While most are still celebrating the engagement of rapper Joe Budden and his love Cyn Santana, Monday’s episode of Love and Hip Hop showed a darker side of the pair’s relationship after the camera’s showed Cyn reveal a deep truth.
The new mom, who just celebrated the first birthday of her baby boy Lexington, is one of the 3 million women who are dealing with postpartum depression.
“I don’t feel like you’re there. You are neglecting me and you are neglecting your relationship,” Cyn began.
“Unfortunately my work is 25/8, until I work myself into a position where that is not the case,” he replied.
Earlier in the season many of us laughed after Cyn revealed that she was lacking sex in the relationship and tagged Budden as a member of the “senior citizen d–k” club once a planned night of passion went left. Since then, we’ve watched as she’s begged her man for some quality time.
But things got a bit heated last week after the two discussed childcare and “gender roles.” Joe tried to convince Cyn to hire a nanny, but she refused. Things got even more tense after the State of The Union host publicly blasted Cyn for keeping an unkempt household using a video on social media. It seems that Joe’s hints at Cyn’s alleged “laziness” have bubbled over into something much deeper.
“For the past year and a half how you have maneuvered in this relationship is very, very different than the person I fell in love with,” he said. “And I’m trying to guess what’s going on with you. I don’t know if it’s depression. I don’t know if it’s postpartum depression. I don’t know if it’s some career shit, but you can talk to me about a fucking thing if you want to talk about it.”
“Every time I try to talk to you, you’re dismissive. You’re dismissive as f–k. I want someone who’s gonna listen to me and make me feel like important. You don’t make me feel like that,” Cyn responds as she holds back tears.
“No I’m not going to make you feel like that when everything you bring to me is some real tiny bulls–t when I’m in the middle of working,” he responds.
“I’ve been depressed for a few months now and you can’t even see that because all you do is f—–g work.”
“Are you worried about me seeing the depression or are you worried about actually doing something about the depression?” he asks later in the conversation. Joe tells Cyn that he’s never heard her confess that she is struggling.
After Cyn confesses that her “mental health is off,” the conversation remains unresolved.
“I’m fine if me and you break up if you’re not depressed. I have to go,” he says. End scene.
Joe exhibits a very cold reaction, and it’s not apparent why he can’t relate to Cyn as he’s voiced his struggles with depression and addiction in the past. The episode was filmed earlier in the fall, just months after Cyn delivered her baby. Adjusting to life as a new mother seems anything but a walk in the park and Joe pays Cyn dust as she reveals a very hard truth.
Just because a man is providing financially does not mean that he can be void in other areas of the relationship.
Most folks on Twitter were ready for a drag and handled Joe accordingly.
Hopefully as they take the next step in their relationship, the clip will make Joe consider how he deals with the concept “for better or for worse.”