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Cassie Ventura has had a whirlwind year. She got pregnant and then engaged and shortly after that married to Alex Fine. It’s a lot of life changes in a short amount of time. But in an interview with Hatch Collectionit seems that Cassie is taking them all in stride. The singer spoke about her pregnancy, wedding, being a new wife and the new music she has on the way. See what she had to say in the excerpts below.

“I am feeling great, but I’m a little scared of labor. I keep reminding myself that our bodies are meant to do this, and in the grand scheme of things, it will be over in a blink of an eye. In general, I keep hearing that parenthood goes by fast, so I’m trying to make every effort to enjoy each moment and all the stages, no matter how uncomfortable.”

Girl or boy?

We’re having a girl! I’m due at the beginning of December!

In today’s world, it’s so easy to get caught up in what everyone else is doing; so I want her to grow-up to feel confident in who she is and stay her course. I hope to help guide her in this by always being supportive and listening. Kids say what is on their minds; sometimes, it just may not be directly. I think that it’s our job, as parents, to tune in and pay attention to what they’re thinking and how they feel. 

My husband is continuously saying that he wants her to play sports and be tough and I, of course, want her to take ballet (ha!), but at the end of the day, she’s going to be whomever she wants to be, and we need to encourage and support that. I mean, who knows, maybe she’ll be a football-playing ballerina! 

I always assumed that becoming a mom was going to be this stressful, scary thing, but I haven’t felt that way in the slightest. Instead, I feel so fortunate to have this opportunity to be her mom. I am very much looking forward to having a girl. I would have loved a boy as well, but it feels so special to have a little girl. 

Her wedding and married life. 

It’s crazy; I LOVE it! Leading up to the day, we were both nervous and had jitters because of the stress around planning, not the marriage itself. As soon as I saw him waiting for me down the aisle, all my nervousness melted away. It feels as if it was always meant to be. 

What was that like to get married pregnant?

At first, I was NOT down with the idea of being a pregnant bride! I dreamed of having champagne and dancing at our wedding! However, once I weighed the amount of time we would have to wait (hello, birth, and breastfeeding), I realized what I cared about was being his wife and our family, not about whether I was pregnant or not at our wedding. In the end, we had a beautiful intimate ceremony on a bluff overlooking Malibu during sunset. Everything was perfect. 

I’m still getting used to saying “husband!” It’s so fun and solidifies everything. We also have a 1-year-old, 110 pound Rottweiler named Waffles, who is entirely part of the family. Legit, we’re a little crew with the whole set-up. 

Discovering she was pregnant 

The good old fashioned way! While it wasn’t “planned,” it also wasn’t unplanned. We were open to having kids and had just started to explore the idea when I got pregnant. It was my husband (still getting used to saying this!) that noticed I hadn’t had my period in a while. When he said something to me, I was like, “Who pays attention to that?!” Apparently, he does. So, I took a test, and it was positive! We were both over the moon!

What has been unexpected about pregnancy?

I’ve been completely calm. I used to have a lot of anxiety; however, with pregnancy, I’ve been totally zen and fully living my purpose. It’s primal, almost as if my body is forcing me to slow down to create the safest environment for our baby. 

If your pregnancy were a song?

One thousand percent it would be, “Ngiculela-Es Una Historia” by Stevie Wonder. It’s my favorite song. It also happens to be the song that was playing right after we got married. 

Her work

I just started my label Ventura Music this summer! Currently, it’s just me on the label so that I could get my music out into the world. You never know what could happen though, maybe I’ll bring other people onto the label in the future. For now, I’ve enjoyed the experience of learning what it takes to release my music independently. I love the freedom in it. 

Excitement and fear 

I fantasize about mornings together and waking up with her. 

Most nervous about becoming a mom?

I don’t want to lose myself in becoming a mom. Of course, I will do anything for her, but I also want to remain true to myself. I want her to grow up watching me do my thing. I want her to see me making music, building my business, being a mom, a wife, a force, and be inspired by it all. I want to lead by example so she can grow up knowing that she can do anything and be everything her heart desires.

You can read Cassie’s full article, here.

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