“I’ve Never Had Someone To Fully Accept Me” Erica Mena Opens Up About Love And Sex With Bow Wow
Honestly, I’m still waiting to see what’s going to happen with this Erica Mena and Bow Wow engagement. There is quite a bit of skepticism surrounding these two. One minute Erica, (Whenever I say Erica Mena’s name, I always hear Cyn’s whiny voice in my ear.), was with Rich Dollaz, then Cyn Santana and then, seemingly overnight, she was not only dating Bow Wow, the two were engaged to be married.
Life comes at you fast, huh?
We never know how the cookie will crumble in Hollywood relationships, so I’m not going to damn them or their love, I’ll just say it’s interesting.
In this day of social media proclamation, Erica and Bow Wow are forever making their love known all over each other’s social media pages. There are photos of the two in bed together, cute videos with sexual innuendos and gushing comments about who and what they are to each other. And in a recent interview with Rolling Out, the “Love and Hip Hop New York” star opened up about her relationship, talking about how Bow Wow tamed her, what real men like in a woman and what she wants her legacy to be as a woman, wife and mother.
Check out the highlights.
How can she be ready to get married when she was just with Cyn?
People have misconceptions about everyone I’ve dated. Last year, it’s like “oh, all of sudden, she’s gay.” No, I’ve been bisexual. In the past, I’ve been very open and affectionate towards females. It’s definitely no secret. At that point, I was dating a woman and brought her on the show.
How she and Bow fell in love
When that whole “106 & Park” kiss happened, we were both seeing other people and that kiss put us in the doghouse. So we were kind of confiding in each other. I realized that he is a man who really knows me and I’ve never had someone to fully accept me for who I am, flaws and all. I think it just happened naturally with us. We were at that point of really wanting to settle down, but the people that we were with at the time just weren’t fitting us. So it just happened and I discovered that this was the person that I was really supposed to be with.
What does she say to people who think this is a publicity stunt?
I think people are trying to put pieces together in other people’s lives so much that they are not living their own life. Cyn and I have been broken up for a while, I just hadn’t publicly come out about it because I’m on reality television. So to keep you tuned in, I had to keep things under wraps. So in this season of “Love & Hip Hop,” there’s a lot of catching up for the fans to do. And I think they will see how everything transpired and will get a better understanding.
Bow Wow’s sex game
Being with Bow [Wow], he’s so dominating and that just turns me on because I’m usually the dominating one. I’m a Scorpio, so I call the shots. It’s different to have someone that you can finally be submissive to. So dealing with a woman like me, it’s kind of like, ‘can she be tamed?’ It’s all a matter of, are you man enough to tame the woman. And there’s a way to be assertive, but still give that embraceable nature that makes a woman kind of be submissive to you, that’s very powerful. But in order for a man to feel like a man, a woman has to give him the most respect. But in order for the woman to give you that respect, you kind of have to demand it and make her embrace you for what you are doing to her for her to respect you. So it’s a catch-22. I think men are scared of being men these days.
A little Rich Dollaz jab
From my last relationship with ‘B—- Dollaz’ [Rich Dollaz], he was just one of those dudes who would always run home to his mama. You know, it just shows that you’re a punk at that point. And that also goes for respect. You can still be a man and have authority and get your point across without being disrespectful. I think a man should “think like a man.
What do men respect about women?
Men love women who aren’t babies, who don’t nag and you don’t have to stroke their egos. You just kind of have to be sure of yourself. If you feel good, I’m telling you every man in America will know you’re feeling good.
How she wants to be remembered
In my career, I want to be known as the girl who was crazy enough to go for it and brave enough to get it done. In my personal life, I want to be the one who takes care of everybody. And in my marriage, I want to be that wife that my husband can really rely on for everything. I don’t want it to ever get to a point where my husband can’t be honest with me, or that he isn’t sexually into me. As a mom, I want to be that mother that steers her children to be whatever they want to be, but also lets them know that the world will never give them anything. So when they grow up, they can come back and say, “mom, you were right.”