Michelle Williams and fiancé (and pastor) Chad Johnson have publicly discussed the fact that they are waiting to have sex with one another until they are married, but if you ask the former Destiny’s Child singer, it’s an honorable thing, but not an easy one.
“It ain’t going to go down until we get married,” Williams said when the couple visited The Breakfast Club this week to promote their new OWN series, Chad Loves Michelle. “The struggle is all the way real. He is awesome, he is fine, he works out. He’s everything that was on my list except for the dark skin and the nice hair — he has everything else.”
But when it comes to who initiated their decision to hold off, Williams said it was Johnson’s, which may be a surprise to some based on her image.
“So when we started dating, Chad said, ‘Sex is not an option,’ and I was like, ‘Okay! All right, cool,’” she said. “I’m not about to go into marriage a virgin, I don’t want anyone to think that I’ve been perfect. But I felt this was so good because I don’t feel pressure to have sex to keep a man, everything to keep a man. I don’t have to do that, I don’t have to feel the pressure of that, and I got different results.”
“We were dating less than a year and he put a ring on it with no booty,” she added.
And while Johnson came to her with the idea of them forgoing sex, and he allegedly was “single in ministry for 22 years,” that doesn’t mean he hasn’t wanted to be intimate with the 38-year-old singer.
“This is what I will say: Everything works in my life,” he said. “Nothing is malfunctioning. It’s real. Our love is real, our attraction is real.”
“I can’t even hug him,” Williams cut in to say about Johnson getting…excited easily. “I be like, ‘Yooooo!'”
Williams is happy to wait for her beau. In fact, she is grateful for Chad because she doesn’t have to be anything but herself within their relationship. In the past, she tried to change herself to make other men in her life want to settle down.
“They were just not ready to commit,” she said. “My mom could smell it. There are some I knew weren’t ready to commit, but I was trying so hard to do and be everything. Be a chameleon almost. ‘I’ll be thottish! That ain’t working. I’ll be the church girl! That’s not working.’ Nothing I could do worked. You’re just never the right woman for the wrong man.”
As for Chad though, he seems to be the right man, and love her wholly for who she is.
“I can wear my hair bonnet around him,” she said. “I don’t have to have on makeup. He has plucked my chin hairs for me a few times before I started getting laser hair removal. All of those things, I feel like he accepts me for everything, throughout everything.”
Check out their conversation starting at the 11:45 mark below: