You never tell him when you’ve had a stressful day. In fact, you go out of your way to conceal stress from him. You feel that your stress is yours and you shouldn’t put it on him. You often put on a happy face when you’re secretly very upset, just so that you don’t accidentally offset his day or mood.
You do still desperately want to tell everyone else in your life. So you call your mom to share the good news while your partner is in the shower and can’t hear you. Or you walk the dog, just so you can call your friends.
To assume that anyone, on the inside, is dull, simple, or basic is to be very close-minded and, quite frankly, a bit dumb. Every person you pass on the street has had complex, painful, and remarkable experiences you know nothing of. It’s so disrespectful to call a fellow human being, who has had trauma, triumphs, tears, and love basic.
If you date a lot, survive several relationships, and truly take the time to reflect on your lessons from all of that, you’ll learn a few things to be true about what you need in a partner. One of those is that he believes in you. No matter how confident you are, no matter how […]