Whether you’re in the limelight or an average Joe, marriage is a challenge. Joining your life with an entirely different person is no small feat.
Some people learn this before they embark on a marriage, others in the midst of it and some people don’t fully grasp the concept until their own marriage is looking a little shaky.
In a recent interview with DuJour, it would seem that Nick Cannon has come to that realization.
The 35-year-old was on his way to a tattoo parlor when he conducted the interview. The article breezed past his numerous jobs, the fact that he sleeps about two hours a night and his role in Spike Lee’s Chi Raq but more than anything, the article was focused on his divorce from superstar Mariah Carey (He filed in December 2014 after six years of marriage.), maintaining their amicable relationship and his thoughts on marriage these days.
Check out a few of the highlights below.
Cannon say that no matter how amicable his divorce from Mariah has been, he realized the media would always want to make it drama-filled and sensationalized.
He also discovered something else throughout this ordeal.
“I feel like marriage isn’t for everyone. A friend of mine put it the funniest way. He said, ‘If you heard that there was a 50/50 chance of living or dying when you jump out of a plane, you probably wouldn’t go skydiving. There’s like a 50/50 chance of a marriage working. If it didn’t work out for you the first time, and you still survived it, you probably shouldn’t do it again.”
His thoughts are pretty clear but when DuJour asked Cannon if he’d ever marry again, he nailed the point home.
“I highly doubt it.”
But, as he’s been trying to tell us, he still has nothing but positive things to say about his wife. In talking about their family’s Christmas celebration, Cannon mentioned all the extravagance. The “Rockefeller tree in their living room,” half a dozen reindeer pulling Santa’s sleigh through Aspen where they traditionally spend Christmas. And though it’s excessive and far from normal, Cannon doesn’t think their different upbringing predicts doom for their adult lives.
“I don’t see a problem with them being different and having an eccentric upbringing. It’s fascinating and fantastic. But it’s about [teaching them] humility more than anything. Teaching them to be respectful—to make eye contact and say ‘Yes, ma’am’ and ‘Yes, sir,’” he says. “You can still be a diva and be humble. Mariah is a perfect example of that.”
Being that his marriage to Mariah seemed to end relatively nicely, you would think he would be more optimistic about giving it another go. But he’s looking at things differently these days, even suggesting that being married goes against basic human nature.
“When you can be blissful in [a marriage], it’s beautiful. Embrace it for the time that you have it, because it’s not easy. In human nature, we’re supposed to be selfish… We’re constantly moving, constantly changing and evolving. To expect someone to do that with you is kind of absurd.”
Despite not being so sold on the idea of marriage anymore, he still describes himself as a hopeless romantic…just one who has a hard time trusting people.
“I’ve rarely let people that close to me. A lot of it comes with me having trust issues. I’ve been that way since grade school. I don’t trust many people,” he says. “Who knows where I’ll be when I’m 60. At 35, I’m not even looking to be in a relationship.”
So maybe there’s some George Clooney hope there.
But for now, he’s working on being by himself. You may remember that he recently told Ellen he’s practicing celibacy for now.
He also posted this quote on his Instagram.
“I never ever in my life want to have to… how do I say this the right way…” he trails off, thinking carefully about his choice of words. “Not to say that I was bogged down [in my marriage], because I wasn’t by any means, but I like being able to make my own decisions and come and go as I please.”
You can read the rest of Cannon’s DuJour interview and check out the spread here.