During a recent appearance on The Breakfast Club, soul singer Fantasia Barrino offered advice on why she thinks many modern women are single today.
The 35-year-old married her hubby, Kendall Taylor, in 2011. She recently revealed that she was elated that her partner brought up the idea of a prenup before she did. The two seem to be deeply in love, so Fantasia shared what she thinks the key to their relationship is and spoke openly about why she thinks many women struggle to find love.
“Most women are trying to be a leader, that’s why you can’t find a man. You can’t be the king in the house. Fall back and be the queen and let your man lead the way,” she told the radio hosts.
She explained that men and women bump heads because they struggle with power dynamics.
“It’s a generational curse, and how society [has] placed our men. And how women have to stand up to be the mother, and the father and the provider. So now you are so bad that you can’t be told nothing. That when the right man come, you lose him because you’re trying to be the man,” she said.
Continuing, “At the end of the day, I’m the neck, my man’s the head. He can’t make any moves without his wife, you know what I mean? It all works together.”
When co-host Angela Yee offered that sometimes women don’t have a choice but to take on the dominant role, Fantasia doubled-down on it being a generational curse.
“You have to learn how to submit,” she urged.
Many women would willingly give over control to a significant other whom they deeply trust, unfortunately, there is deep healing needed within our communities to even foster an environment where we feel safe enough to let down our guard and let someone else lead. The process of submission is earned through consistency and follow through, not just through gender dynamics. Women should not have to take the blame for not having met a man that they are willing to surrender to in that capacity. Yes, the willingness to compromise needs to be present, but the action comes when a relationship is proved to be a safe haven.
You can watch her commentary below: