Don’t Give It Up to Him Too Soon - Page 2
Boundaries are needed for more than physical intimacy, we need them to preserve and protect our emotions, too. Try preventing diarrhea of the soul by following these rules:
1. Don’t discuss any hang-ups with men (father, stepfather, ex-boyfriends, etc.).
Ex and Daddy baggage scream insecure, possibly desperate and potentially clingy. This is information guys don’t need to know before date number four.
2. Keep sex-speak to a minimum.
Have you done “it” or not? That’s all he needs to know. Your total number of sexual partners is none of his business. Plus, you don’t want to start any relationship off with lies…
3. Accept compliments.
Take the compliments given and don’t rag on yourself. Be confident. Insecurity is a sign of weakness and predators smell blood.
4. Ask more questions than you answer.
Get to know things about him and create conversation based on some of those connections. That way you can give substantial bits without all of the pieces.
5. Keep your medical history confidential.
Unless you’re HIV-positive, medical ailments should be kept private. There’s nothing cute or Hot about Irritable Bowel Syndrome.
Think of these guidelines as emotional condoms. Use regularly.
LaShaun Williams is a culture and relationship columnist, blogger and commentator. Her work has been featured on popular urban websites and she has made appearances on several radio shows. Williams is also the voice behind Politically Unapologetic, where she unabashedly discusses pop culture, relationships and everything in between. Follow @itsmelashaun on Twitter or Facebook.
