Feeling unsatisfied in the bedroom lately? In a recent article from the Guardian published earlier this month, health experts suggested a low libido and lack of sex might be tied to everyday life and relationship issues, such as neglecting household tasks, having a messy room, or notably, being overly affectionate with your partner. Yes, you read that right. Here are twelve ways you may be ruining your sex life and how you can get back on track to maintaining a healthy level of intimacy with your partner.
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1. Give Your Home Or Room A Deep Clean Before Sex
Studies show that having a messy and disorganized room or home can increase stress and anxiety levels, leading to scatterbrained and depression, Web MD notes. According to Portia Brown, a sex educator, all of these feelings can disrupt your libido, making you less focused on achieving pleasure with your partner.
Decluttering your home and cleaning your space can help boost your libido and relax your nerves before engaging in intimacy with your partner. Cam Fraser, a men’s sex coach advised for folks struggling with low sex energy to treat their homes “like a little sanctuary,” free from stresses and distractions so that you can feel instantly relaxed and ready to be intimate in it.”
Fraser added to the Guardian, “How do you create a sexual sanctuary? Take five minutes to declutter before initiating sex – if you’ve got dirty clothes on the bed or the washing has to be put away, at least put everything in a cupboard, close its door, and make the bed – and don’t talk shopping lists or the school pickup in bed.” A clean room helps the mind and body thrive.
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