you’ll be able to look back over your life and recall some very difficult times and wonder how you came through them. You come to realize that both good and bad times will pass. It’s particularly tragic when a young person takes his/her life because they don’t know that things won’t always be the way they are in the moment. The grief this young lady was feeling would have dissipated over time. She was doing positive things in her life that would have improved her self-esteem over time. But, she didn’t give herself the time to come out on the other side. Such a permanent solution for temporary circumstances.

  • JenkPac Shakur

    I’m not so sure mental illness always plays a part in these things. She likely killed herself to be rid of all the negative SOB’s that are in today’s society. Can’t say that I blame her if that was the case. I’m not as brave as she was to commit such a courageous act otherwise I’d gladly join her.

    • FromUR2UB

      Be brave enough to find someone to help you. There is nothing courageous about suicide because it resolves nothing. It just leaves people behind to wonder if there was anything they could have done to prevent it. Maybe there is something they could have done, but many times, there was nothing more they could have done. It also introduces an option to those around you as an easy out. All the people who committed suicide in the Hemingway family, probably have done so because others who had done it, planted the idea in their heads. That’s kind of a curse.

  • Alonzo Berry

    This is so unfortunate, my condolences to her and her family. I pray that colored girls everywhere will be empowered acknowledging who they are. Colored girls are beautiful, and precious.

  • Shakira Jihann Harris

    This is heartbreaking. The silver lining to this event (if any) is that hopefully this will put the issue of mental illness and the importance of mental health in the Black community to the forefront. Physically, she was beautiful, and it seems that she had a beautiful soul as well. And she used her voice to promote confidence within Black women. That was just the start, and she was capable of so much more. This just goes to show you that no matter what things might look like on the outside, one can never know the internal struggle of a friend, family member, loved one. May God cradle her spirit and be with her family/friends.

  • currvalicious

    This is so very devasting. I feel for her & what she was going through, so much so that it pushed her to the point of no return. God bless her soul. As a fellow brown girl myself (mahogany to be exact), I salute Karyn Washington. RIP, condolences to her family & friends. This is a tough loss for all of us women of color (no matter the shade) we’ve just lost a true champion of our cause. Remember sisters, as black women we really & truly rock, please don’t believe any different. Peace & blessings to all.

  • JettMane

    i suspect foul play!

  • Guestest

    Oh no, Rest in peace.

  • Lifeisgood!

    Black women like this beautiful young woman die BECAUSE BLACK MEN HAVE FAILED US!!! Black women are carrying the whole community on their shoulders with no help. Black men should be telling the world of the beauty of brown girls..black men should be our support. YET…BLACK WOMEN FIGHT ALONE TO ASSERT OURSELVES.

    Black men continue to show that they are our enemy. They continue to show we arent worth it. Look at these comments…they find any excuse to bash us. They are the reason so many black women suffer.

    Once black women leave black men In Their Self Hate Mode and apply standards and revamp our self esteem- We Will Become Free Again.

    • SheDevilsRule

      Black men are out enemy?? After reading all you just said. I don’t blame a brother one tiny bit. You a hatefull thing.

      • SheDevilsRule

        “our”

      • ZoeSorry

        Black men are trash. I’ve been saying for a while, that as black women we REALLY need to stop dealing with these black men, and having children by these deadbeats. Please, do us a favour and leave! I am seeing a man right now, who happens to be white, and I’ve never felt more appreciated than I do now. Dealing with black “men” has been nothing but a headache. I’m very grateful that I never experienced the misfortune of being a baby mama by these life ruiners. May she RIP and her spirit heal someplace else. I swear, black ruin everything…

    • KeepingItReal

      To be fair…black women have failed her, too. People normally get support from family and friends. Well, the black family is gone so all we have are our friends until we create families of our own. Well, black males know how to be each others friends…black females…not so much. Why did this young lady feel the need to create a website to “uplift dark skin black women?” I don’t know the answer. But, black women need to learn to become each other’s best friend and offer support to each other…because…black women…you are all you got.

  • chanela

    The girl who is Longhairdontcare2011 on youtube
    also died today : (

  • Angela

    Her friend has every right to be angry.

    • castingstones2

      Why?

      • Queen2Cent

        The same reason a child would be angry at leaving them this very same way.

  • Shanèe Grant

    Depression is such a touchy topic especially in the black community. We tend to frown upon doing things like going to a psychiatrist/counselor to talk about your issues. But depression is more than just sad feelings, its a chemical imbalance in the brain. I was diagnosed with depression and had to be put on medications and regularly see a counselor and it has helped me function so much better. It took me so long to be able to admit that I needed help. People dont be afraid or ashamed to seek help!

  • Julie007

    One of the greatest ways we can honor Karyn’s memory is to stop self-hate, division along complexion lines, and for the love of God stop letting other races judge and validate your worth and beauty. Black folks come in all different hues and all of them are gorgeous. May Karyn rest in peace

  • jday

    Mental illness. … The term just invites people to identify with it.

  • fortune27

    This is deeply heartbreaking. May God protect and keep her soul and surround her family with comfort and love.

  • Syriak Smith

    :-O

  • guest

    It is very disturbing and heartbreaking to hear that someone felt the only choice to end the hurt is tk end their life. God is always showing us reasons why we should ban together as a community. I agree it does take a village. Instead of tearing someon down for having an opinion, let’s try to understand their point of view. As a community we can break this cycle. It starts at home. Ask someone you don’t know how they are doing today. You never know what impact that gesture may have for someone. Stay positive. Peace and blessing

  • YoNess

    My God! I truly know that we need to increase the awareness and acceptance of counseling for mental health issues in our community. Depression does not have to be a long-term descent into darkness. May she have the peace she sought…

  • Ladeedvout

    I am saddened to read that this young, intelligent, beautiful lady shortened her time on this side of heaven. We must not give up hope. We should not wait for a person who may not recognize or even care about our existence validate our beauty. . We do not need validation from anyone. We must examine, appreciate, and celebrate ourselves. Don’t wait for someone to claim you are beautiful…know you are. I Love everyone of you. Live and not die. Be blessed.

    • castingstones2

      “We do not need validation from anyone”

      Sure we do, we are human. And it’s messages like these that make many feel shamed to feel a need for it.

  • Tomee

    I feel deep hurt for another beautiful brilliant black woman whose journey has ended. Suicide and all the self injurious acts many black women do are in response to complex and deep traumatic events. These events include a lifetime of hate, anger, etc slammed on and through our bodies. It is high time that mental health and wellness strategies address the emotional, spiritual, and physical outcomes of anti-black racism, colourism, and other forms of discrimination, including bullying. I am tired of assholes saying that folks who take their lives are weak. These folks are a part of our lives. We need to do better in our diverse communities.

  • Linda Walker

    It takes very little faith to see your way out of any dilemma!!!

    • Guest

      How do you even know that she was religious, went to church, or believed in praying?

      • Ash

        thank you for saying this because, I pray, go to church and believe in God and am having my own battle with depression. its new to me and I couldn’t understand why I couldn’t just “snap out of it.” I love God too, but sometimes just having faith and prayer is not enough. I just started seeing a therapist and it has really helped! God created therapists for a reason, we should use them.

        • mmmdot

          Thank God for that! ;- ) I’m so, so, so glad you found a good therapist to help you. We need to stop believing that “praying away” the chemical imbalance will work. Because that is what clinical depression is: a biological chemical imbalance.

          • SheDevilsRule

            OK now you Ms. Know it all..lmao

            • mmmdot

              Didn’t I tell your stupid bxtch a s s to go die in a fire, troll? I MEANT it, you dumb a s s trolling BXTCH. Go light your a s s on fire and burn yourself to a *CRISP*. You would be more useful to the world as kindling for a fire. Kay?

              • SheDevilsRule

                The 1600’s called…they want their nappy headed, crispy critter looking fool back. So jump in that time machine and GTFO

                • mmmdot

                  Wow, so your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

                  • alissa

                    Why are you arguing with this person?

                    • mmmdot

                      Please back off. Thanks.

    • castingstones2

      Way to shame her in death!

    • mmmdot

      How do you even know that she was religious, went to church, or believed in praying? How do you know that about *ANYONE*? There are a quite a few black people who do not believe in God or Jesus and Christianity is irrelevant to their lives. And besides, clinical depression is a BIOLOGICAL disease. It is literally a chemical imbalance that is MORE than “the blues”. People who have “the blues” won’t kill themselves. That is why there are psychotherapeutic drugs like antidepressants to address it.

      • castingstones2

        Glad I’m not alone in seeing how much shaming is going on in her death.

      • SheDevilsRule

        HOW DO YOU KNOW SHE WASNT RELIGIOUS??

        • mmmdot

          Didn’t I tell your stupid bxtch a s s to go die in a fire, troll? I MEANT it, you dumb a s s trolling BXTCH. Go light your a s s on fire and burn yourself to a *CRISP*. You would be more useful to the world as kindling for a fire. Kay?

          • SheDevilsRule

            AINT NOBODY STUDYING YOU

            • mmmdot

              Wow, so your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

            • Tavia

              You need help. Something is not quite right with you. You’re coming off like a stalker, crazy, and just plain weird. Seek help immediately.

              • SheDevilsRule

                Really? You not going to address the MAIN one runnin her mouth?
                You wrong as rain my dear

      • SheDevilsRule

        OK Dr. mmmdot Go get a doc degree if you going to tryn to doctor folks

        • mmmdot

          Wow, so your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

  • Linda Walker

    Most of us as a people can’t handle anything, certainly, suicide is not the answer. We should fight like a champion suppose all the Civil Rights workers committed suicide back in the day. If it’s something that you love and believe in it’s worth fighting for. There is an eternity that we all must face someday.

    • Aiych

      Girl bye, with that stupid, out-of-touch comment.

    • KeepingItReal

      The difference between blacks today and blacks from Civil Rights era is that the latter had the support of each other and they fought as a group. It appears black people today…like this young lady…are isolated…and fighting alone. BIG DIFFERENCE.

