I’ve heard that if you want to get misguided information about men, take all of your advice from other women. We’ve all heard women, young and old, offer their interpretations of male behavior. Many of us have even conjured up our own hypotheses as to why they cheat, how much they don’t listen, and why they lack emotions. Although some of our information has come from our observations or witnessing shady men at inappropriate times, most of our advice about men comes from the rantings of other women.
Through experience with a variety of men, other women can definitely offer advice and do’s and don’ts when it comes to men; but, what better way to gain insight on men than by asking other men? Some of our interpretations are just as accurate as we assumed them to be; but others, not so much.
Here are 8 myths that most women either believe or have heard about men. Consider these eight men myths debunked by the men themselves.
All That Men Want Is Sex
“This isn’t always the case,” says M. Morrow, 29. “Guys are like women in the fact that we do want something meaningful from our relationships. Of course there are always exceptions. Sometimes, some guys only want sex, just like there are some guys who cheat sometimes.”
If A Woman Has Sex On The First Night, Men Won’t Respect Her
We’ve all heard that giving up the goods on the first night is an automatic dismissal for most guys. 28 year old, Jonathan Elmore disagrees.
“The reason this is a myth is because not all men feel this way. There may be a conversation and chemistry during that very first date and you might not want it to end. To be honest I may be thinking that same thing and may even respect you more for going with the feeling that you have.”
Men Care About Your Sexual History
Nobody wants to think that their current partner has a laundry list of partners. The truth is, while men may care, they aren’t interested in knowing.
“I really don’t care what a woman has done before me,” says 31 year old, P. Mays. “That’s why I don’t ask. Now if she’s doing everybody while she’s with me or if everyone is constantly telling me they been with her when I’m with her, then I may not be able to deal with that.”
Men Don’t Like Getting Directions
“This is so dumb,” says 33 year old Justin Fentress. “A lot of women think that men will get offended if she gives him directions when he’s lost. I’m all about efficiency, if we’re lost and you know how to get there, let me know. I will not feel emasculated.”
Men Like To Make The First Move
Most women shy away from approaching a man because we’ve been taught as ladies to allow a man to take the lead when approaching us. While I am on the fence with this notion, some men think otherwise.
“It’s a mutual playing field. Men don’t like approaching women all the time. If you see me and you’re feeling me, let me know,” says J. Harris, 27. “It’s hot when a woman can approach a man.”
Men Hate Independent Women
While there may be a certain nuisance in constantly exerting your independence to a man (You know, constantly reminding him that you don’t need him and can take care of yourself), men don’t necessarily dislike an independent woman. In fact, it may be an admirable trait.
“Why wouldn’t I want a woman who doesn’t need me but chooses to be with me? Men love independent women. Why do you think Jamie Foxx made a song about ‘em? We love them,” says Curtis, 28.
Men Aren’t Emotional
“I definitely gotta be anonymous on this,” jokes 31 year old P. Phillips. “Men are emotional creatures too. We just show it differently. Instead of crying or busting out windows, we shut off. And once we’re hurt, man, it almost takes a miracle for us to open back up.”
Men Don’t Like To Talk
We’ve all heard that men don’t like to talk and are usually poor communicators.
“I don’t have a problem with talking. I just don’t like talking about the same things over and over,” says Jamal, 30. “Women need to understand there is a difference in communicating and nagging. Nobody likes for all their faults to be pointed out in one conversation.”
