Praying For A Man: Is It A Necessity Or Just Plain Desperate?

April 15, 2015  |  



I’m one who believes in the power of prayer. I thank God daily for my blessings and occasionally make special requests for things I want. I’ve prayed for jobs, better health, family, and friends, and even for the lady who continuously asks for prayer at church. You name it, I’ve prayed about it; but recently my friend asked single, praying me if I’d ever talked to God about sending me a man. I hadn’t, and I’m still debating whether or not I deem it necessary.

While I would like to be in a relationship, and I do hope that one day the right man comes along, I’m not miserable without one, and I’m not pressed about when or how Mr. Right will make his entrance into my life. Maybe that’s become some people who know me consider me to be too picky. I’ll take that because I am cautious of who I call my man and refuse to be in a relationship simply to say I’m in one. I want to one day meet my soulmate, get married, and have babies. I hope for these things, but should I pray for them?

Praying seems to be a necessity when it comes to things that sustain me: health, family, friends, and financial security, but praying for a man almost feels desperate. Is it something I should speak to God and the universe about or is it a waste of words? Is it fair for me to simply believe that it will happen without requesting it or putting it in the atmosphere?

After my friend had inquired about whether or not I asked God to send me a mate, I began to question the reasons why I have not prayed for something I eventually want in my life. I think it’s the rebel in me that goes against society’s notion that a woman isn’t happy unless she’s in a relationship. I disagree with this because I know plenty of happy single women. But if I’m honest, I can admit that I don’t want to be a happy and single sista forever. I want genuine companionship. And as much as I believe that you have to be assertive when it comes to what you want, I’ve failed to do so when it comes to my dating life.

My friend said she thought it was necessary to pray for Mr. Right and recently decided to ask God to allow it to happen in most of her prayers from here on out. I have yet to include such prayers in mine. Maybe I’m being stubborn. And despite my hesitation, the notion of praying for romantic bliss does seem enticing. So why am I not doing it? Could it be that I’m afraid it won’t happen or am I not ready if it happens sooner than I think? I am still going back and forth with my reasoning. But maybe, just maybe, I will pray on it.

I’d love to hear your thoughts as I question my own. Do you or have you prayed for a man? What’s been your experience?


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