  • LOLA LOPEZ

    Really depression is no joke. It can attack the strongest person you think you might know on the outside. But it is Ok to talk to someone and recognize that it is just find to seek help if you confuse about why you having crying spells or feel low and not happy in life for no reason. I knew something was just not right with me I have every thing going so wonderful in life beautiful home ,good career, beautiful cars and fabulous love life just bless and would bless other too.But could not understand why I was feeling the blues for no reason and having crying spells and not wanting to be around anyone even my boyfriend that I told to go be happy with someone else , there was no way I could be selfish because I was facing this. But he stay and got educated about it my front line soldier . I never ever had depression came on after I gave birth. The Dr. was thinking just postpartum blues and it will soon go away. Well it never went away. I am the strong one that every one would turn to when they have problems . Now I was the one hurting and was afraid of being weak one. But until I open up to my aunt I was telling her what was going on with me then she said you have depression. I said what is that. Then she said I send you pamphlets on it .I then seek professional help explain to Dr. he put me on medicines and ask me have I ever had thoughts of harming my self. I told him no. Well I took the medicine stay space out and weight loss that was not needed. But I had to get work excuses to take off work for weeks at time it was really bad. I just pray about it stop taking the medicines because they gave me the suicidal thoughts. Never had them until medicines came on board. I just incorporated things in my life and learn to recognized the signs of not making any type of decisions making or buying things while my depression is on board. I would buy things some times large ticket items just to make my self feel better. But that did not solve any thing. Now I am strong enough when I am feeling depress I go for a walk, exercise , watch funny you tube videos or just talk to someone that suffer with it too. But try talking to someone that do not understand what you feeling or suffer that you will get no where with them. Please if you know someone that suffer with it educated your self with signs and patterns just understand they are not faking or looking for sympathy really just understanding the moods swings etc. Sorry so long but just want help the next one for taking their own lives behind this disease . I offer think to myself the people that do the mask killing harming others because they are hurting inside . Really it make no sense they know how feels to hurts why would they impacts others Families to suffer too. Please it OK you normal just talk to someone. Please young lady have fun in the kingdom your life will impact others. One thing as I mention you have a heart just because you was suffering you did not go to a mall and start shooting others or taking more down with you. Thanks

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  • Momma Dee Tha Q.U.E.E.N

    I’m in tears although I didn’t follow her blog but I supported her mission & empowering all girls no matter shade that red lipstick is for her too.

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  • mmmdot

    My god. How horrible. I wish psychotherapy and psychotherapeutic drugs were more acceptable things in the black community and I wish that we had more therapists that understood the black experience and that catered to the black community. I understand why many black people eschew therapists (because there is a lack of therapists that understand us), but…something needs to be done make these kinds of therapeutic services more readily available and make them more trustworthy and more effective when black people *DO* attempt to go to therapy. Probably won’t happen in this lifetime, but…just saying.

    • castingstones2

      “understood the black experience”– yes!

    • SheDevilsRule

      WE HAVE BLACK THERAPISTS Damn.. you talk like we don’t have any black doctors. Just wow.. how sense are you?????????

      • mmmdot

        Look YOU PSYCHOTIC BRAINDEAD BXTCH, learn how to fxcking read. Don’t make shxt up just because your PSYCHO intellectually disabled illiterate braindead a s s is incapable of comprehending what you read. Take your issues with reading comprehension to some HOOKED ON PHONICS, not me, because other people who CAN READ got my message correctly. Or better yet, take your braindead a s s back to PRESCHOOL so you can learn your ABC’s and be around children who have the same maturity level that you do.

        • SheDevilsRule

          Lordy Lordy…go take a chill pill you whacked

          • mmmdot

            Wow, so your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

            • SheDevilsRule

              Your mama must be so proud of you. Go look in the mirror & tell me what you see.

              • mmmdot

                When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, TRASH.

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  • Benson Davis

    Anyone calling suicide selfish has no idea what it’s like to be that down and hopeless with life. My family didn’t except my homosexuality when I came out to them when I was 16 and they kept me out of family functions and get together for Thanksgivings and Christmases and I felt unloved and unsupported by them, my mom died when I was 5 and had to live with my grandma and aunt. I also was bullied in school for being gay and had no friends to defend me, then I went to a bridge and tried to end it all, but this woman driving her car saved me before I can jump, she talked me out of killing myself and took me to a hospital to get mental evaluated. She would visit me there and told me her husband is a pastor at a church and one of her members run a center for LGBT people. I went there, got support and felt loved and gained friends. It’s been 20 years and I mentor young people of the LGBT community. I heard about this young woman and never knew she had demons she was battling because she was empowering the sisters to love themselves, so sad that she did this but at the same time I can’t judge a suicide and I hope she found peace she was longing for. Some people can fight their demons like I did and some people can’t, just pray for those who are still struggling with mental illness and not ridicule or judge them.

    • Kristen

      Wow. Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry you felt so low to contemplate suicide. But thankful that the woman stopped and saved you. Good luck to you and those you mentor!

    • mmmdot

      Thank you so much for sharing that with everyone. I think there are a LOT of demons that haunt the black community and three of the main ones are internalized racism, homophobia, and sexism. There ends up being a lot of bullying of black men and women who don’t fit into the paradigm of what the mainstream black community deems to be acceptable (aka stereotypically masculine straight black men.) I mean, look at the fxcked up racially hostile and socially backwards country black people live in…it’s not surprising that the black community would become a little fxcked up, and become fxcked up in particularly unique ways, like our problems with colorism or our problems with machismo, homophobia, and DL behavior in some black men. Of course I think that if this entire country just stopped being racist, sexist, and homophobic, it would alleviate a lot of the problems plaguing the black community–but I also think that it’s VITAL that we have more readily available and more trustworthy therapeutic services that SPECIFICALLY cater to the black community. We need to find other ways of dealing with our issues then hoping that our mental and emotional trauma can just be prayed away in the church.

      • SheDevilsRule

        You ALWAYS bullying black men. We don’t need to be catered to. Thats what’s wrong with alot of us now we think we intitled to shyt when we aint. We have black doctors in every field. We need to go to them. JERK

        • mmmdot

          FXCK YOU, PSYCHOTIC braindead bxtch a s s troll. No one is “bullying” black men on here, you dumb fxck. So go do the world a favor and die in a fire.

          • SheDevilsRule

            YAWNNNNNNNNNNN

            • mmmdot

              Wow, so your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

              • SheDevilsRule

                Feel better?? writeing all this trash on a thread about a sister taking her own life Your the lowest of the low. Your mama must be so proud of you. Go look in the mirror & tell me what you see.

                • mmmdot

                  When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, TRASH.

    • hollyw

      Wow. Your story brought tears to my eyes. I think it showed both the worst and best of our community. An LGBT group from a church member…God was really watching over you, and I know that you will continue to be a beacon of hope to others. Thank you and God bless

  • KeepingItReal

    This is so sad. I can only try and empathize. I can imagine darker skin complexion black women have a hard time. It appears she created the website to “uplift” black woman who may have struggled with self-esteem. A person can only take so much. If only she could have found help.

  • http://www.youtube.com/user/ChakaKhanian?feature=mhee ChakaKhanian

    Many of you all are ignorant as hell, just couldn’t wait to type out how
    ‘selfish’ this young lady was for taking her own life, so quick to
    judge.

    According to the report above, SHE WAS SUFFERING FROM
    DEPRESSION. It’s a CHEMICAL IMBALANCE. When your brain chemicals are in
    sync with each other, the thought of suicide will just the that- A
    THOUGHT. When you don’t have enough synchronicity in the brain
    chemicals, you entertain and even carry out actions you wouldn’t before.

    Do
    you all realize how deep in despair one has to be to commit suicide?
    While you are talking about ‘seek help’ or ‘it gets better, don’t end
    your life’ a person who is severely depressed can’t see any other way.

    Depression hurts the core of a person.

    Get that.

    • ms stacye

      YES! And don’t forget this child lost her mother, that’s a devastating blow. I don’t know how many have dealt with that personally, whether it was a parent/spouse/child, but it takes a minute to recover from that

  • Aiych

    Wow…that’s two young black women gone in one week who were also prominent in social media, blogs etc. Sad sad sad :-(

    • Becky Ann

      I was just saying the same thing to myself.

  • Shawn emmanus

    Blessings to her and her family.

  • Qubilah

    How sad. Young girls, teens, and adults looked up to this woman for strength in regards of color. Not sure how I feel about her committing suicide.

    • castingstones2

      “Not sure how I feel about her committing suicide.”

      What do you mean????

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  • rpennefe

    Nationwide, call 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

    In Los Angeles, Orange, Ventura, San Bernardino, Riverside and Imperial counties (California) – call 877-727-4747. This number is for the Suicide Prevention Crisis Line.

    Also in the Los Angeles region, if a loved one has committed suicide, there are “Survivor’s After Suicide” support groups. Call 310-895-2326 for more information.

    • hollyw

      I wish I could up-vote your comment all the way to the top. Hopefully, those that truly need to see this, will. Even one is enough.

  • Margarita Mendoza

    So sad to hear this, may her soul rest in peace. And I ask that God Strengthen the family and give them peace.

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  • Brittany

    how sad

  • Alecia Christie Adams

    So so sad …

  • Kristen

    Wow, this is so sad. You really don’t know what all is going on in people’s lives. It’s shocking that she was trying to make a difference with empowering brown-skinned girls and ladies, but couldn’t fight her inner demons. I wish she had somewhere to turn to. I hope this doesn’t discourage her followers. RIP.

  • DeepThinker

    This is heartbreaking to hear this solider working to empower and uplift the emotional well-being of others has lost the fight to such an ugly disease. May she finally receive peace in the afterlife.

  • Vilma Heath

    So sorry and sad to this news about this beautiful young lady passing. My heart goes out to her family and friends and also to the people who love her very much

  • newdnewd

    RIP to her and to youtube naturalist longhairdontcare2011

  • black beauty

    Could any one point me in the direction of low income mental health facilities in Atlanta Ga or surrounding areas

    • 9Boots

      Call this national help line 1-800-273-TALK (8255). They will point you in the right direction.

    • hollyw

      I’m glad you asked. And please share this info with others in your area!

    • castingstones2

      May you find therapist and supportive community that care for the needs that matter to you.

  • 9Boots

    Remember, even if you do not have the money to seek professional counseling, talking to people that support you or people that also deal with depression helps too. If it seems like you can’t trust those people or feel uncomfortable then please call the national suicide help line.

    “If you feel you are in a crisis, whether or not you are thinking about killing yourself, please call the Lifeline. People have called us for help with substance abuse, economic worries, relationship and family problems, sexual orientation, illness, getting over abuse, depression, mental and physical illness, and even loneliness.

    No matter what problems you are dealing with, we want to help you find a reason to keep living. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you’ll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area, anytime 24/7.”

    • Necie

      GOD BLESS YOU 9Boots! You have provided awesome information keep up the good fight:) We need more people like you!
      May GOD rec’d this young lady SOUL AND SHE REST IN PEACE and her message and life’s work not be in VAIN!

      • 9Boots

        “May GOD rec’d this young lady SOUL AND SHE REST IN PEACE and her message and life’s work not be in VAIN”.

        Amen!!!

        Thank you for the encouragement. God Bless you!!

  • MM82

    We really do need to put the discussion of mental health out there . It’s important to discuss some of the stigmas associated with mental health, especially depression. I believe in the black community , depression is one of the least respected diagnosis. I contribute that to the fact that as black people many of us have had to face trials and tribulations so to many depression can appear to be seen as a weakness. I was once one of those people who would say, put your big girl panties on and keep it moving. It wasn’t until I actually began working with people with this issue that I realized it’s much deeper.

  • alt-K

    This is very sad news! I can’t believe anyone would think this young lady was anything but beautiful! When I look at her picture, I see real and natural beauty. Her life was only beginning, and as I always tell my teenage son who suffers from depression things can and will get better. May she rest in peace.

    • castingstones2

      The problem is that for that person they are in real pain now. Finding a way to relieve the pain in the present according to the depressed person’s needs can help them see what you said as truth.

