Halle Berry has been in her fair share of high-profile relationships. She’s been married a few times (to David Justice, Eric Benet and Olivier Martinez), and dated a number of guys who, by good look standards alone, are #MCM status (i.e., Michael Ealy, Gabriel Aubry). But if the ups and downs of those relationships proved anything, including her most recent one with producer Alex Da Kid, which left Berry saying she was “done with love,” it’s that she’s still trying to figure out matters of the heart like the rest of us. One truly never stops.
On Instagram this week, Berry shared in a post that “Life has taught me that confidence is silent. Insecurities are loud.” And when asked in the comment section what her relationships have taught her, the 51-year-old shared a short and simple answer: “to find a confident man.”
Just last year she was asked what she had to say for her infamous love life, and Berry said she realized she had to move away from looking at love as a fairy tale.
“I have learned to deal with three failed marriages, which has not been easy, especially when there’s children involved,” she said. “Women we go into marriage thinking it’s going to last forever and that this is our prince on a shiny horse. That’s what fairy tales taught me as a kid…and I’m kind of anti-fairy tales today. But we go in there with that hope, so when it falls apart it feels like a huge failure and a huge disappointment. I’ve often felt guilty and responsible. I’ve suffered a lot of pain and anguish.”
Berry has never gone in depth about what was behind the demise of each relationship (though cheating was clearly a huge factor in her marriage to Benet), but based on her confidence statement, and previous comments about dealing with “boys,” emotional maturity has been an issue — and she’s learned her lesson from being with these type of men.
“I looked at the part that I played and looked at the part the men I had married played. I had chosen boys,” she said in 2016. “I wanted to do grown up things, but I was not with a grown up. I was choosing from a superficial place. I became a monster. I was head banging mad, because it was not working. Here, I am a woman, trying to be married to a boy.”