Tips For Manifesting Your Dream Job
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If you spend even five minutes on social media today, you will likely come across the word “manifestation.” It’s become a buzz word and a rather popular practice. Or is it a concept? Perhaps it’s both. The scholarly community would say that manifestation is part of something called the “law of attraction.” That’s right: it’s not just our friends who wear protective crystals and burn sage to clear the energy in their homes who believe in manifestation. It’s actually long been explored under “the law of attraction.” One study breaks it into three laws: that of attraction, creation, and allowing. It states that the latter part – allowing – is where many people become stuck.
Nory Pouncil, a Pinterest creator and self-trust coach knows a thing or two about how we stop ourselves from allowing our dreams to become reality. This pandemic has been a life-changing event for many professionals. Potentially hundreds of thousands of individuals were just going through the motions of life before the pandemic, not necessarily working a job they loved, but not pausing to ask, “So what do I love?” or “Why am I doing this?” Then with unprecedented unemployment rates and extended stay-at-home orders, many working Americans were given plenty of time to ask those questions – whether they wanted that time or not. If you’re in that place and need help determining your ideal work and/or attracting it, you might like this advice from Pouncil on manifesting your dream job.
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Identify your limiting beliefs
You may think that outside factors – things beyond your control – are keeping you from having your dream job. The existence of those thoughts alone could be signs of limiting beliefs, which may be the real things holding you back. Identifying and overcoming those are key to moving forward. “We all have something we want to go after. We feel like, ‘If only I had this. If only I had that,’ it would work out. If only statements are great to help you identify your limiting beliefs because they reveal to you some of the things standing in your way to take action,” Pouncil says.
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Know there is more than one way
We can evolve to have these ideas about how things are done. Whatever you want to be, you might believe there is a single way to achieve that. It’s how you’ve seen others do it. It’s what society tells you is the “respectable way.” According to Pouncil, you should throw those ideas out of the window. “When I started my business, I was afraid I wasn’t qualified. I thought, ‘If only I’d gone to school to teach coaching,'” she says. “In reality, that came from believing there was only one path to following what I wanted to do. That is one of the biggest limiting beliefs we have, that there is only one way: a right way and a wrong way.”
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Challenge your own thinking
“If we don’t question those limiting beliefs, we can operate in a context that’s not in alignment with the life we want to live,” Pouncil states. She also brings up an issue that might be particularly true for women. We can feel selfish for prioritizing our personal goals. “Many of my clients believe they cannot be the priority in their lives. Everything else must come before them or their business in order for them to have it all. They are essentially putting themselves in the last place on their to-do list, thinking it’s the only way to achieve what they want. It’s what society tells us, but it’s not true.”
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Don’t focus on a shortage of role models
Just because there aren’t many examples of individuals putting themselves first, or taking a certain path towards their goals, doesn’t mean it’s the wrong way. That might just be because everyone else has also felt societal pressure to do things one way. But you can be the trailblazer. Don’t take the fact that you’d be the first to do things a certain way as a sign that it’s incorrect. In every endeavor, there always must be someone to go first. And Pouncil reminds us that if you feel uncomfortable putting your goals first, that’s just because it’s new to you – not because it’s wrong. Trying something for the first time is always uncomfortable.
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Don’t let early failure deter you
Don’t take the fact that manifesting isn’t working right away – or is a bit bumpy – as a sign that it’s not meant to be, either. People can get a head full of steam about trying manifestation techniques, but if they don’t see results fast, they can think they’re doing it wrong. “You’re manifesting because you don’t have the thing you want. So it is the first time [you’re manifesting]. When we do things for the first time, we fail, and we fail over and over again. But getting back up from those failures strengthens your resilience and intuition,” Pouncil says.
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Quiet the outside voices
“Your intuitive voice is your guide. But a lot of us surrender that power to other people,” Pouncil says. “We need to ask ourselves ‘Where do my beliefs come from?’ A lot of us just take these beliefs and run with them. Ask, ‘Do I agree with this belief? Do I want to continue to believe this belief? Is it serving me and helping me become the person I want to be? Do I give myself permission to let go of these beliefs so I can become the person I want to be?’” Don’t forget that you may be carrying beliefs passed down to you at a young age from adults who possibly didn’t have things figured out for themselves – and who didn’t listen to their intuitive voice.
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Nurture your inner critic
The previously mentioned questions, Pouncil says, help you identify if you are living your life in alignment with your beliefs. Once you narrow down what your intuitive beliefs are, you can identify whether or not the steps you are taking towards your goals are reflective of those beliefs. And keep that conversation going, always. “You need a way to nurture your inner critic. You want to silence it but nurture it. It’s a part of us. When you don’t have a system to do this, you struggle, because you never know where you are. You are in these ebb and flows of highs and lows without looking at what you care about.”
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Gaining self-trust
The self-trust system Pouncil uses with clients helps them identify at any moment if they’re feeling stuck or paralyzed or “if overthinking has taken over,” Pouncil explains. In those times, Pinterest is a tool she likes to use. “One of the things I personally love about Pinterest is being able to go on the platform and see so many ideas, find questions for discovery, look at yourself from different angles, explore your spirituality, and explore your health in so many different mediums.” Being big on visualization, Pouncil appreciates that the use of imagery on Pinterest can put you in touch with different sides of yourself and can spark something that you didn’t know was there.
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Just start exploring
If you’re really starting from square one and have no idea what you want to do with your career, visual platforms like Pinterest can be a pressure-free place to help you discover what makes you come to life. “It’s what makes the platform exciting for people, and it’s what makes growth exciting,” Pouncil says. “People can start wherever they are and it will be OK from there.” Perhaps you think you want to work in software but find yourself drawn to interior design images. Maybe you always thought you’d work in fitness but can’t stop looking at images of travel. All of that teaches you something about yourself. It gets your wheels turning on what inspires you.
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It’s not about a resume
There is value in discovering resume and interview tips from HR experts, in taking workshops to learn new skills, in reading up on industry trends, and/or in attending conferences to make connections and see what sparks your interest. But you can only make the most use of any of those external tools after looking inside yourself. “Manifesting our dream job is an inside job,” Pouncil says. “People think it’s about a resume or a business plan. You need to go inside and see your own humanity so you can see the humanity of other people. Live with calm and compassion.”
