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We all know that no matter your station in life, marriage will take some level of work. And when you’re a celebrity who lives your life in the limelight, the pressures of work and lifestyle, and people being in your business can take its toll. So it’s not too much to imagine that being in a celebrity marriage requires even more work.
Sadly, you can put forth quite a bit of effort and still realize that the relationship can’t be salvaged.
Cheryl “Salt” James, of Salt n Pepa, recently opened up about her divorce after 28 years of marriage.
In an interview with The Jasmine Brand, James shared the traumatic nature of that 4-year-long process and how, a year after its finalization, she’s healed from it.
I’m newly divorced… for about a year. And I went through a really difficult divorce. It was hard… one of the darkest times of my life because it took so long. I was with my husband for… my daughter’s 27… so 28 years.”
“It was me trying to fill someone else’s void. And I didn’t realize that I was doing that. Sometimes we make ourselves small to fit in someone’s box and accommodate them. A lot of times we do that with men. And when I was coming out, it was a long process of me coming out of the dark part of being divorced.”
How she mourned and healed
“A lot of it had to do with my faith. A lot of it had to do with being around my girlfriends who I know love and support me and them being available to talk. I talked to Pep a lot, I cried a lot. I didn’t try to rush through emotion and the death of my marriage. I really focused on healing and being consistent with whatever I had to do. I took a few classes, I did a little therapy. Whatever you have to do to get yourself out of it, you will one day eventually get past it.”
“But for me, a great ladies night is a hotel room, pajama party, drinks, talking, laughing, playing some music and venting. Just talking about what you’re going through and being there to support each other. That’s a fun night for me. I actually had that night the day I got divorced. I don’t want to call it a divorce party. It wasn’t a party. It was just me saying after four years of trying, I was finally divorced. Bless the Lord I’m out. No shade to my baby daddy.”
