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Yesterday, we reported that Keyshia Cole’s sister, Neffeteria “Neffe” Pugh posted a picture on Instagram publicly apologizing to her sister. While she didn’t go into specifics, she said:

“Forgive me if I hurt you, forgive me if I didn’t support you, forgive me if I let you down, forgive me if I embarrassed you, forgive me if I didn’t do well in your eyes because you have wanted more for me period! I am sorry for whatever I may have done for you to be distanced from me and my children.”

Perhaps, it would have been better to apologize in private, or to acknowledge the specifics of what she did. Even the removal of the word “if” might have gone a long way in making it seem more sincere. I know it seems like a minor detail; but I’m betting Neffe knows, at the very least that Keyshia is hurt, for one reason or another. There’s no guessing. Apologizing for having a negative impact on her feelings, instead of speculating, would have read better.

Hours after Neffe posted her apology, Keyshia responded, in a sort of stream of consciousness post that shared exactly what was on her mind at the time.


Yesterday, we asked if Keyshia would forgive her sister. And from her words here, it seems that she has. But from the tone of the post, it seems like her forgiveness doesn’t necessarily come with a renewed desire to restore, repair, or rebuild their relationship.

And sometimes it be like that. The portion of Keyshia’s life we’ve seen play out on various television shows has been more than traumatic. I can’t imagine what we haven’t seen. Given all of that, I would assume she’s making the best decision for herself and her son at this moment. Maybe in the future, they’ll be able to be closer than they are today. They both admitted that they loved one another, so that’s a start.

What do you make of Neffe’s apology and Keyshia’s response?

Veronica Wells is the culture editor at She is also the author of “Bettah Days” and the creator of the website NoSugarNoCreamMag. You can follow her on Facebook and on Instagram and Twitter @VDubShrug.
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