  • Brice Taylor

    Damn this is sad. Did anybody try to help this young lady? We need more access to mental health services in our culture and to stop thinking that these problems don’t exiists because they sure as hell do. R I P young lady.

  • Just saying!!

    Wow! May she rest in peace! Just yesterday I found out one of the natural hair women I follow on YouTube, Longhairdontcare, died a couple of days ago from complications with Lupus. It’s really horrible. People are here one day and gone the next. And these are young women!!!!

  • Nicki Shavtz

    RIP Karyn Washington…#sad

  • luv1anotha

    We all know how hard and judgemental life can be, especially on ppl of color. As a black woman, I look to God for comfort, unconditional love, acceptance, etc. He is my everything and I hope her soul is at peace now with Him.
    If you don’t go within, you go without.

  • Mia

    WOW SO SAD!!!!!Rest In Peace

    Sending my condolences to her family and loved ones.

  • Leah

    My heart is heavy- I see alot of comments saying she was selfish- she should have sought help- Do you realize that same judgmental and insensitive comments being made here is probably one reason why she didn’t say anything…. thats what so common with us. Maybe she tried and got that type of behavior as a response. Some of us pretend to be a friend well- We may never know. Instead of judging this situation we can honor her life by spreading awareness for seeking help. Form groups where people have a safe place so let it out. This is an opportunity to come together. Stop tearing people down and start building each other up.

    • DeepThinker

      Co-sign! She had a lot of pressure on herself to be a role model, and uplift others. She may have tried to express her issue, but could have been met with indifference and a “don’t be weak” business as usual attitude. Depression is very sneaky, it is hard to tell when a person has been afflicted until they really shut down.

    • SisterTruth

      I agree. A suicidal person’s feelings and problems can be so intense that it’s probably very difficult for that person to be in the frame of mind where he or she is considering the feelings of others. To take one’s own life has to be lowest point anyone can be in his or her mind and spirit. “Selfish” is just not enough to describe what a person has gone through to reach that point.

    • mmmdot

      EXACTLY! Thank you.

      • SheDevilsRule

        DOUBLE YAWNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN

        • mmmdot

          Wow, so you TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even felt the need to troll a boring 3 word comments that wasn’t addressed to you and had nothing to do with you. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? WTF is your problem, you damn PSYCHOTIC braindead bxtch a s s troll? Forgot to take your meds? Go fxck yourself. And go get some goddamned therapy, psycho bxtch.

          • SheDevilsRule

            HA HAAAA & you commenting on my every comment WHATS YOUR POINT?? YOU DOING THE SAME THING… YAWNNNNNNNN

            • mmmdot

              Wow, so your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

              • SheDevilsRule

                You feel better writeing all this trash on a thread about a sister taking her own life?? Your the lowest of the low. Go look in the mirror & tell me what you see.

                • mmmdot

                  When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, YOU STUPID PIECE OF TRASH.

  • Caramel Empress

    This is very sad and ironic for me. I suffer from this wicked illness of the mind and today it has gripped me and has done for the past few days. Death and suicide have been at the forefront of my mind but i know my beautiful daughter relies on me to keep goin so i do. I could never leave her all alone but every day is a battle, and sometimes the battle is just too much. Not everyone makes it to the other side. Reserve judgement on this young lady for neither u nor i have walked a step in her shoes.

    • SisterTruth

      Amen sister. Keep holding on. If this is the way you’ve been feeling, please reach out to a therapist. Call the Lifeline at 1800-273-TALK (8255).

    • Guyonlinenow1

      Please don’t leave your daughter alone in this cruel world to fend for herself without your protection and wisdom. Call the number Sister Truth posted if you need more support. I will admit since we are anonymous on the internet that I have thought about suicide for 25 years at least. Everyone needs something to give them hope to make it through another day and luckily you have your amazing daughter. I don’t have a relationship or kids so I honestly spend a lot of time online getting my mind off my troubles and I also spend a few dollars a month on the lottery. The odds are terrible but I see it like a movie you pay to go see and escape your problems for awhile while being entertained I get to dream for a few days about finally being free from my medical debt because I won the lottery. So please hang in there for her and if you need more help don’t be too proud to get it. Your daughter needs you around for a really long time. Karyn Washington lost her mother last year and it is so sad that she is now gone too.

    • hollyw

      I thank you for sharing your story, sister, and just wanted to know if you have access to any supports right now (family, friends, counseling, etc), and if not, if you know how to access the community resources in your area. As a therapist that works in social services, I’d like to be of assistance, if you need it. Let me know :-)

      • castingstones2

        You are awesome.

      • Caramel Empress

        Im just seeing this. Thank you for the kind support. Im still battling but im alot stronger than when I wrote this. I do have a network around me for which I am most grateful for as many do not. As long as I maintain my relationship with the almighty I will, be ok. Fyi im in england so dnt think you could have helped anyway but bless u.

    • guest

      I’ve just lost my only son last month to suicide. You cannot imagine the gut wrenching pain I am in right now. My son had a mental illness and despite my best efforts he did not seek treatment. I am sobbing as I type this and I beg you Please get help, please don’t leave your family with this pain. They will blame themselves and always wonder what they could have done to save you. I am fighting suicidal feelings for the first time in my life because of what’s happened. I am currently getting treatment right now. I know it’s going to be ok. Please, please please get treated. You are loved and you are invaluable!

      • hollyw

        Thank you for sharing your story and your vulnerability, sister. I can’t imagine the pain you must be experiencing now, but I am sure glad you chose counseling, b/c something like this, you can not get through alone. Though I’m sure you’ll never move past three death of your son, I am hopeful and pray that you WILL find solace and that evil ability to empower others, maybe even other family survivors of suicide, through their struggle.

      • kelly

        God bless you. I have struggled with the demons suicide. Every day gets better, Please hang in there!

    • castingstones2

      Thank you for sharing your story. Some comments sadly dismiss this battle. I hope you can find community that has compassion, not judgement and is willing to walk with you every step of the way.

      • Caramel Empress

        Thank you. I am clinging to God and praying for my life. I have good friends and family and my daughter is my centre. i will pull through, she is only five years old….i have to make it.

  • CAliQueen

    Helping others while fighting her own demons. This is truly sad! I want to hold my children close and never let them go.

  • Observe and Report

    THis just broke my heart and I didn’t even know the young lady. I pray she found the peace she was seeking and that the Lord will comfort her family and friends during this time of devastation. Peace queen

  • bettye neely

    I need to comment as a professional. The things kids have to deal with when youngsters can las them their entire life. Being called names hurt kids and shape how they eventually feel about themselves. Moms have an important role as the first teacher of kids. Before they go out in the world of daycare, pre=school, etc. they should have been taught they are loved and cherished by mom and family. They should be nurtured in moms arms, cuddled, talked to and not at, encourage they can control their world, how to make decisions early such as “what are you going to wear today?” given an assignment inwhich they have a leadership role, Security about themselves and roles starts from the day they are born and begins with cuddling as they are being fed. This is hurtful as she is lovely

  • kelly

    RIP beautiful girl

  • RealitySuxx

    My prayers to her family.

  • positivebeatsnegative

    This is sad. Many in the black community do not take depression and mental illness seriously, they want to pray it away or make excuses, ridicule. Its hard to express how hurt you feel on the inside to people who just don’t understand. You can’t just get over it. It takes a conscious effort to bring yourself out of depression, its hard but doable. I pray she is resting in peace.

    • MarriedMomOf2

      I agree. We need to be more supportive and understanding of our people with mental illness and not judge or ridicule them. Just pray for them.

  • Gert

    This is so sad, I pray for all those affected.

  • lockstress

    Jesus…oh…this is so sad.
    I’ve been on their blog and it was so positive for darkskinned sista’s. I hope there isn’t a domino affect behind this.
    I pray for her loved ones and fans. This is horrible.
    We as people of color better get that mental illness is real and we need to get the necessary help we need.
    May God have mercy on her soul.

  • mznusom1 .

    RIP…So Sad!
    My condolences to the family.

  • SoOverU

    Sad to hear about her loss! We struggle each and every day to love the skin we’re in. I honestly don’t understand how could she take her own life, when she went out of her way to in courage women of color to love themselves? All the hard work she put into spreading awareness; and to just take her life in such a manner. Very sad indeed! I’m wondering if she even believed in anything she stood for. As the article stated, she had some sort of mental illness, I presumed which played a major role in her passing. I wish all her family and friends the best… R.I.P #DarkSkinRedLip

    • guest

      Her death was not due to her struggling with her complexion. It was due to her not being able to handle the death of her mother who passed away due to cancer a couple of months ago.

      • castingstones2

        And if it was, that means it has to be dealt with. This poor woman probably got shut down whenever she reached out.

      • Kelli

        “Her death was not due to her struggling with her complexion. It was due
        to her not being able to handle the death of her mother who passed away
        due to cancer a couple of months ago.”

        I would think that it was a combination of both. Why do the two triggers have to be mutually exclusive? You have to think about what some Black women are dealing with here. We as a people don’t have a cohesive successful community. We as a people are at the bottom of the totem pole, and everything about us is constantly exploited, and picked apart. This is dehumanizing, and it effects many Black people if only on a subconscious level.

        To top that off, we live in a world that equates a large part of a woman’s value with how she looks. When it comes to female beauty and desirability, Black women’s features are placed at the very bottom of the totem pole. And the Black community, specifically Black men, buy this idea wholesale. Of course Black women perpetuate this idea as well, however, Black women are much more apt to override this programming and venerate Black beauty. While Black men primarily promote their own desirability at the expense of Black women. Many of them say that Black features are inherently masculine, making them more desirable as men, and Black women less desirable as women by default. This is of a course a quandary being that Black men are our natural mates.

        Who are Black women supposed to build and procreate with in a community where this sort of break down exists at such a fundamental level? It starts with the man and woman before the family. Creating and raising dark girls in this world is harsh, they need extra support and protection. Are we sure that our affirmations can shield them from the world outside of our doors? Are you sure that your girls wont be born with a chemical imbalance, making coping skills that much more illusive for them to grasp?

        Karyn was a young woman on a quest to establish her self worth and identity despite the many obstacles presented to her as a consequence of her birth. And the main person who was undoubtedly her pillar of strength in this fight was taken away from her before she was able to come full circle. I can’t say that we as a people will learn or acknowledge anything from this tragedy, I just felt that certain things needed to be said. Perhaps more young Black women must start committing suicide at higher rates before the Black community will wake up. People don’t seem to be linking all of the other symptoms to the problems that exist.

  • http://arafricaine.blogspot.com/ Arafricaine

    ❤️ Rest in peace.
    Get counseling,seek help.

  • Christine S.

    I am heartbroken! I loved her message and her style. RIP.

  • Sweetdrk1

    So very sad! depression is so very real!! RIP!!

  • Mrs.Mason

    May she rest in peace…..so sad to hear this…people need to start getting the help they need for their depression and mental illnesses …friends and family should step in immediately

  • shay

    Yes her blogs and site was great. But this is selfish. So all the people that looked up to her will think this is cool. I been depressed raped homeless etc… But I’m still here. God wouldn’t give me nothing I can’t handle.

