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Ask A Black Man

Episode: Sex

Occupation: Actor/Writer

Twitter: @darikbernard

IG: @iamdarikbernard

Relationship Status: Married

Children: One

My definition of a man: A guy who understands how to separate his wants from his needs, Someone who can lead but knows when and how to humble himself to follow. Someone who takes care of his responsibilities. A man is aware of himself and the power/strength he possesses. A man knows when, where, and how to use said power/strength. A man never grows tired of learning and growing because with each new revelation, he adds another weapon in the arsenal of his manhood.

Good sex is… ADDICTIVE! It can take you on a psychedelic trip that is better than any chemical high could ever produce. I believe good sex is the first drug known to man. Good sex will have you doing things that are so unorthodox you don’t recognize yourself at times. Good sex can cure any arguments, fights, or misunderstanding (sometimes,lol!) Good sex even transcends the word “good” because we us a generic word such as “good” to downplay it so nobody can take away!

Good sex can put a pause on all the bullsh!t you may have going on in your life. When you lock all the doors, close the blinds and turn out all the lights good sex becomes an escape! The cheapest getaway you can find is good sex!!!

The one thing I know to be true about women: They are the best thing to happen to men and we would be lost without them!

Three things every relationship should have are fun, good communication, and trust.

My job as a husband is to be the best other half I can be. To lead/guide us in the way that God would approve. To try to always keep us on task and help us move forward to fulfilling all the goals/dreams we talked about! To love you when you feel the world doesn’t, to tell you that you’rr beautiful even when you don’t always feel it. My job is to cover you when you’re feeling delicate and support you when you’re strong.

Any woman I’m involved with must be loving, ambitious, creative, understanding, trust-worthy, selfless, nurturing, soft, FREAKY, discreet, down to earth, passionate, wise, and BEAUTIFUL (to me!)


I want my legacy to be… a creative one. As an artist I want to produce work with my acting and tv/film making, that even when I’m gone people will still enjoy and find some way to apply it to their everyday lives. I want it to be a legacy filled with triumphs and celebrations! I want to leave behind things that will make my great great grandchildren proud. To paraphase my fellow Gemini brother Tupac, “I’m not saying I’m gonna change the word but I want to be the spark in someone’s brain that will!”

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