“Where do I find a good man?” While I don’t believe there is an exact formula to meeting a good man, I do believe the keys to finding a good man involve living your best life, while frequenting places where single men are most likely to be.
And before I get to the best places (and worst places) where you’re most likely to meet a good man, I’d like to share some advice. I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to live your best life- regardless of whether you have a man in it. Living your best life means being in the best possible place in your life- that means spiritually, emotionally, financially, e.t.c. Living your best life is important because it means you’ll bring more to a relationship than just a pretty face. After all, what good is finding a good man, if you have nothing to offer and your life’s a mess? I’ve always believed that love will come when you’re ready. So if you’re ready to receive love, here are some of the best and worst places to find it.
Best 1-5
1) Classroom/ Volunteer Organization
Write down a list of hobbies you’d like to explore or a good cause you’d like to take up. Unless it’s knitting, there’s a very good chance you’ll encounter some single men through your activities. By taking a class, volunteering or being part of an organization that serves a good cause, you’ll most likely be surrounded by like-minded men that share the same values.
2) Bookstore/Café
Do you love to read? Well, I think large book stores with cafes are excellent places to meet single men. Whenever I’m at one, I can’t help but notice the cute guy who always seems to have lunch by himself at the far corner table. Or there’s the cute guy that likes to read on the comfy seat by the fiction books. Check out your nearest Borders Bookstore for a good book and a good man.
3) Intramural sports leagues/gym
Getting involved in league sports and/or joining a gym is a great way to meet single men. Most men love a woman with a little competitive edge. So get involved, have fun, and turn off that iPod for friendly conversation. If anything else, you’ll still look good breaking a sweat.
4) Online (falls under best and worst)
Online dating can be a convenient way to find a good man. There are many great (and free) sites, and men typically outnumber women on these sites. So if you’re smart about how you filter through the sea of online men, the odds are ddefinitely in your favor).
5) Dog Park (Park in general)
You’ll be surprised at how many single, pet-loving men spend their time at dog parks (or parks in general). I have a good friend who met her boyfriend at a dog park. The scenery is perfect for a nice jog or solo lunch, and the people (and pets) there are very friendly- which makes conversation very easy.
Worst 6-10
6) Church
Going to church with the sole purposes of finding a good man, is one of the worst things you can do. Church is great for communing with God, but it never struck me as the best place to meet a man. Here’s why: People, including me, are on our best behavior at church. And it’s always better to meet a man where he’s more likely to be himself.
7) Club/Bar
If you’re thinking of the type of club/bar that I’m thinking of- half-dressed women dropping it like it’s hot and men posted up feeling on random booty– then it goes without saying that this is the worst place to find a man that’s looking for a long term relationship.
8. Work
A lot of people think it’s convenient to date a coworker, but I strongly advise against it. Keep a strong dividing line between co-workers and romantic interests. Most of the time, we (coworkers) have two very different side: the professional side and the personal side. And if things go wrong in the relationship, there’s a high tendency for a personal sides to bleed into our professional relationships.
9) Online
While, I do believe online dating is one of the most convenient method of meeting single men, I also believe that online dating attracts many men that have “issues,” are looking for casual sex, as well as men who are looking to cheat. So very vigilant about meeting men online.
10) A.A. Meetings
I’ve actually heard women talk about how AA/NA meetings are great places to meet single men. While I agree that it’s great these men are taking steps to get their lives together, I believe that going to these meetings for the purposes of meeting a mate is quite opportunistic and desperate.