    • Mrs.Mason

      how dare you say it was selfish…you (as well as everyone else on this site) has no idea, no clue or understanding as to what she was going through

      • Mya

        Suicide is a selfish act. Plain and simple. What is the argument?

        I pray for strength for her loved ones and fans.

        • Mrs.Mason

          there is no argument…your comment is just shedding light on your thoughts and how u feel

          • Gert

            I know… I have always looked at it as this…the act of suicide within itself is selfish, but not the person (when you have mental illness, you are not looking at it in a selfish way…hence the behaviors of the mentally ill) Selfishness to me comes from the heart not the mind.
            Their minds are just ill, not their spirit. I think there is a difference…I wish more would understand it that way.

            • hollyw

              That was very well -said. Thank you.

        • SisterTruth

          How can it be simple? A suicidal person’s feelings and problems can be so intense that it’s probably very difficult for that person to be in the frame of mind where he or she is considering the feelings of others. To take one’s own life has to be lowest point anyone can be in his or her mind and spirit. “Selfish” is just not enough to describe what a person has gone through to reach that point.

          • mmmdot

            Thank you! I completely agree.

        • Guest

          No its not selfish and you don’t know what she been through. Stop being judgmental.

      • mmmdot

        THANK YOU!

    • Chaz

      I agree. Commiting suicide is selfish because the person is only thinking about themselves and not their loved ones. I’ve never read her blog, but from what I read on here, it was uplifting to a lot of people. But im struggling to understand, if she was dealing with her own issues, how could she have been uplifting other people? Such a sad situation.

      • Erica Key

        That’s like the preacher telling men not to commit adultery but get busted for doing it. What message does this send to people who looked up to her? Just end your life if you feel you can’t take it anymore? That’s why folks should rely on God and not websites to be uplifted.

        • Chaz

          I totally agree

        • Treasurebox26

          I totally agree. I believe once you’ve over come your demons & your in a better place then by all means uplift others, but how can you do so if you yourself are still struggling & can barely cope!!?? May she RIP & please to those in need believe in the power of prayer.

        • Professor Campbell

          Exactly. If you put all your hopes in Christ, man can never upset you to the point where they can’t be redeemed. This is just sad.

        • mmmdot

          How do you even know that she was religious, went to church, or believed in praying?

          • Erica Key

            Where did you see that I said anything about her being religious? My response was to someone else’s in regards to her uplifting others when she didn’t have her stuff together and that folks shouldn’t rely on websites, they should rely on Jesus.

            • mmmdot

              Okay then how do you know that the people who relied on her website to be uplifted were religious, went to church, or believed in praying? How do you know they believe in God or Jesus?

              • Erica Key

                You need to actually read my comment instead of trying to be combative. I said that these folks shouldn’t be, they need Jesus. So after seeing the founder of this website commit suicide they should see that they can not rely on man. Good evening, I have other things to do on a Friday night. It’s family time.

                • mmmdot

                  I am not trying to be “combative”. But people need to stop assuming that everyone is just like themselves i.e. religious and/or Christian. I understand the point you are trying to make about humans being fallible and prone to mistakes, but the point that *I* am making is that there are a quite a few black people who do not believe in God or Jesus. There are many black people who aren’t Christian. So why would they “turn to God” in a time of crisis? Why should they turn to God or Jesus *AT ALL* if they don’t even believe in their existence? Everyone isn’t a Christian nor will they be willing to *become* a Christian or religious at all. And besides, clinical depression is literally a BIOLOGICAL chemical imbalance that is MORE than “the blues”. That is why there are psychotherapeutic drugs like antidepressants to address it. Suicide is NOT a trend. It’s a completely internal issue. Anyway, I also have better things to do than argue with someone who has issues fathoming that everyone isn’t a Christian, so you are quite right. Good night.

                  • SheDevilsRule

                    Take your azz to bed, aint nobody tryin to hear that shyt

                    • mmmdot

                      I love that AFTER I gave you a verbal smackdown and verbally handed you your a s s once, HOURS LATER your cowardly troll a s s decided to LITERALLY go comment by comment, stalking me all over this thread and practically replying to almost every comment that I made with a completely psychotic response. You are a psychotic troll with no fxcking life and no fxcking sense. You even felt the need to troll a boring generic 3 word comment that wasn’t addressed to you and had nothing to do with you. There’s something WRONG with you bxtch, so take your pathetic a s s back to the mental ward you escaped from and take your goddamned meds.

                • SheDevilsRule

                  She’s been like that all night. Next she gonna tell you to kick rocks wearing some damn flip flops. Her elevator don’t make it fast the first floor

                  • Erica Key

                    Hehe

                    • SheDevilsRule

                      She said it’s family time..she still running her mouth on here..LMAO

                    • mmmdot

                      Um, why the fxck did you spend *HOURS* studying my comments and my commenting patterns so hard? Obsessed much, psycho bxtch? Don’t you have a life, psycho bxtch? Take your psycho a s s back to the psych ward where you belong and *KICK ROCKS BXTCH.*

                    • SheDevilsRule

                      I just kicked some rocks while wearing my flip flops…OOPS..did that boulder hit you in the head?? my bad..LOL You still a ignorant fawking heffier

                    • mmmdot

                      So your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

                    • mmmdot

                      Ignorant people typically find ignorance funny. Hehe, indeed. :Eyeroll:

                    • SheDevilsRule

                      Verbal smackdown? that wasnt shyt…That all u got?? You lame

                    • mmmdot

                      When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, YOU STUPID PIECE OF TRASH.

                  • mmmdot

                    I love that AFTER I gave you a verbal smackdown and verbally handed you your a s s once, HOURS LATER your cowardly troll a s s decided to LITERALLY go comment by comment, stalking me all over this thread and practically replying to almost every comment that I made with a completely psychotic response. You are a psychotic troll with no fxcking life and no fxcking sense. You even felt the need to troll a boring generic 3 word comment that wasn’t addressed to you and had nothing to do with you. There’s something WRONG with you bxtch, so take your pathetic a s s back to the mental ward you escaped from and take your goddamned meds. And I know YOU’RE not talking about someone who’s “elevator doesn’t make it PAST the first floor” with your psycho bxtch a s s constantly crying about someone “bullying” and “attacking” black men and trolling practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? WTF is your problem? Go fxck yourself and go get some goddamned therapy, psycho bxtch.

                    • SheDevilsRule

                      And you came back and replied to each and EVERY comment I made. LMAO..ROTFLMAO..you the psycho KEYWORD ” HO”
                      You sorry piece of shyt

                    • mmmdot

                      So your psychotic bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

          • SheDevilsRule

            Why you keep repeating this same dumb a$$ question? I have seen this response no less then 3 times. On this same thread Your med’s must be wearing off.

            • mmmdot

              So your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

              • SheDevilsRule

                You makin your mama proud…keep it up

                • mmmdot

                  When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, TRASH.

        • hollyw

          …except adultery isn’t an illness, and Depression is. Also, her mother just died, so there’s a likely trigger to it’s recurrence. I’m sure when she started her blog, she WAS in a better place…

          • Phoebe Pasdesignz Stewart

            IM GLAD YOU MENTIONED THAT HER MOM JUST DIED. THIS YOUNG WOMAN WAS GRIEVING. IMAGE & SELF ESTEEM ISSUES WERE SEPARATE FROM HER GRIEF. READING IS FUNDAMENTAL, FOLKS!!!

      • Whitney

        It’s always easier to encourage others than it is to encourage ourselves. Think about it; how do you talk to your best friend when he/she makes a mistake? Then how do you talk to yourself when you make the same mistake? For a lot of people, the two situations feel very different.

        • Chaz

          I have to say I dont agree. Well, speaking for myself and my relationship with my friends, family ect. When someone comes to me saying they made a mistake or whatever or I make a mistake, I speak the same. Yes, I chaistise(spell check) myself, but I always encourage myself to do better. The same as for my friends/family. Im a very optimistic person and I dont dwell on mistakes. Im always uplifting others because I am constantly uplifting myself. I cant tell someone this and that if I dont believe it myself.

          • mmmdot

            Well, *OBVIOUSLY* everyone is not like you. The terms “self-hatred”, “low-self esteem” and “insecure” are not brand new concepts. You never truly know what anybody else’s internal dialogue might be–that’s why it’s INTERNAL.

            • Chaz

              People b so quick to respond that you missed that I said speaking for myself and how i handle things. So come again.

              • mmmdot

                Then why would you say this : “im struggling to understand, if she was dealing with her own issues, how could she have been uplifting other people?” I mean were you only talking about yourself? In your second comment you’re expounding on why it’s difficult for you to understand how someone who can’t *uplift themselves* is extremely effective and capable at *uplifting other people.* Am I wrong?

                • SheDevilsRule

                  G. O.. T..O B. E..D.

                  • mmmdot

                    Wow, so your psycho bxtch troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? WTF is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Go fxck yourself. And go get some goddamned therapy, psycho bxtch.

                    • SheDevilsRule

                      AND yourf dumb a$$ returned and commented on my every comment..SO WHAT’S YOUR DAMN POINT??

                    • mmmdot

                      So your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skill your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

                    • SheDevilsRule

                      Copy & paste..your a riot

                    • mmmdot

                      When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, YOU STUPID PIECE OF TRASH.

                • SheDevilsRule

                  She said u struggleing to understand cause you not comprehending shyt.

      • SisterTruth

        A suicidal person’s feelings and problems can be so intense that it’s probably very difficult for that person to be in the frame of mind where he or she is considering the feelings of others. To take one’s own life has to be lowest point anyone can be in his or her mind and spirit. “Selfish” is just not enough to describe what a person has gone through to reach that point.

        • Chaz

          To each its own opinion. I refuse to go further with my opinion. You have yours and I have mine. Lets leave it as such.

          • SisterTruth

            If you realize that you have your opinion and I have mine, then why reply to me at all? You cannot understand what this young woman was going through because your journey isn’t the same as hers. You and she are not the same person. What one person can handle, another person cannot. Although her actions may appear selfish to others. I’m sure it didn’t seem selfish to her. That’s the point. The young lady’s pain was obviously too great for her to bear. In addition, she had depression, which is a chemical imbalance in the brain.

      • hollyw

        You might be failing to see how Depression is a recurring, chronic disease. It’s an illness. One that you always have to be on your P’s and Q’s about (or regularly medicated), or it can sneak back upon you. In all seriousness, she probably was in a better place at the start of her venture, so I can only speculate that the unexpected death of her mother may have triggered another episode…one she couldn’t get in front of this time…

      • oakoakoak

        I’m leaving this post because some of you people are soooo ignorant that it’s sad.

