Don’t Be Scurred: Ways To Give Guys The Green Light When You Go Out
It happens all the time: You make eye contact, he makes eye contact, and you think he’s coming over. So you put your camera in selfie mode, make sure your makeup is right, and wait for him to approach. But then, he just doesn’t…and you have no idea where things went left. So what happened?
The short story? He probably chickened out. Men may technically be responsible for approaching women in most social situations, but sometimes it’s hard out here for a guy. Even a confident man doesn’t always have the nerve to risk getting rejected by you in front of your whole crew, or the rest of the people in the room watching you. So what do you do?
Just switching a few things about the way you carry yourself when you’re out can give a guy the green light to let him know it’s cool to follow up on that eye contact and make the first move.
Get Caught Out In Your Workout Clothes
Ever notice how men hit on you the most when you’re running to the pharmacy in your sweats? We all assume we’ll turn the most heads during a night out while looking our best, but occasionally, looking not so well put-together can increase your odds of striking up a conversation with an attractive stranger.
Don’t Always Hang Out With The Whole Crew
It’s tough for a man to want to risk rejection in front of your whole crew. When you’re hoping to meet someone, try paring the group down to two or three.
Fly Solo Missions
See someone you like? Take a break from your girlfriends and float to the guy’s general vicinity. You may give him just the opportunity he’s been waiting for to talk to you when the group does not surround you.
Give Him An Open
Don’t be afraid to look like you’re waiting for him to come over. Shoot a few smiles his way or a friendly “Where do we go from here?” look that says he should come on over.
Flirting not your style? Try carrying a book, or rocking a cool phone case that gives him a clear conversation starter.
Try A Natural Look
Try rocking a more natural look the next time you go out to look more approachable, even when you hit up your favorite flirting spot. The most dolled-up woman can sometimes be intimidating.
Resting Bitch Face is definitely real, and if you are one of the millions of women who suffer from it, it’s time to remind yourself to crack a smile from time to time. Tell your friends something funny, smile at something on your phone and you won’t find yourself accidentally looking irritable.
Don’t Help Hold Up The Wall
It’s tempting to hang out in the back of a room if you’re nervous or waiting for the crew. But crossing your arms sends signs that you don’t want to be bothered. Use those arms to grab a drink to sip instead.
Put The People-Watching On Hold
People-watching (a.k.a., laughing at the hot messes that walk by) may be your crew’s go-to move when you have downtime. But if you don’t want Mr. Mocha Latte to think you’re laughing at him, it might be a good idea to keep the conversation side-eye free (at least until he leaves).
Look Like You’re Having Fun
Whether you dance or try karaoke the next time you’re out with your friends, look like you’re having fun and people are bound to want to join you.
Be Nice To The Bartender
Smile and make a little small talk instead of just ordering your drink, and the guy who’s watching might feel like it’s okay to strike up a conversation with you.
Look Up From Your Phone
Messaging your missing friends is a classic go-to move when you’re alone and out and about. But if you look up more often than not, you might just see someone looking back.
Do More Than Make Eye Contact
When you do catch someone looking your way, you don’t just have to wait for him to make the first move. Send a quick smile his way before looking away to give him the green light to come on over.
Hang Out Somewhere Less Intimidating
Not every guy likes to try their luck at a club or lounge. Try switching your Saturday morning hangouts to bookstores, coffee shops or other places that are perfect for striking up conversations without all the pressure.
Leave Your Boys At Home On Occasion
You may be a guys’ girl, but even flirty eye contact can’t always get the message across that the all the guys you’re hanging out with are just friends.