Last month my best friend of 10 years and I had a big falling out. Not an “I’ll call you next week and apologize” type of misunderstanding, but a huge argument that’s resulted in us not speaking since that time. Though I’ve missed by bestie during this break, given some of the things we each said to one another, the space between us has, honestly, probably been for the best. But the trouble is when everything was all good we booked a girlfriends’ getaway to Panama. And, as of today, our trip is exactly two weeks away.
When my girl and I planned to spend a week in Panama City, the idea was to give ourselves a much-needed break from the personal stressors (her marriage and my job) that led to the very breakdown in our friendship. Now I’m filled with dread at the thought of spending a tension-filled seven days abroad with her, and I’m not quite ready to unload all the issues that led to our falling out — especially in the middle of paradise when I was supposed to be able to take a break from the heavy stuff and enjoy a week of peace. But I also don’t want to be fake-friendly when I’m really hurt by some of the things she’s said and done to me recently.
An easy solution would be to just push the trip back or cancel, but we booked a non-refundable vacation package and stand to lose money if we choose either one. I don’t want to be petty and send my friend one of those “Are you still coming texts?” But part of me thinks maybe she’ll want to back out and my husband can take her place and we’ll just give her the money for her spot. He, on the other hand, says I should just call her to work thinks out prior to boarding our flights and we can go ahead and enjoy ourselves like we originally planned. I’m leaning more towards canceling and just forfeiting the money. What should I do?
