If you’re in a loving, committed relationship then sometimes, when you’re having a bad day, there’s nothing better than a hair-pulling, dirty-talking, sweaty session in the sheets with your significant other to shake it off. Sex, as a stress-reliever, certainly has its merits. But you run into a problem when you use sex to “fix” problems in your relationship, and in your life, that require real thought, time, effort and solutions. Because sex gives you an instant boost of all the feel-good hormones, it can give you the illusion—at least for a little while—that everything is better. Since sex makes you physically close to your partner, it can make you believe you are emotionally closer—even when you aren’t. But ultimately, it cannot fix large issues. So, do you use sex to fix your problems?
You go in and out of flings
If you use sex to fix problems, then every time you go through a rough patch in life (what do I want to do with my career? How do I fix this rift with my family?) you have a new hot-and-heavy fling. Flings are usually all-immersive, and all about the sex, so they can completely distract you from your problems. But the second you do actually face those issues, you suddenly lose interest in your fling.