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Dear Single Sistas,
I’m writing this letter to all of you who are known affectionately as the other woman, the mistress, or the kept woman. I’m writing this letter to encourage you to walk away from a relationship that is going no where fast and will indefinitely leave you with unspeakable heartache. I am talking to all of my Single Sistas who are involved with or in love with another woman’s husband. I know I won’t get too many Amen’s or Facebook likes with this letter, however, I hope this letter encourages at least one of my Single Sistas who are on the ‘creep’ with a married ‘creep’ to step back and rethink what you’re doing.
As I write this letter to my Single Sista Second Woman my heart goes out to you. My heart goes out to you because you are settling for less than what you deserve all because you may fear being alone, or you are not confident in the woman you were created to be. I know you may be thinking that you aren’t settling for less than what you deserve because you are in a ‘relationship’ with a man who tells you he loves you, but if you really look at the relationship you are involved in you will see that you are indeed settling for less. If you don’t believe me, let’s look at the facts.
The man you are involved with is married, meaning that he may tell you behind closed doors that he loves you after you have had sex, or spent a few hours together-just the two of you, but he professed his love to his wife in front of witnesses and made a commitment to her and God. You may share a bed with him for a few moments, but he shares a home with his wife…and guess what? There’s a bed there too! You may have had a child with him, but he has a family with his wife. He may wine and dine you for a few moments, he may even spend a few nights with you, but when it’s all said and done he goes home to his wife. Now I know you may be saying and asking, if he loves his wife so much, why is he with me? The answer is simple…because you’re there. You may even believe that you exude confidence because you have the temporary attention of someone else’s mate, but the truth of the matter is that if you were truly confident within, you would not even think about being with another woman’s husband, and you are using this relationship to stroke your ego.
So as I write this letter to all of my Single Sistas who are Second, or even to my Single Sistas who may know of someone who is second, I urge you to walk away from a dead end relationship because not only are you hurting yourself, but you are hindering the healing of a hurting marriage that can easily be your marriage one day.
I know you may feel as though there aren’t any good men available, or that you will never get married but that’s not the case. There is someone who has been specifically prepared for you, but you will never know who he is because you are blocking your own blessing. And even if your reality is that you won’t get married, learn how to accept it and move forward with your life; because contrary to popular belief, you can have a very productive and fulfilling life as a single woman. I know you may also be thinking about the many men who have left their wives for the ‘other woman’ and you see how seemingly successful their relationships are, but you don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors, and you should really ask yourself if you want a relationship with a man who has limited morals and values when it comes to marriage…but then again, if you continue to stay in a relationship with a married man, what does that say about you and your morals and values…Ouch!
So as I close this letter to all of my Single Sistas Second Woman/Women I encourage you to walk away from a dead end relationship with dignity in your spirit, pride in your soul, and respect in your heart; not just for yourself, but for the marriage that could’ve been ruined, and for your Married Sista whose husband you share. You deserve better. Look within, reflect on who are, build on that knowledge and move forward with your life.
Your Single Sista,
Liz
Liz Lampkin is the Author of Are You a Reflection of the Man You Pray For? Follow her on Twitter @Liz_Lampkin
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