You know the story by now….the same old ‘sex is boring in my house’ bedroom talk with your girlfriends or your fellas. You are deeply in love with your better half…but the only thing is – your sex life is dead. The spark you used to have is fading because you both work crazy hours, are stressed the f@#$ out with the bills, or the kids got you going crazy. She’s gaining weight, he’s cranky as hell – everything is out of order in your home. The sanctuary you two built is crumbling because of the lack of intimacy and diversity in your bedroom. You don’t want to cheat, but your mind has been wandering a lot. Your time together used to mean everything until you realized that every time you have sex you could predict how the whole dirty movie was going to flow. A couple kisses here and a couple kisses there – clothes off – penetration and then it is over. ‘That’s it???’ – she’s thinking. ‘I got that off!!!!’– he’s thinking. Who knew your sex life would be so complicated, one-sided and dry? Verses calling deuces on the whole ordeal – get your swag back in the bedroom and turn up with these tips from your man Wood, Mr. Randy Ritchwood.
Randy Ritchwood: Boring Sex? 6 Ways To Turn It Up!
Get To Know One Another Deeply
If you are married, dating intensely, or just getting to know one another – the absolute best way to better sex is through trust. Trust is an important factor when it comes to really deep and engaging sex, because no one really wants to go past their boundaries with someone who does not respect their body or mind. If you feel like you are just another woman on the roster or another man who she’s creeping with, it may be hard for either party to be free in the bedroom. If you have doubts about your partners whereabouts or what they are trying to expose you to in the bedroom, it is easy to go on the defensive sexually, which can lead to dry, uptight and boring sex.
Try New Positions
So you’ve mastered back shots and really think you have gotten the riding your partner thing down pat – good! However, if those moves are your only claim to fame in the bedroom, it may be time to turn up with some sex toys or maybe porn or maybe just a whole new level of freaky foreplay. Relying on the same positions makes your sex life too predictable and if you can anticipate what is next – no need to read the whole book. For starters, your bedroom isn’t the only place you can get it popping – have you tried your living room floor or maybe the shower at 2AM?
Give Your Partner An ‘E’ For Effort
So, we discussed trying new positions, but have you thanked your partner for venturing into new places when it comes to sex? Let your man or woman know they are appreciated if they go out of their way to please you. For instance, if you are into anal sex and your partner never tried it – if they make the attempt, thank them. Make them feel safe and protected. Sometimes you may be introducing your mate to something that they have always wanted to try, but never felt safe or secure doing with anyone else. If you put a new sex position out there and they are a little resistant, try again later when they have their guards down. Whatever you do – don’t look at them crazy or insane! Truly, what you are seeking in terms of pleasure may just be different than what they are accustomed to. Whatever you do, don’t walk around with an ego if your significant other appears to be inexperienced. They may be reserving the wild times for the right night.
Get Out The House
If the only place you are having sex is in the house, it may be time – if money and vacation days allow – to do a little couples get-away so you can turn up sexually. With stress from the kids and the job, the house looks like an all too familiar space! When there is a dry spell in your sexual relationship – maybe you need to switch up the scenery a bit. Surprise your better half with a weekend spa date or maybe a trip to a little cabin up north so you both can get some rest and relaxation. When you wake up – bring all that you got – with no excuses. Changing your area code will probably boost your overall feel, which will most likely increase your mood (and appreciation) of your partner.
Don’t Abandon Before The Orgasm
The big ‘O’ – isn’t it crazy how many folks forget to let their partner experience an orgasm, because they got theirs off just in time? Rule #1 in sex – don’t be selfish. Again, don’t be selfish! If you experienced your high – leaving your partner hanging is just like leaving them with the check after you’ve invited them out on a date to their favorite restaurant. A big part of a rich sex life is reaching your peak. If you are just moving around in the sheets with no real destination, don’t even bring your partner on the trip.
If You Fight Fair, F@#$ and Make-Up
So you two are beefing over some unpaid bills or some other house drama? Maybe you got an unresolved issue that has been lingering for weeks that you never addressed. Either way, the whole house feels the tension. Verses pulling the silent treatment for days, apologize to your other half with some wild, off the hook sex. Don’t even talk – just listen to their body language. Touch them in places you haven’t in a while. Any anger that was built up, intimately take it out on them in a respectful, but highly freaky and sexual way. Maybe that’s what they were looking for. Sometimes we are sexually frustrated and simple things like dirty dishes in the sink takes the frustration to a whole new level. #sexnotstress
Randy ‘Wood’ Ritchwood is an East Orange, New Jersey resident and a divorced father of 4. He is also a serial businessman, restaurant owner, real estate owner, and the former reality star of ‘I Love New York.”Wood’ as he is often addressed, is also the 2005 winner of Oxygen’s show ‘Mr. Romance.’ To spice up Mommynoire from a man’s perspective, he will be contributing a weekly column targeting sex, intimacy, dating, marriage, baby mamas, and divorce challenges. In his eyes: “Remember, I’m not your doctor, I’m not your therapist, I’m just your man ‘Wood’ Randy Ritchwood.