    • Maria Simpson

      I hope this sheds light to anyone reading this. It is spiritual. Right/wrong, good/bad/, angels/demons. We are charged not to judge her, but to pray and pray hard. Trust me on this: anyone in this world who is following what God has called you to do in your life will have to FIGHT. Sadly, some do not equip themselves with the right tools to fight hard enough. Her act was not selfishness, but a lack of faith. I read in this post that it helps to have people to talk to, but the best person that any of us can talk to is GOD. By no means am I saying that this is easy, but in this day and age, the devil is on an all out path to take as many of us out as he can. Sadly, she fell prey to that. And to A’Litha, it IS a demon. As is every other thing that is not like God in this world, from the smallest thing like a white lie, to the biggest thing like suicide. I hope I have not offended anyone, I am not a Bible thumper or hypocritical religious person. I still struggle with issues daily in my own life, but at the end of every day, I recognize that God is the source of my strength, and through HIM I can do all things, including fight another day. Much prayers and condolences and strength to all who knew and loved her.

    • hollyw

      I understand where you’re are coming from; the family and friend-survivors of suicide often experience feelings of resentment and abandonment. Unfortunately, in this case, she gathered quite a large group of impressionable followers with similar issues, so I’m sure her intent wasn’t for then to lead by this example…

      However, it’s inappropriate to compare one’s personal struggle to another. No one knows you, just like you don’t know her, so you shouldn’t take that to mean you’re better or stronger than her when you have no idea of her background or societal pressures. No one should have to be raped or homeless like you in order to pass the threshold to feeling like suicide…

      The main thing to hope from situations like this is that it’ll open discussion about mental health needs in our community, and facilitate more access to resources, rather than peeing contests on which Blacks can take the MOST oppression before wanting to kill ourselves.

      • mmmdot

        “Rather than peeing contests on which Blacks can take the MOST oppression before wanting to kill ourselves.” this is the “PERFECT” sentence that describes what takes place in the black community when a depressed black person just couldn’t take it anymore and decides to kill themselves. Some black people use it as an opportunity to criticize the people who couldn’t handle it or praise themselves for making it through THEIR depression without breaking. Unfortunately not all of us are that strong and *that is okay*!!!! We just need to have more comprehensive therapeutic services for those of us who AREN’T that strong so that these fragile people won’t choose to end it all to stop the pain.

        • SheDevilsRule

          ROTFLMAO gurl, do you even comprehend what folk’s are sayin on this thread? Cause you don’t act like it.

          • mmmdot

            Go die in a fire, you illiterate troll bxtch. The only one who can’t comprehend shxt is you apparently. I suggest you take your inability to comprehend what you read to some hooked on phonics…and take your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from so you can back on your meds, psycho bxtch.

            • SheDevilsRule

              WHAT?? No kicking rocks??

              • mmmdot

                Wow, so your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

                • SheDevilsRule

                  You having fun copy & pasteing your crap??

                  • mmmdot

                    When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, YOU DUMB A$$ PIECE OF TRASH.

      • Kelli

        Your comment is perfect.

    • Angie B

      Kudos – and you should be thankful you could deal and overcome.
      Some may not be as strong to battle their demons.
      You cannot walk in one man’s shoes to tell him how he or she is to walk in them.
      She is now in the arms of a loving Father to heal her. Don’t belittle her ambitions her message to uplift -I didnt read any blog of hers. But One can be a messenger and not have lived in any ones else shoes to show compassion, share some insightful on worldly things.
      That is what our heavenly FATHER did when He walked this earth.

    • Observe and Report

      Yes it is but it doesn’t have to be the negative connotation you make it out to be. She made a decision for herself that this life wasn’t what she wanted to do anymore for reason unbeknownst to us. Suicide is one of those things that if you’ve ever been serious about it, it no longer matters what everybody else wants its about ending your own suffering and pain. If she was in anguish and saw no way out I don’t think it’s fair to judge her for being selfish and doing what she felt was necessary for her. No judgement here, just my opinion i just think sometimes we get so caught up in the effects of suicide on the family we forget that person who did was in enough pain mental or otherwise to kill themselves in the first place. I guess my point is we all make decision for ourselves whether others agree with them or not she made a choice and that should be respected. Peace

    • http://blog.franchesca.net chescaleigh

      completely inappropriate. You don’t know what she was dealing with, nor is it fair to compare your struggles to hers. it’s not a competition. nor will her passing making people think suicide is “cool”. she was struggling with mental illness. people who commit suicide do it because they’re in pain, not because it’s fashionable or popular. just. stop.

    • julene

      She was struggling with her mother’s death. She did reach out to family and friends but nothing worked. RIP angel!!!

    • Peachyhoney02

      As someone that suffers from depression and has attempted suicide on 2 occasions I think it is hypocritical of you to say that she was selfish. Most of the time when someone gets to that point they dont want to feel a burden on others by still being alive.

      This is a prime example why so many people both male and female wont get help because of ignorant statements like this. After dealing with depression for 11 years it took me until I hit my 30th birthday for me to go get help for myself. At that point in time I didnt care what others thought of me. Too many people are committing suicide because the stress overtakes them. They might have a good relationship with God but if its there embedded in them then it is there. Its a chemical imbalance that leads to depression and while you have some friends you can talk to you have others that you end up battling with because they feel you are wrong in how you feel. Some depression is worse than others and comes more frequently so you definitely cant compare your situation to hers.

      I dont think her readers will follow her example because its not a “trend” its a real life illness and most people I know end up being more aware at what their friends or family members are going through to make sure it doesnt happen to them.

      • mmmdot

        Thank you for sharing your story. I really empathize with what you went through.

        • SheDevilsRule

          YAWNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN

          • mmmdot

            Wow, so your psycho bxtch troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even felt the need to troll the generic comments that weren’t addressed to you and had nothing to do with you. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? WTF is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Go fxck yourself. And go get some goddamned therapy, psycho bxtch.

            • SheDevilsRule

              AND yourf dumb a$$ returned and commented on my every comment..SO WHAT’S YOUR DAMN POINT??

              • mmmdot

                Wow, so your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

                • SheDevilsRule

                  Some folk’s need to get a life. By your post’s it’s easy to see you a ole, miserable, non man havin, sorry excuse for a black sister as it ever was. Why you so triflein??????????

                  • mmmdot

                    When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, YOU STUPID PIECE OF TRASH.

    • Professor Campbell

      It is extremely unfortunate that taking her own life was the only way out for this young lady, at least in her mind. And, it is selfish and it is incredibly sad, but there is no peace for her soul. She took the very thing that God gave to her. His temple. And she didn’t trust that he could lift her out of her afflictions.

      And before anyone jumps all over me – I HAVE BEEN THERE. I know what it is to have that demon standing right in front of your face while you’re behind the wheel of that car and he’s whispering in your ear that you could end it all right now – all the pain would go away if you just turn that wheel into the river – nobody’s going to miss you anyway, so why bother.

      Those were the thoughts rushing through my head when I FIRST thought about suicide after a terrible pregnancy and a ruined marriage. But the Lord was right there to show me different. And like I said, that was the first time.

      It’s so sad that this young lady probably had the resources in the world around her but she choose to listen to those demons instead of resisting them. My heart breaks for those she left behind, because it is difficult to wrap your mind around someone taking their own lives. You immediately start to wonder what you could have done different.

      Depression is SO REAL. And yes, we are STRONG BLACK WOMEN, but damnit, WE HURT and we need to start doing something about it. PLEASE, EVERYBODY’S LIFE HAS SOME PURPOSE. Suicide should NEVER be an option.

      • hollyw

        …but you haven’t been her. And that’s all that matters.

        It’s interesting how well this scenario compares to a piece I just read that said Americans who are more in favor of harsh punishments are also more likely to believe in total free will. I mean, you obviously don’t know anything about what demons she faced, or what her choices were, though you say you do, b/c you don’t know her personally. What does one even gain from comparing themselves to someone who’s already dead? They’re already gone, so judging these people’s actions only shames others who are currently experiencing this to keep it to themselves, lest they, too, be judged. Also, not every Black person holds your religion, so you automatically alienate sufferers, can offer no other resources, or imply they don’t deserve them. THIS is partly why we continue to suffer as a community!

        • mmmdot

          I love this comment and I wish I could upvote it 50 times! You addressed every single thing that is wrong with people saying that depressed people who committ suicide are selfish or that they should have prayed themselves through their depressive episode. Thank you so much for this and with your permission I’d love to ‘borrow’ this entire comment in the future when this unfortunately and inevitably comes up again.

          • hollyw

            I’m glad I could reach you, and feel free. I know I will surely have to repeat it before it’s all said and done…*sigh*

          • SheDevilsRule

            Now you suckin up..go get them brownie point’s gurl

            • mmmdot

              Wow, so your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? WTF is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Go fxck yourself. And go get some goddamned therapy, psycho bxtch.

        • castingstones2

          “…but you haven’t been her” You better say it!

      • Mrs.Mason

        your response should show people that there is hope and if you pray and seek God He will be able to get you thru ANYTHING…

        • Nik

          Except many people with depression have prayed and have sought out religion and have still committed suicide after it all because prayer did nothing for them and the chemical imbalances in their brain and lack of support from their community and the lack of professional help made it impossible for them to heal. You need more than prayer to manage mental illnesses.

      • SisterTruth

        A suicidal person’s feelings and problems can be so intense that it’s probably very difficult for that person to be in the frame of mind where he or she is considering the feelings of others. To take one’s own life has to be lowest point anyone can be in his or her mind and spirit. “Selfish” is just not enough to describe what a person has gone through to reach that point.

        It’s wonderful that you have survived, but your journey isn’t the same as hers. You and she are not the same person. What one person can handle, another person cannot.

    • SisterTruth

      A suicidal person’s feelings and problems can be so intense that it’s probably very difficult for that person to be in the frame of mind where he or she is considering the feelings of others. To take one’s own life has to be lowest point anyone can be in his or her mind and spirit. “Selfish” is just not enough to describe what a person has gone through to reach that point.

      It’s wonderful that you have survived, but your journey isn’t the same as hers. You and she are not the same person. What one person can handle, another person cannot.

      • ms stacye

        Agreed. “Selfish” is not the right word. I feel that a person that has committed suicide did so because they saw no other option, no other way out. I don’t know what word would be a better fit…

    • castingstones2

      This is a mean spirited and arrogant comment.

    • lee

      And still you are in no position to judge her.

    • oakoakoak

      Everyone’s struggle is different. You say that you’ve been depressed, homeless,etc. So you of all people should be more considerate, and know the internal struggles that come along with mental illnesses. I don’t advocate everyone who is depressed to end their life, but I also don’t think it’s selfish. Anyone who says that its selfish obviously doesn’t know the struggle of mental illness.

      • mmmdot

        THANK YOU! Completely agree. Very insightful comment.

        • SheDevilsRule

          Bi-Polar. Go get checked BET that what the Doc say’s you are.

          • mmmdot

            When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, YOU DUMB A$$ PIECE OF TRASH.

  • Black women

    I struggle with depression also as a black woman, after a couple of miscarriages I became devastated. Unfortunately, this is a silent killer in our society because no one seeks help on behalf of fear of being labeled and rejected. Ladies, its ok to see a therapist God put them here for a reason even if your feeling a little down more so than you normally do please go and see someone it could very well save your own life.

    God Rest Karyn Washington soul.

