(As relayed by Lauren R.D. Fox based on a culmination of experiences)
Yesterday, my college friends started a group text to plan our annual Girl’s Trip. Since we visited the South and Caribbean often, many of us poured in ideas about what drunken nights in Berlin or sophisticated evenings in Paris would be like.
As we went back and forth detailing what we envisioned our trip to be, one friend, Amsalé, halted everyone’s messages in their tracks.
“I have to see when Junot has time off,” her message read.
Immediately, text messages started to fly across the screen with replies asking why Amsalé needed to know when her husband had time off from work. They didn’t have children and Junot was in perfect health. That’s when she told us, Junot will be accompanying us on the trip. Once she shared that information, many of our friends stopped responding to the thread. To make up for the awkward vibe, I decided to reach out to Amsalé separately, asking why Junot had to come.
Amsalé told me, after being married for a year, she and Junot decided they wouldn’t travel without one another. She promised Junot would find other activities to do so our friends wouldn’t feel like he was invading their space (or time with Amsalé).
Although I could understand Amsalé and Junot’s passion for protecting their marriage, I personally feel our trip won’t be the same. If Junot comes on our trip, Amsalé will most likely not stay up late, reminiscing on old times and we won’t be able to talk openly in his presence.
Because none of the rest of the crew is married, however, Amsalé believes we are reacting immaturely about her decision.
Do you think Junot should come on our trip?