How The Way A Man Texts Tells You Not To Date Him
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You’re texting with a woman, and things are going great—or so it seems. She has been responsive for days. She sends a lot of emojis. You’ve been blessed with some sexy selfies. She adds winky faces to most of her messages. She rarely makes you wait for a response and then suddenly…silence. She is gone. She is gone before it even began! What could you have possibly done wrong before even going on a date? Could you possibly screw everything up over text message? Yup.
You may not like to hear this, but women are kind of geniuses when it comes to decoding a man’s personality through the way he texts. Sometimes the way you text simply tells a woman that you are not x, y, or z, and that is a problem. Your failure to text can tell a woman a lot, too, as can the average length of your messages and your favorite sign-offs. So, guys here is how your texting tells a woman not to date you.
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He uses a lot of ellipses
Ellipses signify insecurity, an inability to stand behind the things that you say, a fear to have a solid opinion and just general spinelessness. There is a big difference between, “We should hang out later!” and “We should hang out later…”
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He uses abbreviations like “TBH”
If you cannot be bothered to write out “to be honest” then, A) Are you even being honest since you didn’t say the word “honest”? And B) Are you possibly too busy to have a full conversation?
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Or just doesn’t care about grammar
If you write “Ur” instead of “Your” or “Gon” instead of “Going to” you are going to stop hearing back from a woman. We assume you also put your feet on the table at a nice restaurant and barely know how to spell.
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He takes forever to respond
If you can’t take two seconds to respond to a text you probably can’t dedicate much time to being a good boyfriend. Or you’re just a disorganized mess who constantly loses his phone and loses track of time.
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And he doesn’t explain why he took forever to respond
Not only do you take an entire day to respond, but you also don’t explain why that happened. Great. That means that you think it’s perfectly okay to disappear for 12 hours.
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He ignores texts and starts a new topic
If you don’t want to talk about something a woman sends in a text, you just don’t address it and start an entirely new conversation. It’s safe to assume you handle all sticky or uncomfortable conversations like that.
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He gives one word for your 40 words
She writes you a long text about what a fun night she has planned for the two of you, full of colorful details, and you respond, “Cool.” If you can’t muster the strength to match her enthusiasm over text, she knows you never will in real life. (Note how we wrote “in real life” and not “IRL.”
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He only texts (no calls)
When a woman calls you, you do not answer. Instead, you listen to her voicemail and respond to all of her comments/questions via a text. Men who don’t like phone calls are usually not very secure in themselves or have something to hide.
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He texts anytime he’s bored
Any time you’re bored in a meeting, sitting in traffic, sitting on the toilet, you tart texting. You text on and on, failing to get the hint that the woman is busy. That usually tells a woman that you think she exists just for your entertainment.
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He thinks “Hi” is a way to start a conversation
In real life it is—sure! But over text, sending a “Hi” text is like saying, “Amuse me. Flatter me. I’ve done my job now you can handle the rest of the conversation from here.”
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He opens up way too much over text
You will write novels about your feelings, about very personal experiences in your life, etc. and then you will become mysteriously silent in real life. This makes you seem uncomfortable with intimate communication.
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He texts just to chat
You text on and on and on, sending funny pictures, retelling stories you just heard, etc. but you never make a plan to hang out.
