We’ve talked in the past about whether or not it’s a good idea to date a man who is separated from his wife (the response was something to the effect of, “terrible idea!”). But would you date a guy who is actually actively taking steps to get out of his marriage even though it’s taking longer than planned?
I ask that because Chris Rock, 50, is reportedly dating again. The young woman he’s seeing is an actress named Megalyn Echikunwoke, 32, who has been on the show Damien and Arrow, and she was on his arm as his date for Clive Davis’s pre-Grammy gala this past Sunday. But the pair have reportedly been an item since last year, as People reports that they were also by each other’s side at the Global Citizen Festival in NYC last September.
Echikunwoke has been very supportive of Rock, rocking a CB4 cap on her Instagram page, and retweeting his tweets and promotional messages as he prepares for the Oscars on February 28.
Of course, Rock is still trying to finalize the details of his divorce from Malaak Compton-Rock. The pair would have been married 20 years this November, but Rock filed papers in December of 2014. More than a year later, they’re still trying to figure things out and have had some public clashes, specifically over the South African child they took in years ago.
But Echikunwoke, whom people say looks a lot like a younger version of Compton-Rock, and who is also Nigerian and White, seems very happy with her beau. After the pre-Grammy event, she even shared a photo of the flowers Rock gave her for Valentine’s Day.
So with all that being said, I wonder what you would do in a situation like this. I asked my friend if she would entertain a relationship or even just date a guy in the midst of a divorce, and she was actually somewhat open to it.
“Depends on how far along he is in the process,” she said. “I would probably go on a date and see where his head is, but I don’t think I’d want to consistently date until it was officially over.”
And I could understand that. Said guy sounds like he’s actively trying to move on, as opposed to the kind of men who string one woman along while promising to split from their wife “soon.”
But I would have to pass. Divorce can be a long and drawn-out process, not to mention a messy one. The last thing I would want is to get pulled into the contention or the conversation at any point. Also, there is a lot of restructuring going on in a man’s life as he goes through divorce proceedings, including starting over in a new home, figuring out what money and items will be given or divided, and most importantly, there might be some very strong feelings (like love…or anger) still lingering that he might need to work on before stepping back out in the dating field.
There’s nothing wrong with giving a divorcé a chance, but I would probably wait for him to actually be that before trying going forward with anything.
That’s just me, though. Wendy Williams, on the other hand, was more strong with her opinion, a.k.a., her disapproval of Echikunwoke dating Rock while he’s trying to finalize his situation (10:30 mark). But what say you?