    • April Smith

      So sad. Hate this happened. Wish she could’ve reached out to someone, like her Pastor or whom she trusted. Lord have mercy! Suicide is never the answer, not the way God wants it. He loves us too much. Thank God he made my mind free of thinkn that way or else i would’ve ended it. Prayers goin up for her family!

      • A’Litha DeVonna

        April, mental illness is viewed very different in the African American communities (as a whole). The AA community tends to view depression/mental illness as weakness and typically refers it to a “demon.” Until we (as a whole) recognizes that it is an illness, we will continue to see this phenomenon. So sad

      • mmmdot

        How do you even know that she was religious, went to church, or believed in praying?

        • SheDevilsRule

          How do you know she wasn’t?? Isn’t it past your bedtime?

          • mmmdot

            It’s hilarious that AFTER I gave you a verbal smackdown and verbally handed you your a s s once, HOURS LATER your COWARDLY troll a s s decided to LITERALLY go comment by comment, stalking me all over this thread and practically replying to almost every comment that I made with a completely psychotic response. You are a psychotic troll with no fxcking life and no fxcking sense. You even felt the need to troll a boring generic 3 word comment that wasn’t addressed to you and had nothing to do with you. There’s something WRONG with you bxtch, so take your pathetic a s s back to the mental ward you escaped from and take your goddamned meds.

            • SheDevilsRule

              I just kicked some rocks while wearing my flip flops…OOPS..did that boulder hit you in the head?? my bad..LOL You still a ignorant fawking heffier

              • mmmdot

                So your psycho bxtch trolling a s s TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

                • SheDevilsRule

                  YAWNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN

                  • mmmdot

                    When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, YOU DUMB A$$ PIECE OF TRASH.

                    • SheDevilsRule

                      You makin your mama proud…keep it up You really startin to bore me

                    • mmmdot

                      When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, TRASH.

    • Kelsey

      I’m sorry for your losses. Too often, people just don’t know how to react to miscarriages, which causes them to say incredibly stupid and insensitive things. I don’t know if that’s what’s going on in your case, but in any event, I’m sending some love your way. Hang in there!

  • Jan

    saddened by this, i hope her work and legacy lives on

  • Alea

    God bless her heart!

  • BabyBlue

    Devastating. RIP

  • MarriedMomOf2

    So sad and she was young and beautiful. Everyone has demons some people can fight it some can’t so never judge a suicide. May she RIP.

    • Ostylz

      You’re right. Never judge a suicide..

  • http://youngequalsforver.blogspot.com Ms. D

    RIP very tragic, i wish she could have gotten the help and support she possible needed

  • G

    So sad. I wish those celebrities who keep wanting to get more and more naked while promoting this unbelievably impossible standard for other women would just cop to the level of damage this does to other women. I hate that this beautiful young soul is gone. RIP.

    • hollyw

      You said it. Of all the “causes” most of our celebrities pick up (often to balance the damage they do), Depression and suicide have virtually NEVER been brought up or discussed. I think it’s more than time to broach topic…

    • Camile

      Why are we blaming celebs when we don’t know the reason behind her suicide? Why are we as a community trying to blame all that ails us on celebs and feel that they are the answer to out problems? People take their lives for many reasons and not all the time it has to do with image issues. Mental health issues are broad and we need to educate ourselves about these issues and spread the word. We don’t need celebs to do that

      • hollyw

        We may not know the exact trigger to this episode,but this woman has been very vocal about the impact the media, and one incident in particular involving A$AP Rocky, has played in her sense of self-worth, whether you recognize that as a legitimate source or not…ijs.

    • Nik

      This doesn’t make a lot of sense because you’re acting like these celebrity women themselves are immune to the impossible standards for women. Have you ever considered that they too are attempting to meet this impossible standard and that the business they operate in, which is largely ran by men, is making it difficult for them to be anything except half naked and perpetuating a stereotype. Blaming the musicians for this is misguided, if you want to blame any sort of media (which i think is misguided, as well), blame the label execs, blame the production company execs, blame our patriarchal,sexist society, but blaming the female celebrities and not the system they have to be a part of if they want jobs and financial support isn’t entirely fair.

  • http://www.christinwebb.com Christin Webb

    RIP to a beautiful messenger…

  • At A Crossroads

    Ugh! I hate to hear this. RIP.
    I feel like just ending it all sometimes too but you gotta get help and stay strong to weather the storm. So young….Rest In Peace.

    • Adrienne Williams

      There’s always support. Seek it out, or make sure your family and friends understands how you are feeling! There are many sites that have support groups too, in your area! Don’t give up!

      • hollyw

        Access is a big issue in our community, too, remember. Yes, supports are available, but we are still struggling to make them accessible and affordable for us.

        As motivated as she seemed, I can still imagine at 22, how little awareness one may have of community and mental health resources…it would be great if MN could facilitate a resource list or something similar, idk…maybe it’ll save a follower.

        • mmmdot

          Your comments all over this thread have extremely insightful and intelligent but I think this might actually be the best of all. This is a really good and concrete solution to help alleviate the problem of a lack of access to mental health professionals that *SPECIFICALLY CATER* to the black community and black women in particular. You should suggest this idea to whoever runs MN.

          • SheDevilsRule

            I hope you get the very first mental illness test when they do.

            • Kristen

              You’re convincing me that trolling will soon be recognized by the APA as a legitimate disorder.

              • SheDevilsRule

                It’s need’s to be. mmmdot is first to get an appointment

                • mmmdot

                  When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, YOU DUMB A$$ PIECE OF TRASH

                  • SheDevilsRule

                    Go to bed you rachet crispy critter

                    • mmmdot

                      When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, TRASH.

            • mmmdot

              I love that AFTER I gave you a verbal smackdown and verbally handed you your a s s once, HOURS LATER your COWARDLY troll a s s decided to LITERALLY go comment by comment, stalking me all over this thread and practically replying to almost every comment that I made with a completely psychotic response. You are a psychotic troll with no fxcking life and no fxcking sense. You even felt the need to troll a boring generic 3 word comment that wasn’t addressed to you and had nothing to do with you. There’s something WRONG with you bxtch, so take your pathetic a s s back to the mental ward you escaped from and take your goddamned meds.

              • SheDevilsRule

                You call telling someone to “Kick rocks while wearing flip flops” a verbal smackdown?? NEGRIT PLEASE..

                • mmmdot

                  So your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

                  • SheDevilsRule

                    Your mama..your daddy…your baldheaded granny. with the big behind like frankenstein. Take your crispy critter butt to bed.

                    • mmmdot

                      When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, YOU STUPID PIECE OF TRASH.

    • rainydaze80

      Talking to people helps ALOT. I struggle with depression too and it has gotten better. Some days are really rough, but after talking to folks I realize there are folks who care and that helps me make it to the good days. Also, never underestimate the power of prayer!

    • Barbara

      Please don’t ever consider ending it all. It can be unbearable at times to go through depression, but there is help and “medication” to help you get through it all. Depression is a “chemical imbalance in the brain.” Medication can help to reverse the situation. As Black women, we need to learn how to ask for help and stop acting “strong.”

  • MsCam1984 .

    Very sad depression hurts us all. She was so beautiful Sending my condolences to her family and loved ones.

    • hollyw

      I really, reeeally wish one of these Black celebrities (just ONE) could use their platform (just ONCE) to advocate about this. Just one PSA! Major Depression, BiPolar, Eating Disorders (i.e. binge eating), skin bleaching, etc. are REAL and damaging to our community! Stop all the nonsense and just acknowledge it and go from there!

      • http://www.youtube.com/user/ChakaKhanian?feature=mhee ChakaKhanian

        For what? What is a black celebrity going to do? They really don’t care like that. Many are forever promoting images that DON’T LOOK LIKE THEM. Many of them are struggling with mental illnesses, too, and use their fame to mask it better than those who are not celebrities.

        The ‘black community’ needs to carry out actions that resemble what a community is.

        This young lady’s focus was uplifting darker skinned brown women. Why? I am pretty sure it was because people who looked like her didn’t treat her well because of her complexion.

        It starts with US and especially IN THE HOME.

        • Yvette

          Thought provoking and well said!

        • BrownIsBeautiful

          I completely agree with you. I Wish BLACK People Would Stop LOOKING For Help From People Who Honestly Don’t care. Like you Stated it starts with us, in our own community. Our parents must install it within us as a young child that we’re beautiful, our dark skin is beautiful. Parents these days are looking and desiring to have “mixed” babies. We’re our worse enemies. Bless her soul!

          • lwoods

            Well Said and sooo True!

        • ElleBee

          I really think you missed the point of what she was saying, regardless of whether it starts with us in the home. Our parents can uplift and make us feel all the confidence in the world, but if people in the outside world continuously knock us down it will take a toll. Society takes a on a bigger role in all of this, If somebody in a higher position just advocated for mental illness it really would influence and help younger kids out here too, knowing they are not alone. Particularly now a days when social media has such a big influence on everything.

          • hollyw

            Thank you, ElleBee. No one here is that dense to blindly blame black media for the black community’s problems. However, there is nothing wrong in pointing out one of the problems.

            …of course, the obligatory “Stop letting celebs raise your kids!” reply is always expected ;-)

          • Eli

            Family has a much bigger influence on my life than a celeb that I’ll never meet. I really think Brown is beautiful said it perfectly.

          • LuckyHall

            Excellent ElleBee

        • hollyw

          Hi ChakaKhanian. I think the answers to the questions toy posed were originally already in the comment. For what? A celeb could bring attention to the issue faster. I don’t know of any celebs who take more measures to mask their illnesses any more than the average person, but they def have more power to normalize the stigma over mental health. This, of course, wasn’t posed as a solution to our community’s problem; just a plea in the moment.

          Why was this lady uplifting darker skinned women? No one is saying they father skinned people aren’t capable of self-hater, but the fact that it was first perpetuated by those around them, adopted by the media, then spread on a wide level before they internalized this insecurity is well-known.

          • Angela

            True a celebrity can bring attention to the issue much quicker, but it still comes down to that celebritiy to make it up in their minds if they want to come forward. Like the person was saying, you can’t sit around and wait on celebrities to decide to step up. We will be waiting for a long time. Most of these black celebrities as the person said they are fixed on focusing on supporting everybody else except themselves. You have people of another race as well as our own people telling them not to invest or help. They do have mental issues with it sadly.

        • SheDevilsRule

          I luv your post. It’s true that it take’s a village to raise a child & she was much too young to leave this earth. How much pain she must have been in to take a step so drastic. How many more young girl’s feel this way… My heart is heavy.

        • Shakira Jihann Harris

          Yes!!! Yes to every. Single. Word!!!

        • Calvin Moore

          I agree.

          • Calvin Moore

            Chaka Khan are you related to Octavia phea of Richmond Cali?

        • FromUR2UB

          “IN THE HOME”.

