Yesterday, I wrote about the shame we sometimes put on ourselves for inadvertently packing on the pounds. And while the mental disservice you do to yourself is the most powerful kind, after watching Love and Hip Hop Atlanta‘s most recent episode, I’m reminded that body-shaming from other people, the direct, made to purposely embarrass you kind, comes very close to being just as potent.
During last night’s episode, most of the cast traveled to Houston for the grand opening of Rasheeda Frost‘s new Pressed boutique location. To get any and all drama in check before the event, Mimi Faust and a cast member named Sierra Gates tried to bring their friends and fellow recurring cast members, dancehall artist Spice and “That’s My Best Friend” rapper Tokyo Vanity, together. Spice was getting to know Tokyo’s ex-boyfriend, Tobius, personally, and the ladies wanted to make sure both women could bury any hatchet (and reduce the likelihood of a fight) ahead of Rasheeda’s grand opening.
While Tokyo made it clear upon entering the brunch meeting that she had no issues with Spice, but rather, with Tobius (though she did call Spice “Paprika” out of frustration when she found out about her), the Jamaican singer threw jabs, particularly about Tokyo’s weight. At one point, when Sierra tells Tokyo they’re going to enjoy a nice and peaceful meal, Spice had this to say:
“I don’t think she wants nothing else to eat. Trust me.”
Tokyo initially tried to stay calm (and reminded Spice that she wasn’t tiny either), though you could tell she was taken aback by the comments about her size. Eventually, she decided to exit the brunch, but threw a purse at Spice and tried to fight her on the way out.
Both women are likable characters on the show, but Spice’s surprising decision to fat-shame her co-star came with a lot of criticism. She is now apologizing:
In her apology, Spice said she was disappointed to find herself fighting someone on television. And while she cited cultural differences for why she was so comfortable to make a comment about someone else’s weight, she realized that she was wrong.
“It’s officially the most horrific situation I’ve watched on TV,” she wrote. “I’m so disappointed in myself for doing the exact same thing I promised myself that I wouldn’t do. Watching back Myself fighting on Tv has left me with deep despondency. Even tho I heard that disrespectful remarks was passed about me behind my back. Leaving me to think she was trowing shade i said I’m gonna trow the whole tree when I met her. With that being said It still doesn’t justify the fact that I was so wrong to comment on her weight. While I honestly feel like there’s also some cultural diversity conflict in this situation because we don’t really take the fat shaming so serious on my side of the world. I also have to realize that I’m not in my regular surroundings.”
“I still want to take this time out to apologize to Tokyo again and to also apologize to whom I offended,” she said.
Tokyo hasn’t responded to her apology just yet, but we take it from the photo Spice shared that the women have indeed made peace with each other. Thank goodness for that, and for a good lesson learned.