Just in case you didn’t get the memo, I’m here to tell you all that you can have whatever your pretty little heart’s desire. That’s right ANYTHING – your dream man, career, home, or whatever personal goal you may have. The sky is the limit and it’s filled with endless opportunities for you to sieze. That’s the real secret but what most of us fail to learn and forget is the strategy. You can’t get what you want without a game plan. Yes, some things come with a little luck but for the most part you need to put in some work.
Here are a few things to remember so you can get all you want out of life:
Ask for it – I don’t know how many times I’ve seen women fail at this first and most important piece of the puzzle. In order for someone to know what you want you have to tell them, if not they will give you what they want you to have. This factor is especially key in relationships. If you communicate your wants and needs clearly and upfront, you will save yourself and your partner a lot of unnecessary stress and headaches.
Check your emotions, issues and insecurities at the door – I’m calling this one out loud and clear because as women we often allow our hearts to rule when we should be allowing the good sense god gave us to direct our actions. When it comes to getting what you want you must never allow your emotions to take control of you. Yes there will be days when you don’t feel like being bothered, your attitude stinks and you can really care less about anybody but no one should ever know that. And if you have some deep rooted issues and insecurities about yourself work on them before you start trying to cover them up with your “wants”.
Write it down – Put it on paper! What you want is not real until you see it for real. If you don’t write in a journal start doing it. This is where your dreams turn into realities.
Stay focused – Distractions are not hard to find and they usually come in the form of unimportant and unnecessary matters. Try not to get caught up in things, people or situationsthat remove you from the task at hand. Keep your eyes on the prize at all times.
Never say never – Never say what you won’t do. Stay open minded while staying true to you.
Ignore NO’s – Never accept no as an answer. NO simply stands for next opportunity, therefore don’t allow a little opposition to get in your way.
Don’t ask for permission – As women we often look for validation from others to confirm our own hopes and dreams. Stop it! Don’t wait for anyone to allow you to make things happen in your life. Pat your own back and make it happen!
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