          Hear, hear! People can weather a lot of storms when they have a strong foundation built by the support of people closest to them. A healthy or poor self-esteem is taught by parents and family. Frankly, I’m quite tired of dark-skinned people replicating feelings of inferiority, generation after generation, instead of decidedly ending that with themselves. There will always be people who try to belittle you, throughout life. They poke where they think your soft spot is. But, if more black people taught their children that they’re beautiful, as good as anyone else and encouraged them to be smart, many of the issues we suffer from as black people would evaporate because of our confidence. So far, it seems many dark-skinned people only feel validated by marrying and having children with whites. Whenever there’s a topic on this site about skin-tone or dating, dark-skinned people make pronouncements about their marriages to whites and that their children are light-skinned. I pity them for how proud those points make them.

          • ShellyLove2002

            You can be loved by your family and taught healthy self-esteem, then when you go out into society you are crushed by what your peers say about you. That was my experience. I was loved and cherished at home, but the pain came when I stepped outside my front door.

            • FromUR2UB

              Consider the sources. Usually when people try to tear you down, there is some envy associated with their motives. They may be someone who appears to have everything anyone could ever want, but maybe you have the one thing they want that eludes them. Think about it: who tries to drop someone a few notches if they already perceive her as down?

          • kelly

            Hear, hear! People can weather a lot of storms when they have a strong foundation built by the support of people closest to them. A healthy or poor self-esteem is taught by parents and family. Frankly, I’m quite tired of dark-skinned people replicating feelings of inferiority, generation after generation, instead of decidedly ending that with themselves. There will always be people who try to belittle you, throughout life. They poke where they think your soft spot is. But, if more black people taught their children that they’re beautiful, as good as anyone else and encouraged them to be smart, many of the issues we suffer from as black people would evaporate because of our confidence.
            Very well said.

        • Patricia

          I do agree with what you are saying. You cannot depend on “black celebrities” to step up. Just like you said, sadly they are busy promoting images that don’t look at them. I think they are part of the problem and they have mental issues as well with this. It does start with us and it starts in our mindset. People have to make a decision. That is where it all starts.

        • http://theburningbush.disqus.com/ TheBurningBush

          Right on, tell it like it is and more power to you sister.

      • Denesha

        I am just as frustrated as you are but I believe Jennifer Hudson and other celebs created a movie on Lifetime about it in addition to some PSA’s . Like you I’ll take more though.

        • hollyw

          Really? About mental illness?? If that’s true, I am pleasantly surprised and will be looking that up very shortly!

      • kiki j

        Many celebrities do. No one cares or talk about it because it isn’t “entertaining”. There are so many celebrities promoting organizations like put a stop to bullying, black girls rock, my black is beautiful and many have self-esteem camps and do public speaking about different causes but all people care about is who is sleeping with who, why such and such getting divorced and rihanna’s bare a s s in a magazine spread. And when celebrities do speak out they get bashed like so many did to Lupita N’Yongo when all she did was talk about her experience as a dark hued woman. People in the comment sections were slamming her for it. It’s not the celebs it’s the lack of community support. But I understand your point in what you are saying.

        • SheDevilsRule

          Yes, we do it to each other. We are our own worst enemies. When I was in High School it was terrible. Dark skinned girl’s hung in one clique & light skinned in another. Bashing each other along the way. Calling each other white girl or gorilla & worse.

          • Rose

            Well, most of us are still slaves. Not physically but mentally we are. Willie Lynch was a freaking genius; His plan was super effective! We need more Harriet Tubmans or Fredick Douglases if we’re ever going to destroy that plan.

        • hollyw

          Now that you mention it, there are a lot of black-female positive efforts out there, which I do think get a fair amount of support. I wish mental health was just as pubbed, but I we’re getting there slowly but surely…

          • kiki j

            I agree. Mental health especially in the black community is so taboo. So many suffer from mental health and has never been diagnosed. And as a result suffer from depression, suicide, drug abuse etc. It’s sad.

            • hollyw

              Ugh yeah and you just said the other ones I forgot about; drug and alcohol abuse! Self -medicating. Yeah our community has got it bad, that’s why our hoods got all the gun shops and liquor stores… killing each other with anger management, killing ourselves with Depression, or drowning ourselves into addiction… *sigh*

              … on a slight positive note you just reminded me of, I live in Harlem, and just yesterday the community center had a neighborhood cookout to celebrate 100 days without gun violence… it made me happy and sad all at the same time. Community centers are fortunately a pinnacle of the community, at least, though.

      • mmmdot

        YES! Completely agree.

      • TrillProphecies93

        They are to busy promoting songs about guns, gangs, and hoes. Also having ghetto tv shows like Boosie’s baby mommas, Love and Hip hop, Housewives etc. I want positive black things to show on tv. Positive role models not this constant foolishness we are always fed!

        • Rose

          Watch Parks and Recreation, and then check out actress Retta.

      • CaiRos13

        Mary J Bliege posted on facebook about her death and and mental illness and depression, so celebrities do care.

        • hollyw

          That is awesome.

    • Michael Reed

      I thought black women were so strong and didn’t suffer from depression?

      I been saying for years this strong black woman attitude has been secretly killing black women inside.

      • Coco

        SHUT THE ENTIRE EFF UP FOREVER

        • unqbaby

          Couldn’t have said it any better myself :)

        • mmmdot

          Umm, were you just responding to yourself or is this a commenter (troll) that is responding to another commenter with the same name? This is highly confusing.

          • SheDevilsRule

            You the troll

            • mmmdot

              So your psycho bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skill your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

              • SheDevilsRule

                I hope your stupid crispy critter azz got writer’s cramp writeing all that mess. I wish your mama could read all you wrote..LOL you feel better now gurl??

                • mmmdot

                  When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, YOU DUMB A$$ PIECE OF TRASH.

      • Kristen

        That has nothing to do with this young lady. She was all about empowerment, but you refuse to care about her story. On another note, Blacks in general have always had to “be ready/on guard” because of society. Please, don’t be a troll. Be compassionate and if you see a problem in the community, help fix it.

      • YvetteC

        It is the “perceived” strength that makes us so vulnerable to depression, somatic illnesses, and other emotional disturbances. Behind that façade of strength lies real hurt, pain, disappointment and loss not addressed. We come across strong because we don’t want to be seen as vulnerable or weak. Weakness signals incompetence and flawed survival skills to some of us.

        • thatguy0101

          Most real men already know that. thats why I laugh when black women be on that “independent” “Strong Black women” stuff… just tone it down alittle..

          • hotmama01

            thatguy0101, this article is about a tragic story of a young woman who killed herself. I guess whatever the topic, though, y’all will always bring it back to, “Well stop being so ‘independent, then!!!” Smdh y’all stay thirsty…

            • SheDevilsRule

              Your just proving that we are our own worst enemy’s. Talking bout
              “Ya’ll stay thirsty” All you did was bring yourself down to his level.

          • Tie

            You and Michael Reed sound not only dumb but also insensitive. This woman committed suicide, and as usual you guys have to make idiotic statements about black women. Either offer your condolences or don’t say anything period. This constant trolling, and the black women bashing is old and annoying. Do better!

            • mmmdot

              THANK YOU. I really don’t know what black ‘men’ like this are even doing here when they don’t even seem like they LIKE black women. Who the hell uses a young black woman’s death as an *OPPORTUNITY* to criticize all black women?!? Who does that? SMH.

          • ms stacye

            I’ve yet to see a black woman on that “independent” “strong black woman” stuff. Maybe it just doesn’t exist where I live, or I’m not looking for it….OR it’s another lame perception that SOME black men love to throw in a sistas face

            • Kristen

              I think you hit the nail on the head in your last sentence. I have yet to meet “that Black woman” as well. You never see/hear these same Black men say anything about the accomplished/goal driven Black women in society. For some reason they refuse to acknowledge we exist.

              • mmmdot

                Oh YES they do. Accomplished/goal driven Black women= the aforementioned “Independent Black Woman” and “Nxgro Bedwench”.
                The Independent Black Woman concentrates on her education and career to the detriment of building families with black men and a Nxgro Bedwench is apparently the female equivalent of an Uncle Tom. To be more specific, Nxgro Bedwenches are career driven self-hating black women that want to be the WHXRES and BOOTY CALLS of white men they meet at work. These women are the enemies of black men and the black community and they do things like A) disagree with black men, B) have a career they give a damn about, and C) watch Kerry Washington on ‘Scandal’. Anyway, if I had closed my eyes when I heard black men calling hardworking black women these HATEFUL SLURS and DEROGATORY NAMES, I could have sworn it was white supremacists *HATEFULLY* speaking about black women. *The sexism and misogyny that many black men inflict upon black women in the black community. Has .Got. To. Stop.*

                • SheDevilsRule

                  You man bashin once again..Obviously you aint got a man. KNOW no brother would put up with the way you thinkin & talkin. You really need a reality check.

                  • mmmdot

                    When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, YOU STUPID PIECE OF TRASH.

            • hollyw

              Basically. And at such a times as these, it’s no wonder. Black men have the support and nurturing of Black women, but what do Black women get?

            • http://theburningbush.disqus.com/ TheBurningBush

              “strong black woman” stuff” it’s real ! see you are a female they show that part of themselves to males, just like I as a male don’t see the side of other males you see as a female.

          • Kristen

            Don’t you see that you’re continuing the cycle in our community where depression is frowned upon? Where the blame is put on the person who is hurting the most? Depression and even your bogus argument of boasting about independence isn’t specific to women, or even Black women. It’s a problem with ALL HUMAN BEINGS. People like Karyn Washington come across too many people like you and feel like there is nowhere to turn. Just stop it already. Either that or we’re gonna continue to get louder and unveil your stupidity.

            • ms stacye

              Thank you Kristen!

          • mmmdot

            Shut the hell up, thanks. I can’t even BELIEVE what kind of a s s hole you have to be to use this woman’s suicide as an excuse to criticize black women, particularly black women that attempt to put on a brave face for hostile society that often has little to no compassion for black women. Grow the fxck up and shut the entire fxck up. Your commentary is disgusting and completely devoid of human empathy.

            • SheDevilsRule

              Your using it to bash black men so what’s the difference?

              • mmmdot

                So your psychotic bxtch a s s troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

                • SheDevilsRule

                  You makin your mama proud…keep it up

                  • mmmdot

                    When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, TRASH.

          • dev

            what I find beyond sad is a man saying such a sad thing. I don’t even wanna know if you’re one of those guys that forgot he can’t from a man, plainly insensitive,or one of those uppity attitudes that condones this pseudo reverse Toby idea of dating white women. give your condolences or keep it pushing.just stop trolling

        • ms stacye

          I love your comment, and feel this could apply to a lot of black men as well. As usual, SOME black men like to kick the sistas while they’re down. No one wants to come out and say, “hey I’m depressed”, like you said that shows a vulnerable side to that person and some people will attack a person based on that. It’s ok to ask for help, to seek help; it doesn’t make one “weak”. Easier said than done, right? :(

          • louvres

            Not to mention that only white women are allowed to be fragile….ijs

            • Kristen

              Right.

            • Yvette

              So true.

