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You ever see a couple who look a little physically…unmatched? We see it often with women—a girl in her late 20s dating an aging man in 50s or an objectively attractive woman in love with a guy whose looks are less than stellar.
But it often happens with men too. We’ve all seen a gorgeous guy and looked at the woman he is with and wondered, “Hmmm, he can have anyone he wants, why her?”
Anna Bey a Swedish dating coach who runs an online finishing school called the School of Affluence, took to her site, Jetsetbabe.com to break down why she thinks men may date a woman who is a 6 when he’s a 9.
“Unattractiveness is of course relative. There are no women that are actually ugly, it’s just that we have particular beauty standards set and I am generalizing it and talking about what’s conventional beauty,” Anna explains.
“When people go against the conventional beauty norm, then that’s kind of what we’re investigating here.”
There are a couple of reasons she proposes this phenomenon may happen. One idea is that men are a lot more insecure than you think.
“I think it’s a little bit of a myth that women are more insecure than men. If you look around you will see that many men have a lot of insecurity, it’s just they don’t express these insecurities verbally as much as women do,” Anna said.
So an insecure man could chose a woman who is physically “beneath him” to feel more secure.
“He knows men aren’t going to be approaching her, she’s not going to cheat on him, she’s not going to just run off, so he can just relax and have peace of mind,” she said.
Another reason guys may opt for a woman who ranks below their perceived attractiveness is because beauty is in the eye of the beholder. This woman may be a diamond in his eyes.
“You have to understand that not everybody thinks Angelina Jolie is beautiful and it’s really just an individual preference and choice,” she said.
“So a girl that is plain-looking and unattractive in some people’s eyes, might be actually very attractive in this man’s eyes.”
All men also aren’t as shallow as you think.
“Not all men are obsessed about beauty and looks,” she said. “Majority of men are, but not all of them.”
Another factor could potentially be timing.
“If you manage to catch a man in the moment where he’s weak or vulnerable and you manage to reach his heart during this time, that’s usually when you are securing the guy,” she said.
