For a long time, I did not get along with my parents. Interactions with them were never without tension, arguments, and possible yelling. Nobody left feeling happy—that’s for sure. The best I could hope for was less fighting than usual but, a truly positive interaction? Yeah right. That friction with them was something I felt all of the time. I didn’t even realize how much I felt it all of the time until I finally got rid of it. Everybody wishes their parents were…more accepting…more open-minded…more liberal…more something. So, did my relationship with my parents improve because they did change in the ways I wanted them to? Nope. My relationship with them improved because I let go of the idea of changing them. The only thing that was going to change was my desire for them to change. I had control over that, so I did something about it. Here’s what happens when you stop trying to change your parents.
It’s hard at first
I’m not going to lie: at first it’s very hard. It’s in your bones—in your muscle memory—to react to the annoying things they do and say. You feel like you’re disrespecting yourself and stepping on your pride by not reacting.