“I Don’t Feel The Maternal Thing” Monifah & Daughter Discuss Abandonment, Drugs & Rape With Iyanla
Earlier this summer, we shared the teaser from the current season of “Iyanla Fix My Life,” in addition to her conversations with Cynthia Bailey and her sisters, and Brandi Maxiell from “Basketball Wives,” Vanzant also spoke with singer Monifah and her daughter Akemi Carter Lopez.
The two hash it out discussing their fractured relationship as mother and daughter. If you know anything about Monifah’s story, you may remember that she got pregnant when she was younger and had her daughter when she was still relatively young. At the same time, she was pursuing a music career that didn’t allow her to be as present as Lopez would have liked and she was raised by her grandparents.
But as you can imagine, it caused a rift between the two.
And during their sit down, Iyanla gave Akemi the room to share her feelings.
“You have permission to be in total pissosity with your mother.”
In another clip, Monifah talks about the lack of connection with her daughter.
“Something’s wrong, I don’t feel the maternal thing.”
In another clip, Iyanla coaches Akemi through a confrontation with Monifah about her drug use. The singer has been very open about her 7-year cocaine addiction.
“Say it. Drugs were more important to you than me,” Iyanla tells her.
Then, Lopez finishes the sentence on her own. “You selfish bitch. How could you just leave me? I didn’t have anyone.”
But Lopez is not the only one of the woman carrying around pain. During her discussion with Iyanla, Monifah shares that she was raped at 17-years-old.
“He pulled a gun on me and I was raped at 17.” Iyanla remarks that the trauma (perhaps from this incident–or others), is still very present.
Take a look at the clip of the new episode in the video below.
The season finale of “Iyanla Fix My Life,” airs on Saturday, October 13, at 9/8c.