How To Handle Being Dumped Right Before Valentine’s Day

February 10, 2015  |  

The month of February holds a lot of significance to people for many reasons: It’s the second and shortest month of the year; it’s Black History month; it’s the month that the Grammys air, and last but not least, one of the most anticipated days of the year for lovers is on the 14th. That’s right, it’s about to be Valentine’s Day. And while there are many people who will celebrate this day with a special someone, there are others who thought they would, but got an unexpected surprise right before Valentine’s Day: they were dumped.

While it’s definitely a bit heartless and cold, ending a relationship, being dumped or ending your time of courting happens a lot as the weeks go by and the 14th approaches. Love affairs end with excuses like, “It just isn’t working out,” “We’re not compatible,” “It’s not you it’s me,” or the shadiest reason of all (that your partner probably won’t be upfront about), “I didn’t want to buy a gift.” For whatever reason your relationship ends before the most romantic day of the year, you should handle it gracefully and be glad it’s over. Here’s why.

If your significant other comes to you with the intention of ending the relationship, accept their decision and don’t beg or plead. Even if it hurts to the core, never let them see you sweat or break down. Cry it out later and move forward.

Know that the best way to get over a guy is to have fun trying to meet a new one. Put on that fabulous new ensemble on Valentine’s Day, strut your stuff out on the town and enjoy yourself. Don’t allow that person to steal your joy on a day that was meant to celebrate love. Besides, you never know who you might meet while you’re out.

You should take whatever gift you were going to give and bless someone else with it. This gesture of kindness can brighten the day of someone who probably wouldn’t have received anything. So share the love! Or, if you’d rather not give your gift away, return it to the store you got it from, get a full refund and spend it on yourself! You can never show yourself enough love, right?

These are just a few things you can do to ease the pain of getting dumped or ending your relationship right before Valentine’s Day. And while you’re starting your healing process, here are a few reasons why you should be glad that ol’ boy is out of your life.

Reason one? Well, being single again can be a relief after months, or years, of stress. Many unmarried people are so busy looking for love and relationships that they tend to overlook the privilege of being single. While there’s nothing wrong with desiring love, in fact, it’s perfectly natural, you can be happily single. Cherish this time so when the right one does come along, you won’t have any regrets.

The next reason to get back to happy is because you can now date around as much as you please if you weren’t doing so before. This is healthy for you, and it will help you forget about your recent break up.

Lastly, if you’re a great catch and you know it, be happy knowing that your ex has given you enough space for the right person to catch you and not fumble. More often than not, people have the tendency to latch on to one person who isn’t worth their time for the sake of being in a relationship. But if you know you’re worth you it, you know you deserve somebody better who will meet and respect your needs.

Getting dumped is never an easy thing to deal with, no matter when and why it happens, but it can be a blessing. Remember that it’s not the end of something good, but the start of something great.

Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For and an advocate for single women. Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin

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