Travel Trials: My Husband Didn’t Spend Quality Time With Me On Our Honeymoon

May 3, 2017  |  


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My husband and I have two totally different approaches to downtime. While I prefer to relax and catch up on much-needed rest when I’m not working, my hubby is a busybody who can’t sit still. Most of the time we balance each other out. He goes and does his thing, playing ball with the boys or biking and hiking; I hit the spa, read, and catch up on my shows; and then we come together at the end of the night to spend quality time together. But during our honeymoon last week, I wouldn’t exactly qualify the way we spent our time as balanced.

Spending a week in Costa Rica, I knew my husband was going to want to take advantage of every adventure the country offered and I was excited to do a few wild things too. We went ziplining twice, rode ATVs, hiked in the rainforest — all the outdoor activity was great. But when it came to just being with one another, that didn’t exactly happen.

For instance, one night after a day-long ziplining excursion we returned to the hotel and Shawn wanted to grab dinner at the bar and have drinks. I was pooped and wanted to order room service and spend the night in together. When I told him I didn’t feel like getting dressed up and going to the bar, I thought he’d stay in and dine with me. Instead, he went to the bar by himself and told me “get some rest babe, I’ll be back later.” Another night I suggested we have a private dinner on the beach and he ended up inviting a couple we met on another excursion earlier that day to join us. It’s like we were always doing something rather than just being with one another and talking and being romantic.

I know my husband is a social — and active — butterfly and I love that he pushes me out of my comfort zone sometimes. But I really wanted our honeymoon to be a romantic time for us to solidify our union before life interrupts our marriage and that’s not what happened. This was not the honeymoon I dreamed about and I’m sad and want a do-over. How do I get over the disappointment?

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