Look, I don’t judge women who don’t have to work because their husbands support them. If they truly love their husbands (aka it isn’t just a gold digger setup), then I consider them very lucky women—they happened to fall in love with someone who could relieve them of their financial burdens. But the reality is that the experience of a working woman and one who stays home is very different. I’m not talking about a stay-at-home mom because lord knows they work their butts off in their own way. I’m talking about childless women who don’t have to work. The more years that pass that they don’t work, the less they are in touch with the entire mindset and pace of life of a full-time working individual. You can’t blame them—it just happens. But it can cause some tension in their friendships. Here is the silent tension between the working woman and the stay-at-home (SAH) wife.
Scheduling conflicts vs “conflicts”
When I’m trying to schedule a time to hang out with my SAH friend, I’m working around my work schedule, which is pretty non-negotiable. She’s working around her boxing class and her coffee date with her mother-in-law. And I am supposed to treat those appointments as written-in-stone as my work schedule, and work around them.