It’s a classic debate. Grab the bull by the horns and go for what you want or let a man be a man and wait for him to show his interest and ask you to go out on a date. It’s a tricky one. We asked our readers if they’d ever asked a man out. And for most of the respondents it turned out pretty well…like marriage and babies well. See what they had to say in the stories below.
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Gabrettee: Yep. Turned down once. Still good friends with the other.
Latoya: I have. He was cool with it cause he was like I never had a woman take me out on a date. Told him u been messing with the wrong woman. Lol I like to make him feel appreciated
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Geralda: Nope,, I’m way too shy
Gabie: I asked my hubs out 8 yrs ago. Best decision ever!
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Syreeta: Few times and they all turned out with no’s hell I did it last week. I’m done lol
Yolanda: A few times (never on the first or second date though) and they all turned out to be good dates. Men like to be courted a little and feel appreciated too.
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Erinn: I won’t do it again:(..I’ve learned my lesson..if he wants to take me out…ASK:)!!!..
Gina: Yep. He told me he was waiting for me to make the first move. I was even going to pay, but he said no way. We dated for a few months after.
Jessica: Yes and he turned me down, but I knew that just part of life. Won’t stop my pride.
Faren: Yep it went well. Women need not to be scared to try something new. Might get better results
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Denetta: Not only have I done that and it went well, but I proposed to my husband and we’ve been married 12 years!!
Nakesha: Yes and he said Yes and the date was great! Still seeing him and that was 2 months ago…
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Teresa: Yes, and we are still together twenty years later:-) you have to go after what you want in life.
April: Yes, we dated and it is a relationship I regret, so never again.
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Melissa: I have…he was pretty cool about it like it wasn’t no big deal…we dated for a while & then I broke it off because he wasn’t relationship material…when he wanted to be relationship material I had moved on.
Zoe: Yes I did it was my freshman year in college and I had a small crush I figure if it was fun date it would work better … So we went to six flags … 8 years later we are still together and engaged
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Tonya: Of course, and we’re married now!!! What?! Was I supposed to wait on him?!! Ain’t nobody got time for that!!! Lol!
Barbara: Yes and he said no because he just got out of a relationship. My feelings were so hurt!
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Asmithe: Yep. Asked him on a date. He asked me to his girlfriend, then his fiancé, then his wife and now we have a 10 month old son that would’ve never been here if I was scary. My dad always told me if you want it–sitting around ain’t gonna help!
Danyelle: Nope but I paid for the dates that I was asked out on for a good little minute with this one dude. SMH… I was young and dumb. He was cute tho or was it just… lol. You live. You learn. You laugh.
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Holly: Yes and it didn’t work out. My experience is men don’t like to be pursued . It’s all about the challenge with a man & by you asking him out there goes that challenge right out the door and down the street !
Monica: Not only did I ask him out on a date but 3 years later I asked him to marry me and been married 7 years now!
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Danielle: Yes…it went well, but later on in the relationship he took that as weakness and felt as though I “needed” and “wanted” him and would do anything to keep him. So I don’t know if I would do it again.
Lynetta: I did. It wasn’t much of a date though. I asked him over to my house for a movie (we talked for months before we met face to face). December will be 4 years of us being together.
Trice: Absolutely…he was fascinated and honored…yes I would do it if it’s something I want…lol