            • SheDevilsRule

              Bullshyt. Why you say that? Because they have the sense to seek therapy? Or because they push their pride aside & do something about it? There are plenty of strong white women who have had to raise 5 & 6 kid’s with no help. It’s a PEOPLE problem ALL people not just black. Too damn defensive for your own good,

              • louvres

                I say that because they are taught from birth that thw world belongs to them and that they are owed anything! just look at the justice system towards them1 that’s why I always mock feminism! These women have NO problem..in fact they are priviledged. I’m not saying that there are no white women suffering but we know it’s not the majority!

                • SheDevilsRule

                  Wow, guess you don’t know many white folk’s. If they were raised to think the world belongs to them and are owed anything as you say. They would be too lazy to get up off their butt’s and get a job.

          • Kristen

            Exactly. I love your comments as well. We as a community need to be there for each other, cause no one else will.

          • hollyw

            Right, and that is the greatest irony in all this. Black men have the least access to mental health services over EVERYONE due to society hyper-masculating them, but this fool gets more satisfaction by (trying to) point out the speck in our eye before removing the boulder from his. Must be a nice distraction for him.

            • louvres

              YEP! No one is more shunned by the society than black men..

      • Chey

        I agree. I deal with depression myself and can’t count the number of times my own mother has told me that it’s a “white people thing” and that I’m being weak minded and can pray it away. The struggle is real!

        • NOPE

          I’m sorry that you experience this and I wish you the best.

          • hollyw

            Well that was very empathetic of you, NOPE.

          • Chey

            Thank you so much!

        • 9Boots

          Chey, I had depression and anxiety off and on for seven years. My sister had them both too for twenty years. I have completely recovered and my sister has minor relapses occasionally. My mother did not believe in depression and anxiety but has now come around to understand it. Depression and anxiety is a generational curse in my family on both sides but they don’t realize it. For some people it is a chemical imbalance. For others it is because of spiritual warfare because this world can be oh so depressing and some have a combination of both. Nevertheless, we stand with The Lord and He has brought us through. Continue to stand. When my blog is up I will go through in detail of my journey and why I take hard stances on black women not putting up with ish anymore.

          • Chey

            Thank you for sharing that, 9Boots. It’s nice when someone can relate. I would love to read your blog once it’s ready!

        • Yansa M.Toussaint

          My mother went one better. She told me when I was struggling with depression I don’t see how a therapist can help you unless they are going to write you out a check every month.

      • Your bullshit upsets me

        There people go speaking for all black women as though we are of one mind….

      • Tie

        Take your stupidity elsewhere please.

      • hollyw

        Sooo let me get this straight. Black women are to blame for their own Depression based off an acquired title given to them specifically BECAUSE of the risk factors that cause Depression… Okay.

        How ironic that this is (presumably) coming from a male, whose absence is the very reason for the title’s origination, to begin with.

        …and by ironic, I mean predictable. Very, very predictable.

        • mmmdot

          Yes, i love this comment so much there are no words! You read that trifling a s s ‘brother’ like no other, girl. Virtual high five! LOL.

          • SheDevilsRule

            I just kicked some rocks while wearing my flip flops…OOPS..did that boulder hit you in the head?? my bad..LOL You still a ignorant fawking heffier

            • mmmdot

              So your psycho bxtch troll self TOTALLY stalked practically .Every. Single. Comment. I’ve. Made. You even stalked a couple MORE of my original comments than you originally did…just a FEW hours ago! Thirsty, desperate, and obsessed much? And “Nappy headed crispy critter from the 1600’s”? If you ARE black, that is literally the most self-hating shxt I EVER SEEN, you DISGUSTING trashy stupid shxt. You *DO* realize how psycho you look right? Furthermore, YOU DUMB BXTCH, do you see me addressing any of your SHXTTY and STUPID comments that AREN’T addressed to me? My damn “point” is that I am *REPLYING* to your hateful trolling comments to me that are belittling and demeaning to me and black women in general, you stupid piece of shxt. It’s not the other way around. DUH! No one is or WAS checking for you DUMMY. DUH! And once you CHOSE to go THERE in your OBSESSIVE, psycho comments to me, you DESERVED whatever the fxck you get in response, because you damn sure didn’t care about exhibiting any INITIAL basic respect or civility to ME or BLACK WOMEN IN GENERAL. DUH! So one of these things is not like the other you stupid trick and a half. DUH! Maybe if you made it past pre-school and had some basic reasoning skills your BRAIN DEAD BASIC BXTCH a s s would know all this. So wtf is your problem? Forgot to take your meds? Well fling your stupid a s s back to the psych ward you escaped from, psycho bxtch. *Or better yet, go KICK ROCKS in some flip flops in the middle of rush hour traffic.* Make sure your retarded, slow a s s follows these instructructions literally and to a T, and you won’t be hitting *anybody* with *anything*. The only “thing” (and I do mean thing) that would be getting hit is YOU, *preferably by a semi-truck, so that it wouldn’t just be the average 4 wheel vehicle flattening you into the nothing you clearly are, it would be EIGHTEEN WHEELS, so that you are truly crushed into NOTHING.* Or you can go die in a fire. Take your pick. Either way, you’d be doing the world a favor, disgusting PSYCHO piece of trash.

              • SheDevilsRule

                Word’s of wisdom, gurl you need to seek help. LOL you are truly one demented fool.

                • mmmdot

                  When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, YOU DUMB A$$ PIECE OF TRASH.

                  • SheDevilsRule

                    You makin your mama proud…keep it up Ya heffier

                    • mmmdot

                      When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, DUMB A$$ PIECE OF TRASH

      • Barbara

        Michael do you even know what Depression is? It is a Chemical Imbalance that is a result of your body not producing the required level of Serotonin. It is NOT specific to any ethnicity but does occur more in women than men by a margin of 3:1. Please stop and do research before posting you are making yourself out to be a blathering fool.

      • Dee Dee

        Michael i understand what you said maybe it wasnt said in the best way. We as a community try to put on this face and suffer alone because we dont want to appear as weak or fall to the idea that we dont need to seek counseling. as a person dealing with depression i’ve been a little wary of sharing with my friends because i dont want to be looked at negatively however i had to realize this is my struggle and i have nothing to be ashamed of…Karen RIP

        • Gert

          I was thinking the same thing, that is why I didn’t reply to his comment…I knew what he was trying to get at, but it came off crass. I like the way you put it.

      • Will

        Michael has a point. This young lady’s story is tragic and should call attention to the current collective consciousness that Black women commonly share. Now had he said that Black women are strong and are the most beautiful women on Earth, you would all accept that to apply to you amd would high five him. But because his comment contradicts your self-image you bash him instead of considering whether or not he has a point (which he does). He isn’t downing you all….he’s saying stop hiding behind the mask of fake strength…because everyone sees right through it….except you. Take this sister’s life and death as an example that love and support is something we all need (men and women) and that we have to look out for each other and encourage each other.

        • ms stacye

          My issue with his comment is that it doesn’t apply to this child. Where in the article or even her blog does she mention being strong? This is the opportunity to address depression and mental illness but he also used his platform to take a dig at black women in general. He should have worded his comment better because it seemed he was throwing shade.

          • hollyw

            You said exactly what was wrong with his comment to begin with. It was completely out of context, which lets you know what place he was coming from, with all these people trying to butter it up as if he meant something far more profound. His opening statement was FULL shade.

        • mmmdot

          No he doesn’t have a “point”. All he was doing was being an insensitive, miserable little shxt using one black woman’s struggle with depression and her death as an *OPPORTUNITY* to criticize black women, particularly black women that attempt to put on a brave face for a hostile society that often has little to no compassion for black women. He could have used this as an opportunity to express condolences for this young black woman or compassion for black women who don’t seek help, but instead he chose to show his a s s and CRITICIZE black women. This was not the time or the place. If he was truly coming from a place of love for black women he wouldn’t have said what he said in *THIS* particular thread about *THIS* particular young black woman’s death.

          • SheDevilsRule

            All ya’ll dumb a$$ females have turned this sad thing into a man bashing party…HOW DARE YOU? Hate to burst your bubble, but the world doesn’t revolve arould you.

            • mmmdot

              Go die in a fire you DUMB A$$ PIECE OF SHXT. This thread IS about a black woman and that jerk’s comment was about ALL black women, so wtf are you talking about? Learn to read, illiterate bastard. Who the fxck are you to traipse your stupid a$$ on here to call me a “dumb a$$ female” because YOU can’t read? Ever?!? Go kick rocks in flip flops and go play in rush hour traffic, moron.

              • SheDevilsRule

                No doubt you was workin your neck while you typed that B.S. This thread was about a black female that sadly took her own life.
                YOU TURNED IT INTO A MAN BASHING THREAD. You ignorant fool. Your just proved EVERY word him & Michael said about black women. Way to go…keep the stereo type alive with that dumb shyt you dumb fawking heffier.

                • mmmdot

                  Go die in a fire you DUMB A$$ PIECE OF SHXT. This thread IS about a black woman and that jerk’s comment was about ALL black women, so wtf are you talking about? Learn to read, illiterate bastard. Who the fxck are you to traipse your stupid a$$ on here to call me a “dumb a$$ female” because YOU can’t read? Ever?!? Go kick rocks in flip flops and go play in rush hour traffic, moron.

            • louvres

              Don’t even respond to this walking craziness!! She’s exactly what Michael described!

              • mmmdot

                Go kick rocks in flip flops and go play in rush hour traffic, troll.

                • SheDevilsRule

                  That old a$$ saying is gettin tired as heck. You say that to everyone who don’t agree wit you.

                  • mmmdot

                    When will the garbage truck pass by to collect this psychotic, fxcktarded bxtch? Kick rocks, DUMB A$$ PIECE OF TRASH TRASH.

      • Camile

        It is a known fact that black women have the lowest suicide rate of all the races and the police treat suicides involving black women s homicide until they prove otherwise. With that said it doesn’t mean it can’t happen. some people have struggles that are unknown to others and mental illness. My tenant of 4 years tried to take her life and I couldn’t understand why. she had a successful career, friends and was popular but she felt alone. What we see on the outside is not the whole picture.

        • Lifeisgood!

          The very fact that black women have to be strong is because black men have failed us completely. They are weak conquered men. And our girls suffer the most because of these woman hating self hating pieces of crap.

      • QueenKyrakk Wms

        Being strong can be coupled with false pride. Real strength comes from expressing your real issues or being vulnerable enough to allow help and to explore some of our deeper issues and not pretending like their not hurting. I feel that some people assume that being a black w oman means you are immune to pain and that u have this superwoman resilience to ever battle you face but deep down we sometimes want to exhale and let it all go!

      • Shanèe Grant

        Cut the crap. Stop being ignorant and do your research on depression. It has nothing to do with being black. Depression has everything to do with chemical imbalances in the brain and can be situational or even hereditary.

      • MsCam1984 .

        What? Who ever said they didn’t? Depression is not a culture its within the individual. If someone said that black women don’t suffer from anxiety and depression then that person is a fool and very uneducated. I would like to see the facts. If you don’t have it then don’t come under my comment when i’m talking about someone passing thinking that your making some kind of point. You just sound ignorant and dumb.

  • sammi

    God rest her soul and be with her family.